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NAMI COBB NAMI Cobb 2017 Leadership Team Interim President / Communications Greg Ausham [email protected] 2 nd Vice-President / Outreach Linda Akanbi [email protected] Secretary - Nancy Spetnagel [email protected] Treasurer and Parliamentarian– Paul Wiser [email protected] Membership Chair— Advocacy Chair—Sylvia Oliphant [email protected] CIT/Newsletter Editor – John Avery [email protected] Website Management Chair: Tim Link Allen Spetnagel [email protected] Education Chair— Rachel André Glenn [email protected] Programs Chair—Neill Blake [email protected] Hospitality Chair – Debra Howard [email protected] Website: www.namicobb.org Email: [email protected] Mailing address: NAMI-Cobb P.O. Box 999 Kennesaw, GA 30156 I NSIDE T HIS I SSUE 1 Monthly Meeting 2 NAMI Cobb News 3 Membership Dues Increase FAQs 6 BPD Conference 7 Breaking the Chains Mental Health Forum 8 5 Things That Will Recover You From Emotional Pain 9 25 Secrets of Moms Living With a Mental Illness 12 Meeting and Membership Information Newsletter Date Volume 1 Issue 1 JULY 2017 FRESH START July Education Meeting There will not be an Educational Meeting in the month of July

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NAMI COBB

NAMI Cobb

2017 Leadership Team

Interim President / Communications

Greg Ausham

[email protected]

2nd Vice-President / Outreach

Linda Akanbi [email protected]

Secretary - Nancy Spetnagel

[email protected]

Treasurer and Parliamentarian– Paul Wiser

[email protected]

Membership Chair—

Advocacy Chair—Sylvia Oliphant

[email protected]

CIT/Newsletter Editor – John Avery

[email protected]

Website Management Chair: Tim Link

Allen Spetnagel

[email protected]

Education Chair— Rachel André Glenn

[email protected]

Programs Chair—Neill Blake

[email protected]

Hospitality Chair – Debra Howard

[email protected]

Website: www.namicobb.org

Email: [email protected]

Mailing address:

NAMI-Cobb

P.O. Box 999

Kennesaw, GA 30156

I N S I D E T H I S I S S U E

1 Monthly Meeting

2 NAMI Cobb News

3 Membership Dues Increase FAQs

6 BPD Conference

7 Breaking the Chains Mental Health Forum

8 5 Things That Will Recover You From Emotional Pain

9 25 Secrets of Moms Living With a Mental Illness

12 Meeting and Membership Information

Newsletter Date

Volume 1 Issue 1 JULY 2017 FRESH START

July Education Meeting

There will not be an Educational Meeting in the

month of July

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NAMI Cobb News

NAMI Connections Weekly Support Group

Our NAMI Connections Support Group for persons with a mental health diagnosis continues to meet every Monday from 7:00-8:30 p.m. in Room 046 at First Presbyterian Church located at 189 Church Street in Marietta. We have a good core group of people who are committed to living in wellness - please come join this drop-in group any Monday or every Monday! Contact Paul Miner: [email protected] for more information.

Weekly Family Support Group

Our Family Care and Share Support Group is a drop-in group for family members and caregivers for someone with a mental health diagnosis. The group meets every Monday from 7:00-8:30 p.m. in Room 048 at First Presbyterian Church, 189 Church St in Marietta. If your family member is in crisis, come any or every Monday to receive support from others. And if your family member is doing well, please come to give your support and share your experiences with others! Contact Greg Ausham at 330-801-0328, Susie Allen at 770-565-4335 or Sylvia Oliphant 678-471-5907 for more information.

NAMI Cobb at NAMI National Convention

NAMI Cobb Affiliate Leadership Team members Neill Blake and John Avery attended the NAMI National

Convention in Washington, DC, June 28 – July 1, 2017. Along with representatives from throughout Georgia,

Neill and John participated in Hill Day where they took the message of preserving Mental Health coverage to

their state legislators. Neill spoke during our meeting with staff representatives from both Senator Isakson and

Senator Perdue’s offices. Neill dropped off NAMI talking points to Representative Loudermilk’s office and

when dropping off NAMI talking points to Representative David Scott’s office, John and his wife were given

gallery passes so they could watch proceedings in both the House and Senate. It was a successful trip.

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FAQ About Household Membership and Dues Increases Starting July 1, 2017

Overview of New Dues Structure:

• What are the new dues rates?

o $60 for Household Memberships; $40 for Individual Memberships; $5 for Open Door Memberships.

