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Quick Reads© from ‘kwench
How Full Is Your Bucket? By Tom Rath & Donald O. Clifton
Publisher: Gallup Press
Date of Publication: 2005
ISBN: 978-159-562-0033
Number of Pages: 127
About the Author(s)
Tom Rath leads Gallup's workplace consulting business worldwide and is one of the most influential authors of the last decade. His books have sold more than 4 million copies and have made more than 250 appearances on the Wall Street Journal bestseller list.
Tom's first book, How Full Is Your Bucket?, was a #1 New York Times bestseller. His 2007 book,StrengthsFinder 2.0, was listed as the top-selling business book worldwide by The Economist. Tom's most recent international bestsellers are Strengths Based Leadership and Wellbeing: The Five Essential Elements.
The Central Idea:
Traditional psychology has always focused on what goes wrong with people and why. Now,
there’s an exciting, new shift towards exploring what is right about people. How do positive
emotions affect us and in turn, our interactions with others? Tom Rath and his grandfather and
co-author Donald O. Clifton, spell out the enormous power of positive psychology in
transforming people’s lives. By consciously adopting a few simple strategies, both individuals
and organizations can significantly enhance their well-being.
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The Theory of the Dipper and the Bucket
Our interactions with people, ranging over cursory encounters to long-term relationships, affect
every aspect of our lives.
The dipper and bucket theory is a simple, yet brilliant metaphor for the emotions involved in all
interactions. Your invisible ‘bucket’ represents your emotional landscape. When people ‘fill’ this
bucket with positive words or actions, you brim with energy and wellness. When they ‘dip’ into
your bucket (i.e. speak or act negatively), you become unhappy, demotivated and low. You
have a dipper too, with which you fill up or dip into others’ buckets.
Here’s the interesting part – when you fill someone’s bucket with positivity, you fill your own, too.
Similarly, when you empty another’s bucket, you diminish your own store of positivity.
Each day brings us a choice. Do we want to fill buckets or dip into them? These decisions
profoundly impact our health, productivity, emotions and even our lifespan.
Chapter One – Negativity Kills
The subject of this book – “Positive Strategies for Work and Life” – was ironically inspired by a
chilling, psychiatric case study of how negativity undermines human will and literally leads to
death.
Major (Dr.) William E. Mayer studied a group of American soldiers captured during the Korean
War and later released in Japan. Despite suffering little physical cruelty and deprivation, the
death rate among prisoners in those camps was shockingly high. Those who survived seemed
to exist in a mental cell, isolated from relationships with their former comrades. The soldiers
labelled this condition as “give up-itis”. Medically, it is known as “mirasmus”, a mental state
characterized by hopelessness and passivity.
The North Koreans had accomplished this feat by implementing tactics of psychological warfare,
resulting in the gradual and total breakdown of affection, trust, respect and friendship among the
prisoners. Worst of all, sapped of emotional support – the Koreans would withhold all supportive
letters from home and deliver only letters with negative information – the soldiers lost their will to
live and belief in themselves, their families and country.
This devastating story led Donald O. Clifton, senior co-author of this book, to ponder the other
side of the coin. If unrelenting negativity leads to hopelessness and death, what does positive
reinforcement achieve?
Chapter Two – Positivity, Negativity and Productivity
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Each day is a mix of positive and negative experiences. Even the most commonplace of
interactions impacts us. Negative encounters may not kill us, but they can gradually corrode our
sense of well-being and affect productivity. On the flip side, good experiences influence us even
more powerfully.
Bucket Filling in Organizations
Praise and recognition are two major components of bucket-filling. The results of several
surveys by the authors indicate that people whose work is consistently recognized and praised
show increased productivity
have healthy relationships with their colleagues
tend to be more loyal to their organization
score higher on customer satisfaction
have less accidents at work and a better track record on safety
Good organizational leaders understand the power of praise and recognition.
Killing Productivity
The biggest reason for people quitting their jobs, according to the U.S. Department of Labor, is
that they feel unappreciated. Additionally, studies indicate that people who dislike their bosses
run an increased risk of coronary heart disease and stroke.
Employees who spend time at work complaining, whining or inciting trouble are
counterproductive and an expensive drain on their company. They also drag others down with
them. Such “disengaged employees” cost the US economy a mind-boggling $250-$300 billion a
year. They exist in every country in the world.
Spiralling Downward
Case studies show that even seemingly minor incidents of negativity affect employees. If people
dip into your bucket often enough, you get caught in a downward spiral. On such bad days,
those whom you interact with immediately sense that you are low; they too are affected.
Scaring Off Customers
Demotivated front-end employees who dip into customers’ buckets put them off, often
permanently. On the contrary, positively oriented employees successfully engage and retain
every customer they interact with.
The Recognition Gap
What’s worse than not being appreciated? Formally instituted programs that employees know
are insincere. To be effective, bucket-filling has to be a genuine, heartfelt exercise.
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Chapter Three – Every Moment Matters
Each day at home and at the workplace is made up of bucket-filling and emptying moments.
The low mood experienced after your boss’s critical performance review can rise magically
when someone else drops a casual compliment.
Our Negative Culture
It stands to reason that the overwhelming majority of people like working with bucket fillers. So
why do modern cultures tend to focus on negativity? Parents concentrate on weaknesses rather
than strengths in their children’s school performance, an attitude that destroys individuality and
forces children to conform. After graduation, students are still not free to work at what they are
best at; typically, most people in their first jobs are expected to mould themselves appropriately
to suit the role handed to them.
