Grape's eBook of 2009A compilation of the significant articles that Grape contributed to the PUA community within

the year of 2009, including some old articles from 2008.

Please visit the High School PUAs community at http://www.highschoolpuas.tk/

<33 Grape

Table of ContentsChapter 1 - Foundations of Success

---What Is Your Motivation?

---How To Learn Like A Pro

---The Power Of Knowledge

---The Pick Up ARTIST

---The Importance of Humor

---Becoming What You Desire

---Starting A Solid Relationship

---"You've changed."

---"Okay, you've officially woo'd me. Now what?"

---Your Social Life

---Coping With Problems

Chapter 2 - Psychology of Naturals

---Introduction

---Psychology of Why This Works

---Psychology of Why Routines Aren't Effective

---Psychology of Women

---Psychology of Naturals

Chapter 3 - Life, Intent, and Happiness

---Intention

---Happiness

---Driving Forces

---Focus

---Intention vs Focus

---Wanting vs Getting

---Ego Value vs Rapport Value

---Wanting + Getting vs Ego + Rapport Value

---The Big Picture

Chapter 4 - A Guide of Rapport

---The Importance of Rapport

---Rapport Guide

---Rapport on 4 Levels

Chapter 5 - Attraction

---Attraction Switches

---Bestfriend-Boyfriend Method

Chapter 6 - Growing Up

---The Goal of Life

---Being Rational

---Being Disciplined

Chapter 7 - Social Situations

---Getting Rid of Insecurities

---Misconceptions of Popularity

---Another Way to Lose Approach Anxiety

Chapter 8 - Last Minute Tips

Chapter 1 - Foundations of SuccessWhat Is Your Motivation?

Let me begin by asking you a very important question of motivation. What is your

motivation for socializing with girls? Truly, what is it? Is it for the ego boost and the

attention? Is it to be able to show her off to all your friends and feel cool? Is it to prove to

yourself that you can indeed talk to girls?

Or is your motivation to find a girl you can spend your life with and be very happy with? To

find a girl you can trust and be best friends with? To find a girl who you will enjoy being

around and feel good with?

The second choice is what your motivation should be. It should be about enjoyment and

pleasure, not using others simply to try and get rid of your insecurities and try to protect

your ego.

Without the correct motivation, your intents and goals will focus around the wrong things,

bringing you to a big whop of failure. Never try to use people for simply yourself unless you

actually like having no friends, this should be common sense.

So once again, you want to meet girls to make friends, laugh, be happy, and truly enjoy.

How To Learn Like A Pro

Now let’s dive into how exactly you can learn to become as good as those guys you see

always talking with the big groups of people with lots of cool guys and beautiful girls.

Modeling is one of the easiest yet most effective ways to improve yourself. Everyone does it

too. Political figures model historical figures like Hamilton, Lincoln, and FDR. Students model

their teachers to do class work. Younger siblings model the old. Girls model the women they

see on Cover Girl Magazine and what not. Guys model the bros we see on TV and Movies.

It’s completely natural for us to model.

Who can we model? Very simple: Our fathers, that is if they’re good with socializing,

comedians like Jo Koy and Dane Cook, popular celebrities like Brad Pitt. Even the kids you

see in your own school are fine. Just keep on doing what works for others.

This isn’t to say fake who you are though. Everyone has their own beliefs and values. Don’t

sacrifice the things you treasure, but simply changes small habits like the way you talk, the

way you smile, the way you dress, etc. Those shouldn’t affect your values so much. It’s very

important that you don’t drink and smoke for “social reasons”. If you do, you’ve failed at

standing up for yourself.

The Power Of Knowledge

Aside from modeling, you must also realize the importance of Knowledge. Knowledge is not

only power, as many say, but it is also the source of CONFIDENCE.

Example: You don’t study for a test, you haven’t been doing any homework or paying

attention in class at all. You know nothing. Will you be confident in doing well in that test?

Of course not.

Now imagine you’ve been active in class, asking questions, studying hard, and doing all

your homework. You understand it well. Will you be confident in doing well in this test? Of

course!

The same thing applies to women. The more knowledge you have and the more you

understand them, the more confident you will be. It’s also important that you believe what

you know is going to work. That’s what knowledge is for anyways: to make accurate

predictions.

So just learn from the right people, know what they’re saying is accurate and true. You’ll be

improving in no time.

The Pick Up ARTIST

The term PUA is thrown around all over the community. It’s even given the seduction

community a nickname called the PUA community. But not many people have actually

delved into what exactly PUA stands for.

Pick Up is an ART, not a science; hence the word Artist in PUA. So stop treating it like a

science and respect it for what it truly is. Stop planning what you’re going to do, stop being

so logical about it. An art is best bettered by practice and experience. So you MUST start

applying your knowledge and you MUST start getting out there and talking to people!

The more you treat it like a science, the harder it will be because your conscious will control

your body as where for art, the subconscious does much more. Approach anxiety is best

overcome if you choose to accept the nervousness while walking up to a girl.

”Oh look, I’m feeling nervous. I am now walking up to her.”

In a matter of seconds, your nervousness dissipates and your knowledge is being practiced.

You’re already a Pick Up Artist.

The Importance of Humor

Now in order to complete this approach, you must realize the importance of humor!

In a situation where you guys know almost nothing about each other, HUMOR is one of the

ONLY things that you have in common! So use it well and focus on having fun, laughing,

and enjoying yourself. After all, PUA is an art, so focusing on pleasure will let your

subconscious do all of the work of “what to say” or “how to act”.

When I say be humorous, I’m not saying go tell her a knock-knock joke. Please do not think

that. I’m saying Smile, introduce yourself, and make some fun remarks about something

like her hair, her clothing, her shoes, her name. Or tell her the reason of your approaching

her and make it a joke within itself like “I need a bodyguard! Someone’s coming after me!”

Of course, humor is most effective when the actor is being silly. So be silly when you say it!

Don’t overdo it, but make sure it’s there.

Becoming What You Desire

You should realize the significance of being attractive. A girl will only like a guy she’s

attracted to. You may be wondering “What are some other things a girl finds attractive

other than looks?”

I need you to do something. Think about everything that you find cute and attractive in

women. EVERYTHING.

Our literature teacher has the class collaborate and make a list that guys and girls found

attractive in girls and found attractive in guys.

The two lists were identical. They showed “Looks, voice, honesty, loyalty, hard to get, has a

life of their own, not too attached, power, intelligence, sex, confidence”

In the big picture, we found out that girls are attracted to the same things guys are

attracted to. (I don’t mean girls like guys with big boobs, I’m saying they like guys who are

physically attractive with six packs and big muscles)

So what do you want in women? It’ll be what they want from you.

Simply put, become what you desire most from others.

Starting a solid relationship

After many experiences of relationships and talking with other friends with relationships, I

can honestly say that there’s one very very important thing I’ve learned.

Never get too attached. It’s the hardest thing to do to stop striving for what you want, but

you have to stop at some point. Once you or the girl starts giving up your complete self to

the other, the relationship is over.

It’s completely fine to hang out all the time and talk, just don’t make the girl your entire

life. Don’t tell her all your deepest secrets or everything that you want in life. You must

always hold back some stuff.

Just like how girls get sick of the guy who over-validates them, you will get sick of the girl

who over-validates you.

-"You've changed."

Impressions are important. People like to judge others and label them with as many

characteristics as they can. We absolutely love building an image of other people so that we

can further predict how they will act and react. We do this because it is an instinct of

survival.

When this image starts to prove inaccurate, problems arise. You see, we don’t like it when

things aren’t the way we made them out to be. And we become frustrated.

Change is a very natural part of the world, and you must start getting over it. Girls have to

get over it too, and some will. But others will not.

“You’ve changed.” Is one of the most bothersome things you can hear from a partner. If

you ever come across this, the best way to reply is “As did you and everyone else in this

world.”

She’ll start retorting “No, but you just aren’t yourself anymore.”

That’s when you say, “Who am I?”

Conversation Over. The antidote to the plague of many relationships, an unwillingness to

adapt.

"Okay, you've officially woo'd me. Now what?"

So you’ve finally scored a date with the cute girl you’ve been talking with. How do you feel?

You will either feel excited and nervous for the future or you will feel bored and complete.

The only reason you would EVER feel bored and complete is if you weren’t listening to what

I was saying. It will only be because you were pursuing the girl for validation, attention, and

an ego boost.

Had you pursued her with an intent of having fun with her and sharing glorious moments

with her, you would know what you want to do with her for the rest of your relationship.

I must re-emphasize: Pursue for joy. Pursue for pleasure. But never pursuer for selfish

reasons.

Your Social Life

No one wants to be the loner in the corner of the classroom who never talks to anyone. No

one wants to be that guy. We as humans are inept to fit into a bigger group of people. We

can’t help but want to socialize. If you deny it to yourself, your ego needs to die now.

So how do you be more social with people and how do you make a ton of friends?

Quite simple and rhetoric in my opinion: Be Friendly.

Yep.

Now when I say that, I’m not saying Be Polite. Oh no no no. Being polite is a way of saying

“I don’t want to be your friend, but I don’t want to be your enemy either.” In other words,

“Leave me alone.”

Do not ever be polite with someone you want to be genuine friends with. Polite is dull and

boring.

Learn to be obnoxious and learn to show off who you are to others. This way they can make

out an image of you and they will be comfortable in becoming your friend.

Are you afraid to get shot down? Don’t be. I can say with proof that people are much too

alike to shoot each other down for legit reasons unless there is a big big flaw in either one

of the two.

If you think there’s something really really weird about you that you think people will

absolutely hate, then simply change yourself and adapt.

But if you think you’re normal for the most part, by the way it IS okay to be relatively quiet

or relaxed, you’re fine.

The only other reason others would shut you down is if they themselves have a desire to

boost their ego and get rid of their insecurities.

Some people think it’s okay to take out their stress on the outside world. Avoid these people

like the plague. They’re just like lap dogs. They’ll bow down to those better than them and

they’ll spit on the people they think are worse than them.

