ROBERT H. GARFFROBERT H. GARFF1942-2020

In Loving Memory

Shakespeare“Twelfth Night”

I can no other answer make but thanks, and thanks, and ever thanks.

Robert (Bob) Heiner Garff, 77, passed away on March 29, 2020 in Salt Lake City, Utah of complications from COVID-19.

Bob was born September 15, 1942 in Salt Lake City to Kendall Day and Marjorie Marie Heiner Garff. He graduated from East High, received a BS in accounting and an MBA from the University of Utah. The most important day of his life was April 9, 1965 when he married his sweetheart, Katharine (Kathi) Bagley, in the Salt Lake Temple. For nearly 55 years she has been the wind in his sails.

Bob lived a remarkably full life: a life nearly impossible to summarize in a few words. After working side-by-side with his father for many years, it was natural for Bob to succeed Ken as CEO of the Ken Garff Automotive Group. In time, Bob dramatically increased the size and breadth of the company nearly ten-fold until it became the 2nd largest privately-held auto group in the nation. He continued to work as Chairman of the Board for the organization until his death.

Bob embraced and grew the Garff family legacy of giving back to the community in both public and private ways. He and Kathi were very committed to education, founding the Keys to Success program and the Success in Education Foundation to inspire Utah students K-12. Bob gladly supported his alma mater, the University of Utah, helping fund a new executive education building for the David Eccles School of Business, and the upcoming Ken Garff Performance Zone at Rice-Eccles Stadium.

Bob held multiple community positions, including Chairman of the Board of Trustees of the Salt Lake Organizing

OBITUARY

We make a living by

what we get,

but we make a life by

what we give.

Winston Churchill

Committee for the remarkably successful 2002 Olympic Games. He also served a term as Speaker of the House of Representatives for the State of Utah, Chairman of the Salt Lake Area Chamber of Commerce, and Chairman of the Board for the Deseret Book Company. His contributions and service on many boards large and small for various other civic, professional and non-profits were freely given and genuinely appreciated.

His work in business and the community also earned him multiple honors from such distinguished groups as the American International Automobile Association, BYU Management Society, and University of Utah.

As a dedicated, lifelong member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, Bob served as a missionary in the England London Mission, Bishop, Stake President, President of the England Coventry Mission, Area Seventy, and President of the Bountiful Temple.

Bob genuinely loved people. From across a room he would double tap his fist on his heart and then point to the person he wanted to reach. It was as if he were saying, “I believe in you!” or, “I love you!” or, “From my heart to yours!” He made everyone feel important, especially his family. He was humble, self-effacing, and meek to the core.

He often referred to himself as, “Old Bob,” a name affectionately given him by an African tribal chief. He was authentically the same man inside and out. His leadership style of being an unconventional listener even led to a famous tagline. True to his values, Bob freely and abundantly gave the credit to others while taking none for himself.

Above all, Bob loved his family. He consistently made time for his wife and children and, later in life, for his grandchildren and great-grandchildren, whom he adored.

Being in the outdoors was special to Bob; he spent time hunting, fishing and horseback riding with his family, as he had done years before with his father. He showed them what it meant to “Ride for the Brand,” and inspired them to dare boldly, to dream big, and to make real the impossible.

For now, we bid our hero adieu, knowing his spirit will live on in each of us.

Bob is survived by his wife Katharine Bagley Garff, their five children, Jennifer Elaine Garff (Richard L. Jr.) Folkerson, John Kendall (Amy Anderson) Garff, Melissa Garff (Craig B.) Ballard, Matthew Bagley (Nicole Robinson) Garff, Mary Frances Garff (Marc K.) Menlove, their twenty-one grandchildren, and two great-grandchildren, as well as his brother Kendall Gary Garff (Linda), and sister Marjorie Jane Garff (Christer) Whitworth, of Salt Lake City. After Bob’s mother passed away, Ken married Betty June Grames Morgan. Bob’s surviving stepsiblings include: Nicolas G. (Louise) Morgan; (Darlyne) Morgan; Claudia Jean (Ford G.) Scalley; David T. (Melanie) Morgan, all of Salt Lake City; and Richard S. (Maria) Morgan of San Antonio, TX. Preceded in death by Stephen G. Morgan.

