How to be the world’s greatest mum

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How to be the World’s How to be the World’s Greatest MumGreatest Mum

How to be the World’s How to be the World’s Greatest MumGreatest Mum

Mother’s Day 2009Mother’s Day 2009Mother’s Day 2009Mother’s Day 2009

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Who are mothers?Who are mothers?

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Who are mothers?Who are mothers?

Mother TeresaMother Teresa

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Who are mothers?Who are mothers?Who are mothers?Who are mothers?

Biological mothersBiological mothersAdopter Adopter Step-motherStep-motherGuardianGuardianGod-motherGod-motherGrand-motherGrand-motherSingle parentSingle parent

Biological mothersBiological mothersAdopter Adopter Step-motherStep-motherGuardianGuardianGod-motherGod-motherGrand-motherGrand-motherSingle parentSingle parent

People whose role or functions as motherPeople whose role or functions as mother

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Proverb 31:28a Proverb 31:28a

Her children arise and call her Her children arise and call her blessed;blessed;

Proverb 31:28a Proverb 31:28a

Her children arise and call her Her children arise and call her blessed;blessed;

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1.1. Don’t be a Don’t be a kiasukiasu person person Kiasuism is self-centerednessKiasuism is self-centeredness

1.1. Don’t be a Don’t be a kiasukiasu person person Kiasuism is self-centerednessKiasuism is self-centeredness

Oxford English Dictionary 2007 = “fear of losing”

Be Kiasu

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1.1. Don’t be a Don’t be a kiasukiasu person person Kiasuism is self-centerednessKiasuism is self-centeredness Kiasu mothers produce kiasu childrenKiasu mothers produce kiasu children

1.1. Don’t be a Don’t be a kiasukiasu person person Kiasuism is self-centerednessKiasuism is self-centeredness Kiasu mothers produce kiasu childrenKiasu mothers produce kiasu children

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1.1. Don’t be a Don’t be a kiasukiasu person person Kiasuism is self-centerednessKiasuism is self-centeredness Kiasu mothers produce kiasu childrenKiasu mothers produce kiasu children Kiasu mothers use shame to control Kiasu mothers use shame to control

their childrentheir children

1.1. Don’t be a Don’t be a kiasukiasu person person Kiasuism is self-centerednessKiasuism is self-centeredness Kiasu mothers produce kiasu childrenKiasu mothers produce kiasu children Kiasu mothers use shame to control Kiasu mothers use shame to control

their childrentheir children

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1.1. Don’t be a Don’t be a kiasukiasu person person

2.2. Speak the languages of love of childrenSpeak the languages of love of children

1.1. Don’t be a Don’t be a kiasukiasu person person

2.2. Speak the languages of love of childrenSpeak the languages of love of children

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how to fuel their emotional tank with love?how to fuel their emotional tank with love?

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The Languages of Love in ChildrenThe Languages of Love in ChildrenThe Languages of Love in ChildrenThe Languages of Love in Children

1.1. Physical touchPhysical touch1.1. Physical touchPhysical touch

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The Languages of Love in ChildrenThe Languages of Love in ChildrenThe Languages of Love in ChildrenThe Languages of Love in Children

1.1. Physical touchPhysical touch

2.2. Words of Words of affirmationaffirmation

Words of affection Words of affection and endearmentand endearment

Words of praiseWords of praise Words of Words of

encouragementencouragement Words of guidanceWords of guidance

1.1. Physical touchPhysical touch

2.2. Words of Words of affirmationaffirmation

Words of affection Words of affection and endearmentand endearment

Words of praiseWords of praise Words of Words of

encouragementencouragement Words of guidanceWords of guidance

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The Languages of Love in ChildrenThe Languages of Love in ChildrenThe Languages of Love in ChildrenThe Languages of Love in Children

1.1. Physical touchPhysical touch

2.2. Words of Words of affirmationaffirmation

3.3. Quality timeQuality time Being togetherBeing together Positive eye Positive eye

contactcontact Sharing thoughts Sharing thoughts

and feelingsand feelings

1.1. Physical touchPhysical touch

2.2. Words of Words of affirmationaffirmation

3.3. Quality timeQuality time Being togetherBeing together Positive eye Positive eye

contactcontact Sharing thoughts Sharing thoughts

and feelingsand feelings

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The Languages of Love in ChildrenThe Languages of Love in ChildrenThe Languages of Love in ChildrenThe Languages of Love in Children