These people are rare for the most part, so you shouldn’t have to worry about it.

So remember, BE FRIENDLY. Don’t be polite, and avoid the meanies!

Coping with Problems

Now to the biggest part of this entire article: How to deal with shit.

You must start to fix your own problems. Stop relying on the outer-world and start relying

on yourself. I’ll show you how to do this.

First, realize the insignificance of your life.

You are not special. You are nothing. You are not better nor worse than anyone else. You

will not make a difference in the big picture. You are a build up of matter and energy

circulating through space and time.

There are currently seven billion organisms on the big ball of dirt you’re on right now. These

organisms were born from the billions before them and will continue to reproduce.

Then within some years, our dreaded sun will die. Leaving us to freeze and die. All the hard

work, all the history…gone.

Quite a realistic painting isn’t it? You may be wondering “Then why don’t we all commit

suicide?”

Very simple: To feel sensations of pleasure and joy, to feel accomplished, to be able to do

things that will make us feel good.

Why else do we live and replicate? Why else?

You must realize that as you are insignificant to this universe, same goes for your problems.

You think the C- on the test actually matters to the world? You think that your flat tire will

miraculously make the universe stop?

Even the serious problems we as a population discuss like health care, the economy, war,

disease, poverty, are all insignificant.

You should only focus on problems that distort the greater good. This is why people even

created government in the first place. To benefit the greater good.

This is why we have charities to support the starving children and this is why we have public

hospitals.

So remember that neither you nor your problems are anything special. They’re shmuck,

average, mediocre. Get over it and fix them.

Sometimes, we will encounter certain problems too extreme for our instinctive emotions to

handle. Take for instance, a death in the family or too big of a build up of stress. What to do

then?

If you’re religious, all I can say is Pray. Praying is a form of meditation that is very healthy

for the mind and is very healthy for the body. Stress is dissipated through nonviolence and

you will feel better soon enough.

When I say pray, I’m not talking about the conservative, peaceful, unemotional prayer.

I’m talking about give up your logic for a second, give up your power, your control, and

anything that makes you feel safe in this world and give it all to the Lord. Let him be your

source of safety. Let him guide you through your hardships.

It’s okay to cry as well. Crying is a great way to release stress without affecting the safety

of others.

What not to do is taking out your stress by resorting to drugs and alcohol. Don’t resort to

cutting. Don’t resort to blaming people and finding fault in others. It won’t release any

stress and will only create more problems. Don’t be the people you hate who shut down

others simply to boost their own egos.

Thank you very much, I hope this article serves as a foundation of the way you perceive

life.

Chapter 2 - Psychology of NaturalsI. Introduction

Guys need the confidence to talk to girls. Where does confidence come from?

The more one knows about something, the more confident he gains about the topic. For

example, a person is not confident he will do well on his math test. He studies for several

days, and then he is fairly confident that he will do well on his math test. Another example,

a child has no idea what to do in order to ride a bike. He's gut nervous about falling and is

not confident about his bike-riding abilities at all. But once his dad assists him and gives

him knowledge on what to do, he is confident and can ride his bike without a problem.

So, how does this all fit into pick up?

Well, many of you are not confident with society, women, or people in general. The more

you learn about society and the more correct things you apply to yourself, the more

confident you will become and you will be able to pick up women and be a social guy in no

time. I will give you the knowledge that will boost your confidence in this project.

Hope you enjoy.

<33 Grape

p.s. The term 'psychology' is not used scientifically but rather in a loose and slang sense.

II. Psychology of Why This Works

a. You become sexual with women

A big problem with many AFCs is that they just aren't comfortable with their sexuality

around women. They get nervous that they might get rejected and that they may creep the

girl out. AFCs has beliefs that women are not sexual for the most part, that they are

innocent and young, and that they don't like being sexual around most guys unless they're

'special'.

Well this piece will be explaining why these beliefs are wrong and it will go through what

beliefs really ARE true and are in the minds of women.

b. You naturally have value

Hey, after you understand how the women think, shouldn't it be natural that you learn to

become their ideal lover? I mean this thing will be going through what they want and what

they don't want. It's only common sense that you become the things that they want.

c. You don't feel confusion of who you are

Many AFCs are used to fitting OTHER PEOPLE'S STANDARDS. They constantly change who

they are, what their hobbies are, their social circle, and their entire lifestyle. They just don't

feel a sense of self. This is because OTHER PEOPLE control their life. They don't have the

confidence or knowledge to take charge of their own life and do it successfully. This piece

will go through how naturals think, why exactly they know how to control their life, and

much more. You will learn that having a solid identity will be critical when it comes to

meeting people and befriending them.

III. Psychology of Why Routines Aren't Effective

a. Spending Time Memorizing

If you've taken the route where you spend a ton of time memorizing little 'esp routines' and

'negs' and 'openers' and so on, you probably know what I mean when I say that it's a pain

in the ass having to spend time memorizing these lines. Hey, look at it this way.

There are billions of people out there getting laid right now. Did every single one of them

need to memorize esp routines to get laid? NO!!! This article is here to get you thinking on

the correct path of becoming a normal guy who happens to be good with women, without

faking his words, without having to be a slave to material and canned routines. You can

save this time and do something better with your life. =]

b. A Feeling of Fakeness

Like I have just mentioned, PUAs who rely on routines always feel fake. They don't feel

congruent with what they're saying. They feel confused with who they are. They're still

faking themselves to fit standards. They waste time learning 'magical lines' that supposedly

help get a women to come to bed with them. Would you rather spend the rest of your life

memorizing routines, or coming up with your own while just simply HAVING FUN and

enjoying yourself with other people? I rest my case.

c. Incongruency

By now you should have gotten the point that routines will make you feel incongruent. You

are using stories and material that are not for the type of person you are! You start getting

confused. And as I've said many times before, IT'S NOT HELPING YOU WITH

STRENGTHENING YOUR IDENTITY. Identity is vital. It brings out congruence and passion.

It's VITAL.

d. Gaming without Routines: Understanding Women, Natural Game, Lifestyle, etc.

So now some of you may be asking.. Okay, routines aren't the best solution to pick up, then

what is?

I say natural game. Not only do you save time, but you learn to enjoy life, love your

lifestyle, passionately be active in your hobbies, and be able to NATURALLY attract women.

That means you don't have to fake yourself anymore and change yourself to meet women's

standards.

These will strengthen your inner game, confidence, identity, and much more.

How does one become a natural? Mostly through trial and error. But I'm here to give you a

boost with that. Enjoy.

As I've mentioned in the intro, knowledge and understanding leads to natural improvement

of a subject. I'll be giving you the knowledge you need about women AND the knowledge

about how naturals view the world and how they think.

IV. Psychology of Women

a. Women Love Sex

Okay, let's start off with clearing up the biggest misconception of all. WOMEN LOVE SEX.

They are human too. They naturally want to have sex with guys. They really want it just as

much as guys do.

Shocking? I mean after all, we've learned in school that women don't like to be touched,

they don't like to be teased with their sexuality, and that they only have sex with guys they

feel are 'special'. They also teach that Guys are more sexual than girls and that guys are the

more perverted ones.

Wrong. You want proof?

Look at girls. Honestly, look at them. How much make up are they wearing? How tight are

their jeans? How nice is their hair? How fit are their bodies?

Do you think it takes no effort at all for them to dress pretty into extremely tight pants and

that it takes only a few seconds to get their make up perfect along with the stuff they do to

their hair?

I mean girls have this weird 2-hour thing they do every morning where they shampoo,

condition, use straightening cream, dry, straighten, spray, and finish up.

THAT'S just the HAIR! Imagine how long it takes for them to choose what looks good with

what, how much mascara they should wear, the eyeshadow, eyeliner, the lipstick, lip gloss.

Girls really have to put effort into looking cute for us guys. And ask yourself, Why do girls

put in all this effort to look cute?

Many reasons. Here are some big ones:

- They want to get laid

- They want to be loved

- They want attention

Whoo!!! Starting to make sense? When I first found this out I actually felt really bad for

women and I respected them soo much for trying so hard to get a few "You look nice today"

comments. They really want a guy to love them and they really want to get laid. The proof

is right in front of you.

"But wait.. if girls love sex soo much, why do they rant so much about how sex is for sluts

and how girls who have sex have no class at all?!!"

It's very simple actually. I'm sure you've learned this already from the community, but the

term 'slut' came up from women to threaten each other because the one who had sex may

have stirred in jealousy, insecurities, and feelings of loneliness.

It's EXACTLY like how kids call each other spoiled when one of them gets something more

expensive for Christmas.

Let's say Bob gets an X-Box 360 for Christmas and Joe gets a pair of socks.

Joe will get jealous and angered, so he'll say that Bob is a spoiled rich kid and that he's

stupid.

Well hey, let's say Mary gets laid by a guy and Katy sleeps alone that night.

Katy will call Mary a whore because Mary got some action that night as where Katy slept

alone, lonely and craving to be with a guy.

So now you know. Girls call each other sluts out of their own pure jealously and insecurities.

That's all there is to it and nothing more.

b. Women Have It Harder Than Us

Many people think that women can get laid without any effort at all and that guys need to

work hard as hell to even get anything at all. This belief my dear friend.. is bullshit.

Women actually have it harder than us. And here's why:

1. They need to work hard to look good.

(As mentioned in the above article.)

and the biggest reason:

2. They are bombarded by the 'slut' deal.

Women don't just have sex with anyone. They need to make sure they can trust their

partner won't go around saying "Yeah.. she's a slut. I just met her five minutes ago and she

was really easy to bang. She has SLUT written all over her."

Because think about it.. how many guys are considered AFCs when you go out? About..

80% right? I'd say so.

So that means the majority of the guys really don't understand what's going through a girl's

mind because of the fact that they really don't give a shit and they just want some pussy.

Well... if the girl just goes "Okay! Let's have sex!" in the first moments of meeting an AFC,

what'll he think?

