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Gift-giving processes in at-risk couples: “Straining” the joy out of holiday giving
Peter A. Caprariello
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Evidence for indirect influences of holidays on the course of relationships: • Commemorative events maintain relationships. (Dindia & Baxter, 1987)
• Increased stress hinders adaptive processes. (Neff & Karney, 2004)
• Interactions with in-laws deplete. (Bryant, Conger, & Meehan, 2001)
• Scrutinization of at-risk relationships catalyzes break-ups. (Morse & Neuberg, 2004)
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One useful framework for conceptualizing the influence of holidays on relationship functioning:
The Vulnerability-Stress-Adaptation model of marriage (Karney & Bradbury, 1995)
Holidays? ?
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Source: informationisbeautiful.net, 2010; David McCandless
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Holidays
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What are the micro-level, behavioral processes? And why?
I propose that gift-giving during holidays may create conditions similar to a “test” of the partner’s communal intentions.
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“Strain-tests” in relationships.
Strain test: one partner is highly dependent on an actor, and the partner perceives a conflict of interest. (Kelley, 1979)
Benefiting the partner (at the actor’s expense) can be said to be diagnostic of the actor’s pro-relationship intentions.
This process repeated is the foundation of trust-building, as long as the attribution is stable and internal. (Holmes & Rempel, 1989; Kelley, 1979; Simpson, 2007)
When satisfaction is low, attributions can be less charitable, in the sense that partner behavior can be explained by external forces. (Neff & Karney, 2003)
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Do holidays create strain-tests?
Condition 1 is met: Gift-giving creates dependencies. Condition 2 is met: Thoughtful gift-giving requires effortful action.
He’sjustgoingthroughthemotionslikeeveryoneelse…
He’sbeenthoughtfullyplanningforthisdayinordertosurpriseme…
[Strain test = dependency + a perceived conflict of interest.]
At-risk couples may be more prone than satisfied couples to attribute partner gift-giving to obligation motives (and vice versa).
What kinds of diagnoses might then be made?
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Finally, do attributions of my partner’s intentions affect my experience of giving?
• The act of gift-giving per se is pleasurable (Dunn, Aknin, & Norton, 2008) and pro-relationship. (Aknin, Sandstrom, Dunn, & Norton, 2011)
• Givers’ motives influence this pleasure, especially when motives: • Reflect duty or obligation (negative) • Reflect thought and care (positive) (Caprariello & Reis, in prep)
• Here I examined the joy of gift-giving as a function of perceived partner intentions. (see Beck & Clark, 2010; Murray, Holmes, & Collins, 2006)
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Baselinerela*onshipsa*sfac*on
Biasedpercep*onsofpartner’smo*ves:Obliga*on
Happinessfromgiving
Theconceptualmodelvisualized:
Biasedpercep*onsofpartner’smo*ves:Though=ulness
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Important note: The links in these models represent actor effects, but estimating biased perceptions requires controlling for
partner effects.
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Method
• 119undergraduatecouplesatStonyBrookUniversity
• 1-3daysbeforeValen*ne’sDay(t1):• Towhatextentareyougivingbecauseyouhaveto?(5items)• Towhatextentisyourpartnergivingbecausehe/shehadto?• Towhatextentareyougivingbecauseyouwanttomakeyourpartnerhappy?(5items)
• Towhatextentisyourpartnergivingbecausehe/shewantstomakeyouhappy?
• Howsa*sfiedareyouinyourrela*onshiprightnow?(3items)• 1-5daysaRerValen*ne’sDay(t2):
• Whenthinkingabouthowyouspentyourmoneyonyourpartner,howhappyareyou?(3items)
• Bothmembersofthecouplecompletedaseriesofreports.• Actor-PartnerInterdependenceModeldesign
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Characteris*csofthecouples
• 302individualswererecruitedatt1(142M,160F).• 64individualsprovideddatabuttheirpartnerdidnot(23F,41M).• Theremaining238individualscomprised119fullcouples.
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• Ofthe302recruitedatt1,222(73.5%)providedt2data(100M,122F).
• Oneabri*oneffect:