In 1925, a study of school children’s performance at math, vis-à-vis the encouragement and
recognition they received, produced significant results. One group who were criticized before
their peers and another group who were completely ignored showed declining performance over
the duration of the study. The scores of children who were appreciated in class kept increasing.
It is only in recent times that leading academicians worldwide are focusing on Positive
Psychology and how it affects people. Recent research says that experiencing positive
emotions on a daily basis is absolutely essential for survival.
Special Moments
Some people can recollect positive, defining moments that became a lifelong inspiration. But
even less significant experiences matter. Research in Positive Psychology says the frequency
of several, positive interactions makes a difference. Whether in a marriage or at the workplace,
the ratio of positive to negative interactions determines how well things work.
Positivity and Your Life
Positive emotions bring a staggering range of benefits to our lives:
Extended life span
Improved immunity against disease
Protection from effects of negative emotions
Encourage creative thinking
Break down of social prejudices
“Reserves” of physical and psychological strength that help in troubled times.
Enhanced individual and group productivity at work
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Science has acquired a huge body of knowledge about mental illness. Now, experts are
beginning to explore the nature of mental wellness.
Tom’s Story: An Overflowing Bucket
Some people are born cheerful and positive, others are predisposed to negativity. But nature is
not the sole influencer – nurture has a huge role to play as well in shaping our outlook.
Regardless of our genetic make-up, consistent bucket filling enhances our positivity quotient.
In this chapter, co-author Tom Rath narrates his own life story as a case study on how bucket
filling shaped his view of life. From childhood, the affection and consistent encouragement of
family members helped his talents to blossom. Later in life this tremendous reserve of warmth
supported him when he was diagnosed with a rare and potentially life-threatening disease, one
that he still lives with. The unfailing encouragement of family and friends prevented him from
sinking into self-pity and hopelessness – truly, a story that powerfully underscores the power of
bucket filling.
Chapter Five – Making it Personal
How can bucket filling be instilled in organizational culture? A formal, programmed style of
recognition won’t work for long as it lacks in real meaning and employees will soon see through
the obvious phoniness.
Also, people are different. Some employees delight in public recognition. Others may prefer a
quiet word of appreciation. Good leaders realize this and make praise and recognition an innate
aspect of their leadership style. Their individualized approach makes employees feel valued. It
enhances productivity, builds solid relationships and transforms people’s lives.
Chapter Six – Five Strategies for Increasing Positive Emotions
To increase your quota of positive emotions, make bucket-filling a habit. Create a specific plan
to implement it. Here are some strategies:
Strategy One
Before you begin filling buckets, stop dipping into them. Prior to every interaction, ask yourself if
you are filling or dipping into the other person’s bucket. This brief pause allows you to rein
yourself in before dipping.
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When you’ve mastered this, encourage others to refrain from criticizing or ridiculing others.
Dipping as a group is especially harmful.
Some people are serial dippers, incapable of change. Stay away from them for your own mental
well-being.
Track your interactions and score them mentally with a + or -. Ask yourself how you can reach
the ideal ratio of five bucket fills for every one bucket dip.
Strategy Two
Filling someone’s bucket is not a static event; rather, it sets off a chain reaction.
A wife, unhappy with her marriage, tried getting her husband to discuss contentious issues. The
more she focused on what upset her, the more defensive and withdrawn he became. Changing
tactics, she began to highlight what she appreciated about him. After some days, he began to
open up. His warmth and recognition began filling her bucket, just as her positive attitude had
initially affected him. Also, being positive unexpectedly made her feel better about herself,
something she began passing on to others. In time, the couple were emanating this positivity to
their friends and colleagues.
When your bucket fills, accept the gift and return it with warmth. To know how you score on
bucket filling, take the 15-question Positive Impact Test on www.bucketbook.com.
Strategy Three
Relationships play an all important role in our lives, a truth that is borne out by the evidence that
many people tend to stick on to organizations, teams or other groups because they have close
friends there.
A relationship blossoms when the initial series of interactions are positive. When making new
acquaintances, remember by what name people like to be called. Fill their buckets immediately
– a great way to start off – and sustain this initiative.
Equally important, tell those who matter most to you why you care. At work, build a reputation
for being the first to recognize a task well done. You’ll soon find people actively seeking your
company.
Strategy Four
Giving people small, unexpected gifts is great bucket filler. It could be a tangible present, a
sudden hug or even a smile. The happiness experienced in receiving an expected gift is limited
by that expectation. However, the element of surprise in an unexpected gift is what makes it a
hugely effective bucket filler.
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Strategy Five
With bucket filling, the Golden Rule – “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” –
needs to be reversed. To genuinely evoke positive emotions, you must give people the kind of
recognition that they want.
The book suggests seven questions that help you get started on how to individualize bucket
filling. Written appreciation is particularly rewarding. The authors’ Web site features “drops”
which can be filled, printed and e-mailed to recipients. Many people treasure these little drops
for years.
Key Takeaways
A year of regular bucket filling is likely to transform your life dramatically.
Your work, social life, marriage, family relationships and health would have all benefited
tremendously. Scientific research backs the notion that bucket filling makes a vast difference to
our lives and those around us. Don’t wait, look around right now for a bucket to fill!