"Oh wow.. Girls don't usually do this. Something not right here. Oh well... even if this chick

IS A SLUT, I'm still getting pussy. Ohh man, I can't wait to tell my friends."

Then he tells his friends, they call the girl a slut, word gets out. Now the girl's reputation is

completely ruined because of wanting to have sex just as much as the guy did.

Now do you see why it's VITAL that you show her that you can be someone who she will be

able to trust? Do you realize what could happen to her if she just goes around having sex

with anyone she finds cute?

I thought you would.

c. Women Will Kiss For The Kiss

So now you understand how hard it is for women to go out and get some action. How do

you think they feel about their situation?

They are probably DESPERATE for sex. Heck.. they might even go out to a party, get drunk,

and finally get laid. And end up making excuses like "Well.. I was drunk."

But deep inside, they're happy as a duck. Their big desire to make love is finally fulfilled

after all that tension was building up inside them.

But should drunk sex really the only way for girls to get laid withOUT having to experience

the slut effect?

Of course not.

Just remember, girls are always desperate for some action as much as guys and have this

overwhelming desire. THIS is why girls have such a sexual mind-frame. THIS is why girls

try to look as hot as they can without coming off as slutty.

They really want a guy to just fuck the shit out of them.

They want a guy who they can blame if something goes wrong or someone starts saying

shit.

But this is just a fantasy for them as much as it is for guys to wish they could just fuck the

shit out of a cute girl.

However, some fantasies do come true. A friend of mine and I went up to random girls and

asked for a kiss. The girls that didn't have many friends around greatly complied. The girls

that were running their own form of social game, getting value, being cool gave us funny

stares and gave us kisses on the cheeks. Great, right?

This was proof to me that girls are plainly sexual and that they will Kiss for the Kiss.

It won't matter who it's with as long as the person she is kissing is someone who can amaze

her just by asking for a kiss.

She really wants that kiss. She just can't be the one asking, due to the slut effect.

So ask girls to kiss! They'll say yeah!

d. Women Want To Be Dominated Over

Branching off from the previous article, I'd like to announce the belief that WOMEN WANT

TO BE DOMINATED OVER!! They just want to be controlled and lead on an experience of

extreme passion and emotion. That emotion will probably be something such as the one

from drama, humor, fun, pleasure, sex.

You must understand that women are NATURALLY followers. They'll follow whatever leads

them to having the biggest emotional sensation even if it's a pointless dramatic argument.

Think about it. Isn't it only nature that MEN protect their families and lead them to a bright

future and that WOMEN nurture their families while letting the MEN lead them through their

amazing life? Look at families today even. Although there are some divorces, single-

parents, MOST families have a dad who works and leads the family and a mom who watches

out for the children.

This is proof that women will be active followers, they will be active on whatever activity

they are doing, but that activity will be decided by someone else, probably a man.

I'm trying my best not to come off as a sexist. Please don't be thinking "Wow... women are

pathetic." Because they're not. They're not better than you, but they're not worse than you.

I'm merely trying to explain what NATURE has shown us within the past millenniums.

The point is.. that YOU are a MAN. and MEN need to be LEADERS. They need to LEAD

WOMEN into an emotional adventure. Don't rely on a woman to be making decisions. She

wants YOU to make them. So if you want a kiss, don't wait for her to kiss you. You need to

kiss her.

If you want to date a girl, don't wait for her to ask you out. Ask her out.

e. Women Respect Men More Than We Think

A big problem with many guys is that they're always asking themselves, "Why isn't she

trying to kiss me or touch me or impress me!?" They think that women are being stuck up,

bitchy, or harsh but in reality, they're showing a big deal of respect and validation!

Once a PUA starts to recover, he will encounter this situation many many times. This is

because he'll be at the level where he really can attract girls, but he just doesn't know what

the next step is.

When enough attraction is built, a girl won't do anything! Really!

Some may come sit next to you, but they'll just sit there and wait for something to happen.

The recovering PUA is doing the same thing. He wants his target to do something first.

This is horrible because both people are thinking "Umm... does s/he really like me? Am I

making a mistake?"

I've mentioned in the post above that men are leaders. Most men need some validation

before doing anything, well here it is. When women do nothing and are intentionally

standing very close to you or sitting right next to you, they are trying to say, "Well.. you've

officially woo'd me. Now what are you going to do with me? Take me on a fucking

adventure."

If you just sit there like a statue, she'll get confused and leave.

However if you initiate fun conversations, ask her on a date, play little tickling games; she'll

get exactly what she asked for. She wants YOU to lead.

So when a girl does nothing but be close to you, it's not a sign of toying around with you,

confusing you, or acting all stuck up. It's a sign that she respects you, she's attracted to

you, and that she wants you to take her on an adventure.

V. Psychology of Naturals

My definition of a Natural: The guy you see who always has the attention on himself, the

guy you see who is surrounded by girls without even trying, the guy you see who is always

making others laugh and have fun.

This is character I am going to talk about. Not the highly moral father figure, not the honest

church goer. Enjoy your read.

a. The Point of Life is to Have Fun. (Pleasure <- Ego Boost <- Survival Value)

What's your goal in life? Is it to get laid? To become president of the USA? Become a

rockstar?

Whatever it may be, there is one very important goal that everyone shares,

and that is to Have Fun.

Having fun is something that will naturally boost your value and make you more successful

and happier in life. Here's why;

Many PUAs believe society is based off of survival value and replication value.

And that survival value is gained through ego boosts.

Well, ego boosts are most efficiently gained through having fun and being fun!

What other way is there? Do you really want to have to 'manipulate' people and treat them

like shit using canny negs just to boost your own value? Do you really want to go into a

public forum that's trying to HELP YOU, and just act like an ignorant asshole to everyone?

Of course not. People want love. So what better way to boost your value (and others!)

through having a good time?

So just by having fun, you will naturally have a healthier life and become a more attractive

person.

Now, some of you may be thinking "Nice. So if I want to be cool, I just have to have fun?"

Yes that's exactly it. But what is your goal in this situation?!

Is it to be cool or really to not give a shit and HAVE FUN?

Cool has soo many contradictions to it because some people say being overtly mature is the

cool thing to do and others say maturity doesn't matter and that even acting like an

immature 5th grader is fine as long as it's fun.

So please don't focus on cool. Your subconscious mind won't be able to act congruently with

itself. Focus on really having fun. Fun is something that makes you smile and laugh and feel

happy. It's not something that makes you want to be accepted in society or whatever.

It's showing that you don't care what others think because you control your own life and

this world is yours for the taking. Anyone that wants to avoid your world of fun is really

stupid and much more immature than you.

This is how the natural thinks.

"So.. you're saying that naturals can have immature fun and still get laid?"

Well.. yeah!

As long as it's not completely annoying and repelling, it's fine.

Many AFCs think that weird lawyer jokes are funny and that overtly violent video games are

funny, like when someone's head blows off from a grenade.

This my friend, is not funny to mainstream society. It may be funny to all the nerds, but as

you keep improving yourself, you will start to notice why so many people think it's weird

that you find such things funny. Why is this?

Well you really have to learn to put yourself in other people's shoes. It's something that

every natural knows how to do.

They're thinking "oh wow. this kid is really screwed up. if he likes to blow people's heads off

in video games, what are the chances he'll be a violent person in general?"

And violence isn't fun. It's annoying, disgusting, and really pathetic.

So it's self-explanatory what exactly is funny and what's not. Please don't think like a

retarded child, think like a normal child. This is really hard to explain in words, just please

don't be stupid when you apply this concept. PLEASE DON'T BE STUPID.

b. Lifestyle

Naturals have this lifestyle where they are always socializing with others. Always.

This is why having "texting" is soo important and that keeping up with others through

Facebook, Myspace, etc. is vital.

They always have 5-10 people that they talk to daily as close friends, and another 5-10

people to talk with maybe a couple of times every 2-3 weeks, like people they've just met.

If you have the ability to text, own a Facebook profile, whatever, DO IT. You're shooting

yourself in the foot by not talking with others when you can.

Also, naturals are always making plans with people. They're always saying things like "Let's

hang out soon." or "I want to see you soon!"

They always have something to do. They're never just sitting and waiting for something to

happen. They know what they want and they don't waste any time doing it.

If they're in the mood to hang out with a close friend, they'll hang out with a close friend.

If they're in the mood to go on a date with a girl, they'll go on a date with a girl.

If they're in the mood to just sit back and relax, they'll sit back and relax.

They control their life. They don't rely on others to make them get what they want. They do

it themselves.

So remember, a natural is always socializing whether it's through texting, online, calling, or

just simply hanging out with people. So start doing it!

c. Natural Traits

A natural doesn't make sacrifices. At all. He always puts himself first before anyone or

anything else in the entire world. He'll do what will benefit him the most, even if it will hurt

others. This is why most naturals never pay you back for the $10 you loaned them.

However if it involves something like killing someone, he will probably not do it because it

will keep him from benefiting himself because the police would be after him. (self

explanatory)

He won't EVER change his beliefs for others. Once he makes a decision, he'll stick with it

and won't give a shit what you think about it unless you're offering him advice as a true

friend.

He knows he's cool. He knows he's the shit. But he knows that showing off will make him

lose his value. He knows that cool people don't talk about how cool they are. They don't talk

about how much friends they have or how much pussy they get, unless it comes off as

intentionally funny.

He doesn't freak out. If he smells something bad, he'll ignore it until someone else brings it

up. If he sees a waiter dropping a glass cup in a restaurant, he'll pretend like nothing

happened. This is because such things are not important to him. He simply doesn't give a

shit. He'll judge and say to himself "I better not hire HIM if I ever open a restaurant." But

he won't make a big deal out of it like "Oh my gosh! That guy just broke a cup! Ohh man

he's fucked now!"