A private family graveside service will be held Friday, April 10, 2020 at Wasatch Lawn Memorial Park. The family wishes to thank all those who have expressed their sympathy at this tender time. In lieu of flowers please consider sharing a memory of Bob at KenGarff.com/Robert

He made everyonefeel important,

especially his family.

Richard G. Folkerson

Jacob R. Folkerson

Joshua R. Garff

Jacob J. Garff

Truman R. Ballard

Bowen K. Ballard

Brigham R. Ballard

Stanford C. Ballard

Jonas L. Garff

Eli R. Garff

Mason K. Garff

Cole M. Menlove

James G. Menlove

The Tribute to the Fallen Horsemanof the Riderless Horse

Military Flag Ceremony

Pallbearers

GRAVESIDE SERVICERobert Heiner Garff

Friday, April 10, 2020

Utah State Capitol Flags at Half-Staff

University of Utah:Lighting of the Block “U” from 8–9 pm

President M. Russell Ballard

Matthew B. Garff

MusicalSelection

Closing Remarks

Dedication of the Grave

Piano: Eliza | Violin: Anna, Brigham, Ava | Cello: BowenViola: Katie, Maggie | Vocalists: Grandchildren

Marc & Mary Menlove

Matthew & Nicole Garff

Craig & Melissa Ballard

John & Amy Garff

Rick & Jennifer Folkerson

“Clair De Lune”Claude Debussy

“I Know That MyRedeemer Lives”

Presentation of Old Bob’sFavorite Quotes & Scriptures

John K. Garff

Richard G. Folkerson

President M. Russell Ballard

K. Gary Garff

Melissa G. Ballard

Presiding

Conducting

Musical Selection

Family Prayer

Obituary

ROBERT HEINER &KATHARINE BAGLEY

GARFF FAMILY

September 15, 1942 - March 29, 2020

Born to

KENDALL DAY &MAJORIE MARIE HEINER GARFF

Married to

KATHARINE BAGLEY

April 9, 1965in the Salt Lake Temple

ROBERT HEINER GARFF

POSTERITY

RICHARD LEE, JR. & JENNIFER ELAINE GARFF FOLKERSON

Richard Garff Folkerson & Jessica Lee IpsonJacob Robert & Whitney Ruth Davis Folkerson Millie Ruth Davis Jacob

JOHN KENDALL & AMY ANDERSON GARFF

Joshua RobertKatharine Elaine Rachel LeahJacob Jay Megan Mary

CRAIG BOWEN & MELISSA GARFF BALLARD

Truman Russell & Samantha Jade Raven BallardBowen Kendall & Caroline Katrina Brinkman Ballard Brigham Robert & Brooke Lauren Bailey BallardStanford CraigMary Katharine Eliza Barbara

MATTHEW BAGLEY & NICOLE ROBINSON GARFF

Jonas LouisEli RobinsonMason KendallLily Grace

MARC KENT & MARY FRANCES GARFF MENLOVE

AnnaAva ClaireCole MarcJames Garff

THE START

But where was I to start? The world is so vast, I shall start

with the country I knew best, my own. But my country is so

very large. I had better start with my town. But my town, too,

is large. I had best start with my street. No, my home. No, my

family. Never mind, I shall start with myself.

Elie Wiesel

...and becometh a saint through the atonement of Christthe Lord, and becometh as a child, submissive,

meek, humble, patient, full of love, willing to submit toall things which the Lord seeth fit to inflict upon him,

even as a child doth submit to his father.

