Inner Success and Inner Critics: Claiming Success While Taming Inner Critics (Session 1)

Global Tech Women VOICES07-March-14

Stacey SargentFacilitator, Coach, Program Designer, Speaker, Author and

CEO of Connect Growth and Development

– Introduction = Why Me, Why at Work– This is How We Roll = Stories, EQ, WPI, Coaching, Sharing

Inner Critic (07-March-2014; 11:00 PST)– The Cast of Inner Critic Characters– Know Thyself, Know Thy Critic = Message, Triggers, Whole-Person Intelligence tracking– Show Me the Data! = Truth Series, Hot Words, Rules in Play– Taking a Different Look = Helpful, Both/And, Shadow, Check It Out, Feedback, Normal– The Divine Flaw

Inner Success (08-March-2014; 15:00 PST)– Work Your Core = Values, Identity, Feelings– Know Thy Success, Know Thyself = Successes and Prouds– Rocking Your Strengths PLUS = Strengths, Energy, Flow, SuperPowers– Your Definition of Success– Work Your Crew = Rock/Coach/Friend, Board of Directors

Be in Action– Cultivating Your Practice

The Book, The VOICES Sessions

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CAST OF INNER CRITIC CHARACTERS

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Classic Critics


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SHOW ME THE DATA!


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“Don’t believe everything you think!”

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Is it 100% True? Y/N

The Truth Series


What is MORE true?

What is LESS true?

What else could be true?

Data, Specifics + Examples!

Thoroughly take the opposing, positive viewpoint.

Turn the situation and/or the message upside down, around, invert it

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INNER SUCCESS BUILDERS


Divine Flaw

DIVINE FLAW

What matters most is where the

critic attacks

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Work Your CORE


Work Your CORE

Values

Feelings

Identity

Strengths

Core Values

• STEP1: Put a line through LESS important values

• STEP2: Repeat, with the remaining words, which of these are LESS important?

• STEP3: Select SIX of the remaining words as your MORE important values

• STEP4: Stack rank, 1st most important value to 6th most important values

Core Values

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Who are YOU?


Imagine yourself as four dinner guests. They can be real people, fictional characters, or your own made-up personifications.

• Who are they? Choose a label, name or the character.• If each identity had an area of expertise, what would it be? • What are three core values of each identity? • What is the favorite topic of conversation for each identity? • Which of the Six Classic Critics might trip it up? • How would it most likely be triggered and what would the I.C.

message likely be? • What’s on the line for this particular identity, what really matters to it?

Core Identity

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KNOW THEY SUCCESS, KNOW THYSELF


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Successes + Prouds

• Think of two moments where you felt very successful.

• Think of two moments where you felt very proud of yourself.

• Increase your awareness1. What characteristics, strengths, skills were present

about YOU, about the situation?


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CULTIVATE YOUR PRACTICE


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Stacey’s PRACTICE

• Learn about myself and my patterns• Be ready for the critic

• Get very clear on my core• Recall my Divine Flaw• Get external perspective and feedback• Have a great crew• Let it flow, healthy venting and expression

• Emotional hijack

• Gratitude & Compassion


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Planning + Practice

• Think ahead into the next 2 weeks, when and where are IC moments likely?

• What 2 tools are you going to practice?• Meet with your crew in 2 weeks• Share your stories, what you’re learning

and what you’ll be practicing the next 2 weeks


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Stacey Sargent, MA, Principal

Stacey Sargent has a passion for helping leaders and teams connect to higher levels of performance! She has been coaching and consulting, helping clients face change, improve performance and have positive impact to business results for 17 years.

Clients often refer to Stacey’s ability to bring an authentic and approachable manner, to ask the right questions, bring focus to leverage points and to help create accountability and business results in the work she does. She works in partnership with her clients in a direct, open and respectful manner. She uses emotional intelligence, communications and paradoxical and systems thinking as ways to create a higher return on investment in life and work for her clients.

Stacey has worked in several key industries performing leadership, strategic, design and vision roles in business, accounting and finance, consulting, client relations, design and development. She understands business - the people, the numbers and the systems – that can be connected together in ways that transform. She has worked across industries in higher education, government & municipalities, and manufacturing. She is able to communicate across hierarchy, industry and focus so that people can come together to achieve high performance. Stacey traveled the USA, Latin and South America helping organizations deal with change and challenging their processes to gain more efficiency and effectiveness.

Stacey holds a Master of Arts degree in Applied Behavioral Science from the Leadership Institute of Seattle at Bastyr University and a Bachelor of Arts degree in Business Finance from Western Washington University in Bellingham, WA.

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ResourcesBOOKSEmotional Capability

• “Working with Emotional Intelligence” and “Primal Leadership”, by Daniel Goleman • “Authentic Happiness” and “Learned Optimism”, by Martin Seligman• “Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us”, by Daniel Pink

Inner Critic and Doubts • “The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are”, by Brene Brown • “The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women: Why Capable People Suffer from the Impostor Syndrome and How to Thrive in Spite of It”, by Valerie

YoungLeadership

• “How Remarkable Women Lead: The Breakthrough Model for Work and Life”, by Joanna Barsh and Susie Cranston• “The Leadership Challenge”, by Kouzes & Posner• “The Practices of Adaptive Leadership” and “Leadership on the Line” by Heifetz & Linsky

Success• “Now, Discover Your Strengths”, by Marcus Buckingham• “The Fire Starter Sessions: A Soulful + Practical Guide to Creating Success on Your Own Terms”, by Danielle LaPorte• “Transitions: Making Sense of Life's Changes”, by William Bridges• “Search Inside Yourself”, by Chade-Meng Tan

BLOGS+ SITES• www.ConnectGD.com = Stacey Sargent: connections on success in work and life, blog• www.HBR.org = business, leadership, strategy and more• www.greatergood.berkeley.edu = research and writing on mindfulness, positive psychology, etc.• www.TED.com = a few of my favorites, just search on the speaker name…

• Brene Brown, On Vulnerability in 2011 and 2012• Sheryl Sandberg , Why We Have too Few Women Leaders• Simon Sinek, How Great Leaders Inspire Action• Richard St. John, Success Is a Continuous Journey• Arianna Huffington, How to Succeed, Get More Sleep• Shawn Anchor, The Happy Secret to Better Work


http://www.connectgd.com/

http://www.hbr.org/

http://www.greatergood.berkeley.edu/

http://www.ted.com/

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