If he bumps into someone, he doesn't go "Oh gosh I'm sorry!" He'll say "Hey." and continue

walking. If he spills some coffee on his shirt, he doesn't freak out and stop talking about his

important story, he'll continue to talk just the way he was and simply dab something on the

spill.

It's just not a big deal.

He doesn't get nervous about approaching people. He doesn't care if they like him or not,

he'll get what he wants and if they act stuck up to him while he's trying to have fun, he'll

give them the face that says "Haha, fuck you. I'm still having fun! You can't change me!

Nananana-booboo."

He will lie if he has to. The truth really doesn't matter for naturals. They just care about if

telling the truth will hurt them or benefit them. So if they have to lie, they will.

He knows how to put himself in other people's shoes. He knows how others feel. He knows

what to say, how to say it, where to say it, and when to say it. He knows that he will come

off as creepy in some situations and he'll know exactly how to make it seem like he's

actually the coolest guy in the earth.

d. Personality

If you have not gotten the 'big idea' about naturals yet, it's the fact that they are very very

egotistic. Some you may be thinking "Wow.. this isn't natural, this is an asshole."

You are wrong my friend.

Think about every natural you have met that gets laid a LOT.

He really is a bit of an asshole isn't he?

I mean.. every natural I've met.. EVERY NATURAL I've met is an asshole in many ways.

He is a really fun guy to be with and he's always giving off good vibes, but he's the type of

person who won't care if you forgot your lunch and need some money to borrow. He won't

commit to you. He knows people a little too well and the fact that the MAJORITY of people

won't pay others back. There are the few that do pay each other back and are respected for

that. But these guys are seen as 'suckers' when it comes down to the point where YOU

yourself need some money for lunch.

NATURALS AREN'T PERFECTLY MATURE, WISE, SMART, CARING PEOPLE.

There is a big line of difference between them actually. So many people have gotten

naturals and alpha males confused with nice, honest, hard-working people.

Being a nice and honest guy is really cool and many people will respect you for who you

are. But a natural isn't him. A natural won't be the one who helps you up when you fall

unless he's trying to show off 'how sweet he is'. A natural won't be the one you can truly

rely on to do the favors that only true friends do for each other. A natural isn't someone you

can rely on.

He's egotistical and if there's no gain for him, he won't do it.

But he's not thinking "I'm a big asshole." This is just the mindset he grew into, he can't help

it. It just NATURALLY happened.

He knows he's hot, he's awesome, and that he's fun.

So here's what it really comes down to:

Do you want to be an egotistic natural who happens to be a LOT of fun to hang around with

and get lots of pussy

or

Be a generally fun person who has a lot more morality than a natural and still be able to

pick up women but just not as easily as a natural himself?

It's your choice. I am merely explaining the natural's psychology.

e. Modeling The Successful

Naturals do what works best. Ever since they were little, they have been surrounded by

opportunities that they took and figured out what kind of person to become.

They were naturally generally successful in socializing within a matter of time.

They stayed away from what made them look bad and always kept to what made them look

good.

They grew into this natural life of success in socializing since they were a child.

And even today they are constantly experimenting to see whether doing something will

make them more attractive or less attractive.

My natural friend got a girlfriend and told her in the start of their relationship that he was a

virgin.

After 3 weeks, he says "I've actually had sex 7 different times."

This was a lie, but he convinced her and he hoped that this would make him a much more

attractive person.

Boom, they break up. He goes "aww this sucks. oh well, i've been wanting to date this other

chick lately.. blablabla"

and then he nevers says the "i've had sex 7 different times" line ever again. especially after

saying that he's a virgin.

The point is that NATURALS ARE STILL LEARNING.

They always do what works and always avoid what doesn't work.

My natural friend grew up on Fresh Prince of Bel Air during middle school. He would always

use lines from Will Smith and always act just like Will.

Will was a natural on the show.

My friend was now a natural in real life.

My other natural friend grew up with an older brother who was a PIMP.

The older brother was his biggest influence. He acted just like him, used his lines, etc and

eventually my friend also became naturally very attractive.

All naturals model what works. They always do what's successful.

This is probably the most important trait of the natural because it will NATURALLY make you

become more successful in life.

Chapter 3 - Life, Intent, and HappinessLife, Happiness, Intentions, Focus, Getting, and Rapport

DISCLAIMER: The logistics of this chapter won't make sense on a conscious level.

However, it will make sense on a subconcious level.

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Intention – A function of the universe.

“Without intent, life is nonexistent.”

This is something I read in The Spontaneous Fulfillment of Desire by Deepak Chopra. Great

book by a great guy.

What does it mean? Well.. exactly that. Without intent, life is nonexistent. Think about it,

what are your intents right now? Why are you reading this? What do you want?

Life is full of intentions, and without them, we would not be where we are today.

Let’s travel back to the age of our beloved ancestors from millions of years ago.

What do you think their intentions were? Probably to reproduce and survive. Probably to be

safe and be a part of a tribe or society. Without those intentions, they would never have

had the motivation they wanted to actually mate and reproduce. Without their intentions,

we would seriously cease to exist.

“Who cares? I want to go back to smoking pot.”

Hold it right there. Where did your pot come from? Who gave it to you? How’d you obtain

it?

Serious questions. Those drug dealers had INTENTIONS of making money. Without their

intentions, you would have never been introduced to the crap.

And think about this computer you’re using right now. Who built it? Why would they want to

build it? Why did people invent this computer? They had INTENTIONS of making

technological advancements and making money to survive.

So intentions are really what make the world spin. They’re important! Everyone has

intentions too, and it’s important that they do.

Happiness

BUT… But.. why in the heck do we have intentions in the first place?

Well.. ask yourself why you want what you want.

Suppose it’s a $100 that you want.

Why do you want it?

“So that I can buy things.”

Why do you want to buy things?

“So that I’ll be happy.”

Happiness. Life is about happiness.

We are forced by our instincts to have intentions of being happy.

Without happiness, there is no intention. Without intention, there is no life.

This is why the unhappy are so weak. This is why the successful are happy.

Happiness is directly related to success of goals and making intentions become history.

Now let’s get into the roots of the “How To” part.

Driving Forces

There are two driving forces of people and their actions. Consequence driven and Intent

driven.

People will either do something because they WANT to or because they HAVE to (or else!)

Consequences are fears of the potential punishments that await if you don’t do what is

asked of you.

Intentions are happiness seeking and do this out of passion, desire, and pleasure.

If you want to be happy, you must be an intent driven person. Instead of thinking “If I don’t

do this, then I will lose something.” Start thinking “I want this, so I’m going to get it.”

You can already feel your potential happiness filling you up with emotions of joy.

Focus

Having the right structure of focus is also very important in obtaining happiness.

Just like driving forces, there are two ways of thinking about something.

Problem oriented focus vs Problem solving oriented focus

Some people will just think about all the problems they have. They’ll go on constantly

making themselves stressed by building up the tension inside them because of all their

problems.

Other people, however, will be smart and think about how to solve their problems. They

know they have problems. But they don’t focus on how bad things are as much as they

focus on making the bad things stop and not happen again.

So problem oriented thinking is: “I am fat. It sucks and people always make fun of me

because of it. I start to smell, and it’s all because I like to eat. Life sucks.”

Problem Solving oriented thinking is: “I am fat. I want to lose weight. I’ll start going on a

diet and start exercising more.”

Yes.

Intention vs Focus

Focusing on SOLVING your problems is the best way to think when coming across obstacles.

It helps you get rid of your problems instead of making them worse. It is directly related to

Intention.

In the fat example, the problem solving oriented thinker says “I am fat. I want to lose

weight. I’ll start going on a diet and start exercising more.”

He WANTS to lose weight. So he GOES on a diet. He has the intention to lose weight. He

has the intentions of going on a diet and exercising more.

He focuses on solving problems, resulting in having intentions, so he will become a happier

man.

Wanting vs Getting

Another part of happiness is just simply wanting something and actually getting it.

Let’s define the two terms in relevance.

Wanting: A Desire. Never ending. Nonexistent. Hasn’t happened yet.

Getting: A Fact. Going to happen. Historical. Gets results. Problem solved.

Which one’s better? I’d say Getting. Would you rather want a $100 or get a $100? (don’t

answer that)

But when you have an intention, make sure you focus on the right thing. Getting. Not

wanting, but Getting.

Ego Value vs Rapport Value

Value. What is value? Once again, two kinds.

Ego value is the classifying oneself as different from others.

In other words, thinking one is better or worse than someone else.

Rapport value is the potential amount of happiness one can bring unto others.

In other words, the more valuable you are, the more other people will be happy being

around you.

Ego: Separation, Classification, Competition, Comparison, Differentiation

Rapport: Commonalities, Bonding, Togetherness, We, Us, Oneness

“How does ego and rapport value relate to happiness?”

Wanting + Getting vs Ego + Rapport Value

An egotistic person always strives for more value. His desire to be better than everyone else

never stops. He always wants things. And it’s only in his mind that he is better than

someone else at something. Being better at something is a simple opinion. An opinion is not

a fact. Which means it’s not historical or real or existent. It’s a thought. And thoughts don’t

exist in physical reality. Thoughts are just a combination of memory and imagination. After

one dies, it fades away. It was never really there to begin with either. This means that the

value of ego is never really there. It fades away with time and it is forgotten.

A rapport building person gets validated from others. VALidation makes him VALuable. He is

the source of happiness of others. This value is historical because happiness is an emotion

and emotion is not an opinion. The action that people have validated him is a fact. It exists.

It’s true. It happened. Happiness is an exchange of a powerful emotion, which requires

energy. So in sense, the rapport valuable person is passing on his energy of happiness unto

others.

The first law of thermodynamics states that Energy cannot be created nor destroyed.

If people validate him, it’s a fact that he has energy. It was inside him the entire time. It

didn’t just appear out of nowhere. That’s against the first law. The energy of happiness was

possessed by him and he passed it onto others. This meaning the more you can make

others happy, the more happiness you will find out you possessed. (Because it can’t just

come out of nowhere)

What does this mean?