Mosiah 3:19

For behold, the Spirit of Christ is given to every man, that he may know good from evil; wherefore, I show unto you the way to judge;

for every thing which inviteth to do good, and to persuade to believein Christ, is sent forth by the power and gift of Christ; wherefore

ye may know with a perfect knowledge it is of God.

BEAUTY

Earth’s crammed with heaven;

And every common bush afire with God,

But only he who sees takes off his shoes;

The rest sit round it and pluck blackberries.

Elizabeth Barrett Browning

Moroni 7:16

Music is well said to be the speech of angels;

in fact, nothing among the utterances allowed to man is

felt to be so divine. It brings us near to the infinite.

Thomas Carlyle

POTENTIAL

When we plant a rose seed in the earth, we notice that it is small, but

we do not criticize it as ‘rootless and stemless.’ We treat it as a

seed, giving it the water and nourishment required of a seed. When

it first shoots up out of the earth, we don’t condemn it as

immature and underdeveloped; nor do we criticize the buds for not

being open when they appear. We stand in wonder at the

process taking place and give the plant the care it needs at each

stage of its development. The rose is a rose from the time it is

a seed to the time it dies. Within it, at all times, it contains its whole

potential. It seems to be constantly in the process of change;

yet at each state, at each moment, it is perfectly all right as it is.

W. Timothy Gallwey

D&C 98:12

For he will give unto the faithful line upon line, precept upon precept; and I will try you and prove you herewith.

Who ne’er has suffered, he has lived but half;

Who never failed, he never strove or sought;

Who never wept, is stranger to a laugh,

And he who never doubted, never thought.

Rev. J. B. Goode

Holocausts occur not only when an atom bomb explodes or a mad dictator

rules. A holocaust occurs whenever human being is put to shame.

Rabbi Abraham J. Heschel

You see things; you say, ‘Why?’ But I dream things that never were;

and I say ‘Why not?’

George Bernard Shaw

The human potential is the most magical but also the most elusive

fact of life. Men suffer less from hunger or dread than from living under

their moral capacity. The atrophy of spirit that most men know

and all men fear is tied not so much to deprivation or abuse as it is to

their inability to make real the best that lies within them...

Because of Winston Churchill, millions of people discovered their ability

to come fully alive. They knew they faced total danger, but he

helped them to find their capacity for a total response. They also learned

it was far less painful to pit the whole of themselves against a

monstrous force than it was to sit on the sideline half-alive... It was the

recognition that rhetoric gave them that history was what men made it.

Norman Cousins“Saturday Review” February 6, 1965

It never hurts to compliment a woman.

You’re a gentleman and a scholar and there aren’t many of us left.

Ken Garff

GARFF FAMILY PHRASES

Garffs Never Give Up.

Prayer is the most important part of the day.

Kathi & Robert Garff

D&C 93

D&C 88

HUMILITY

...If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,

Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,

If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,

If all men count with you, but none too much;

If you can fill the unforgiving minute

With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,

Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,

And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!

Rudyard KiplingIF

Alma 7:23-24

And now I would that ye should be humble, and be submissiveand gentle; easy to be entreated; full of patience and long-suffering;

being temperate in all things; being diligent in keeping thecommandments of God at all times; asking for whatsoever thingsye stand in need, both spiritual and temporal; always returning

thanks unto God for whatsoever things ye do receive.

And see that ye have faith, hope, and charity, and then ye willalways abound in good works.

PRESENT

The shadow by my finger cast

Divides the future from the past:

Before it, sleeps the unborn hour

In darkness, and beyond thy power:

Behind its unreturning line,

The vanished hour, no longer thine:

One hour alone is in thy hands,--

The NOW on which the shadow stands.

Henry Van Dykeinscribed on the sundial at Wellesley College

D&C 64:32-33

But all things must come to pass in their time.

Wherefore, be not weary in well-doing, for ye arelaying the foundation of a great work. And out of small

things proceedeth that which is great.

