Habit # 3Habit # 3

Put First Put First Things FirstThings First

KEY PARADIGMSKEY PARADIGMS

Effectiveness requires balancing Effectiveness requires balancing important roles, relationships important roles, relationships and activities.and activities.

““Things that matter most should Things that matter most should never be at the mercy of things never be at the mercy of things which matter least”which matter least”

Today you will learn to:Today you will learn to:

Clarify your goals and achieve themClarify your goals and achieve them Handle people and projects that waste Handle people and projects that waste

your timeyour time Work more efficiently with your peersWork more efficiently with your peers Learn specific skills and tools to save Learn specific skills and tools to save

you timeyou time Overcome stress and procrastinationOvercome stress and procrastination Have a better insight on how to Have a better insight on how to

effectively manage your time in different effectively manage your time in different scenariosscenarios

First Things FirstFirst Things First

First things are those things that you, First things are those things that you, personally, find most worth doing. personally, find most worth doing. They move you in the right direction. They move you in the right direction. They help you achieve the They help you achieve the principle-principle-centeredcentered purpose expressed in your purpose expressed in your mission statement.mission statement.

The key is not to prioritize your The key is not to prioritize your schedule but to schedule your schedule but to schedule your priorities.priorities. – Covey – Covey

Time Quadrant…Time Quadrant…Which one are you?Which one are you?

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The Procrastinator•Exam Tomorrow•Friend Gets Injured•Late For Work•Project Due Today•Car Breaks Down

The Yes-Man•Unimportant Phone Calls•Interruptions•Other People’s Small Problems•Peer Pressure

The Prioritizer•Planning, Goal Setting•Essay Due In A Week•Exercise•Relationships•Relaxation

The Slacker•Too Much TV•Endless Phone Calls/Text Messaging•Excessive Gaming•My Space/Face Book Addiction•Mall Marathons•Time Wasters

Q1: The ProcrastinatorQ1: The Procrastinator

Urgency: An Urgency: An activity is urgent if activity is urgent if you or others feel you or others feel that it requires that it requires immediate immediate attention.attention.

Leads to stress Leads to stress and anxietyand anxiety

Feeling burnt outFeeling burnt out Mediocre Mediocre

performanceperformance

Polly the Polly the Procrastinator’s Procrastinator’s motto “I am going to motto “I am going to stop stop procrastinating… procrastinating… sometime soon”. sometime soon”. Don’t expect her to Don’t expect her to study for a test until study for a test until the night before…or the night before…or expect her to get expect her to get gas. She’s too busy gas. She’s too busy driving.driving.

Q3: The Yes-Man (Where’s Q3: The Yes-Man (Where’s Q2?…save the best for last)Q2?…save the best for last) People PleaserPeople Pleaser These things are These things are

important to other important to other people than yourselfpeople than yourself

““He who tries to He who tries to please everyone please everyone pleases no one”pleases no one”

Lack of personal Lack of personal disciplinediscipline

End up feeling like a End up feeling like a “doormat” for others “doormat” for others to wipe their feet onto wipe their feet on

Yanni the Yes-Man’s Yanni the Yes-Man’s motto is motto is

“Tomorrow, I am “Tomorrow, I am going to be more going to be more

assertive – if that’s assertive – if that’s OK with you”. He OK with you”. He

really didn’t want to really didn’t want to join the swimming join the swimming

team – he liked art. team – he liked art. But his dad was a But his dad was a swimmer, and, of swimmer, and, of course, he didn’t course, he didn’t want to let him want to let him

down.down.

Something to Ponder…Something to Ponder…(This one’s for the Yes Man)(This one’s for the Yes Man)

““I don’t know the key to success, I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to but the key to failure is trying to please everyone”please everyone” -Bill Cosby-Bill Cosby

Q4: The SlackerQ4: The Slacker

Lack of Lack of responsibilityresponsibility

Less chance of Less chance of successsuccess

Higher Higher anxiety/stress levelanxiety/stress level

Higher chance of Higher chance of depressiondepression

Tends to be flakyTends to be flaky

Slacker’s credo: Slacker’s credo: “Why try harder “Why try harder when this is good when this is good enough?”enough?”

Professional loafer; Professional loafer; sleeping until noon sleeping until noon takes real skill, takes real skill, after all. School is after all. School is the the last last thing on thing on their mind. They their mind. They are young and are young and healthy, so why healthy, so why work? Doing work? Doing nothing rocks!nothing rocks!

