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How to Use Brain Whispering to Re-wire You
& Your ChildBrenda McCreight Ph.D.
What behaviors in your child trigger you to react ineffectively?
Consider these triggers – make them conscious
Have a plan to manage them when they occur
Know your own triggers
You don’t have to become entangled in the mood of others – you can pull back and disengage
Use your mirror neurons to over ride the other person’s brain chemistry and influence
Remember to use your mirror neurons & over ride button
Rick Hanson asks “Are you making your client do more laps in hell?”
Types of neuroscience based therapies – EMDR, biofeedback, neurofeedback, EFT,
brain integration therapies, many somatic based therapies, dyadic developmental psychotherapy (Arthur Becker Wiedman)
Find a therapist who knows and uses neuroscience based therapy
Many post trauma children don’t breath correctly = lack of 02 to the brain = lack of efficient cognitive processes
Aerobic exercise of any kind Weight training (if old enough) Biofeedback, yoga
Get you & your child breathing oxygen, not fire
Our children don’t generally learn from consequences
Their brains expect punishment and have a behavioral repertoire to deal with it (negatively)
Surprise the brain and notice every good thing and comment on it
Say “You’re a good person”
Give verbal rewards as much as possible
Know that when you yell you are both functioning in your amygdala
Your child isn’t hearing you and is not learning anything positive in that moment
You aren’t noticing any non-verbal messages from you child
Yelling
The consequences you use and the changes you expect to see actually feel the same to the child as the past abuse/neglect
Therefore your consequences are re-enforcing the same negative wiring
Choose when and how to use consequences
Find an activity or interest that allows success
Get creative and accepting in this endeavor Actively support it – be as involved as your
child will let you Don’t expect to see the results of this in the
present
Create Success
When you consequence by taking something away – yourself, a toy, an activity etc the result will be either an emotional shut down or an activation of the fear circuitry which will cause negative acting out
Removal = shutdown
Touch or be physically close in a way that your child can accept it
Teach how to hug Use eye contact as much as possible Be calm as much as possible Smile as much as possible
Opening your child’s mind to you
Talk to a naturopath or physician about the benefits of vitamins and the best strength and type of the age and diagnosis
Health supplements
Necessary for learning and many other complex cognitive processes including the capacity for attention
Lack of sleep decreases cognitive processes and leads to obesity and other health related problems
Sleep
Please check out Brenda’s other powerpoints at Slideshare, courses at Udemy.com, books, and web sites.
http://www.lifespancounselling.com http://www.theadoptioncounselor.com http://www.hazardousparenting.com
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