...Trust no Future, howe’er pleasant! Let the dead Past bury its dead! Act,— act in the living Present!

Heart within, and God o’erhead!

Lives of great men all remind us We can make our lives sublime, And, departing, leave behind us Footprints on the sands of time;

Footprints, that perhaps another, Sailing o’er life’s solemn main,

A forlorn and shipwrecked brother, Seeing, shall take heart again.

Let us, then, be up and doing, With a heart for any fate;

Still achieving, still pursuing, Learn to labor and to wait.

Henry Wadsworth LongfellowA Psalm of Life

O, one might be like SocratesAnd lift the hemlock up,

Pledge death with philosophic ease,And drain the untrembling cup;—But to be barefoot and be great,Most in desert and least in state,Servant of truth and lord of fate!

I own I falter at the peakTrod daily by the steadfast Greek.

O, one might nerve himself to climbHis cross and cruelly die,

Forgiving his betrayer’s crime,With pity in his eye;—

But day by day and week by weekTo feel his power and yet be meek,

Endure the curse and turn the cheek,I scarce dare trust even you to be

As was the Jew of Galilee.

O, one might reach heroic heightsBy one strong burst of power.

He might endure the whitest lightsOf heaven for an hour;—

But harder is the daily drag,To smile at trials which fret and fag,

And not to murmur—nor to lag.The test of greatness is the way

One meets the eternal Everyday.

Edmund Vance CookeThe Eternal Everday

ATTITUDE

Years ago, I preferred clever people. There was a joy in

beholding a mind bearing thoughts quickly translated into words,

or ideas expressed in a new way. I find now that my taste

has changed. Verbal fireworks often bore me. They seem motivated

by self-assertion and self-display. I now prefer another type

of person: one who is considerate and understanding of others,

careful not to break down another person’s self-respect.

My preferred person today is one who is always aware of the needs

of others, of their pain and fear and unhappiness, and their search

for self-respect. I once liked clever people. Now I like good people.

Solomon Freehof

But behold, that which is of God inviteth and enticeth to do good continually; wherefore, every thing which inviteth and enticeth to do

good, and to love God, and to serve him, is inspired of God.

Moroni 7:13

And the Lord called his people Zion, because they were of one heart and one mind, and dwelt in righteousness; and there was no poor among them.

Moses 7:18

UNITY

On the 3rd of February 1943, the troopship S.S. Dorchester was nearing

Greenland with 900 souls aboard. It included about 600 U. S.

servicemen, mostly soldiers. She was hit by a torpedo from the German

submarine U-456 as she neared Greenland. She began to sink rapidly.

There were four U. S. Army chaplains aboard; Alex Goode, a Jewish rabbi;

Clark Poling, a Dutch Reformed pastor; George Fox, a Methodist

minister; and John Washington, a Catholic priest. The four had bunked

together during the trip. When the torpedo hit, they went to the deck

together and worked together. They prayed together with the men. They

helped rig rafts and passed out life rafts from the stowage box. When

the rafts and the box were gone, they gave up their own. The ship sank in 20

minutes. A lot of the 229 survivors remembered seeing the chaplains

standing on the heaving, squall-tossed deck as the ship sank. Their arms

were linked, and they were praying.

Today the Chapel of the Four Chaplains stands in Philadelphiaand exists to further the cause of ‘unity without uniformity’by encouraging goodwill and cooperation among all people.

WORK

The reward of a thing well done is to have done it.

What we call results are beginnings.

What lies behind us, and what lies before us are

but tiny matters compared to what lies within us.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.

Matthew 5:16

STEADFASTNESS

There is no chance, no destiny, no fate, that can hinder

or control the firm resolve of a determined soul.

Ella Wheeler Wilcox

...It matters not how strait the gate,

How charged with punishments the scroll,

I am the master of my fate,

I am the captain of my soul.

William Ernest HenleyInvictus

I have fought a good fight, I have finishedmy course, I have kept the faith.

