Husbands Love Your Wives!. Your Vows: "Till Death We Do Part" Or was it "Till Divorce Do Us Part"

Husbands Love Your Husbands Love Your Wives!Wives!


Your Vows:Your Vows:"Till Death We Do Part""Till Death We Do Part"

Or was it "Till Divorce Do Us Part"Or was it "Till Divorce Do Us Part"


67 SIXFOLD.PURPOSE.GABRL.VST.DAN DA 45-88 196167 SIXFOLD.PURPOSE.GABRL.VST.DAN DA 45-88 1961You women, I've hollered at you, now I'm going to take You women, I've hollered at you, now I'm going to take up for you in a minute. See? The woman is a weaker up for you in a minute. See? The woman is a weaker vessel. I know there can't be a bad man before there is a vessel. I know there can't be a bad man before there is a bad woman. But man who knows that, man who knows bad woman. But man who knows that, man who knows that you are a son of God, and take advantage of a that you are a son of God, and take advantage of a woman, shame on you! No matter what she does, she's woman, shame on you! No matter what she does, she's a weaker vessel. And you know that. If she goes to a weaker vessel. And you know that. If she goes to acting unladylike, take her by the hand and talk to her acting unladylike, take her by the hand and talk to her like a sister. You're a son of God. Don't do them evil like a sister. You're a son of God. Don't do them evil things.things.


E-35 YE.MUST.BE.BORN.AGAIN GREENVILLE.SC 1958E-35 YE.MUST.BE.BORN.AGAIN GREENVILLE.SC 1958And notice, when a man takes a wife, and he takes this And notice, when a man takes a wife, and he takes this wife into his bosom (We're a mixed audience.), and wife into his bosom (We're a mixed audience.), and presses this woman to his bosom as his sweetheart, she presses this woman to his bosom as his sweetheart, she puts her print on him. Another woman there would mar puts her print on him. Another woman there would mar it forever. They are one. No other woman should ever fit it forever. They are one. No other woman should ever fit that mold. You got no right with your arms around a that mold. You got no right with your arms around a woman, dance floor, or nowhere. That's right. You got a woman, dance floor, or nowhere. That's right. You got a wife, and you pulled her to your bosom, and God put wife, and you pulled her to your bosom, and God put her on your heart, and printed you against her, and her on your heart, and printed you against her, and she's yours. And you belong to her.she's yours. And you belong to her.


E-55 IT.IS.I.BE.NOT.AFRAID COLUMBIA.SC 62-0611E-55 IT.IS.I.BE.NOT.AFRAID COLUMBIA.SC 62-0611You know, when God made a woman, He gave her the You know, when God made a woman, He gave her the feminish spirit to be dainty and sweet, like the real feminish spirit to be dainty and sweet, like the real Christian sisters are.Christian sisters are.

152 GOD'S.GIFTS.ALWAYS.FIND.PLACE V-6 N-13 1963 152 GOD'S.GIFTS.ALWAYS.FIND.PLACE V-6 N-13 1963 Make the little housewife so sweet and humble, that Make the little housewife so sweet and humble, that she'll be able to lead others to You. The gift that You she'll be able to lead others to You. The gift that You give her, that feminish little ladylike, may she be so give her, that feminish little ladylike, may she be so ladylike till the neighbors will see her and want to be ladylike till the neighbors will see her and want to be like her.like her.


The Two Become One FleshThe Two Become One Flesh

The Woman The Woman Was TakenWas Taken

From The From The ManMan

LEAVELEAVE CLEAVECLEAVE ONE FLESHONE FLESH


Two Become One FleshTwo Become One Flesh

A One Woman ManA One Woman Man

A One Man WomanA One Man Woman

LEAVELEAVE CLEAVECLEAVE ONE FLESHONE FLESH


49 CORINTHIANS.BOOK.OF.CORRECTION 49 CORINTHIANS.BOOK.OF.CORRECTION 19571957And God goes over in the heart of Adam, this And God goes over in the heart of Adam, this rib right out from under his heart, and takes a rib right out from under his heart, and takes a rib and makes the wife; and the very part of rib and makes the wife; and the very part of Adam's spirit was in the woman, and they two Adam's spirit was in the woman, and they two are one. Soul, body, spirit, they are one. They are one. Soul, body, spirit, they are one. They are perfect oneness, a real woman and a real are perfect oneness, a real woman and a real husband, a real wife. They are one together. husband, a real wife. They are one together. What is it a type of? Christ.What is it a type of? Christ.

