Melissa Koh

Shona Schwartz

Internal vs. External Success Growth vs. Fixed Mindset

What are our messages?

"Everyone has a talent...."?"We are all winners...."?

“Everyone is smart in their own way…”?

How do kids interpret these messages?

Average:

"The result obtained by adding several quantities together and then dividing this total by the number of quantities; the mean."

"Synonyms: Adjective: Ordinary, Medium, Mediocre..."

We are special:)

• We are created in the image of God

• Feeding the needs of our soul-our internal essence

• Accomplishing our mission for self-improvement

Internal vs. External qualities

So what do we mean....?

Internal: External:

EffortValuesPersistence KindnessGivingIntegrity

GradesMoneyLooksJobHome/CarCharisma

The value of internal success

* Hedonic treadmill vs. feeding the soul

* we control internal success

* The value: internal success = stronger self identity = external failures put in perspective

Happy!

Clip from the movie happy:

-People want to achieve happiness -Hedonic treadmill and its pitfalls-are we really

happy-Focus on internal growth and meaning actually

makes people happier

Connections: Growth vs. Fixed Mindset

* Growth: intelligence is earned--> resilience, collaboration, leadership * Fixed: intelligence is innate--> cheating, lying, anxiety, depression

What do you notice about Mary's reaction to external failure?

(play 4:44-5:44)

What do you notice about Daniel's reaction to external failure?

Start at 2:20

Let's help our students develop

internal thermometers

Our students need to hear consistent messages to internalize growth mindset and value internal success.

What are the daily messages about success we want our students hear?

Examples: • Emphasis on effort (internal growth) is

important-both for success and failure • Check, do not assume a student’s effort!

• External success is enjoyable, internal success is what matters!

• Self-worth is measured by internal successes