2 Timothy 4:7

LEGACY

In the sudden mirror in the hall

I saw not my own self at all;

I saw a most familiar face,

My father stood there in my place,

Reflecting in the hall lamp’s glare

My own surprised and watery stare.

In thirty years my son shall see

Not himself standing there but me.

T. S. Eliot

The Lord our God be with us, as he was with our fathers:let him not leave us, nor forsake us:

That he may incline our hearts unto him, to walk in all his ways,and to keep his commandments, and his statutes,

and his judgments, which he commanded our fathers.

1 Kings 8:57-58

Ponder the path of thy feet, and let all thy ways be established.

Proverbs 4:26

Behold, I will send you Elijah the prophet before the coming ofthe great and dreadful day of the Lord:

And he shall turn the heart of the fathers to the children, and the heart of thechildren to their fathers, lest I come and smite the earth with a curse.

Malachi 4:5-6

To you your father should be as a god,

One that composed your beauties, yea, and one

To whom you are but as a form in wax,

By him imprinted and within his power

To leave the figure or disfigure it.

ShakespeareA Midsummer Night’s Dream

The leader of the band is tired and his eyes are growing old

But his blood runs through my instrument and his song is in my soul

My life has been a poor attempt to imitate the man

I’m just a living legacy to the leader of the band.

Dan FogelbergLeader of the Band

What from your father’s heritage is lent,

earn it anew, to really possess it.

If you treat an individual as he is, he will remain as he is. But if

you treat him as if he were what he ought to be and could be,

he will become what he ought and could be.

Goethe

HOPE

The important thing in Life is not triumph,

but the struggle; the essential thing is

not to have conquered but to have fought well.

To spread these principles is to build up a

strong and more valiant and, above all, more

scrupulous and more generous humanity.

Pierre de Coubertin(considered the Father of Modern Day Olympics)

Wherefore, ye must press forward with a steadfastness in Christ, havinga perfect brightness of hope, and a love of God and of all men. Wherefore,

if ye shall press forward, feasting upon the word of Christ, andendure to the end, behold, thus saith the Father: Ye shall have eternal life.

2 Nephi 31:20

Isn’t it wonderful how the Lord can use the prophet,

even in his imperfections? Maybe there is hope for me.

Lorenzo Snow

Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.

Proverbs 31:10-11

ODE TO JOY

Make a joyful ODE UNTO YOUR Mother and

Grandmother all the days of your life.

Serve her with gladness and praise, with music and

prayer, with remembrances and the written word.

Know ye not she gave you life and breath, for she has

conceived you and brought forth life unto you.

From her goodness came your habits, your emotions,

and your alchemy of love, for we are her offspring

and her sheepfold forever and ever, if we honor and

respect her all of her days.

Enter into her home with Thanksgiving, knowing she

will teach you eternal values of kindness and

faith, charity and virtue, graciousness and humility

all the days of your life.

For she is good and the matriarch of your home,

Her memory endureth all generations of time and all

eternity. May your ODE TO JOY be part of

every sinew, nerve and fiber of your eternal rounds.

Old BobFor His Wife Kathi - Thanksgiving 2008

FREE AGENCY

...I shall be telling this with a sigh

Somewhere ages and ages hence:

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I— I took

the one less traveled by,

And that has made all the difference.

Robert FrostThe Road Not Taken

Joshua 24:15

Choose you this day whom ye will serve; ...but as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.

What win I, if I gain the thing I seek?

A dream, a breath, a froth of fleeting joy.

Who buys a minute’s mirth to wail a week?

Or sells eternity to get a toy?

For one sweet grape who will the vine destroy?

ShakespeareThe Rape of Lucrece

2 Nephi 2:25-27

Adam fell that men might be; and men are, that they might have joy. And the Messiah cometh in the fulness of time, that he may redeem the children of men from the fall...