Marriage Begins In Oneness Of Marriage Begins In Oneness Of SoulSoul

<Division Between><Division Between>{Soul}{Soul}

< Both Going Their Own Way >< Both Going Their Own Way >

Marriage Ends In DivorceMarriage Ends In Divorce(Actual or Psychological)(Actual or Psychological)

{Spirit}{Spirit}

{Physical}{Physical}


1) She is not "First Place" 1) She is not "First Place"

Sows: Preoccupation with other people, Sows: Preoccupation with other people, possessions, or activities, be they religious or possessions, or activities, be they religious or

carnal. carnal.

Reaps: A wife who doubts your love and becomes Reaps: A wife who doubts your love and becomes insecure.insecure.

As a husband, you are to provide Protection, As a husband, you are to provide Protection, Provision & Direction, that is your requirement Provision & Direction, that is your requirement

as head of the home.as head of the home.


Here are some how do's to make her feel "First Here are some how do's to make her feel "First Place"Place"

A) Establish a weekly date night.A) Establish a weekly date night.

B) Make a surprise appointment for lunch.B) Make a surprise appointment for lunch.

C) Give her occasional calls during the C) Give her occasional calls during the day.day.

D) Help with some of her jobs.D) Help with some of her jobs.


Your Vows:Your Vows:

"Till Death We Do "Till Death We Do Part"Part"


E) Meet her deepest need - Intimate Conversation.E) Meet her deepest need - Intimate Conversation.

i) Events of her day, needs & activities of the i) Events of her day, needs & activities of the children.children.ii) Her ideas on home improvements.ii) Her ideas on home improvements.

iii) How she feels about certain things.iii) How she feels about certain things.


E-17 DIVINE.LOVE PHOENIX.AZ 57-0305 E-17 DIVINE.LOVE PHOENIX.AZ 57-0305 And I said, "Sweetheart, you know what?" She's just a And I said, "Sweetheart, you know what?" She's just a woman, you know, and she likes pretty dresses, and woman, you know, and she likes pretty dresses, and you know, and pocketbooks. And she don't get them all you know, and pocketbooks. And she don't get them all the time, She likes them. So I said, "You know, I saw one the time, She likes them. So I said, "You know, I saw one of the pretty dresses I ever saw." She said, "You did?" I of the pretty dresses I ever saw." She said, "You did?" I said, "Yes, honey I did." And I thought, said, "Yes, honey I did." And I thought, "Lord God, help "Lord God, help me now."me now." And I laid my hand over on her little stooped And I laid my hand over on her little stooped shoulder. And I said, "Honey, you should see it." She shoulder. And I said, "Honey, you should see it." She said, "Yes." said, "Yes." I said, "Lord, be good to me now and help I said, "Lord, be good to me now and help me."me." I said, "Now, I've got to believe that You're going I said, "Now, I've got to believe that You're going to this. This in my little family, and these sick people to this. This in my little family, and these sick people has got them all upset, but You help me."has got them all upset, but You help me."

E-19 DIVINE.LOVE PHOENIX.AZ 57-0305E-19 DIVINE.LOVE PHOENIX.AZ 57-0305

So I had my hand on her little shoulder, and I begin to So I had my hand on her little shoulder, and I begin to try to create, in my heart. try to create, in my heart. "Lord, I'm happy."Lord, I'm happy. There's There's nothing wrong with me. I love You, You know I do, and nothing wrong with me. I love You, You know I do, and You just straighten out my little family."You just straighten out my little family." And after And after while, I said, "Tell you what, honey, I'll show you where while, I said, "Tell you what, honey, I'll show you where those dresses are." Let's get the kiddies a little bite of those dresses are." Let's get the kiddies a little bite of supper, and then we'll start. And the supper, and then we'll start. And the first thing I got my first thing I got my apronapron and tied it around me, and and tied it around me, and I got to helping her I got to helping her and talking about something else.and talking about something else. When she got quiet, I When she got quiet, I looked down, and Sarah and Becky had signed the looked down, and Sarah and Becky had signed the peace treaty, and they were playing; and little Joseph peace treaty, and they were playing; and little Joseph was just a shaking his little rattle box and having a was just a shaking his little rattle box and having a good time. You see, good time. You see, you've got to get in the right kind you've got to get in the right kind of an atmosphere.of an atmosphere.