1.1. Physical touchPhysical touch

2.2. Words of Words of affirmationaffirmation

3.3. Quality timeQuality time

4.4. GiftsGifts Grace of givingGrace of giving Distorted gift givingDistorted gift giving Meaningful gift Meaningful gift

givinggiving

1.1. Physical touchPhysical touch

2.2. Words of Words of affirmationaffirmation

3.3. Quality timeQuality time

4.4. GiftsGifts Grace of givingGrace of giving Distorted gift givingDistorted gift giving Meaningful gift Meaningful gift

givinggiving

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The Languages of Love in ChildrenThe Languages of Love in ChildrenThe Languages of Love in ChildrenThe Languages of Love in Children

1.1. Physical touchPhysical touch2.2. Words of Words of

affirmationaffirmation3.3. Quality timeQuality time4.4. GiftsGifts5.5. Acts of serviceActs of service

Loving serviceLoving service Only do for them Only do for them

what they cannot do what they cannot do themselvesthemselves

1.1. Physical touchPhysical touch2.2. Words of Words of

affirmationaffirmation3.3. Quality timeQuality time4.4. GiftsGifts5.5. Acts of serviceActs of service

Loving serviceLoving service Only do for them Only do for them

what they cannot do what they cannot do themselvesthemselves

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The world’s greatest mum knows her children’s primary love language

The world’s greatest mum knows her children’s primary love language

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1.1. Don’t be a Don’t be a kiasukiasu person person

2.2. Speak the languages of love of childrenSpeak the languages of love of children

3.3. Don’t expect instant resultsDon’t expect instant results

1.1. Don’t be a Don’t be a kiasukiasu person person

2.2. Speak the languages of love of childrenSpeak the languages of love of children

3.3. Don’t expect instant resultsDon’t expect instant results

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Don’t expect instant resultsDon’t expect instant resultsDon’t expect instant resultsDon’t expect instant results

Repeat, repeat, repeatRepeat, repeat, repeat Set appropriate boundariesSet appropriate boundaries Behavioural modificationBehavioural modification

Positive reinforcementPositive reinforcementNegative reinforcementNegative reinforcementPunishmentPunishment

Appropriate to crimeAppropriate to crime ImmediateImmediateNot out of angerNot out of anger

Age appropriate teachingAge appropriate teaching Teach children to learnTeach children to learn

Repeat, repeat, repeatRepeat, repeat, repeat Set appropriate boundariesSet appropriate boundaries Behavioural modificationBehavioural modification

Positive reinforcementPositive reinforcementNegative reinforcementNegative reinforcementPunishmentPunishment

Appropriate to crimeAppropriate to crime ImmediateImmediateNot out of angerNot out of anger

Age appropriate teachingAge appropriate teaching Teach children to learnTeach children to learn

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1.1. Don’t be a Don’t be a kiasukiasu person person

2.2. Speak the languages of love of childrenSpeak the languages of love of children

3.3. Don’t expect instant resultsDon’t expect instant results

4.4. Be and teach gratefulnessBe and teach gratefulness Be gratefulBe grateful Teach gratefulnessTeach gratefulness

1.1. Don’t be a Don’t be a kiasukiasu person person

2.2. Speak the languages of love of childrenSpeak the languages of love of children

3.3. Don’t expect instant resultsDon’t expect instant results

4.4. Be and teach gratefulnessBe and teach gratefulness Be gratefulBe grateful Teach gratefulnessTeach gratefulness

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1.1. Don’t be a Don’t be a kiasukiasu person person

2.2. Speak the languages of love of childrenSpeak the languages of love of children

3.3. Don’t expect instant resultsDon’t expect instant results

4.4. Be and teach gratefulnessBe and teach gratefulness

5.5. Learn to let goLearn to let go

1.1. Don’t be a Don’t be a kiasukiasu person person

2.2. Speak the languages of love of childrenSpeak the languages of love of children

3.3. Don’t expect instant resultsDon’t expect instant results

4.4. Be and teach gratefulnessBe and teach gratefulness

5.5. Learn to let goLearn to let go

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Learn to let goLearn to let goLearn to let goLearn to let go

Be willing to let goBe willing to let go Develop spiritual and social Develop spiritual and social

‘streetwise’‘streetwise’ Cut the umbilical cordCut the umbilical cord

Be willing to let goBe willing to let go Develop spiritual and social Develop spiritual and social

‘streetwise’‘streetwise’ Cut the umbilical cordCut the umbilical cord

Proverb 22: 6 6 Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.

