If Your Child Hits, Bites, Screams or Throws Tantrum

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What all parents with young children need to know Toddler Discipl i ne: What if my child hits, bites, screams and throws tantrums? A presentation by Stephanie Woo

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What should you do if your child hits, bites, screams or throws tantrums? Your host, a wise old lizard, will give you the parenting advice you've been waiting for!

Transcript of If Your Child Hits, Bites, Screams or Throws Tantrum

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What all parents with young children

need to know

Toddler Discipline:

What if my child hits, bites,

screams and throws

tantrums?

A presentation by

Stephanie Woo

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Here is your host for this presentation…

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Hi! I’m Bart!

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I’m your host for this online presentation.

Hi! I’m Bart!

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Why am I the host for this presentation?

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I’m here to remind you that no matter what I look or act like on the outside -

Why am I the host for this presentation?

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I’m just a lizard, with some specific needs you may not see immediately.Just like your child…

I’m here to remind you that no matter what I look or act like on the outside -

Why am I the host for this presentation?

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If your child bites…

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screams…

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hits…

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or throws tantrums…

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you’re probably asking:

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How can I discipline my

child?

you’re probably asking:

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I can give you some discipline advice

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I can give you some discipline advice

But it won’t last…

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…until you find the root of the problem

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I’m gonna give you a clueto what the real problem is…

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mental

nourishment!Children act out when their little minds don’t have

enough

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How can you your child’s mind? nourish

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In short:

3. Give them activities that build on the skills of previous activities

2. Give them opportunity to do meaningful work with their hands

1. Help them do it by themselves

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You probably haven’t slept in three years, so let me tell you what that means in English

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1.Help them do it by

themselves

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Little children want to be like us!

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For 2-year-olds and 3-year-olds, this means being independent

and doing things for themselves.

Opening their own door…

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Pouring their own drink

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Choosing and putting on their own clothes…(at least most of the time)

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If you’ve done something for them and theyare throwing a tantrum because they want to

do it by themselves…It’s okay to go back two steps and let them do it!

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Children hate feeling like babies again!

If you’ve done something for them and theyare throwing a tantrum because they want to

do it by themselves…It’s okay to go back two steps and let them do it!

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2.Give them opportunity to do meaningful work

with their hands

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Playing with dolls or cars is fine…

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…but these are even better for developing the hand and intellect

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using a hammer and nails…

…but these are even better for developing the hand and intellect

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cutting strawberries with a safe knife…

…but these are even better for developing the hand and intellect

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sewing with needle and thread…

…but these are even better for developing the hand and intellect

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Play kitchens are great…

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but it doesn’t require the same kind of hand-eye coordination, care and attention

as cooking on a real skillet

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Your child will love to perfect his coordination and abilities.

As long as everything is child-sized, those kinds of activities make children feel happy, independent and trusted.

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3.Give them activities that

build on the skills of previous activities

It’s also called “Instructional Scaffolding.”Don’t worry if you have no idea what that

means! I’ll explain.

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Skills, like pouring, should start easy,like pouring water while bathing

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Then progress to pouring from a pitcher…(using a funnel takes it another step further)

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before letting your child pour a bowl of eggs into a hot skillet

That skillet is really on!

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Here's another example: Peeling

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First, teach your child to peel a banana…

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before moving her onto tangerines…

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Finally, eggs.

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Have you noticed any patterns recently?Have you seen any tantruming children

in any of these pictures? No!

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Children who are concentrating on doing something

with their hands and absorbed in that activityare too busy to throw tantrums!

Have you noticed any patterns recently?Have you seen any tantruming children

in any of these pictures? No!

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So, let’s review.

1. Help them do it by themselves

“Let it go! Let it go!Don’t hold them back

anymore!”

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So, let’s review.

2. Give them opportunity to do meaningful work with their hands

They’ll surprise you if you give them the chance!

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So, let’s review.

3. Give them activities that build on the skills of previous activities

Easy —> Medium —> Hard

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Again…

3. Give them activities that build on the skills of previous activities

2. Give them opportunity to do meaningful work with their hands

1. Help them do it by themselves

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Now, if you want to know howto do all this at home,

you should watch this great video…

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Go to this website to buy this 3-disc DVD: www.RaisingYourTwins.com

It works for all children, not just twins!

Those kids are 22-month-olds and makingscrambled eggs on a skillet! I’m hungry looking at ‘em…

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Okay, folks, it’s time for lunch (scrambled eggs, yummy…)

Visit again…and bring your friends next time!

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Wanna learn how to create the best environment to raise your young children?

Here it is:www.RaisingYourTwins.com

(and it works for all children, not just twins!)