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Introduction to Conflict Styles
Copyright 2009 Riverhouse ePresswww.ConflictStyleMatters.com
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Two factors strongly shape our choice of conflict style:
1. How hard do we push for the things we want , our agenda?
and…
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How much attention do we give to the relationship?
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Relationshipand own
Agenda
When we put the two factors together, we get five different styles of responding to conflict.
Each has a different focus, and a unique set of strengths and weaknesses.
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DIRECTING
Focus on own agenda: High
Focus on relationship: Low
I win/you lose.
How? Assert, control, compete.
Insist, demand, defeat.
Low focus on relationship
High focus on own agenda
We’re doing it
my way...
Let’s just get the
job done. (We’ll
worry about the
relationship
later...)
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High focus on relationship
Low focus on own agenda
HARMONIZINGFocus on own agenda: Low
Focus on relationship: High
I lose/you win.
How? Agree, go along, give in,
affirm.
Sure, I’m flexible .Whatever you’re happywith is fine with me....
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Low focus on relationship
Low focus on own agenda
AVOIDING
Focus on own agenda: Low
Focus on relationship: Low
I lose/you lose.
How? Withdraw, remain silent, walk
away, postpone discussion, delay
responding.
Let me out of here…! I don’t want to talk about it…Conflict? What conflict?
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High focus on relationship
High focus on own agenda
COOPERATINGFocus on own agenda: High
Focus on relationship: High
I win/you win.
How? Dialogue. Agree to talk
things through. Assert self and
support the other.
Let’s talk this through…My preference is…..And I want to hear and understand yours…..
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If we each back off and accept half of what we want, we can get an agreement and move on…
COMPROMISINGFocus on own agenda:
Medium
Focus on relationship:
Medium
We both win some/We both
lose some.
How? Bargain, strike a deal,
find a little something for
everyone.
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“When the only tool you have is a hammer, everything you see is a nail.”
Mark Twain
Each style is a valuable tool , essential for situations all of us face. We handle conflict better when we are skilled in using all five styles.
Then we can choose the response most likely to bring a good outcome.www.ConflictStyleMatters.com