INTERPERSONAL ATTRACTIONFriendship. Love. Relationship

INTERPERSONAL ATTRACTION

• Interpersonal Attraction

Describes the desire to approach another individual, to seek them out for interaction

RESPONDING TO OBSERVABLE FEATURES

• When we like-dislike-someone at first sight, it probably means that our response is based on the something we observe about that person that may or may not provide accurate information about him or her.

FACTORS DETERMINE INTERPERSONAL ATTRACTION

• Physical Attractiveness

• Proximity

• Familiarity

• Similarity

• Reciprocity

PHYSICAL ATTRACTIVENESS• Features that determine physical attractiveness

Research reveals that generally there is a fairly high level of consensus among people when evaluating the attractiveness of others

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PROXIMITY• Geographicaly nearness. Proximity (more precisely,”functional distance”)

Geographicaly nearness. Proximity (more precisely,”functional distance”) “powerfully predicts liking”

FAMILIARITY & SIMILARITY• Familiarity : mere exposure effect

• Similarity: Similarity attraction effect

RESPONDING TO OBSERVABLE FEATURESRECIPROCITY: MUTUAL LIKING

• Reciprocal liking is a psychological term to describe.

• the phenomenon of people tending to better like those people who like them.

• It reflects the notion that people feel better about themselves knowing that they are likable and enjoy the company of those who give them positive feelings.

CLOSE RELATIONSHIP: FRIENDS AND ROMANTIC PARTNER

• Friendship and loneliness

• Romantic Relationship

• Premarital Sexuality

CLOSE RELATIONSHIP: FRIENDS AND ROMANTIC PARTNER

At one extreme, initial feelings of attraction can blossom into a lifelong close friendship or even into highly intimate romantic relationships such as marriage.

FRIENDSHIP AND LONELINESS• FriendshipBeginning in childhood, most of us establish casual friendships with several others of about the same age who share common interests, and also from a close friendship with just one person.

• LonelinessMost people place a high value on establishing relationships, but many have difficulty in achieving that goal.Loneliness is associated with negative emotions such as depression, anxiety, unhappiness, dissatisfaction, and shyness.

DIFFERENCES BETWEEN ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP AND CLOSE RELATIONSHIPS.

Some aspects of romantic interaction differ from other relationships. That is, we generally want to be with someone who knows us well enough to understand our best and our worst characteristics.

Early in such a relationship, at least, two people are not committed to one another and aren’t looking for self-validation. Rather, they are looking for acceptance and want to like and to be liked, hoping most all for compliments and praise. In effect, people go out to have fun, and they are on their best behavior.

What is Love ?

WHAT IS LOVE?• Love is one of the most common themes in our songs, movies, and

everyday lives.• American adults revealed that almost three out of four say that they are

currently “in love”. What do they mean when they say that? One possibility is that a friendship between a man and a woman is redefined as a loving relationship when the two people begin to perceive themselves as potential sexual partners.

TRIANGULAR LOVE

PREMARITAL SEXUALITY

Despite centuries of religion and legal sanctions against premarital sex in many parts of the world, dramatic changes in sexual attitudes and behavior have occurred during the second half of the twentieth century.

MARITAL RELATIONSHIPMarital sex, Parent Hood and General Satisfaction

• Before, during, and after the high point of the sexual revolution, marriage remained the primary interpersonal goal of most young people.

RELATIONSHIP FAILURE•When Dissatisfaction Leads to Dissolution