Wherefore, men are free according to the flesh; and all things are given them which areexpedient unto man. And they are free to choose liberty and eternal life, through the

great Mediator of all men, or to choose captivity and death...

The tragic evils of our life are so commonly unintentional.

We did not start out for that poor, cheap goal... That’s why the road to

hell is always paved with good intentions and that is why I am

not celebrating high ideals, lofty aims, fine purposes, grand resolutions,

but am saying instead that one of the most dangerous things in

the world is to accept them and think you to them. Ah, my soul, look to

the road you are walking on! He who picks up one end of a stick

picks up the other. HE WHO CHOOSES THE BEGINNING OF A ROAD CHOOSES

THE PLACE IT LEADS TO. It is the means that determines the end.

Harry Emerson Fosdick

How would you judge the lawfulness or unlawfulness of ‘pleasure?’

Use this rule: Whatever weakens your reason, impairs the tenderness of

your conscience, obscures your sight of God, takes from you your thirst

for spiritual things or increases the authority of your body over your mind,

then that thing to you is evil. By this test you may detect evil no matter

how subtly or how plausibly temptation may be presented to you.

Susannah Wesley

I have learned…that the head does not hear anything

until the heart has listened, and what the heart

knows today the head will understand tomorrow.

James Stephens

GRACE

Cheap grace is the grace we bestow on ourselves…the preaching

of forgiveness without requiring repentance, baptism

without church discipline, communion without confession.

Cheap grace is grace without discipleship…

Costly grace is the gospel which must be sought again and again,

the gift which must be asked for, the door at which a man

must knock… It is costly because it costs a man his life, and it is

grace because it gives a man the only true life.

Dietrich Bonhoeffer

Yea, come unto Christ, and be perfected in him, and deny yourselves of all ungodliness; and if ye shall deny yourselves of all ungodliness, and

love God with all your might, mind and strength, then is his grace sufficient for you, that by his grace ye may be perfect in Christ; and if by the grace

of God ye are perfect in Christ, ye can in nowise deny the power of God.

Moroni 10:32

BROTHERLY LOVE

I met a stranger in the night

Whose lamp had ceased to shine.

I paused and let him light

His lamp from mine.

A tempest sprang up later on

And shook the world about.

And when the wind was gone

My light was out.

But back came to me the stranger—

His lamp was glowing fine.

He held the precious flame

And lighted mine.

Lon Woodrum

But charity is the pure love of Christ, and it endureth forever; and whosois found possessed of it at the last day, it shall be well with him.

Moroni 7:47

PERSPECTIVE

Our spirit of enjoyment was stronger than our

spirit of sacrifice. We wanted to

have more than we wanted to give. We tried

to spare effort and met disaster.

Marshal Henri Philippe Petainafter the fall of France

O be wise; what can I say more?

If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that givethto all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.

But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering...

Jacob 6:12

James 1:5-6

In the last century, a tourist from America paid a visit

to a renowned Polish rabbi, Hofetz Chaim.

He was astonished to see that the rabbi’s home was only a

simple room filled with books, plus a table and a bench.

‘Rabbi,’ asked the tourist, ‘Where is your furniture?’

‘Where is yours?’ replied Hofetz Chaim.

‘Mine?’ asked the puzzled American. ‘But I’m only

a visitor here. I’m only passing through.’

‘So am I,’ said the rabbi.

The wells of God are deep but the vessels we bring are so shallow.

Arabian Proverb

The ideal person— ‘…the mature man [and woman] would take

the world as it comes and within himself remain quite unperturbed…’

understanding (that) defeat is no less interesting than victory.

Walter Lippmann

THIS IS THE TIME FOR NEW REVELATION.

People don’t think much about religion nowadays, but

WE NEED A VOICE FROM ON HIGH, brother,

and I don’t mean maybe. This thing has got out of

HUMAN ABILITY TO RUN. I’m no religious

fanatic, but we are in a situation where something

BETTER THAN HUMAN BRAINS has got to give us advice.