• What does NAMI consider a “household”? Is this rate for families only?

o A household consists of any individuals living at the same address. This could be a family in the

“traditional” sense (spouses plus children) or even roommates. The NAMI Board chose “Household” to

be more inclusive and to simplify the distribution of benefits. Keep in mind that this is not “Family”

membership.

• What is a Household Membership?

o A Household Membership is a membership that is intended to allow all individuals living at the same

address to be counted as members in NAMI with the benefits of membership being applies to each

member listed as part of the household. The household membership will only receive one copy of the

NAMI Advocate, but all other member benefits are granted to each listed member. While each member is

counted as a member of NAMI, the paid household membership counts as ONE when determining

Affiliate vote weight for NAMI Elections.

• What is an Individual/Regular Membership?

o This member is intended for one person to become a member of NAMI. We recognize there are two

different names for this membership. NAMI is moving to call this an Individual Membership, but

understand there many NAMI members know this as Regular Membership so that transition will happen

over the next couple months.

• What is an Open Door Membership?

o Members may become members through an "Open Door" policy that allows for a reduced dues payment.

Open Door members are defined by income or economic necessity, at the discretion of the Affiliate

member or State Organization. Open Door members shall have all the rights and privileges of members

who pay full dues.

• Are there any differences for the membership benefits between the three different rates?

o No, every membership is with the national, state and local levels and includes from the national NAMI

office:

▪ One copy of the Advocate magazine, mailed twice per year

▪ Access to members-only areas of the NAMI.org website

▪ Discounts on National Convention registration rates

▪ Discounts on items in the NAMI Store

o Each NAMI Affiliate and NAMI State Organization offers additional membership benefits that vary

depending on which group the member is a part of.

• Can an individual living in a household have their own, separate membership or do they have to be part of

a Household membership?

o Yes, that person can still have their own Individual or Open Door membership even if they are living in

the same household as a group with a Household membership.

• Is everyone in a household counted as a NAMI member if someone at the household paid for a Household

membership?

o The person who pays the Household membership will need to list the specific individuals in the

household for them to be counted as members. Someone is not considered a member if they were not

listed on the Household membership, or does not have a membership of their own.

• Can a child who is away at college be part of the Household Membership? Can an adult child or elderly

family member who is living in a care facility and supported by a parent/caregiver in the household be part

of the Household Membership?

o Yes, but that member of the household membership will not be assigned a separate address in NAMI 360.

NAMI will not send the magazine to additional addresses.

• Can we add someone else to our Household membership prior to paying our renewal?

o Yes, as long as each person is considered living at the same address.

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• The $60 Household membership costs too much for some families in my area—how can they still become

members?

o Each individual who wishes to become a NAMI member is welcome to pay the Individual or Open Door

rate to have their own membership. That person’s membership would not cover anyone else in their

household, however. There is not a low-income Household membership rate.

• How many people can a Household membership cover?

o Right now, the system is set up to include up to 10 members in a Household Membership. Contact

Member Services at [email protected] to discuss adding more members than 10. There may be

exceptions to this rule.

• I have decided I want to my own Individual Membership but am currently part of a Household

Membership. Is that possible?

o Yes. At any time, an individual may purchase an Individual or Open Door membership if they no longer

want to be included as a household member but want their own instead.

Impact of New Dues Structure on NAMI Affiliates and NAMI State Organizations:

• Does my NAMI Affiliate or NAMI State Organization have to adopt the new dues amounts and Household

membership rate?

o Yes.

• When must we have our membership forms/website and other materials promoting membership amounts

changed to reflect the new dues structure?

o The dues rate for everyone will change at the same time – July 1, 2017. You may not begin charging the

new rates before then. The focus of your time now is in messaging to members and preparing all the

supporting pieces.

• How will the dues be split?

o NAMI membership dues are shared between NAMI, the NAMI State Organization and the local NAMI

Affiliate. Each state’s dues allocation is different but NAMI receives $20 for each Household

membership, $10 for each Individual membership and $1 for each Open Door membership.

• How will vote weights be determined?

o Each Household, Individual and Open Door membership will equate to one vote. No matter how many

people are included in the Household membership, that still counts as one for the purposes of voting. This

will mean that the number of members that a NAMI Affiliate has and the number counted toward the vote

weight of a NAMI Affiliate will be different.

