Is praising our children just

common sense?

How much do you agree or disagree

with this statement?

Intelligence is mostly a function of one’s

genetic inheritance, and it doesn’t change much!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PVhUdhZxbGI

Mindset Theory By Prof. Carol Dweck

4 Myths About Ability, Success, Praise & Confidence:

• Pupils with high ability are more likely to love learning

• Success in school makes children love learning

• Praise, especially intelligence-praise, leads to a love of learning

• Confidence in one’s intelligence is the key to a love of learning

The problem is this: There's a bucket of wine and a

bucket of water and you transfer a cup of wine to the water bucket, and then a cup

of the mixture back to the wine bucket. Is there more

wine in the water or water in the wine?

It is hard to believe, but equal amounts of water and wine were transferred. Assume that each glass contained 100 units of liquid and that the spoon held 10 units. The spoon first removes 10 units of water, so the water glass contains 90 units of water, and the wine glass contains 100 units of wine and 10 units of water.

With 110 units in the wine glass, the spoon will remove 1/11 of each liquid in that glass. Thus it will transfer to the water glass 9 1/11 units of wine and 10/11 units of water. The water glass will then contain 90 10/11 units of water and 9 1/11 units of wine, and the wine glass will contain 90 10/11 units of wine and 9 1/11 units of water.

One Solution!

‘Struggling’ is Necessary for Learning!

“The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism.”(Norman Vincent Peale)

The Hidden Cost of Rewards

•How will this knowledge affect all of our school practices?•How can parents reinforce this at home?

What’s Next?

Avoid:

•Setting yourself up as a judge of anyone’s intelligence

•Orienting students towards gaining our favourable judgements of their intelligence

•Intelligence and ‘goodness’ praise (“You’re brilliant!”, “What a clever girl”, “Good boy”…etc.)

So How Can Parents Help?

1.Praise the effort, not the ‘ability’

2.Praise in specifics, not generalities

3.Praise privately

4.Praise authentically, and not too much

5.Praise “now that,” not “if then”

6.Praise behaviour, not the child

Wise Praise: 6 rules

A Little Bedtime Reading!