How to Stop Worrying & Start Living by SHAZI

8/7/2019 How to Stop Worrying & Start Living by SHAZI

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Dale Carnegie (1888-1955) is famous as one of themost successful self improvement/well-known

inspirational teachers & writer of the 20th century.

Since publication of his first book in 1936, How to WinFriends and Influence People, his books and classes on

public speaking and self improvement have helped

millions of people for over 70 years.

His books sold in the millions of copies in the 1940s.They became the basis for a series of seminars and

training programs for people in business, especially in

sales. His books include How to Win Friends and

Influence People, How to Develop Self-Confidence and

Influence People by Public Speaking, How to Enjoy

Your Life and Your Job, and The Quick and Easy Way

to Effective Speaking.


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How to Stop Worrying and Start Livingis a self-help book by Dale Carnegie

that was first published in Great Britain in 1948. He wrote this book because

he claims that he was one of the unhappiest lads in New York. Mr. Carnegie

was so displeased with his own life that he wanted to figure out how to stop

worrying. He decided to quit his job and started teaching disadvantaged

adults at the YMCA. During the day he did what he had a passion for and that

was to write books. All of the suggestions and ideas listed in this book are notoriginally thought of by Mr. Carnegie. He consulted many famous people

throughout the years for the advice and then compiled the information into

this book. The information in this book is not new information for any of us.

Anyone who reads this book should already be familiar with what it has to

offer. You will not learn anything new, however it is an excellent way for us to

become reinforced on certain techniques for overcoming the worry habit.

The book is broken down into six different sections all of which explains his

methods and techniques for eliminating worry. The end of the book has truestories that people wrote with proof that these techniques work and testify

how they overcame their worry and started living. This is a very inspiring book

for everyone to read. The most negative individual could certainly benefit

from reading this book and make their life more fulfilling.

Fundamental Principles for Overcoming Worry

The book begins by explaining how we should live in Day tight compartments

by shutting the doors from yesterday and the doors for tomorrow. Basically

what this means is that we should not worry about yesterday or worry aboutwhat is going to happen tomorrow but to live for today. If you are consumed in

your past or constantly worried about your future then you are not living.

What ever happened yesterday is gone and over. Whatever is happen tomorrow

is not yet here. You need to live in the present time which is today.


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Mr. Carnegie then goes on to explain how we should face trouble by asking

ourselves What is the worst thing that could possibly happen. We should all

prepare to accept the worst and then try to improve on the worst. Mr.

Carnegie explains in his book how exorbitant the price is that we can pay forworry in terms of our health. Some of the health problems that are created

from worry include hair loss, nausea, ulcers, cancer, and even death. There are

many more to list and oblivious cannot list them all.

Basic Techniques in Analyzing Worry

The next section of the book talks about several techniques for analyzing

worry. Mr. Carnegie explains how we should first get all the facts about the

situation that we are worrying about. We should then weigh all the facts andcome to a decision. Once a decision is reached we should act on it. Another

method that is mentioned is that we should write out our problems on paper.

By putting it in writing we are letting the problem out and this is a form of

therapy. The book talks about how you should take the problems that you

wrote down and stick it in a draw. Take the paper out of the draw in a few

weeks and you will find that in many cases the problem or problems will fix

itself. Another tip that the book talks about is that after writing the

problems down, you should write out the answer to the following questions:

What is the problem?

What are the causes of the problem?

What are the possible solutions?

What is the best possible solution?

Having your problems in writing can make a big difference with helping you

think through a solution. In addition, Mr. Carnegie also suggests that you talk

to a friend with your problems. Just having someone listen to you may be allthat you need to overcome whatever it is that is worrying you.


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Break the Worry HabitBefore ItBreaks You

The next section of the book gives excellent advice on certain habits that we

should break that will help us eliminate worry. The author begins bysuggesting how we should keep ourselves busy. By keeping busy with our lives

then we shouldnt have time to worry. He gave a good example in his book as to

how a man was so distraught over the death of one of his children that he was

unable to function. It wasnt until one day his four year old begged him to build

a model car with him that he learned to stop thinking about what was

bothering him. It took several days to build the model car and during that

time he was too busy to worry about his misfortune in life. So this is a good

example of how we should keep busy. Having too much idle time only makes you

think too much and if you are pessimistic then you will think negativethoughts. Therefore, I agree with the author that you should stay busy when

you are worried.

The author explains how we should not fuss about trifles. What this simple

means is for us to not worry about the small things in life. Mr. Carnegie

explains how we should use the law of averages to outlaw our worries. This

means that we need to analyze the situation and think about what the

probability is of something happening to us. For example, what is the

probability dying from a car wreck or in an airplane? If the probability is verylow from past averages then we need to convince ourselves to not worry about

it.

The author goes on to explain how we need to cooperate with the inevitable.

Some things in life we do not have any control over. For example, will we get

another bad hurricane like Katrina? Will a shark attack us while swimming in

the Florida beaches? Certain things we do not have any control over and

therefore should not waste precious time thinking about it.

