INTIMACY
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SELF ACTUALIZATION
Personal growth and fulfillment
AESTHETIC NEEDS
Beauty,balance, form
COGNITIVE NEEDS
Knowledge,meaning,self awareness
COGNITIVE NEEDS
Knowledge,meaning,self awareness
ESTEEM NEEDS
Achievement,status,responsibility,reputation
ESTEEM NEEDS
Achievement,status,responsibility,reputation
BELONGINESS/LOVE NEEDS
Family,affection,relationships, work group
BELONGINESS/LOVE NEEDS
Family,affection,relationships, work group
SAFETY NEEDS
Protection,security,law,etc.
SAFETY NEEDS
Protection,security,law,etc.
BIOLOGICAL AND PHYSIOLOGICAL NEEDS
Food,clothing,shelter
RELATIONSHIP DEVELOP. RELATIONSHIP DEVELOP. [coming together] (Knapp)[coming together] (Knapp)
Initiating ExperimentingIntensifyingIntegrating*Bonding*
*Maintenance stages
Page 134(model)
RELATIONSHIP DEVELOP. RELATIONSHIP DEVELOP. [coming apart][coming apart]
Differentiating*Circumscribing*StagnatingAvoidingTerminating
*Maintenance stages
RELATIONSHIP DISSOLUTION RELATIONSHIP DISSOLUTION (Duck theory)(Duck theory)
Intrapsychic Phase◦ “should I stay or should I
go?”
Dyadic Phase◦ “It takes two”
Social Phase◦ Advice
Grave-dressing◦ “whose at fault?”
RELATIONSHIP DIALECTICSRELATIONSHIP DIALECTICS
Dialectics-contradictory impulses that pull us in different directions (slide)
Strategies for using dialectics◦ Selecting◦ Neutralizing◦ Segmenting◦ Reframing
APPLYING DIALECTICSAPPLYING DIALECTICSFamily
◦ Dialogue◦ Don’t be afraid to
disclose Friendships
◦ Trust◦ Acquaintance vs friend◦ Romance?
College◦ Different cultures
Community Service◦ Applying skills in “real
life” settings
Gibb categories Gibb categories (Video #2-CD)(Video #2-CD)
DefensiveDefensive Supportive Supportive
EvaluationControlManipulationIndifferenceSuperiorityCertainty
DescriptionProblem OrientationAssertivenessEmpathyEqualityProvisionalism
CONFLICTCONFLICTExpressed struggleTypes of conflict
◦ Pseudo-misunderstandings◦ Destructive-negative spiral◦ Constructive-determining
how to solve problem
CONFLICT MANAGEMENT CONFLICT MANAGEMENT STYLE [Competing]STYLE [Competing]
Win-lose scenario
Me oriented“Victory for
one”
CONFLICT MANAGEMENTCONFLICT MANAGEMENTSTYLE [accommodating]STYLE [accommodating]
NonassertiveNecessary if you
have less powerMaintain harmony
CONFLICT MANAGEMENTCONFLICT MANAGEMENTSTYLE [Avoiding]STYLE [Avoiding]
Pretend like it does not exist
“Stonewalling”Not always a “bad”
thing◦ Trivial arguements
CONFLICT MANAGEMENT CONFLICT MANAGEMENT STYLE [compromising]STYLE [compromising]
Lose-Lose scenarioEnds conflict soonerNot happy with
decision