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Helping Families Decide Best at Worst Times Marcel E. Pincince Director, Donor Family and Advocate Services Donor Network of Arizona

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Helping Families

Decide Best at

Worst Times

Marcel E. Pincince

Director, Donor Family and Advocate Services

Donor Network of Arizona

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“This is this family’s 9/11. They are being terrorized by the events of this day.”

Ed Eckenrod

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Two Disclosures:

No financial

Interests

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“An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field.” Niels Bohr

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A Decision is a Decision is a Decision!

….Or Is It???

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George Loewenstein

Dan Ariely

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“It’s a neural

hijacking of the

thinking brain.”

Daniel Goleman

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What to Expect from People

in Hot States?

Difficulty with:

Thinking

Decision Making

Problem Solving

Concentrating

Hearing

Remembering

Attention Span

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“Is it safe?”

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Predictability

Familiarity

Sense of Control

Support Systems

Having a Voice

What Makes People Feel Safe?

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Eye contact

Modulating soft voice and tone

Using our facial muscles

Reassuring looks

****Quiet place without loud noises

Why Basic Human

Connection Works

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Neuroception Assessing Risk and Danger

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Applying the Brakes to the

Amygdala and

the HPA Axis

The Vagus Nerve

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Spiraling

vs.

Linear Conversations

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Bits

And

Pieces

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“People with cognitive

and information overload

will experience their

frustration and anxiety

soar. With too much

information people’s

decisions make less and

less sense.”

Angelika Dimoka

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