Interpersonal Communication Strengthening Your People Skills in the Workplace.
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Transcript of Interpersonal Communication Strengthening Your People Skills in the Workplace.
I told the doctor I broke my leg in two places. He told me to quit going to those places.
-Henny Youngman
How Meaning—Trust and Believability—is Communicated
7% by words
38% by vocal expression
55% by facial expression and posture
Constructive FeedbackModel
“I” Statement
I feel…when…
because…
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Request
Example
I get frustrated
when you interrupt me
because I lose my train of thought.
It would help me if I could finish my thought before
you respond.
Practice Scenarios
1. A coworker is dropping by to visit more often or longer than you’re comfortable with.
2. A coworker is using the water cooler but not paying the monthly membership fee.
3. A coworker is talking very loudly at his or her desk.
4. A coworker keeps bailing out of your scheduled project meetings.
5. A coworker is talking negatively about another coworker.
Neutral Language: Example #1
Statement A: Your ideas are always out there.
Statement B: I disagree with you.
Statement C: I have a different perspective on it.
Neutral Language: Example #2
Statement A: You never include me in important decisions.
Statement B: Why didn’t you send the e-mail to me?
Statement C: I didn’t get the e-mail. Am I on your list?
Withholding constructive
feedback is like sending people out on a long
and complicated hike without a
compass.
“Thought Speed Gap”
The average speaking rate is
125 – 150 words per minute
The average thinking rate is
400 words per minute
Defensive vs. Supportive
“Tootsie”
• Michael (Dustin Hoffman) and George
• Place a “T” on the appropriate place on the scale
“Big”
• Josh (Tom Hanks) and Mac
• Place a “B” on the appropriate place on the scale
Gossip
• Who gossips to you will gossip of you. -Turkish proverb
• A question to ask a gossip:
“What is it about my behavior that makes it easier for you to talk about me, rather than to me?”
Relationship Maintenance
Like everything else, relationships need maintenance. They don’t keep running smoothly
on their own.They require an
investment of time.