It means that everyone has potential to make others happy. It means that there is an

infinite amount of happiness in the universe and that it merely cycles through space over

time. It’s potential though. Everyone has that potential. But only the few that make others

happy will possess the kinetic energy inside their bodies (emotions).

The Big Picture

Here’s a summary of everything above. Life’s about happiness. Happiness can only be

obtained by having intentions. Intentions can turn into reality by focusing on GETTING what

one wants. One can GET HAPPINESS by having rapport value. Rapport value can be

obtained by making others around one happy. One will get true happiness only when he

makes others happy.

The feeling of happiness from making others feel worse is nonexistent because it’s not a fact

but it’s merely an opinion.

Chapter 4 - A Guide of RapportThe Importance of Rapport

Rapport is vital when socializing with others. It's the level of comfort between you and

something, whether it's your surroundings, your social circle, or a person/friend.

The more comfort you have with something, the more you'll be able to do things naturally

without having to feel like you need to fake yourself in order to be accepted. It's pretty

much the greatest thing on the face of this Earth.

I really feel that rapport is going to the main focus for high schoolers. Think back to the PUA

Gurus who say HB10s have 'bitch shields' because they want a valuable guy. Think back to

needing lots of social value to get girls.

Now forget them. You no longer have those concepts in your head any longer.

Here's a new concept: HB10s have 'bitch shields' to guys they don't feel comfortable

around. They want a guy who they feel very comfortable around and like they can be

themselves. Like they don't have to feel repressed about anything and that they can let

their true nature take over.

Makes sense right? Yep.

So the more a girl is comfortable around you, the better chance you have of 'scoring poon'.

I hate using that term.

However, however, the gurus were point on in saying you need 'value'. You need to make

them WANT to build rapport with you. They need motivation to want to be comfortable with

you. They can't take the time to become comfortable with everyone they meet! They're

hardwired to behave in such ways that require some sort of shields to protect themselves

against aggressors and dangerous people. So.. be sure you're someone that she won't

behave like this towards. Be someone who she wants to be comfortable with. I'll show ya

how soon.

But first, I want to introduce another concept: The more people you build rapport with, the

more value you will have.

The community emphasizes that you should talk to everyone, be a people person, and

simply go out there befriending everyone cool. That this is key in 'working the entire room'

and being the talkative guy.

Well.. you can do this by building rapport with everyone around you!! The more comfortable

you make them, the more comfortable they'll be in conversing with you, cracking jokes with

you, and having fun with you. And the more people you do this with, the more people will

talk about you to others.

Soon, you're always talking to somebody. And most of the people in the room know who

you are. And then when that HB10 comes in, and hears everyone talking about you, she'll

get curious. What's so special about you that EVERYONE loves you? Attraction right there =]

So now SHE'LL want to build rapport with you.

And remember, rapport is VITAL when it comes to hooking up with chicks.

Rapport Guide

Concept: Defining rapport and how it's built through FOCUS.

Rapport is the feeling of comfort with others.

To have something in common with someone is to have a feeling of "one-ness" with that

person.

So the more one mirrors and shows that one is very similar to one's mark, the more rapport

the mark will have towards one.

It is achieved when people have commonalities in things like:

- Lifestyles

- Events/Situation

- Social Circle

- Emotions

- Kinaesthetics

- Body language

- Vocal Tonality

- Gender

- Ethnicity

- Beliefs

- Personalities

It is very easy to build rapport. Since the conscious mind can only focus on one thing at a

time, the sub-conscious mind figures that what ever it is focusing on is pretty damn

important.

Everyone has so many things in common with each other. The only difference in the levels

of rapport are the amount of knowledge and focus that one has on another.

Examples of Concept:

Have you ever felt like you knew someone you just met really really well? It's because you

guys had direct rapport! There are many factors that contribute to rapport and sometimes

you and the other person could have totally different lives. This is because the focus was

NOT on the things that were different, but the things that were common.

You could go to a different classroom or lunch table and you would feel VERY uncomfortable

because you would have no rapport with anyone!! That is until someone 'breaks the ice' and

builds rapport!

You could find a girl very attractive and pretty, but you guys may have almost nothing in

common with each other as where you may find that you and a normal pretty girl to have

many things in common. Which one would you date if you were to? I'd say the normal

pretty girl.

Applying the concept:

So now you must know how to bring another person's focus on the commonalities that you

guys share.

This is done through: socializing!

Just talk about something you did the other day, while intentionally knowing that the other

person has done something very similar to it.

Talk about the feelings you got, the way your mom yelled at you, the way a friend made

you mad, and something that almost ANYONE has experienced!

This way, it doesn't matter who you are talking to, because that person has experienced the

same thing you have whether you and him like it or not!

Not only this, you can also 'mirror' the other person's body language, breathing rates, facial

expressions, moods, vibes, voice tonalities, and just everything that the person is showing

directly.

The point of the system is: Focus not the differences, but on the commonalities that you

share with another person.

Rapport on 4 Levels

There are 'four stages of rapport' that you can have with someone:

Cliche

This is when you and the person you are talking to don't really see anything in common with

each other and decide to talk about cliche things like "Nice weather today, ehh?" It's cliche

and boring. Both of you know there is nothing special between you two.

Factual

This is when facts are stated. Usually done between people who are in the same social circle

but aren't really "friends". They'll talk about facts like "So Jamie just got arrested the other

day." "I listen to music a lot too!"

Emotional

This is when you and someone else share feelings and emotions. You may say things like "I

absolutely looveee that movie." "Those make me sooo scared." "I really like her."

It shows you guys are comfortable in opening yourselves up to each other.

United

This is when terms like "we" "us" "together" "You and me" "each other" are mentioned. It

classifies BOTH of you into one entity. The ultimate level of rapport. You may say things like

"I love YOU." "I blablabla bout YOU." "WE should do this." "They are jealous of US."

for the I and You sentences, both are used, making a connection between the two.

Hugee creds to:

- NLP for Dummies - Kate Burton, Romilla Ready

- How To Talk To Anyone - Leil Lowndes

Chapter 5 - AttractionAttraction Switches

So there are many guys out there who have never even thought of the concept of

attraction. They think that a relationship is based off of purely looks and validation. FALSE.

Let me paint a picture we've all seen before. A guy goes up to a girl, tells her, "Wow, you

are so pretty. I mean REALLY pretty. I would love to go out with you sometime. No guy like

me deserves a girl as cute as you." The girl goes, "Oh.. thanks." The guy goes, "Would you

like to go out sometime?" And then the girl, "No thanks.. I uh.... already.. have.. I gotta go,

my friends are waiting for me in the bathroom. Bye."

The guy's thinking, "Why didn't she go out with me? Is it my breath? Am I ugly? What's the

problem?" Here's the problem: Just because a guy validates a girl doesn't mean she has to

like him back. Validating shows no idea of who the guy is, what he does, why she should

date him instead of the other hundred guys in line, and how he's attractive. A girl will only

like someone she's ATTRACTED to. The definition of attraction is the feeling of liking. So

why in the world would a guy want to validate a girl who doesn't even know who he is or

isn't even sure whether or not she will like him??

This is why people need to project themselves when meeting others. They need to show

that they are actually very fun, energetic, and well-rounded. The best part is that most

people share what they think is and isn't attractive. This is why a list of all the attractive

characteristics one can possess is so helpful. The majority of the world WILL find these

attractive. Let's get started!

An attraction switch is something that all women find attractive in men.

First of all, you have to know what David DeAngelo

preaches: ATTRACTION IS NOT A

CHOICE.

You don't get to choose how attractive another person is. When you talk to girls and you

show the right characteristics, they WILL fall for you. They can't help it. You decide.

Check out http://highschoolpuas.proboards.com/inde....play&thread=283 for more info.

The list + why:

• Pre-Selection

Women will instinctively be attracted to a man who already has other women

wanting him and talking about him. It makes him come off like a... 'toy'... that all

the other girls have and like she's missing out on something amazing. Hard to

explain common sense.

• Leader

Women like men who lead others and help others succeed. Back in time when we

were cavemen, we had groups of people, called Tribes. Every tribe had a leader,

and that leader was a man. All the women wanted to have HIS babies, not the other

dozens of men. He would be the one who would be the BEST at protecting her and

her children. He would be the one who was better than everyone else and was

chosen to be leader. Make sense? This 'theory' is very very well known by NORMAL

people who aren't PUAs either. It's also the basis of why women find certain

attributes attractive in men.

• Fun

Fun. When you have fun, it shows that everything is going your way and that

everything in your life is going the way you want. If you're not having fun, it seems

like you're under some stress and you have some huge problem on your shoulders.

This sends out a negative vibe and people won't want to hang out with you. If you

are having fun, then people will want to be a part of the fun you are having and will

want to hang out with you.

• Willingness to Emote

Imagine a robot who you could have conversations with like it was an actual person,

but it spoke in monotone and had no facial/body expressions. Boring, right? It's

good to be emotional about things. That's not to say make a big deal out of

everything like an immature brat, but simply to have feelings for others. Matador

has a sweet example where he was at dinner with his girlfriend, his brother, and his

bro's gf and he said, "Bro, I just love you so much and I'm very very thankful to

have you as my brother."

He also sang a song later on that night. Although he had an average voice with

average singing skills, his GF was soo amazed by his willingness to emote.

Guess who got laid that night? Yeah, Matador.

• Being Merciful

No one likes the person who will be so mean and immature as to HURT someone

when they don't have to. There's a music video for a song called Agape by For

Today. Agape means Christian Love. In the video, a guy is constantly bullying

another guy in school. Later on, the bully pushes the kid in the hallways, and

everyone is screaming FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT! The kid grabs the bully's collar, looks

him straight in the eye, and then let's him go.

Everyone knew he could well have easily beat the bully up. But he didn't even

though he could. He showed mercy. Guess who got a kiss at the end of the music

video?