Notation found in a diary of a soldier who died in the Pacific. It was his last entry. February 1945

GOODNESS

I have wept in the night

At my shortness of sight

That to others’ needs made me blind,

But I never have yet

Had a twinge of regret

For being a little too kind.

C.R. Gibson

And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.

Ephesians 4:32

PLAN OF HAPPINESS

...Our birth is but a sleep and a forgetting:

The Soul that rises with us, our life’s Star,

Hath had elsewhere its setting,

And cometh from afar:

Not in entire forgetfulness,

And not in utter nakedness,

But trailing clouds of glory do we come

From God, who is our home...

William WordsworthOde: Intimations of Immortality

Now the Lord had shown unto me, Abraham, the intelligences that were organized before the world was; and among all these there were many of the noble and great ones;

And God saw these souls that they were good, and he stood in the midst of them, and he said: These I will make my rulers; for he stood among those that were

spirits, and he saw that they were good; and he said unto me: Abraham, thou art one of them; thou wast chosen before thou wast born...

And we see that death comes upon mankind...nevertheless there was a space granted unto man in which he might repent; therefore this life became a probationary state;

a time to prepare to meet God; a time to prepare for that endless state which has been spoken of by us, which is after the resurrection of the dead.

For behold, this is my work and my glory—to bring to pass the immortality and eternal life of man.

Abraham 3:22-25

Alma 12:24

Moses 1:39

FORGIVENESS

Socrates said, ‘Know thyself,’ Cicero said, ‘Control thyself,’

and the Savior said, ‘Give thyself.’

At the last, Do, as the heavens have done; forget your evil;

with them, forgive yourself.

ShakespeareThe Winter’s Tale

Blessed are the merciful: for they shall obtain mercy.

Wherefore, I say unto you, that ye ought to forgive one another; for he that forgiveth not his brother his trespasses standeth condemned

before the Lord; for there remaineth in him the greater sin.

I, the Lord, will forgive whom I will forgive, but of you it isrequired to forgive all men.

Matthew 5:7

D&C 64:9-10

Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again...

Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brothersin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times?

Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times:but, Until seventy times seven.

Matthew 7:1-5

Matthew 18:21-22 ; Matthew 6:12-15

When I went to the door, at the whisper of knocking,

I saw Simeon Gantner’s daughter, Kathleen, standing

There, in her shawl and her shame, sent to ask

“Forgiveness Flour” for her bread. “Forgiveness Flour,”

We call it in our corner. If one has erred, one

Is sent to ask for flour of his neighbors. If they loan it

To him, that means he can stay, but if they refuse, he had

Best take himself off. I looked at Kathleen . . .

What a jewel of a daughter, though not much like her

Father, more’s the pity. “I’ll give you flour,” I

Said, and went to measure it. Measuring was the rub.

If I gave too much, neighbors would think I made sin

Easy, but if I gave too little, they would label me

“Close.” While I stood measuring, Joel, my husband

Came in from the mill, a great bag of flour on his

Shoulder, and seeing her there, shrinking in the

Doorway, he tossed the bag at her feet. “Here, take

All of it.” And so she had flour for many loaves,

While I stood measuring.

Marguerite StewartForgiveness Flour

Verily I say, men should be anxiously engaged in a good cause, and do manythings of their own free will, and bring to pass much righteousness;

For the power is in them, wherein they are agents unto themselves. And inasmuchas men do good they shall in nowise lose their reward.

But he that doeth not anything until he is commanded, and receiveth a commandment with doubtful heart, and keepeth it with slothfulness, the same is damned.

RESOLVE

...The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose

face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who

errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort

without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the

deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who

spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the

triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails,

at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with

those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.

Theodore RooseveltThe Man in the Arena

D&C 58:27-29

But he knoweth the way that I take: when he hathtried me, I shall come forth as gold.

So the Lord blessed the latter end of Jobmore than his beginning...

