Handling Insensitive Comments About Heart Transplant
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Moms and dads with a child on the
heart transplant waiting list hear
this one all the time, often from
friends and family with the best
intentions.
It’s a sign of not really knowing how
organ donation works. Heart
transplants are not a scheduled
procedure. We never know when a
donor heart will become available for
our patient.
Facebook Responders say:
“I would often say that [the heart] is still beating in someone’s body, and
they need it,” one responder wrote. “It was a good reminder to myself
when I was getting impatient as well.”
Just because the surgery is
over, doesn’t mean your child or your
family can carry on like normal.
In fact, “normal” is both a distant
memory and a long-term goal for many
of our heart transplant families.
Facebook Responders say:
“[Our child] may have more energy and great blood flow after
transplant, but he doesn’t get physical strength back so quickly,” a
Facebook responder wrote. You could also share the developmental
milestones your child has reached—like learning to walk, starting
school or taking up a new sport.
A heart transplant is very
different from standard
open-heart surgery.
The body’s immune system
has to learn not to attack the
new heart, which it may
instinctively view as a foreign
organ.
Facebook Responders say:
Explain that the new organ has to successfully function in a body it’s not
used to and after heart transplant, frequent checkups are necessary to
make sure everything is working the way it should—the new heart AND
the medications.
This is a tough one.
A number of parents face this
harsh question. One couple
said a reporter once blindsided
them with this question on
television.
Facebook Responders say:
“My first instinct was to get very angry at her,” wrote the responder who
shared this story. “But then I echoed what the head of our transplant
team always says—we did not cause someone else’s child to
die...Perhaps by donating their child’s organs, there is some small
measure of comfort brought to their family.”
Many people hear this
statement after proudly
posting pictures of their
“zipper,” the scar that
remains after heart surgery.
It is a scar, but it represents
much more.
Facebook Responders say:
”People don’t realize
what that scar represents
and the changes it
caused in me—more on
the inside than out,”
wrote a Facebook
responder who had
undergone a transplant.
Many people who ask this
question don’t know that the
donor and recipient families
may not know anything about
each other.
While some welcome that
unfamiliarity, others may find it
frustrating, especially when you
want to know those answers
yourself.
Facebook Responders say:You could explain that you don’t
have that info because
coordinators working behind the
scenes on behalf of the transplant
recipient and organ donor keep
each family’s identity private on
purpose.
If both families agree to make
their information available at
some point in the future, then the
families can learn more about
each other. Not everyone makes
that choice, though.
Sigh. This belief is absolutely
not true, but common. It’s
particularly difficult for families
who give thanks daily for their
organ donors. Nobody—from first
responders to emergency
surgeons—tries any less to save
a person because he is an organ
donor. First responders and
medical specialists want to save
lives. And in a real emergency the
medical team may not have any
information about your organ
donation status until they have
done everything they can to save
you.
Facebook Responders say:
One Facebook responder summed up her reason for
choosing to donate: “We no longer need our bodies after
we die. If someone else can have a better quality of life
from the organs or corneas I leave behind, I’m all for it. It’s
possibly the only way we can help one another after we
die.”