• Protector of Loved Ones

Choose the person who you think is much cooler:

Person 1: A man's brother calls him and asks if he could take care of his niece. The

man agrees. The 7 year old niece comes over and they go to the store to buy some

groceries. As they're leaving, the girl trips and falls. The man laughs his niece and

doesn't even care about the fact that she has a scratch on her elbow.

Person 2: A man's brother calls him and asks if he could take care of his niece. The

man agrees. The 7 year old niece comes over and they go to the store to buy some

groceries. As they're leaving, the girl trips and falls. The man hugs her, and

comforts her telling her that it's just a tiny scratch that'll go away. He treats her to

some ice cream for being a big brave girl.

Do I even have to explain?

• Having a deep voice

So women like men who show a sense of maturity. Maturity is strongly correlated

with age. The older someone is, the more mature he is. Mature men are believed to

have deep and soothing voices. George Clooney is well known by women for his

sexy voice. Also, talk with Dante from this forum. His voice will be a very alpha

male kind of voice. It's attractive, it just is.

• Being Relaxed

Very much relates to having fun. You have nothing to be worried about, everything

is okay. Being relaxed shows this. Having relaxed facial expressions, a relaxed

voice, and relaxed gestures are essential when coming off as attractive. Relax your

shoulders, relax your chest and stomach, relax your face and arms. Nice, ain't it?

• Making deep eye contact

Girls really really like a guy with cute eyes.

It's easy to have cute eyes though, there are two factors: eye contact + eye health.

Make sure you stay healthy and have lots of rest so your eyes wont be blood shot.

And when you talk with people, hold eye contact. The entire time. The girls will fall

in love with you and the guys will open up as friends in no time. It shows you have

nothing to hide and that you respect them. It's attractive, do it.

• Having things in common

A huuugeee part of making a girl attracted to you is making her believe you guys

pretty much share the same life. This makes her soo much more comfortable

around you and she feels like someone finally understands her. So always try to

focus on the commonalities you and your girl share, not how different you guys are.

• Having a passion/Having goals in life

Having goals in life is probably one of the important things a man will need. Without

having reason or intent, you won't get anywhere in life. You need to show you're

trying to improve your own self and your life. You need to talk about all the things

you really have an interest in and you need to put emotion into it.

• Being Smart and Intelligent

Being intelligent is also something that many girls find attractive. It shows you are

smart enough to survive and that you will be able to plan things out and lead them

through hardships and such. A stupid person won't be able to do this, but a smart

one will.

• Being Physically Fit

This ties in with the whole survival thing. It won't matter how smart you are if your

body won't behave as your mind wishes. If you're fat and plump and you have a

bad heart, how will you be able to do the hard physical labor a man does?

• Being Successful

Whatever your passion/goal is, you better damn be successful. If you fail at

something you tried at, you need to start fixing things up. Failure is something that

shows "There are people who are better than him because they can do this but he

can't." Always strive for success, it'll come eventually.

• Willingness to Walk Away

This just shows that you are not desperate of anything that a girl might have and

that you have a lot of options when it comes to girls. This automatically turns on

other switches like pre-selection. Whenever a set starts going muddy, just walk

away for a bit and come back when you're refreshed.

• Social Proof

This is probably the single most important attractive trait a high school PUA should

possess when it comes to gaming in one's own social circle. You should be seen as

everybody's friend, but the kind that people actually like. NOT the ones that just..

hang around everyone else. Make sure everyone knows who you are, and why

you're so damn cute. Best way to get value is to have other people in your social

circle tell others all about you. You didn't even have to do anything but be nice,

which I hope comes naturally.... lol

• Being Older

This ties in with being mature and responsible. Being older is a solid attraction

switch that will never fail. All girls love older men. Let me say that again: ALL GIRLS

LOVE OLDER MEN. Now there's a certain line that says "He's too old for me.", but

when you're 2-4 years older than a girl, most likely she'll already put you above

other guys on her 'guys i'd like to fuck' list. So what am I saying? Try to make

yourself look older, grow a beard, make yourself look 'bigger'. And there's nothing

wrong with picking up girls 1-2 years younger than you, as long as they're hot. ;]

Bestfriend-Boyfriend Method

I've been telling a lot of people about this 'method' lately, and it's pretty well known, even

outside of the community. I've just decided to give it a name.

Long story short: You treat her only as a friend, so that she's comfortable to be around you,

all the while making her fall in love with you. At the very end, you 'fall in love with her too',

and you become her boyfriend.. or just fuck.

Step 0: Attraction

Although girls come in all shapes and forms, they all have one thing in common: what kind

of guys they're attracted to.

Attraction is not a choice, as told by David DeAngelo.

You must make yourself more attractive by fixing those small things like:

- general facial expression: shows freedom, power, and happiness. doesn't show stress,

sadness, bad feelings.

- vocal tonality: deep, loud, solid, soothing (etc.)

- body language: confident, relaxed, nice posture

- alpha male: standing up for yourself, having standards, etc.

you've heard these soo much times i dont think it's necessary to state all of them.

also, all of this stuff should be done subconsciously, otherwise known as "done naturally".

so it's really a matter of fixing your habits.

(Situational) Step 1: Social Value

Only if there is some sort of shield such as "in school two people may not socialize if they

are not in the same social circle or are in the same class" or if it simply involves where the

girl already has a big social circle of her own around her, then you MUST show social value.

So quickly befriend one of them if you already havent, preferably a cool attractive dude, and

become buds. The girls will notice him, and you, and associate you two as similar,

ATTRACTIVE. Social value just shows one thing: how friendly you are and how cool you are.

So just be friendly to the guys and truly become their friends.

This step may be ignored in venues like bars, uptown, concerts, festivals, day-game

venues, get the general idea?

Step 2: Being A Great Friend

Next comes being able to make others feel good and laugh.

This comes from having fun yourself!~! Focus on having fun and feeling good. Avoid the

stress from 'needing to get chicks' or 'having to be an alpha'. just fuck all that for once and

just let yourself go free. have fun, dont give a fuck about people who say stupid stuff or

give negative vibes and enjoy yourself. eventually you'll become naturally calibrated so that

your sense of humor will be at a certain point that anyone around you will laugh and have a

good time. this may be a trait you already possess, Great =]

Others, just give it time. I used to be horrible, now i'm great!!

Just focus on three things:

- Being Obnoxious (being able to act silly and crazy focusing purely on making yourself

laugh and have fun)

- Being Witty (being able to give a shit about what others say so that you'll have things to

branch off of right away instead of having awkward pauses)

- Being Unpredictable (being able to make people never know what you're going to do next.

ex: You: "I want some COOKIES." hb: "haha why??" You: "DONT QUESTION ME!!!!")

Always try to perceive your target as a close friend who happens to look very cute.

Everyone has them ya know... Just purposely try to make your relationship not romantic

and just flirty friends.

The best part about this is.. you can keep as many girls you want at this stage.. so that

they'll be good and ready to move to the next phase whenever YOU want.

A lot of naturals have tons of girls at this level, and they only have 2-3 on step 3 at once.

Step 3: Kino -> Close

Eventually, she'll see you as a really cute and funny guy and she'll fall in love with you.

The IOIs will be hard to spot because she doesnt want to look bad for 'liking a best friend'.

So as soon as YOU FEEL comfortable enough to kiss or anything like that, Go For It.

Chapter 6 - Growing UpThe Goal of Life

This is pretty much just like all the other posts I've been making for the past couple of

months.

It focuses heavily on mindset and beliefs.

Soo many people ask "How do I become more confident? How do I get rid of my shyness?

How do I become funnier?"

The answer is very very simple: Be Happy.

Happiness is a word all my successful friends use along with me. It's a word of greatness.

Let's define it:

Happiness -

good fortune; pleasure; contentment; joy. (Dictionary.com)

a state of well-being and contentment. a pleasurable or satisfying experience (merriam-

webster.com/dictionary/happiness)

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And here's the best part: Every desire we have is a specific kind of happiness.

The desire for love.

The desire for attention.

The desire for power.

The desire for intelligence.

The desire for wealth.

The desire for skill.

The desire for EVERYTHING.

ALL OF THESE ARE FORMS OF HAPPINESS.

So what do we live for? Why do we try so hard to relieve our desires?

Simple Again: To Be Happy.

So all these little goals in life sum up to one ULTIMATE goal in life: To Be Happy.

Not only is happiness a 'goal', but it's also the greatest motivator of man-kind.

We strive for happiness. We do things to be happy. We WANT happiness.

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So how does all of this fit in with your problems of being shy and quiet? Of being rejected?

Of being lonely?

You can not simply use logic to motivate your emotions. No.

You can not simply just say "I need to push my comfort zone." to actually push your

emotions away and do it.

The EASIEST way to get rid of shyness and anxiety is to replace these emotions with that of

happiness.

The feelings one gets when he feels anti-social, unaccepted, embarrassed, are all very

negative. They are NEGATIVE.

So many successful people advise the world to think POSITIVELY.

They do this by word of mouth, by writing books, and much more.

But how can one think positively while all these negative emotions are instilled inside

them??!!!

Simple AGAIN: As important thinking Positively is, it is absolutely useless without FEELING

Positive.

Focus on the emotion of happiness. Focus on how happy you will feel when you do what you

KNOW is right and will lead you to your goals.

Forget your negative thoughts. They can not be fixed, but they can be forgotten from your

mind. You can be focusing on Happy thoughts and feelings.

Instead of trying to solve your problems of negative thoughts and feelings, make GOALS

with positive thoughts and feelings.

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How does this even work???

Okay fine. Look at the successful people. What about them would you say they all have in

common??

Could it be that they are HAPPY????????

Could it be that they are having fun, smiling and laughing, telling jokes, respecting others,

being nice, and simply living in a world of positivity?

Are they even thinking about BEING ALPHA and BEING HIGH VALUE??

Of course not. So stop trying to model and simply become. Become one of them.

Become the person who also simply focuses on having fun, laughing, enjoying life, sensing

pleasures.