Proverb 22: 6 6 Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.

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1.1. Don’t be a Don’t be a kiasukiasu person person

2.2. Speak the languages of love of childrenSpeak the languages of love of children

3.3. Don’t expect instant resultsDon’t expect instant results

4.4. Be and teach gratefulnessBe and teach gratefulness

5.5. Learn to let goLearn to let go

6.6. Walk in the faithWalk in the faith

1.1. Don’t be a Don’t be a kiasukiasu person person

2.2. Speak the languages of love of childrenSpeak the languages of love of children

3.3. Don’t expect instant resultsDon’t expect instant results

4.4. Be and teach gratefulnessBe and teach gratefulness

5.5. Learn to let goLearn to let go

6.6. Walk in the faithWalk in the faith

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Walk in the faithWalk in the faithWalk in the faithWalk in the faith

Our faith is caught rather than taughtOur faith is caught rather than taughtRoutine, rituals and telling the TruthsRoutine, rituals and telling the Truths

Our faith is caught rather than taughtOur faith is caught rather than taughtRoutine, rituals and telling the TruthsRoutine, rituals and telling the Truths

Deu 11: 18-2118 Fix these words of mine in your hearts and minds; tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. 19 Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. 20 Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates, 21 so that your days and the days of your children may be many in the land that the LORD swore to give your forefathers, as many as the days that the heavens are above the earth.

Deu 11: 18-2118 Fix these words of mine in your hearts and minds; tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. 19 Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. 20 Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates, 21 so that your days and the days of your children may be many in the land that the LORD swore to give your forefathers, as many as the days that the heavens are above the earth.

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1.1. Don’t be a Don’t be a kiasukiasu person person

2.2. Speak the languages of love of childrenSpeak the languages of love of children

3.3. Don’t expect instant resultsDon’t expect instant results

4.4. Be and teach gratefulnessBe and teach gratefulness

5.5. Learn to let goLearn to let go

6.6. Walk in the faithWalk in the faith

7.7. Stay close to the SourceStay close to the Source

1.1. Don’t be a Don’t be a kiasukiasu person person

2.2. Speak the languages of love of childrenSpeak the languages of love of children

3.3. Don’t expect instant resultsDon’t expect instant results

4.4. Be and teach gratefulnessBe and teach gratefulness

5.5. Learn to let goLearn to let go

6.6. Walk in the faithWalk in the faith

7.7. Stay close to the SourceStay close to the Source

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Stay close to the SourceStay close to the SourceStay close to the SourceStay close to the Source

Living a life Living a life in Christin ChristPrayerPrayerBible assimilationBible assimilation

Living a life Living a life in Christin ChristPrayerPrayerBible assimilationBible assimilation

John 15: 5 5 "I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. 6 If anyone does not remain in me, he is like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned. 7 If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given you. 8 This is to my Father's glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples.

John 15: 5 5 "I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. 6 If anyone does not remain in me, he is like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned. 7 If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given you. 8 This is to my Father's glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples.

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1.1. Don’t be a Don’t be a kiasukiasu person person

2.2. Speak the languages of love of childrenSpeak the languages of love of children

3.3. Don’t expect instant resultsDon’t expect instant results

4.4. Be and teach gratefulnessBe and teach gratefulness

5.5. Learn to let goLearn to let go

6.6. Walk in the faithWalk in the faith

7.7. Stay close to the SourceStay close to the Source

1.1. Don’t be a Don’t be a kiasukiasu person person

2.2. Speak the languages of love of childrenSpeak the languages of love of children

3.3. Don’t expect instant resultsDon’t expect instant results

4.4. Be and teach gratefulnessBe and teach gratefulness

5.5. Learn to let goLearn to let go

6.6. Walk in the faithWalk in the faith

7.7. Stay close to the SourceStay close to the Source

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Happy Mother’s Day

10 May 2009

Happy Mother’s Day

10 May 2009

to the world’s greatest mum

…yes, YOU!

to the world’s greatest mum

…yes, YOU!