Q2: The Q2: The PrioritizerPrioritizer Control in your lifeControl in your life Accountable for Accountable for

actionsactions Less stress and Less stress and

anxietyanxiety More effective in More effective in

school, life and in school, life and in relationshipsrelationships

High performanceHigh performance More BalancedMore Balanced

Polly the Prioritizer is Polly the Prioritizer is by no means by no means perfect, but she perfect, but she can balance her can balance her responsibilities responsibilities with the things she with the things she enjoys and has a enjoys and has a fulfilling, balanced fulfilling, balanced life. She is not as life. She is not as stressed because stressed because she has nothing she has nothing and no one and no one looming over her.looming over her.

Planning: Why is it important?Planning: Why is it important?

You can control your life better.You can control your life better. You can manage the things you You can manage the things you

HAVE to do and make more time for HAVE to do and make more time for the things you WANT to do.the things you WANT to do.

You will have less stress and anxiety You will have less stress and anxiety in your life.in your life.

You will have better relationships.You will have better relationships. You will have a better chance of You will have a better chance of

success.success.Now let’s go over HOW to plan…Now let’s go over HOW to plan…

3 Steps to Planning3 Steps to Planning

Step 1: Identify Your “Rocks”Step 1: Identify Your “Rocks” Ask yourself “What are the most important Ask yourself “What are the most important

things I need to do this week?”things I need to do this week?”

Think about what role you play…student, Think about what role you play…student, friend, family member, worker, individual friend, family member, worker, individual and whatever else you do.and whatever else you do.

Then come up with two important things Then come up with two important things you want to get done in each role.you want to get done in each role.

3 Steps to Planning3 Steps to Planning

Step 2: Block Out Time For Your “Big Step 2: Block Out Time For Your “Big Rocks”Rocks”

Use a planner to block out time Use a planner to block out time frames where you plan to complete frames where you plan to complete the tasks you have setthe tasks you have set

Keeping a list and having it handy Keeping a list and having it handy helps you from forgettinghelps you from forgetting

Checking things off of your list gives Checking things off of your list gives a sense of accomplishmenta sense of accomplishment

3 Steps to Planning3 Steps to Planning

Step 3: Schedule Everything ElseStep 3: Schedule Everything Else Once you have your big rocks Once you have your big rocks

“booked”, schedule in all of your “booked”, schedule in all of your other little to-dos, daily tasks other little to-dos, daily tasks and appointmentsand appointments

Group ActivityGroup Activity

Your group will be given a scenarioYour group will be given a scenario Your group must write a script on how you Your group must write a script on how you

would handle the situationwould handle the situation Choose a leader to keep your group on Choose a leader to keep your group on

tasktask Choose recorders to write out the script Choose recorders to write out the script

(each actor must have their own copy of (each actor must have their own copy of the full script)the full script)

Choose two “actors” that will play out the Choose two “actors” that will play out the sketch in front of the classsketch in front of the class

You will have 30 minutes to read your You will have 30 minutes to read your scenario and write your scriptscenario and write your script

Be sure to ask each other these Be sure to ask each other these questions when writing your scripts:questions when writing your scripts:

Is your reaction “proactive” or Is your reaction “proactive” or “reactive”?“reactive”?

Are you thinking with the “end in Are you thinking with the “end in mind”; what are the consequences of mind”; what are the consequences of your actions?your actions?

Are you putting first things first? Are you putting first things first? What are your priorities in your What are your priorities in your scenario?scenario?

What is your desired outcome?What is your desired outcome? What steps will you take to ensure What steps will you take to ensure

you get the desired outcome?you get the desired outcome?

““Ollie the Overloaded”Ollie the Overloaded”

You do it all. You play three sports; you You do it all. You play three sports; you belong to four clubs and hold officer belong to four clubs and hold officer positions in all of them; you volunteer at the positions in all of them; you volunteer at the local animal shelter, nursing home, and local animal shelter, nursing home, and hospital; and you maintain straight A's. An hospital; and you maintain straight A's. An opportunity has come up where you can opportunity has come up where you can pursue your favorite hobby ( with your best pursue your favorite hobby ( with your best friend, but you will have to resign from your friend, but you will have to resign from your class president position with the SGA. You class president position with the SGA. You have to explain this situation to your class have to explain this situation to your class advisor, who threw a party for you when advisor, who threw a party for you when you were voted into your position. What you were voted into your position. What will be your decision and how will your will be your decision and how will your conversation play out?conversation play out?