E-24 WHEN.DIVINE.LOVE.IS.PROJECTED 1957E-24 WHEN.DIVINE.LOVE.IS.PROJECTED 1957

So I slipped over, and got an apron, and put it So I slipped over, and got an apron, and put it around me, and I begin to help her. And I said, around me, and I begin to help her. And I said, "Honey, you know what? I saw the prettiest "Honey, you know what? I saw the prettiest dress the other day. I just so wanted to get it for dress the other day. I just so wanted to get it for you. And it was in a certain city just here close, you. And it was in a certain city just here close, and we'll go get it. What was it? Projecting love. and we'll go get it. What was it? Projecting love. They were mine, my children, my wife, and I was They were mine, my children, my wife, and I was god. god. And then God giving His Spirit, and through And then God giving His Spirit, and through that Spirit, with love to my family, sovereign that Spirit, with love to my family, sovereign grace come in and quietened the family.grace come in and quietened the family. It'll do It'll do it. I know it will.it. I know it will.


F) Purpose to have good manners.F) Purpose to have good manners.

When was the last time you told your wife how When was the last time you told your wife how much you enjoyed the meal?much you enjoyed the meal?

When was the last time you seated her at the When was the last time you seated her at the table?table?

When was the last time you opened the When was the last time you opened the door for her - especially the car door?door for her - especially the car door?


2) Lacking In Spiritual Leadership2) Lacking In Spiritual Leadership

Sows: He shows lack of interest in being the Sows: He shows lack of interest in being the spiritual leader.spiritual leader.

Reaps: She gets the feeling of insecurity; unable Reaps: She gets the feeling of insecurity; unable to place full confidence in you; seeks spiritual to place full confidence in you; seeks spiritual

leadership from others. leadership from others.


The Evidence Of A Spiritual Leader Is:The Evidence Of A Spiritual Leader Is:

a) Teaching God's principles to his a) Teaching God's principles to his familyfamilyb) Leading in prayer timesb) Leading in prayer times

c) Leading in having a regular quiet c) Leading in having a regular quiet time.time.d) Leading in memorising scripture d) Leading in memorising scripture

and getting the children to do so too.and getting the children to do so too.


The Evidence Of A Spiritual Leader Is:The Evidence Of A Spiritual Leader Is:

e) Setting the example of sharing Christ e) Setting the example of sharing Christ with others.with others.

f) Setting the example in refusing to f) Setting the example in refusing to comprise on your Scriptural convictions.comprise on your Scriptural convictions.


3) Not Giving The Wife Adequate Preparation For 3) Not Giving The Wife Adequate Preparation For Changes!Changes!

Sows: He does not give her time to rearrange Sows: He does not give her time to rearrange her frame of reference for major adjustments.her frame of reference for major adjustments.

Reaps: She becomes insecure, apprehensive Reaps: She becomes insecure, apprehensive and bitter.and bitter.

Husbands Love Your Wives!Husbands Love Your Wives!4) Unfavorable Comparisons With Other Women4) Unfavorable Comparisons With Other Women

Sows: He openly admires appearance or abilities of Sows: He openly admires appearance or abilities of other women which she lacks.other women which she lacks.

Reaps: She is deeply hurt, and can become jealous and Reaps: She is deeply hurt, and can become jealous and then she begins to reject herself.then she begins to reject herself.

It destroys her sense of self worthIt destroys her sense of self worth

When you as her husband delight in her inward When you as her husband delight in her inward character, it frees her to respond to physical difficulties character, it frees her to respond to physical difficulties

that would normally devastate her.that would normally devastate her.

Husbands Love Your Wives!Husbands Love Your Wives!5) Lack Of Inner Discipline Concerning Other Women5) Lack Of Inner Discipline Concerning Other Women

Sows: He lacks discipline in anger, displays moral Sows: He lacks discipline in anger, displays moral weakness, and refuses to discuss it.weakness, and refuses to discuss it.

