Conflict Management slides 2-14 Resolution Strategies slide 15

Bullying slides 16-18

Communication/NegotiationRefusal Skills Slides 19-20

Peer Pressure slides 21-25

Decision Making slides 26-29

“I’m SO Angry!”

Which movie to go see Cut off in traffic Someone spreading rumors ‘Stay at home mom’ or a career How late you can stay at a party Spending money How and where to spend your time Parents disagree with clothes/ hairstyle Can’t go to a school event because it falls on a

religious holiday You were excluded from a group

“What are we so mad about anyway? (examples)

◦ Conflict: a disagreement between people with opposing view points, ideas, or goals.

◦ Conflicts can be an exchange of words◦ Group confrontations can be ongoing◦ Conflicts that involve weapons can be serious

What is Conflict

Some conflicts are with YOURSELF!

1. Resources: something usable, such as goods, property, money or time.Examples??? Couples who fight over finances, whichrestaurant, flu shot dispensed, study or go to the mallwith your mom, fighting over the computer…

2. Values: your beliefs and ideas that you consider importantExamples??? Browns fan, daily PE class, politics,

3. Emotional Needs: the need to belong and feel respected and worthwhile examples??? Left out, disrespected, put down, feel it’s unfair didn't make the science Olympiad, sports team etc…

What Causes Conflict? 3 major reasons

Think of a conflict you’ve had recently and briefly describe.

Answer the following questions in your notes.

1.What was it about?2. What caused it? (Resources, Values, Emotional)

3. Was it resolved? Explain. If not what are some ways it can be resolved?

Activity

Managing my Anger/ConflictIf I learn to manage my

anger then…If I don’t and conflicts get

out of hand then…

Release frustrations of life.

Calls Attention to Problems

Helps us understand self and other’s values

Increases motivation to take action

Brings about change Healthier relationships

Anger can build and boil over

Can lead to violence Irrational thinking Not pleasant to be

around Lead to depression

(esp.boys)

Calm. It. Down.

Brainstorm

Ask Questions; to learn the other

person’s point of view

Attack the Problem- not the

person!

Explain how you feel; Let each

person tell their side

Talk to a trusted adult

Positive Ways to Manage Anger

Take a time out to cool down

COOL OFF– Calm Down

Attack the Problem not the person No name calling or put downs

Make a list Find a middle ground Find a creative solution

Brainstorm reasonable ways to handle the situation

Explain how his or actions make you feel

“I Feel…”

“hmmm how would I feel”Ask Questions

Learn the the other person’s point of view

If you cannot resolve problem yourself.

Ask for Help

Take a time out ◦ to calm down and think through my anger.

Allow each person to tell his or her side◦ then paraphrase the other persons position.

Let each person ask questions◦ in order to view the issue from the others point of

view. Keep brainstorming solutions

◦ either to find the middle ground or creative solution

Effective Conflict Management or Resolution Strategies

◦ Conflict is a normal part of most relationships because people have different perspectives and priorities. Conflict is inevitable.

◦ People can also be hurtful to each other because of thoughtlessness, annoyance, poor boundaries, and experimenting with negative uses of their power without realizing the impact.

Conflict vs. Bullying

Learning how to take charge of your own emotional and physical safety, how to act safely and respectfully towards others even if you feel frustrated or upset, how to set boundaries and respect the boundaries of others.

Conflict vs. Bullying

Steps to reduce cyber bullying 1. Do not respond or reply electronically2. Save the evidence3. Tell a trusted adult4. Report the issue to the cite

Cyber Bullying

Communication- The exchange of thoughts, feelings, beliefs and wants between two or more people.

Communication is important because…o It can start and make relationships strongo Helps people grow closero Vital in many areas of life ( work place,

marriages)

Communication Skills

Verbal Tone of voice Express feelings

through words

Non-Verbal Body Language Eye Contact Posture Facial Expressions Gestures

Communication Skills

Mixed Messages:

Occur when your

words say one

thing but your

body language

says another.

Say no in a firm voice Tell why not Offer other ideas Promptly leave

Refusal and Negotiation Skills

Pressure is the feeling that you are being pushed toward making a certain choice. A good or bad choice.

A peer is someone in your own age group.

Peer pressure is—you guessed it—the feeling that someone your own age is pushing you toward making a certain choice, good or bad.

Peer Pressure

Positive vs. Negative Peer Pressure

Positive Pressure of getting into

college Pressure to get to school

on time Pressure to make a

team/club Pressure to follow the

rules Pressure to respect

others

Negative Underage drinking Underage smoking Stealing Fighting Bullying

want to be accepted and liked by people their own age

are afraid of being rejected by others want to be liked and don’t want to lose a

friend want to appear grown up don’t want to be made fun of don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings aren’t sure of what they really want don’t know how to get out of the situation

What’s so difficult about avoiding peer pressure? Reasons we give in…

Insults: making a person feel bad for not doing something, so that they eventually will

Reasoning: pressure by giving a person reasons why they should do something

Rejection: pressure by threatening to end a relationship or a friendship

How do Peers… Pressure?

Sometimes a friend or peer can say something directly to you, that puts a lot of pressure on you and makes it hard to say no. This is an example of SPOKEN pressure.

You might think you are supposed to dress or act in a certain way because it seems like everyone else is doing it, or because it’s the “cool” thing to do. When you feel this way- even though nobody has said anything to you this is UNSPOKEN pressure.

Spoken vs. Unspoken Pressure

Decision making is the process of choosing what to do by considering the possible consequences of different choices.

Making a decision is not something you do from habit — it requires conscious thought.

Successful decision-making means making a choice that has enough of the important satisfactions (good) in it to outweigh the less important dissatisfactions (bad).

Decision Making

1. Identify the Problem◦ (Identify, ask yourself questions, what choices do you need to make and who else if anyone is involved)

What are the choices◦ (List everything, ask for suggestions and make sure they are safe.)

Gather Informationo (what’s helpful to know before making a decision)

Consider outcomes and values ◦ (honesty, respect and trust) Consequences of each options Healthful Ethical Legal and Parent

approval)

Make a decision and act◦ (Ready to take action, choose a course that supports your values, the impact of all choices on self and

others and ask a trusted adult if unsure.)

Evaluate your decision ◦ (Reach expectations, how did it affect others, how you feel about yourself and what could you do

differently)

Decision Making Skills

In everyday life we often have to make decisions fast, without enough time to systematically go through the previous actions and thinking steps. In such situations the most effective decision making strategy is to keep an eye on your goals and then let your intuition suggest the right choice.

Decision Making…

Materials: 1 Case studies worksheet (front/back) 1 Making Decision: Case Studies

Directions: Read through all 4 situations on the Making Decision: Case studies paper. Choose 2 of the situations and complete the Case Studies Worksheet. Use the one side for the first situation, and the reverse side for the following situation.

** OPTION- You may also choose 1 situation from the paper, and than make up your own situation or use a situation you are currently going through, or recently went through for the reverse side of the paper.

DUE Dates: 4th,5th and 6th -10/247th, and 8th- 10/25

Case Studies Activity