• What do I do if someone pays more than the standard dues amount?

o You may want to treat any amount over the $40 for Individual, $5 for Open Door, or $60 for Household

as a donation to your NAMI Affiliate. This way, people can pay what they can afford but they can also

give to their local group as they are able.

• Can my NAMI Affiliate have additional membership categories/rates?

o NAMI’s goal is to make memberships uniform across the country so that being a member means the same

thing no matter where someone lives. To achieve this, each NAMI Affiliate and NAMI State

Organization should only offer the Household, Individual, and Open Door membership and rates for

membership as of July 2017. These membership and dues rates should be listed on their membership. If

you wish to have other categories/rates, you could consider adding donation/supporter levels or including

one of the NAMI membership rates as part of a larger donation/supporter level. For example, “Gold Level

Supporter” could include a $40 Individual membership plus a $20 donation.

Standards and Household Membership and Dues:

• Will our bylaws need to change?

o If your bylaws language around membership mirrors NAMI's language — “A Member may be one

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o individual or a family of individuals living in one household that is counted as one for the purposes of

paying dues and voting.” — the bylaws are still in compliance with NAMI. If you have more questions

about the bylaws, you can contact our Standards team at [email protected].

• Our NAMI State Organization/NAMI Affiliate bylaws use the term “family membership” do we need to

change our bylaws?

o No, it doesn’t need to change. The Household membership aligns in practice with how family

membership is described in the NAMI Bylaws. If the language in your bylaws now aligns with NAMI as

noted above, it should be fine. If in doubt, run it by [email protected].

• Our NAMI State Organization/NAMI Affiliate bylaws use the definition “Individual/ Family Members

(I/FMs)”. Do we need to change our bylaws?

o IFM is outdated language NAMI State Organizations/NAMI Affiliates took from NAMI in the 1990’s.

Lots of State Organizations and Affiliates still have it in the bylaws. We would encourage an overall

"refresh" in language but by the letter of the law, the use of I/FM does not contradict the dues rate

changes and the new emphasis on household. If you are already making other changes to the bylaws, we

encourage language changes on this point, but will not require in order to be in compliance.

o Note: While your bylaws may not need to change, we are directing you to change your materials to say

“Household” and not “Family” as those are not the same. The NAMI Board chose Household to be more

inclusive and to simplify the distribution of benefits. Keep in mind that this is not “Family” membership.

If you have more questions, you can contact [email protected].

• Do the NAMI State Organization and NAMI Affiliate Bylaws need to state that NAMI has three levels of

membership?

o NAMI State Organization bylaws include the clause “dues are established by the Board of Directors of

NAMI”. NAMI Affiliate bylaws reviewed for re-affiliation must also include this clause so the new dues

structure does not need to be reflected in the bylaws.

o However, if NAMI Affiliate bylaws do not have this clause currently, the bylaws must be amended to

state that “Dues are established by the NAMI Board of Directors” in order to meet the requirements for

re-affiliation.

o If in doubt, send the “membership clause” from your current bylaws to [email protected].

IMPORTANT REMINDER:

Effective as of July, 2017 NAMI Annual Membership Fees as outlined below:

Household Membership $60

Regular Membership $40

Open Door Membership $5

Dear NAMI State Organization and NAMI Affiliate leaders,

As you know, the July 1 date of implementation for the Household membership and increased dues rates is quickly approaching! We

have updated the FAQ on these changes and have included it below for your reference.

More resources will be added by the end of this week to the Membership area of the Extranet. We will send another announcement

when those resources are available.

If you have any questions, please email [email protected].

Thank you, NAMI Member Services

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SAVE THE DATESEPTEMBER 16, 2017

One-day conference

CE units applied for with GSCSW and GA LPCA

Skyland Trail Dorothy C. Fuqua Center1961 North Druid Hills Rd., Atlanta, Georgia

* Presentations will focus on early diagnosis, intervention and treatment for BPD. Join this important discussion!