...Good timber does not grow with ease,

The stronger wind, the stronger trees,

The further sky, the greater length,

The more the storm, the more the strength.

By sun and cold, by rain and snow,

In trees and men good timbers grow...

Douglas MallochGood Timber

GRIT

Success is not final, failure is not fatal:

it is the courage to continue that counts.

Winston Churchill

Job 23:10; 42:12

VIRTUE

This above all: to thine own self be true.

ShakespeareHamlet

O that I were an angel, and could have the wish of mine heart,that I might go forth and speak with the trump of God, with a voice

to shake the earth, and cry repentance unto every people!

Alma 29:1

If I were a voice, a persuasive voice,

That could travel the wide world through,

I would fly on the beams of the morning light,

And speak to men with a gentle might,

And tell them to be true.

Charles McKay

Let thy bowels also be full of charity towards all men, and to the household of faith,and let virtue garnish thy thoughts unceasingly; then shall thy confidence wax

strong in the presence of God; and the doctrine of the priesthood shall distil uponthy soul as the dews from heaven.

D&C 121:45

Into the hands of every individual is given a marvelous power for good

or evil—the silent, unconscious, unseen influence of his life. This is simply the

constant radiation of what man really is, not what he pretends to be...

Man cannot escape for one moment from this radiation of his character, this

constant weakening or strengthening of others. He cannot evade the

responsibility by saying it is an unconscious influence. He can select the qualities

that he will permit to be radiated. He can cultivate sweetness, calmness,

trust, generosity, truth, justice, loyalty, nobility—make them vitally active in his

character—and by these qualities he will constantly affect the world.

William George Jordan

Some say that ever ‘gainst that season comes

Wherein our Saviour’s birth is celebrated,

This bird of dawning singeth all night long;

And then, they say, no spirit dare stir abroad,

The nights are wholesome, then no planets strike,

No fairy takes, nor witch hath power to charm,

So hallow’d and so gracious is the time.

ShakespeareHamlet

Souls are made sweet not by taking the acid fluids out, but by putting something

in—a great love, a new spirit, the spirit of Christ, interpenetrating ours,

sweetens, purifies, transforms… renovate[s] and regenerate[s] and rehabilitate[s]

the inner man. Will-power does not change men. Time does not change men.

Christ does. Therefore, let that mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus.

Henry Drummon

CODE OF THE WEST

Ten Principles to Live By

1 - Live each day with courage.

2 - Take pride in your work.

3 - Always finish what you start.

4 - Do what has to be done.

5 - Be tough, but fair.

6 - When you make a promise, keep it.

7 - Ride for the brand.

8 - Talk less and say more.

9 - Remember that some things aren’t for sale.

10 - Know where to draw the line.

James P. Owen

John 13: 34-35

Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart,and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment.

And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.

Matthew 22:37-39

GOD IN EVERYTHING

And this our life, exempt from public haunt, finds tongues in

trees, books in the running brooks, sermons in stones, and

good in everything. I would not change it.

ShakespeareAs You Like It

And behold, all things have their likeness, and all things are created andmade to bear record of me, both things which are temporal, and things which

are spiritual; things which are in the heavens above, and things which areon the earth, and things which are in the earth, and things which are under

the earth, both above and beneath: all things bear record of me.

I believe in Christianity as I believe that the Sun has risen, not only

because I see it but because by it, I see everything else.

C.S. Lewis

Moses 6:63

There are many things which still are wrapped in wonder,

and many ways in which we see God not fully

but only in glimpses, like sunshine through clouds.

M. Lynn Bennion

ENOS 1:27

And I soon go to the place of my rest, which is with my

Redeemer; for I know that in him I shall rest. And I rejoice in

the day when my mortal shall put on immortality, and

shall stand before him; then shall I see his face with pleasure,

and he will say unto me: Come unto me, ye blessed, there is

a place prepared for you in the mansions of my Father. Amen.

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