Become the person who doesn't even have the concepts of Alpha, High Value, etc.

Become the Natural.

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So enough "How do I blablabla"

Simply say it:

"I want to have fun."

"I want to laugh."

"I want to be successful."

And then turn those phrases from WANT into WILL

"I will have fun."

"I will laugh."

"I will be funny."

"I will make friends."

And when you achieve these points, go from WILL to AM.

"I am having fun."

"I am fun."

"I am laughing."

"I am enjoying life."

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So overall, the point of life is to be happy. Happiness is the ultimate motivator. Negative

feelings and thoughts can only be Forgotten, not fixed. Forget and start over. Start over

with POSITIVE goals. Start over to be Happy and have fun and sense pleasure.

Being Rational

A big part about growing up mentally and just becoming more mature is being able to be

rational. Rationality is what keeps people sane along with helping them protect their self-

esteems. For example, a guy may play basketball one day and not be able to make a single

basket. If he is rational, he will be able to tell himself, "It's okay. Although I'm frustrated I

haven't made a SINGLE basket, I've just been very tired today due to a lack of sleep. I'll

just sleep early today and try again tomorrow."

This is what keeps him determined instead of having him give into his emotions. His mind

dominated his emotions. This is what makes him mature.

So how exactly does one become rational? Three great tools have helped me become a

more rational person: Look at the facts, not the emotions. Ask yourself questions in order to

look at the situation clearly. Don't be so emotionally serious.

Looking at the facts have been extremely helpful for me. Let's say I'm having a bad day

because I feel like no one likes me. Well, I just think back to the events that occurred rather

than what I felt at the moment. All that really happened was that I was being quiet in front

of my friends and they chose to talk to other people because they didn't want to get sucked

in by my dead vibe. If I had only put a smile on and started some convo with them, I would

not have felt so anti-social. I also learned that the more time one spends not socializing, the

harder it will become for one to go back to socializing.

If I had looked at this from a completely emotional standpoint, I would have only felt that I

felt very tired. And my friends ignored me. I became sad. And yet no one cared for me. This

made me miserable. Bad emotions are useless.

So looking at the facts have not only made me realize I didn't really need to feel sad, but

also taught me a lesson of socializing. How useful.

Another thing I do when I feel bad or stressed is ask myself questions. Let's say I feel very

stressed out. A dialogue in my head:

"Why do I feel stressed?"

"Because I'm late for school."

"Why is that bad?"

"My parents will find out."

"So?"

"They'll ground me."

"So just because they ground me means I have to be a big baby about it?"

"uhh..."

"Who cares. What happens happens. Make the best of it."

"How?"

"Read a book, draw a picture, or just have fun doing what you love."

"But I like to text friends and use my laptop."

"So that's all there is to pleasing my life?"

"Well.. I've always had a passion for.."

"THEN DO IT. NO ONE'S STOPPING ME."

There's always a positive side to things. One can find out what that positive side is by doing

things like asking oneself questions.

Lastly, one must learn not to overreact. One must realize that an event is probably NOT as

big of a deal as it seems and then MOST events are very insignificant to life. Suppose you

fart in class and people hear it. You may feel embarrassed for about five seconds, and then

you'll either be done with it or make too big of a deal about it. Is it really that big of a deal?

Will it make you lose your friends? Will it give you cancer? No. It's not important in the big

picture of your life. So if you're one of the people who like to exaggerate situations, start

becoming aware of the fact that not many things in life are very important.

Being Disciplined

The biggest difference between a mature man and a childish boy is how disciplined he is

with his actions. Why is this?

Let's look at the classic story of "The Tortoise and the Hare" by Aesop. The hare and the

tortoise decide to race each other one day. The hare is obviously the faster of the two, so he

takes the lead. But his egotistical emotions get to him, leading to his decision of taking a

nap.

When he wakes up, he sees the tortoise very close to the finish line, and dashes towards

the line himself. Ultimately, the tortoise wins the race and the hare loses because of his

pride.

What was the tortoise doing the whole time? Well, the tortoise was a lot slower than the

hare, but he kept on reaching for his goal, and he was determined. Although the race may

have been tiring for him, he did not give up. He withheld his emotions and motivated

himself with his mentality. This is a very important characteristic of the mature man.

Remember that the point of life is to be happy. Well, there are many situations in life where

one is faced with the problem of being happy now or being happy later. There's the high

school student who's having a blast right now, but will soon grow up and graduate to be

nothing more than a garbage man held up in stressful debts. There's the hard working

student who will grow up to be a successful doctor, lawyer, businessman, etc.

On a more specific note, let's think about Bobby. Bobby has to take the SAT tomorrow

morning. His logical mind tells him to stay home and get some nice rest. His emotional side

tells him to go out with his friends and get stoned for the night. Bobby decides to be

rational. He knows that the SAT is a much bigger deal than just a night out with his

buddies. He decides he can give up just one night of partying. After all, the SAT is only

taken about one or two times. Partying can happen any day!

One must learn to put one's emotions aside for just one moment and think rationally. "What

is more important, smoking with my friends all night long or studying for the test that'll

determine my future college?"

Let's look at some everyday problems:

- Test tomorrow. Watch TV all night or give up 30 minutes to study?

- You finish your soft drink in the road. Litter it now or throw away in your garage later?

- You promise to pay a friend back $5. The next day, you have $5, but you want to buy

candy. Return the money or buy the candy?

- You're taking a jog. You feel very tired and want to walk, but you're only a few minutes

away from finishing. Walk and defeat the purpose of taking a long jog or continue jogging

and efficiently succeed with your goal?

If you decided to be logical about it, you probably picked: studying, throw away the drink in

the garage later, return the money, and continue jogging. We all have emotions of laziness

and carelessness. But we must learn that it really isn't a problem if we go against our

emotions and with our moral logistics. This is how we become men.

<33 Grape

Chapter 7 - Social SituationsGetting Rid of Insecurities

Why are people insecure?

They believe that the society is based on things that they can not fix about themselves thus

get very frustrated.

The society is NOT based entirely on looks, fame, wealth, clothes, etc.

There are many people who are ugly, short, fat, have birth defects, that have dated

supermodels.

In my first few months of pick up, I was getting results and I was impressed. However, I

was deceived because I thought this would give me ultimate happiness. But truth is, I lost a

lot of my friends being soo into the pick up scene and I felt worse. I had so many

depressing ideas going through my head and I was sad.

This is because I would put sooo much effort into the game and think "I HAVE to do this in

order to get what I want." "I HAVE to say this and do that to do this."

The thing about getting girls however, is that YOU HAVE TO BE A COOL PERSON. You can't

fake it. EVER. I've been there and done that. DOESN'T WORK. They find out who you

REALLY are eventually and they'll crush you completely. So now instead of focusing on "How

do I get girls?"

Focus on "How do I become a fun and happy person?"

Being a fun and happy person will benefit you in MANY MANY ways:

- Relieve stress

- Give confidence

- Have natural talent in many fields of intelligences

Take a look at yourself. What do you do on the weekends? How often do you get out of the

house and actually LAUGH and HAVE FUN.

So start making plans, get new friends, and get out there. I know how you feel "Get new

friends?? How will I be able to do that?? Ahh!!"

You have to be a man. You have to take on the challenge in order to get the big prize.

Otherwise you'll live the same boring unsatisfying life you've been living for the past years.

Be dedicated to this and think about the prize to motivate yourself. "This is all I have to do

in order to achieve happiness."

Also, you must know that others don't make you feel bad, YOU make you feel bad. Instead

of hating the actions of a person, you must learn to love.

I have a friend who is very insecure with himself and always tries way too hard to get

attention. He makes fun of other people, but not in a funny way. It's hurtful and sometimes

others cry. Even I used to be affected by his act and I was miserable because of him. I

avoided him for the next 5 months. But again, he came back into my life. By then however,

I was a different person and didn't feel the pain I once felt before.

5 months ago, when he was trying to make fun of me and make me look bad, I was

extremely angered by the fact that a friend would stoop so low.

Now, I feel that I don't have to be angered by this. Who cares if this kid is trying to make

me look bad. I know that he's just putting an act on and that if I remain unreactive for long

enough, then he will stop. I understand where he's coming from with his insecurities so I'm

not pissed at him either, I feel bad for him. I know that no matter how hard this kid tries,

he can only get LUCKY with his act. Sometimes he'd steal my girls away from me because I

was affected by his immature behavior. Now I'm a real friend and tell him "Dude, just be

cool. No one's after you."

This isn't a premade line. It came from my heart. I want him to be able to love the world

surrounding him instead of feeling that he has to prove himself all the time.

Also, I used to feel horrible when people told me I was useless and stupid and immature

and childish. Who in the world would want to be labeled like this??

I cried.

Now, I say "Hey, don't be so mean man, it's not cool."

When I first said this, it was out of protecting my ego. When it worked, I was soo happy and

I realized that I don't have to feel bad when people call me names. I feel so good right now

even after he called me stupid and immature because I know how to make him shut up and

stop being immature himself by calling others names.

Sometimes however, there will be a GROUP of people who make fun of you. I'm talking

20-30 people. They'll all call you stupid and useless, but the thing is that they are human

and they won't stand up for you just because they have their own insecurities and don't

want to lose their popularity.

What you can do in situations like these is BLOCK THEM OUT. I'm serious. Don't try to

'prove yourself'. I tried it. I thought "Wow, I'm a real alpha now. I hope they'll like me."

No. Bad feelings give a person too much stress. Stay away from those. Humans aren't

invincible and we can only have a strong attitude for only such a long time.

Also, realize that emotions don't have any strong a connection to the things happening

around you.

Emotion is a feeling you have.

An action is something that has happened.

"A person called me stupid and fat."

"Am I stupid and fat?"

"I don't think so.."

"Well, he IS insecure. He was just trying to get some attention."

"Aww, poor little thing."