* DBT Therapist Q & A Panel* Lunch will be provided* Mark your calendars now!

www.borderlinepersonalitydisorder.com

ONE DAY CONFERENCE - SEPTEMBER 16, 2017

8:00 am - 9:00 am Registration & Coffee

9:00 am - 5:00 pm - Agenda as outlined below

SPEAKERS AND TOPICS:

Perry Hoffman, PhD - President & Co-Founder National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder:

"Early Detection & Prevention of BPD - Bridging the GAP"

Kimberly Vay, EdD - "The Power of Validation: Making sense of your Loved One's Emotions AND Handling your

Own Emotions"

Cynthia Ramirez, PhD - Clinical Research Study: "Involving Caregivers in DBT Skills Training for Adolescents"

Nina Wolverton MA, LAPC, LAMFT - "In this Together . . . The Healing Power of Multi-Family Groups"

Jamie Bray, LCSW - "Teaching DBT Skills in Elementary & Middle Schools"

Jenny Milkey - BPD Consumer in Recovery - "Linguistics of Learning to Live"

Marnie & Orlando Marra - "Turning Point . . . A Message of Hope for Parents"

THE CONFERENCE WILL ALSO FEATURE AN OPEN DISCUSSION and Q & A SESSION WITH THERAPISTS

Continental Breakfast & Lunch will be Provided

Limited Space - Register early

$85 for Professionals (4 CE credits applied for with GSCSW & GA LPCA)

$45 for Family & Friends

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5 Things That Will Recover You From Emotional Pain June 23, 2017 By Derrick Ivey

We all have emotional pain, but how does one recover?

Emotional pain has a wide grasp on the human condition. However, we are all made as humans to endure it. As

human beings, we are capable of feeling the joys and the sorrows, and surviving that.

If emotional pain has been a mainstay in your life, here’s how to zap it. It does take time, but here are 5

things to do now.

REMIND YOURSELF YOU’RE WORTH IT

This one is huge. When life gets hard, self worth sometimes goes out the window. We must find ways to remind

ourselves why we’re so special. Could you try making a list of the good things about yourself? Cut the list up

and post snippets of it everywhere. Find some positive affirmations you can hang up around the house. Say

beautiful things about yourself. Here’s the kicker: believe them. Fall in love with yourself all over again.

DON’T OVERDO THE GUILT

Of course guilt is part of our being for a reason. We feel guilt because it is part of the human condition. We feel

guilt to remind ourselves what we don’t want to do. Guilt reminds us what feels wrong. However, we can take it

a step further and start believing that we are guilt. See guilt for what it is, and move on. We don’t have to push

in the second arrow all the time. One arrow is the guilt itself, the second arrow is the one we keep jabbing into

ourselves. Knock it off.

TAKE REJECTION WITH A GRAIN OF SALT

It hurts to be rejected. It’s ok to feel this hurt, but dwelling on it is not productive. If you are rejected by

someone, realize that other opportunities will come about. Sometimes we spend so much time on this rejection,

we block new and better things. Make room for the new, boundless experiences by letting go of the old

rejections. Spend your energy on building new connections, than fretting over the old. Easier said than done, but

give it a try.

MAKE FAILURE YOUR FRIEND

We all fall, but we all get back up. If you do fail, think of what good came of it. This can be hard in the

moment. You may have to say thank you through gritted teeth. You give yourself a gift by looking at how this

failure taught you how to be better. Life will give you a new experience when you see failures as a way to grow.

Failure can show you things in your realm of control to improve upon. You can now see how the next time, you

won’t make the same mistakes again.

DON’T KEEP THE SAME DEPRESSING TAPE ROLLING

When you replay old negative experiences, you reinforce them. Instead of reinforcing the bad, start a new tape.

Play the tape of success, joy, and happiness. Where attention goes, energy flows. Flow that energy by making

your attention on what good is in your life. Watch it grow.

http://iheartintelligence.com/2017/06/23/things-that-recover-you-from-emotional-pain/

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25 Secrets of Moms Living With a Mental Illness

May 10, 2017

Being a parent is hard. Being a parent with a health challenge can be extra hard. Being a parent with a highly stigmatized health challenge… it can leave a momma with mental illness feeling like no one understands what she’s going through.

That’s why, just in time for Mother’s Day, we wanted to ask moms in our mental health community to share one thing they wish others understood about parenting with a mental illness. Because all mothers deserve love and support, and no mother should feel like she’s doing it alone.

Here’s what our Mighty Moms shared with us:

1. “Having to attend parties or playdates is a nightmare. I’m not being rude if I don’t talk to you… I quite literally can’t. I will leave a social event with a migraine and be physically drained. My house is never 100-percent clean… it’s sometimes not even 50-percent cleaned. If it comes down to doing something with my son, or cleaning, my son will win out. I’m not a bad mom for not wanting to socialize with other parents. I’m not a bad mom for not having a spotless house. My son is happy, healthy and loves me. That’s a win in my book. My anxiety/depression/ADHD/DID don’t define me. They are a part of me, and I make the best of every day. You should never judge someone because you never know what battles they are fighting.” — Kim B.