Reaps: Her admiration and respect for Reaps: Her admiration and respect for him are greatly damaged.him are greatly damaged.

As a husband, you need to make a covenant with your As a husband, you need to make a covenant with your eyes & be a "one-woman man" to gain victory daily.eyes & be a "one-woman man" to gain victory daily.

31 DECEIVED.CHURCH.BY.THE.WORLD JEFF.IN 31 DECEIVED.CHURCH.BY.THE.WORLD JEFF.IN 19591959

The other day, Friday, wife and I was going to The other day, Friday, wife and I was going to the store. I don't mean to harp on this. But as the store. I don't mean to harp on this. But as we went down the street, I just kept turning my we went down the street, I just kept turning my head one way for the other: naked women. I head one way for the other: naked women. I promised God when I was a blind man, if He'd promised God when I was a blind man, if He'd heal my eyes I'd look at the thing was right. I heal my eyes I'd look at the thing was right. I keep a little cross hanging in my car. When I see keep a little cross hanging in my car. When I see such as that, I look at the cross and say, "O God, such as that, I look at the cross and say, "O God, that's my Refuge," as I looked at the cross.that's my Refuge," as I looked at the cross.


6) Attempts To Correct Her In Public6) Attempts To Correct Her In Public

Sows: He uses jokes or cutting remarks in public Sows: He uses jokes or cutting remarks in public to emphasise something he has been trying to to emphasise something he has been trying to

change in her.change in her.Reaps: She feels her self-worth is damaged & Reaps: She feels her self-worth is damaged & reacts with a desire to retaliate in public.reacts with a desire to retaliate in public.


7) Rejection Of Her Opinions As Unimportant 7) Rejection Of Her Opinions As Unimportant

Sows: He evaluates her opinions from his larger Sows: He evaluates her opinions from his larger frame of reference versus her immediate frame.frame of reference versus her immediate frame.

Reaps: She is hurt and hindered from sharing Reaps: She is hurt and hindered from sharing cautions concerning his judgment or cautions concerning his judgment or character.character.


There can be several rewards that will come to There can be several rewards that will come to a man that will listens to the cautions of his a man that will listens to the cautions of his

wife. wife. First of all, he strengthens the spirit of his First of all, he strengthens the spirit of his

marriage.marriage.Second, he can avoid financial losses and Second, he can avoid financial losses and

emotional drains that would have come from emotional drains that would have come from unwise decisions. unwise decisions.

God will often give special prompting of danger God will often give special prompting of danger to the wife that He will not give to the husband. to the wife that He will not give to the husband.


8) Inconsistent In Discipline Of The Children8) Inconsistent In Discipline Of The Children

Sows: He defends or takes sides with the Sows: He defends or takes sides with the children against her.children against her.

Reaps: She feels he is being disloyal to her; Reaps: She feels he is being disloyal to her; she blames him for the rebellious children.she blames him for the rebellious children.


9) Unwillingness To Ask Forgiveness9) Unwillingness To Ask Forgiveness

Sows: He tends not to want to admit Sows: He tends not to want to admit failures. failures.

Half-hearted repentanceHalf-hearted repentance

Reaps: She reacts to his pride and loses Reaps: She reacts to his pride and loses respect for him.respect for him.

Marriage Begins In Oneness Of Marriage Begins In Oneness Of SoulSoul

<Division Between><Division Between>

{Soul}{Soul}

< Both Going Their Own Way >< Both Going Their Own Way >

Marriage Ends In DivorceMarriage Ends In Divorce(Actual or Psychological)(Actual or Psychological)

{Spirit}{Spirit}

{Physical}{Physical}


Conclusion:Conclusion:

When there is harmony in the husband & wife When there is harmony in the husband & wife relationship, there is an infused stability within relationship, there is an infused stability within all the family members.all the family members.

Brothers, it is up to you to set the Brothers, it is up to you to set the atmosphere in your home and to maintain atmosphere in your home and to maintain that atmosphere.that atmosphere.

Your wife is the helpmate not the initiator. Your wife is the helpmate not the initiator. You Are!You Are!

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