"Oh well, why does it mean I have to be all sad and moody just because another insecure

and immature person called me stupid and fat. I'm not that pathetic. I'm going to now stop

talking about this and move on with life because one little insult like that shouldn't hold me

back from doing great things. I control my life and I control my own limitations. Other

people can't tell me what to do."

Overall:

1. Change your lifestyle to avoid boring/stressful people/things and go for more exciting/fun

hobbies/friends.

2. Don't take insults to heart. A person who is cool will never insult out of pure anger, only

the insecure will insult so harshly. Use this to your advantage, don't get affected by it, and

tell the person that it's not nice, because it really isnt.

3. Avoid the big groups of people who share a bad feeling. No one wants to talk or

experience the feeling of sadness, anger, depression, etc. AVOID BAD FEELINGS AND GO

FOR FUN FEELINGS.

4. Give it time. It took me 10 months. But ONLY 10 months, I now have so many years in

front of me I DON'T have to spend with stress, depression, and insecurities.

I really hope you guys take this advice into heart. It WILL improve your lifestyle and health.

Misconceptions of Popularity

The world of adolescent teenagers today is one full of confusion, insecurities, and

unpredictability. Every teenager desires to express his or her pubescent instincts of

experimenting to gain Value, Power, and Control.

For these 3 things, some start changing their habits completely. To exemplify, a teenage

guy may start smoking and get involved in other various drugs NOT for the emotional hype

or the sensual pleasures, but for the SOCIAL VALUE they may get from doing these things.

Hollywood today strongly stereotypes the 'groups' in high school.

- There are the asshole football jocks who enjoy smoking weed and fucking women in the

backseat of their car.

- There are the mindless rockers who deal drugs and smoke A LOT of shit.

- There are the slutty cheerleaders who smoke cigarettes, get drunk with men, and love

having sex.

All of these 'groups' are seen as those of high value people. and as growing children, we are

bombarded with cliche movies and tv shows that show the stereotypes of these high value

social circles.

As middle schoolers, kids start modeling them. They start becoming these Hollywood

stereotyped people and start digging themselves in a hole that'll be very hard to step out of

once they face a reality check.

As the kids start going into high school and start maturing, one by one they realize they've

been living a lie. They either change for the better or worse. Some step out to fix their

lifestyles and others just keep on digging their hole.

Most high schoolers know that these cliche models that Hollywood presents to us are not

natural at all. They know that these models aren't high value, or even cool. And they

become more realistic with themselves.

But there are the handful of people in high school who still see these people as cool and

socially valuable. It is for these people that this article will matter the most. Let's begin.

Before we start getting into the misconceptions of social value, let's define what exactly

social value is.

Social value is the amount of respect, admiration, and friendship that a person has from

other people.

This automatically shows that assholes, bitches, and sluts do NOT have much social value.

People are annoyed and angered by them.

"Wait wait wait, I know a kid at my school who is a complete DICK to everyone but is still

invited to all the parties and hangs out with the cool crowd. How can this be?"

Simply put, this guy is PLEASING to people in another way. Maybe he's funny. Maybe he's

the real cool kids' lap dog. Maybe he's nice to people that he only needs to be nice to.

So okay, this guy hangs out with people will social value. But he is NOT respected or

admired. These kind of people are known as TOOLS.

You will notice that not everyone likes him and that many people talk shit behind his back.

You will notice he is especially nice to those who have high social power and is a complete

dick to those who have low social power.

This guy does not have social value. He is simply used by those who actually have it.

Capiche?

Here's another easily misconceived fellow: The tall, scary looking kid who doesn't talk much.

He is seen hanging around the cool crowd. But he rarely opens his mouth. He smiles every

now and then, but something about him just scares you.

This guy, my friend, is actually not that scary at all. The fact that he doesn't talk much

shows one of two things:

- He's Shy.

- He's Mad/Sad/Caught in something else.

These two indicate that he does NOT have social value. He is probably very talkative to only

a handful of people. But he doesn't know how to work a big set or work a group of

strangers.

This guy isn't an asshole nor a really cool guy. He's just a normal guy who happens to be

shy in social situations.

Stop seeing this tall guy as extremely cool, rather get to know him and decide whether or

not you want him as your friend.

In my own personal experience, I have yet to meet one of these guys who is an asshole. In

fact, one of my best friends is one of these guys, and he's a very nice person. Just a little

shy is all.

Let's start looking into the girls.

Think about Ms. Bitchy Cheerleader. She's SURROUNDED by other women and they're all

pretty bitchy. How are these girls ever seen as popular? They're not pleasing to people or

friendly. All they do is hang out with popular guys and get drunk with them.

Look at it this way: The popular guys are the ones with the social value. The cheerleaders

are only going to go after the best. Other than that, they're too busy to be friends with

every guy in the school.

Of course the cheerleaders will be admired (a trait of social value). They get to hang out

with the cool guys!

But are they themselves are nothing without these guys. Without these guys, they would be

down in the food chain.

This is why you'll notice that the ugly girls who have no hot friends are all the way on the

bottom. They have no valuable guys who'll hang out with them. Those guys have hotter

girls to do.

This 'bitchy' thing about cheerleaders brings me to my next point. Girls who are bitches to

strangers. Girls love power as much as men do. They'll do anything it takes to get it. This is

why many of them like to be bitchy to people. Bitchiness is shown as a high value

characteristic by HOLLYWOOD.

But are they truly valuable? Absolutely not. They're insecure of who they really are and are

afraid many people won't like them. So they put on this fake mask, and unfortunately many

many chumps who are also living with the Hollywood mindset let them get away with this.

These girls are very very easily seduced. Show the slighest bit of social value and they'll be

very very attracted to you. But one thing you MUST do is be friendly. Being friendly shows

that you're a nice guy and that you probably have a lot of social value. It also helps her

open up and be herself around you.

A misconception of this is that one has to be VERY VERY VERY friendly. DO NOT DO THIS. If

you come off as TOO friendly, it'll just be plain on creepy and obvious what you're trying to

do. Why would anyone be THAT nice to someone they don't even know??

We will get into this more later on in the book.

So now you know. Social value is the amount of respect, admiration, and friendship one

receives from others. Acts of being stuck up, unfriendly, and mad are not true signs of

social value rather impositions made by Hollywood. Girls who act this way are the easiest to

break down. Be generally friendly to people, but don't be too friendly for it may come off as

creepy.

Another Way to Lose Approach Anxiety

I lost AA in a different way than most of the people who've shared their successes here.

MOST of them just say "You have nothing to lose." and simple motivational lines going

through their heads.

The fact that they pushed themselves to get rid of their fears is great.. but we can't really

trust them unless we get an explanation of why we have anxiety now and how it disappears.

Once you get past AA, you start to realize things about society.

You realize that people are very similar. They all have the same emotions inside them and

will all react similarly to the same situations, unless they're mentally handicapped.

You realize that there's always a connection between people whether it be good or bad.

There's a dominating mutual feeling.

Rapport.

You need to realize that people are just like you. They're not people who want to reject

others and make them feel like shit. They don't want to live with the guilt of having put

someone down. They're at the damn club to have fun. Don't you want to have fun when you

goto a club? (yes.)

Boom. You already have something in common. And then you realize that person also deals

with the drama and problems just like you. You moan about how you're loveless as where a

woman maybe moaning about how she has to find a well paying job soon. I could go on

forever, but I think you know that everyone as people share commonalities.

You establish rapport(Comfort) by feeling more of a "one-ness" to something. The more

rapport you have, the less anxiety (uncomfortable feeling) you get.

Now you have this concept, the only thing you have to work on is... "I'm just like other

people."

Don't focus on negative statements like "I'm not a loser. I'm not an outcast. I'm not

womanless." Focus on positives lie "I'm going to get laid, I'm just like other people."

After you complete this process, go sarging.

I hope you don't miss Mr. AA too badly ;]

Chapter 8 - Last Minute Tips- Don't be the douche bag who hates everyone and acts tough.

- Always be nice to people.

- The easiest way to get girls is to be CUTE and FUNNY.

- Always smile when meeting someone or when meeting a friend.

- Don't be a poser who acts like he knows everything.

- Don't share any bad thoughts.

- Don't do/say anything that may offend anyone.

- Know when to stop being obnoxious.

- Be silly. Most of the time.

- Know when to be serious.

- Be funny. Laugh.

- Don't judge people.

- Be sarcastic.

- Stand up straight.

- Talk clearly.

---- Fun + Joy + Happiness + Pleasure

---- Become friends with everyone INCLUDING guys AND girls

---- Care for how you look

---- Talk with energy. Be Loud and Clear.

---- Be enthusiastic and put emotion into your voice.

---- Always try to make everyone feel BETTER and have more FUN.

---- Be silly and cute.

---- Don't take shit from anyone.

---- Laugh everything off.

---- Always look at the bright side.

---- Don't always be so tired or pissed or anything that is NOT being fun and energetic.

---- Don't OVERDO it.

---- Always accept invitations and opportunities. (Yes Man)

- dont be negative, or say anything which is negative

- always be positive

- dont be arrogant to cover up for any insecurities

- dont be nice to the point where you are covering up for short comings

-don't be a closeminded dick who thinks he's the greatest thing since sliced bread

-don't be ignorant (same thing as first point)

-don't dwell so much on the past/your mistakes

-DONT TELL PEOPLE WHAT THEY WANT TO HEAR

-form your own opinions/views/beliefs, EVEN IF THEY DISAGREE WITH OTHERS (which they

will)

-don't act like everything will be given to you, take some INITIATIVE

-don't try and befriend people because you want something from them

-don't TRY. AT ALL.

-Relax

-Chill back

-Have fun

-Don't worry about it

-Do what you want

-Have some more fun

- Avoid sitting in the corner jamming out to your iPod (Trust me, I know its hard)

- Don't brag (nobody likes braggers...even if you scored that amazing winning touchdown or

took the hottest girl at school to your room and @!%^?$)

- If people continue to shit on you there is no reason to continue trying to be friends with

them, let them try to be yours

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