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2. “I am ‘real’ with my children because I have to be. I don’t care if other people think I shouldn’t talk to my 4-year-old about ‘why Mommy gets cranky and cries sometimes.’ I’d rather tell them the truth, that Mommy is sick, than have them wondering their whole childhood and growing up thinking they were somehow to blame. As a result, my children are more empathetic than most adults because they realize that sometimes even adults can struggle with their emotions.” — Katie H.

3. “Sometimes I need to be away from my children. That doesn’t mean I love them any less than moms who can do it all and still be smiling… I just need to be alone sometimes.” — Courtnie H.

4. “I am not lazy. There are reasons why my house is not in order. Some days it takes all I have in me just to get out of bed. Ask me questions. Do not assume I am a horrible mother/woman.” — Lisa L.

5. “Not all moms fit the mold. I am not rude. I do not look you in the eyes or make small talk because of my depression and anxiety. I am as overwhelmed as my kids in a new school. I keep it together for my kids, smile through the darkness to let them know everything is OK, I go to Girl Scouts, sporting events, plays and concerts to support my kids. I am overwhelmed by crowds loud noises, but I push through. I am their number one fan.” — Aurora C.

6. “I wish people understood that having children isn’t a fix-all. Telling me I should be happier because I have children doesn’t help. In fact it does the opposite. It makes me feel guilty because I start second guessing my parenting ability.” — Julissa S.

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7. “Mental illness can be a lifelong struggle… sometimes I will be fantastic, but there will be days when anxiety gets the better of me… understand that just because I am doing well sometimes does not mean I am cured.” — Jolene N.

8. “I am capable of being my kid’s mother. She is fed, she has clothes and shelter, she is loved. Do we go out constantly? No. Does she know I love her to pieces even when Mommy is sick and needs yet another movie day? Yes.” — Christine S.

9. “It doesn’t make me a bad parent to ask for help.” — Amber R.

10. “The guilt can be horrible. You tell yourself you’re failing your children almost every moment. It could be because you forgot to buy squash or didn’t do the dishes today — little things seem like the biggest failing. It makes your depression or anxiety worse, then you find it hard to get up or take them to the park, and you self-confirm that you are a failed parent because of your depression. But, they are also the greatest healers. A smile and a hug from them can ease your suffering. And when I started CBT, I found that if I did something with them (big or small) each day then I felt so much better. Children are motivation. They are a reason to keep fighting.” — Hannah W.

11. “Sometimes I have to just lay in bed. Depression zaps my energy and will to do anything. I’m not lazy. I hate that my son gets more screen time than he should… but some days I just can hardly leave my room. I also wish my husband understood that a bad mental health day is just as bad as having a stomach virus or something. Having to be a responsible mom of two while struggling with those things is equally exhausting and cruel. Sometimes even though I look decent, I need backup.” — Destiny P.

12. “I wish people would understand that when I ask for time alone and away from the baby (even just to the grocery store), it’s not because I don’t want to ‘have to deal with my kid.’ It’s not that at all! My anxiety makes me tense and anxious and I feel so guilty if I let that side of me show to my son. Also, have patience with me while I try to pretend I’m not crying on the inside. I always struggle with feeling worthy to be a mom.” — Kendra C.

13. “I’m not that mom… I’m not that mom who remembers to sign everything, check everything. I’m not that mom who signs up for everything, I’m not that mom who shows up looking perfect at every function, or even manages to make every function. I’m not that mom who keeps a spotless house and hides her tears from the kids and also remembers to always keep a soft voice. But I am the mom who keeps getting up every day even when I don’t want to. I keep going to work to support my family despite my anxiety, despite my depression. I still leave my house despite my issues. I still find the strength to be the best mom I am capable of being. I am that mom.” — Heidi G.

14. “I wish people could understand that just because I’m working through my own mental health issues, it doesn’t mean I am irresponsible or an unsafe mother. I can still fully care for my children (and any friends who may come to visit).” — Jen D.

15. “My children see my illness and we speak about it. I tried hiding it. It hurt them more. We talk about medication and why Mum has bad days.” — Liz H.

16. “I really wish people would get that I spend all my spoons on my kids. I have to to be able to properly care for them. That’s why when it comes to social functions, I don’t really show up or make an effort to hang out. I’ve already exhausted myself.” — Gail B.