““East Coast Evelyn”East Coast Evelyn”

Your parents are pushing you to get into Your parents are pushing you to get into the college that they attended on the West the college that they attended on the West coast, but that’s not where you want to live. coast, but that’s not where you want to live. You want to stay in Florida and use your You want to stay in Florida and use your Bright Futures Scholarship, and you are Bright Futures Scholarship, and you are depending on your parents to foot the rest depending on your parents to foot the rest of the bill, or else you will have to take out of the bill, or else you will have to take out student loans. It is coming down to the student loans. It is coming down to the wire, and you have to send out applications wire, and you have to send out applications this week. Your mom/dad wants to sit this week. Your mom/dad wants to sit down with you to make arrangements for down with you to make arrangements for the school out west. What will be your the school out west. What will be your decision and how will your conversation decision and how will your conversation play out?play out?

““Wally the Work-a-holic”Wally the Work-a-holic”

You work part-time and you love your job. You work part-time and you love your job. Your grades have been slipping since you Your grades have been slipping since you started and now you are failing Math. Your started and now you are failing Math. Your manager said that if you picked up some manager said that if you picked up some extra hours, that you would be a shoe in for extra hours, that you would be a shoe in for a promotion and raise, so you agree. You a promotion and raise, so you agree. You do not have the time after school to get do not have the time after school to get extra help. If you do not pass this class, extra help. If you do not pass this class, you may not advance to the next grade, you may not advance to the next grade, and you will not graduate on time. You and you will not graduate on time. You must now have a conversation with either must now have a conversation with either your teacher or your manager explaining your teacher or your manager explaining what you plan to do. What will be your what you plan to do. What will be your decision and how will your conversation decision and how will your conversation play out?play out?

““Bad Rap Rachel”Bad Rap Rachel”

You have just moved to a new school your senior You have just moved to a new school your senior year. You had problems at your other school, year. You had problems at your other school, and you have the opportunity to start with a clean and you have the opportunity to start with a clean slate. The first week, you meet a group of your slate. The first week, you meet a group of your peers that you really get along with. A few days peers that you really get along with. A few days later, you find out that two of your new “friends” later, you find out that two of your new “friends” are selling drugs on campus. You saw this move are selling drugs on campus. You saw this move as an opportunity to leave your bad reputation as an opportunity to leave your bad reputation behind, but you haven’t really hit it off with anyone behind, but you haven’t really hit it off with anyone else. In the next few weeks you meet another else. In the next few weeks you meet another group of kids; they are involved in school clubs group of kids; they are involved in school clubs and really nice, but you think they are a little and really nice, but you think they are a little “dorky”. Both groups are having a party on the “dorky”. Both groups are having a party on the same day and you are invited. You must choose same day and you are invited. You must choose one and tell a member from the other group why one and tell a member from the other group why you will not be attending their party. What will be you will not be attending their party. What will be your decision and how will your conversation play your decision and how will your conversation play out?out?

““Torn Torrance”Torn Torrance”

It’s Saturday afternoon and your friend Sally’s It’s Saturday afternoon and your friend Sally’s boyfriend just gave her the boot and needs some boyfriend just gave her the boot and needs some consoling. You have a huge group project due on consoling. You have a huge group project due on Monday and you still have not set up a time to meet Monday and you still have not set up a time to meet with your group. Sally is a friend that usually with your group. Sally is a friend that usually requires a lot of your time, but she has been there requires a lot of your time, but she has been there for you in the past. You know that if you spend time for you in the past. You know that if you spend time with her this weekend, you will not be able to with her this weekend, you will not be able to complete the project to the best of your ability, and complete the project to the best of your ability, and you will be able to just get by with a C. You either you will be able to just get by with a C. You either have to meet with your group OR spend the have to meet with your group OR spend the remainder weekend with Sally. What will be your remainder weekend with Sally. What will be your decision and how will your conversation play out decision and how will your conversation play out with your team members or Sally? with your team members or Sally?

ReviewReview

What were the steps you took to What were the steps you took to reach your outcome?reach your outcome?

What different things did you What different things did you consider when making your consider when making your decisions?decisions?

Would you choose the same Would you choose the same outcome if this situation really outcome if this situation really happened to you? Why or why not?happened to you? Why or why not?

Which group had the best outcome? Which group had the best outcome? Explain your reasoning.Explain your reasoning.