Knowing What You’re Worth

People will treat you based on how cheaply you sell yourself, don't sell yourself short.

Set your value according to how God values you.

The devil doesn't want you to have a sense of value for yourself.

When you pay a premium for something , you will have a greater Respect for it than you would have, if

you got it cheaply.

Proverbs 4:23 (NLT)23 Guard your heart above all else,

for it determines the course of your life.

The Pursuit of Happiness

Entering into God's rest is much better than waiting.

When you are at rest you are confident that God is helping You.

He arranges circumstances for You to meet that special person.

To really be fulfilled in life you have to find the ONE, and the ONE is JESUS. Your partner is your number TWO

Pursuing marriage more than pursuing God is idolatry

Exodus 34:14 (NLT)14 You must worship no other gods,

for the LORD, whose very name is Jealous, is a God who is jealous about his relationship with you.

Anytime your marriage is not where it's suppose to be, chances are likely that you are looking for your partner to meet some need, that only God can.

Today's philosophy of relationships is far beneath God's standards.

Meeting somebody halfway is 50/50.

Meeting your partner is not holding anything back, 100/100.

God wants to be Number 1 in your life.

You both need to have Jesus in common more than anything else.

A successful marriage is 2 wholes coming together, not 1 half looking for their other half.

Can you serve God better together than when you are apart?

If so:Psalm 34:3 (NLT)3 Come, let us tell of the LORD’s

greatness;let us exalt his name together.

Becoming The One

The bible teaches how to be the right person rather than how to find the right person.

Instead of finding the one, we should work on being the right one.

Are You who the person You are looking for is looking for?

• 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NLT)4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not

jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

Love Is Patient

Love Is Kind

Love Does Not Envy

Love Does Not Boast, It Is Not Proud

Love Does Not Dishonour Others

1 Corinthians 13:11 (NLT)11 When I was a child, I spoke

and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things.

When Looking For Your Partner…

God presents to us choices but you should involve Him in your decision.

God will never choose for You.

Are you willing to compromise your belief in God for a guy or girl?

If someone can resist Jesus, who is perfectly beautiful, how much more will they reject you in the future, you who are imperfectly beautiful?

A girl wants a priest not a smooth talker.

If you compromise Jesus for a partner you could probably jeopardise their salvation.

2 Corinthians 6:14 (NLT)The Temple of the Living God14 Don’t team up with those who are

unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness?

Don't wait for a prophet to show you who your partner is going to be.

When looking for a Man :

Consider faithfullness - especially in the area of finances.

Proverbs 20:6 (NLT)6 Many will say they are loyal friends,

but who can find one who is truly reliable?

Luke 16:10 (NLT)10 “If you are faithful in little things, you will

be faithful in large ones. But if you are dishonest in little things, you won’t be honest with greater responsibilities.

Look for true spirituality in a man

Kindness : 1 Peter 3 : 7

1 Peter 3:7(NLT)Husbands7 In the same way, you husbands must give honor to

your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.

He must be able to lead

At the beginning of a relationship, you must decide whether you will accept and be happy with his involvement in the ministry or his responsibilities at work .

Find someone who is tough enough to remain tough at all times.

Determine how he is with children.

Is he a one woman man?

1 Timothy 3:2 (NLT)2 So an elder must be a man whose life is

above reproach. He must be faithful to his wife.[a] He must exercise self-control, live wisely, and have a good reputation. He must enjoy having guests in his home, and he must be able to teach.

Job 31:1 (NLT)Job’s Final Protest of Innocence31 “I made a covenant with my eyes

not to look with lust at a young woman.

Determine how valuable you are to him?

When looking for a Woman :

Prudence - the use of practical wisdom the ability to reason.

A virtuous woman - proverbs 31:10-31

Look at who god puts in front of you.

Earn the favor of those who love her.

Is she satisfied with your attention and affection alone?

1 Timothy 2:9 (NLT)9 And I want women to be modest in their

appearance.[a] They should wear decent and appropriate clothing and not draw attention to themselves by the way they fix their hair or by wearing gold or pearls or expensive clothes.

Can you provide for her the lifestyle she expects?

1 Timothy 5:8 (NLT)8 But those who won’t care for their

relatives, especially those in their own household, have denied the true faith. Such people are worse than unbelievers.

Is she like the negative women in proverbs?

Proverbs 27:15 (NLT)15 A quarrelsome wife is as annoying

as constant dripping on a rainy day.

Things to consider when contemplating

Marriage :

Leave to cleaveGenesis 2:24 (NLT)24 This explains why a man leaves his

father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.

The real dating should begin after marriage

Why do couples ignore each other at times?

A man's need for respect is just as strong as a woman's need to connect or feel loved.

Take an interest in what your spouse is interested in, even if it doesn't interest you.