17. “I’m just like the other moms, just some of the usual daily stresses and struggles are often amplified by my mental illnesses. That’s what complicates my life. If I’m having a high anxiety day, my children’s activities/lives still come first, but I will be visibly off. I may want to reach out and chat with you at a school function, but it

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can be too overwhelming at times. And that although I struggle with what is at times debilitating mental illnesses, I am still a loving, warm and compassionate mother who can be trusted just as much as anyone else with your most precious gift, your child.” — Meghan B.

18. “It’s possible to manage my symptoms and be a good mom. And sometimes, I just can’t manage my symptoms, but I will still be a good mom.” — Kyra H.

19. “I can’t just get up and go when called for plans with my 7-year-old. I need time to prepare. I may look ‘not friendly,’ but I have the biggest heart. I just don’t smile much. If I am having a really bad day I might not answer the phone. Don’t take it personally… I might be late to everything. It’s not because I am a bad mom or lazy. It’s because of my OCD when leaving the house. I also love my daughter more than anything, and having depression and anxiety doesn’t mean I can’t raise my daughter right. I am here because of her. Don’t judge others!” — Amy L.

20. “The biggest and most important thing to understand is that I can have a mental illness and still be a good mom! Having an invisible illness doesn’t mean I can’t or don’t love my child. It doesn’t mean I can’t or don’t take care of her and it doesn’t mean I should be looked at any different than any other mom. Do not judge mine or any other mother’s ability to be a good and loving parent based on their health.” — Amanda C.

21. “My child is the best thing to happen to me. With the right medication, I can be just as good of a mother as someone without a mental illness. I have a wonderful doctor who prescribed me the psych meds that allowed me to have a healthy baby…. My daughter is my world.” — Laura S.

22. “No, I will not hide my mental illness from my child. He will see me cry, he will see me struggle and he will see me overcome so one day when life gets hard for him, he can look to the struggles of his mom and know it’s surmountable and there’s someone out there in the whole wide world who will understand.” — Jessi W.

23. “My mental illness doesn’t define me or how I take care of my child.”

— Sarah A.

24. “My struggles with anxiety and depression have made me a better mom. I understand how to enjoy the little things because I’ve known the darkness. Being a mom was what forced me to get help, and I’m grateful for that.” — Alicia N.

25. “I wish my kids knew I always gave 100 percent, even on my worst days. But, when I tried medications that didn’t work and made things worse, I wasn’t 100 percent. I wish they would weigh the good day with the bad because the good was so very good. And there was a lot more good day than bad.” — MaryAnn M.

And lastly, from a daughter:

“I’m not a mom, but my mom has always said she felt like she wasn’t good enough. We both have depression and anxiety. I’m afraid I will be the same way and people won’t understand. I tell her all the time now that she was a great mom. I wish I had done that more as a kid and teen. My advice would be to remind people to be supportive of all mothers because you don’t always know what is going on in their lives, in their minds.” — Sa

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Thank you so much for your interest in joining NAMI Cobb Affiliate! Please complete the form below, and mail this with your check made out to

NAMI Cobb. (If you wish to pay by credit card, go to www. nami.org and click on “Become a Member”. You will start receiving our monthly

electronic newsletter within the month. You are also invited to attend our monthly education and support meetings at St. James Episcopal Church in

Marietta, 161 Church St. NE, on the third Thursday of each month at 7:30pm (there is a time to look at resources and brochures at 7pm). You are not

alone. Come join us.

NAMI Cobb JULY 2017

P.O. Box 999

Kennesaw, GA 30156

TO:

Yes, I would like to join NAMI Cobb of Georgia! Date:____________________

New

Renewal

$3 Financial Hardship Membership

(Please note there has been a slight increase in membership fees nationally).

___________Donation (I would like to give an additional donation

to support NAMI-Cobb programming and outreach)

Name(s):______________________________________

Address:______________________________________

_______________________________________

Phone: _______________________________________

Email: _______________________________________

I am interested in volunteering. My skill is ________________________.

Support Group Meetings

For families of those with a mental illness

1st Presbyterian Church

189 Church St

Marietta, GA

MONDAYS Time: 7-8:30 PM

Family Support Group Room 048

Connections Support Group Room 046

Contact Neill Blake at 770-427-5353 or

[email protected] with questions

about either support group."

Monthly NAMI Cobb General Meeting

NO Educational Meeting in July

7:00 – 9:00 PM

Turner Chapel Room 187 492 N. Marietta Pkwy |Marietta, GA 30060

**Please mail this form along with your check to:

NAMI Cobb, P.O. Box 999

Kennesaw, GA 30156

Thank you for your membership!