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Transcript of Healthy Relationships The Ohio State University Student Wellness Center.
Healthy Relationships
The Ohio State University
Student Wellness Center
DEFINITION: What is a Relationship?
Type of connection existing between people related to or having communication with each other.
Could be Romantic or Intimate.
Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship
Open Communication Mutual Respect Honesty Trust Support Fairness/Equality
“So, Uh…What Are We?”
According to research, there are many stages that a couple goes through in their relationship together. These stages are:
Attachment & Courting
Differences & Power Struggles
Identity Formation
Balance & Unconditional Acceptance
Stage 1:Attachment & Courting Phase A.K.A. Romantic Love
phase. Developing emotional
attachment “Falling in Love” Infatuation and Passion Strong sexual desire
Stage 2: Dealing with Differences/Power Struggles
Conflicts and disagreements are intertwined with emotions.
Boundaries and personal space sometimes violated.
Feeling claustrophic “I just need some
space”
Stage 3: Identity Formation
Partners develop who they are within the relationship.
Characteristics can be intertwined, yet still separate.
Has the ability to create more features visible and balanced.
Stage 4: Balance & Unconditional Acceptance
Deeper Intimacy Sharing intimate
secrets and thoughts Desires Emotional Support
System Giving of each other in
many aspects of the relationship
Issues In Relationships
Jealousy
Consequences of Jealousy
When a Relationship Goes Sour….
How do you recognize the signs of an unhealthy relationship?
What to Look For:
Manipulation Controlling Criticizing Intimidation Unhappy in the
relationship Threatening or
mistreating
How to Maintain a Healthy Relationship
The ingredients are simple: Appreciate each other’s qualities Stay true to your partner Have good communication Keep realistic expectations for your partner Have shared interests Have the ability to face and deal with conflicts together Value yourself and your partner
Not All Relationships Last Forever….
When its time to say goodbye….
There is no right or wrong ways to say goodbye, but there are several guidelines for being fair, courteous, and considerate.
Guidelines to Follow…
Face-to-face vs. phone/email Be honest about your feelings. Space Support New relationships Friendship after a relationship?
Helpful Tips
Knowing the steps and stages It is up to you to make your own decisions
about your life, take charge. Knowing that not every relationship is the
same can also help you to understand what is right for you.
Resources Guide
The OSU Student Wellness Center B130 RPAC…..292-4527 www.swc.osu.edu
OSU Student Advocacy Center…292-1111
24-Hour Rape Helpline… 267-7020
OSU Campus Police…292-2121 www.ps.ohio-state.edu
Columbus Police Department…911 ww.columbuspolice.org
OSU Counseling and Consultation Services…292-5766 www.ccs.ohio-state.edu/
Resident Halls..if you live in a residence hall, your Hall Director can assist you.
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