This book explains how we should decide just how much anxiety a thing may beworth and refuse to give it more. Basically we should only worry about

something for a limited amount of time and then let it go. The author talks

about how we should not worry about the past. Whatever has happened in the

past is gone and you need to not waste time pondering over it. You cannot

chan e the ast and Mr. Carne ie sa s to move on.


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Cultivate a Mental Attitude That WillBring You Peace and Happiness

Mr. Carnegie believes that you should fill your mind with thoughts of peace,

courage, health and hope. He explains in his book that you are what you feel.A person that constantly thinks of happy and cheerful thoughts will become a

happy a cheerful individual. He explains how our life is what our thoughts

make it.

The book gives great advice on how you should never try to get even with your

enemies. He says that if we do then we are only hurting ourselves far more

than we hurt them. You should never waste a minute thinking about people that

you do not like. You must somehow develop and maintain the capacity to

forgive. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us.

When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies.

The next section in the book talks about how we should expect ingratitude

therefore you should not worry about it. The book explains how we should

remember that the only way to find happiness is not to expect gratitude but

to give for the joy of giving. Gratitude is a cultivated trait and if you want

your children to be grateful then we must teach them to be grateful.

Another good pointer that the book had was how we should all Count our

Blessings Many people today feel sorry for themselves because they do nothave what other people have. However, if they took a moment to reflect on

what they truly have they would find that they are truly blessed and do have

actually more than many other people in this world.

Another great pointer that Mr. Carnegie gives is how we should not imitate

others. We should just be ourselves in live and that envy is ignorance and

imitation is suicide.

Mr. Carnegie talks about how when fate hands us a lemon, lets try to make a

lemonade. Basically what this means is that we should all take a bad situationand make the best of it. When life gives you a sour lemon then you should add

some sugar to it and make it into delicious sweet lemonade. An unpleasant

situation at times can be turned around into something more positive.


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The book also explains how we should forget our own unhappiness. He gives

suggestions on how if we work towards making someone else happy then we would

forget about our own unhappiness. We should certainly try and create a little

happiness for someone else. When you are good to others, you are best to yourself

Mr. Carnegie continues with his book and explains how his parents used prayer to over

come their worry. He says that prayer helps us to put into words exactly what is

troubling us. Prayer also gives us a sense of sharing our burdens of not being alone.

In addition, prayer puts into force an active principle of doing. With all of these

benefits, prayer is a good way to conquer worry.

Prevent Fatigue and Worry and Keep Your Energy and Spirits High

This book has many wonderful suggestions on how to prevent from becoming fatigueand how to feel more energized. The first suggestion is to rest before you get tired.

If possible, a short nap during the day can make a difference in your energy level.

This book also suggests that you should learn to relax at your work. The author talks

about how work should not be a full eight hour day of stress. You should be able to

relax while you are at you job. You should also protect your health and appearance by

relaxing at home. In addition to the above, the book suggests that you follow the four

working habits listed below:

- Clear your desk of all papers except those relating to the immediate

problem at hand.

- Do things in the order of their importance.

- When you face a problem, solve it then and there if you have the facts

necessary to make decisions.

- Learn to organize, deputize and supervise.

The book continues with the suggestion of putting enthusiasm into your work. He says

if you are bored with what you are doing then you should try and make it fun. This

should include homework, your job, and housework. The last suggestion is to not

worry about insomnia. Mr. Carnegie explains in his book how no one has ever died

from insomnia. He says that if you are having trouble sleeping then you should try

reading a book, exercising, praying, and or relaxing your body. All this suggestions

have been proven to help you sleep.


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How I Conquered WorryThe last part of the book has 31 true stories from various people who were

able to overcome their worry sickness. All of the stories explained how at

least one of the techniques mentioned in the book were utilized to help them.

One individual was actually on his deathbed from not eating due to worry. This

person was a workaholic and did not know how to relax. He finally made it out

of the hospital and took a vacation for the first time. He began to gain back

all the weight that he lost and felt better than he ever did in the 20 years of

working. This is proof as to the harm of how worrying can harm us. Everyone

needs a vacation for rest and relaxation and this particular story in the book

was a great example.

Dale Carnegie was very brilliant compiling the information that he has in thisbook. While the information is not originally from him, he still gets the credit

for putting it all together in a simple and easy to read book. This was a good

book and I highly recommend it to everyone to read.

Personal Insights

Dale Carnegie was a brilliant author. I feel that his book demonstrates that

worry was very much alive in the 1940s as it is today. All the suggestions and

techniques that are listed in his book to overcome worry will never go out of

style. Mr. Carnegie did not personally create the stress reducing suggestions,

however he is brilliant from how he took the time to gather the info and

compose this book.

Ill apply what Ive learned in this book in my career by utilizing several tips of

advice that Mr. Carnegie offers. For example, I will cultivate a mental positive

attitude while searching for a job. I will not let the small things in life upset

me and I will accept constructive criticism as a compliment. I will think and

act cheerfully towards my coworkers which in turn will make me cheerful. I

will never try to get even with my coworkers no matter how difficult they maybe. (Every workplace has at least one bully) And last but not least, the book

reinforced to me the importance of being yourself in life and not to try and

imitate someone that you are not.

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