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INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION SPEECH 153 CHAPTER EIGHT ENCOURAGEMENT: ENLARGING OTHERS

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INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION SPEECH 153

CHAPTER EIGHT ENCOURAGEMENT: ENLARGING OTHERS

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WHY IS THIS CHAPTER IN THE TEXTBOOK?

OUR INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION SKILLS WILL ASSIST IN DIMINISHING OR ENLARGING OTHER PEOPLE’S ESTEEM THUS AFFECTING OUR RELATIONSHIPS

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PREVIEW:

• ENLARGING OTHERS

• ACKNOWLEDGING OTHERS

• RESPECTING OTHERS

• LOOKING FOR THE BEST IN OTHERS

• COMPLEMENTING OTHERS

• SUPPORT OTHERS

• GUIDELINES FOR ENLARGING OTHERS

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ENLARGING OTHERS

“EVERY TIME YOU COMMUNICATE WITH ANOTHER PERSON YOU EITHER ENLARGE OR DIMINISH THAT INDIVIDUAL BY YOUR INTERACTIONS.”

-FUJISHIN

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ENLARGING OTHERS

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ENLARGING OTHERS

EVERY COMMUNICATION ENLARGES OR DIMINISHES ANOTHER PERSON-YOU AFFECT ANOTHER PERSON WITH YOUR COMMUNICATION

WORDS, ACTIONS, OR ATTITUDE CAN AFFECT YOUR COMMUNICATION PARTNER

YOU CAN ENLARGE, CONFIRM, AND SUPPORT WITH ENCOURAGING WORDS

THERE ARE A VARIETY OF WAYS TO ENLARGE ANOTHER PERSON

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ACKNOWLEDGING OTHERS

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ACKNOWLEDGING OTHERS

1. ACKNOWLEDGE THEIR PRESENCE-”HELLO”2. ACKNOWLEDGE THE RELATIONSHIP-”I AM

GLAD TO BE FRIENDS”3. REMEMBER NAMES-REPEAT, SPELL,

VISUALIZE, MATCH, ASSOCIATE

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RESPECTING OTHERS

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RESPECT

ESTEEM FOR OR A SENSE OF WORTH OR EXCELLENCE FOR ANOTHER PERSON-FUJISHIN

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RESPECT

VALUE UNIQUENESS VALUE EQUALITY VALUE ACCEPTANCE DESPITE DIFFERENCES EVERY HUMAN BEING IS VALUABLE AND WORTHY OF OUR

POSITIVE REGARD

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RESPECTING OTHERS

• RESPECT EQUALITY (LOOK FOR THINGS THEY HAVE THAT YOU DO NOT)

• RESPECT BOUNDARIES (A LINE THAT SEPARATES WHAT IS ACCEPTABLE AND UNACCEPTABLE TO ANOTHER)

• RESPECT OPINIONS AND FEELINGS (OTHERS SHOULD FEEL SAFE AROUND YOU EXPRESSING FEELINGS)

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LOOKING FOR THE BEST IN OTHERS

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WHAT DOES FUJISHIN MEAN BY THE 80/20 RULE?

AT ANY GIVEN MOMENT, 80 PERCENT OF YOUR LIFE IS WORKING AND 20 PERCENT IS NOT.

LOOK FOR AND APPRECIATE THE 80 PERCENT OF GOOD IN OTHERS

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LOOKING FOR THE BEST IN OTHERS

• THE 80/20 RULE• WILL VARY WITH LEVEL OF

INTIMACY IN RELATIONSHIP• TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS

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SAYING THE BEST T0 OTHERS

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COMPLIMENT OTHERS

APPEARANCE (SMILE) ACHIEVEMENT CHARACTER (TENDS TO LAST) EFFORT THINGS NOT DONE THAT ARE WORTHY OF

PRAISE (INTERRUPT, MOPE)

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REFRAMING NEGATIVES

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REFRAMING NEGATIVES

REFRAME A NEGATIVE PERCEPTION OF A SITUATION, CIRCUMSTANCE, OR PERSON INTO A POSITIVE-FUJISHIN

• BEING FIRED• HAVING AN AUTO ACCIDENT• BREAKING UP A RELATIONSHIP

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SUPPORTING OTHERS

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VERBAL SUPPORT

ANY STATEMENT THAT PROVIDES COMFORT, ENCOURAGEMENT, OR

CONFIRMATION-FUJISHIN

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PHYSICAL SUPPORT

ANY ACT THAT OR BEHAVIOR THAT ASSISTS ANOTHER PERSON IN ACCOMPLISHING A TASK-FUJISHIN

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GUIDELINES FOR ENLARGING OTHERS

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GUIDELINES FOR ENLARGING OTHERS

1. BE EXPRESSIVE (DO IT)2. BE SINCERE (SAY IT ONLY IF YOU BELIEVE IT)3. BE SPECIFIC (GO BEYOND “GOOD”-EXPLAIN)4. BE LIMITED (USE WHEN APPROPRIATE)5. BE ALTRUISTIC (WITHOUT EXPECTING

ANYTHING IN RETURN)6. BE PERSISTENT (DO NOT EXPECT IMMEDIATE

CHANGES IN RELATIONSHIPS

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SUMMARY:

• ENLARGING OTHERS

• ACKNOWLEDGING OTHERS

• RESPECTING OTHERS

• LOOKING FOR THE BEST IN OTHERS

• COMPLEMENTING OTHERS

• SUPPORT OTHERS

• GUIDELINES FOR ENLARGING OTHERS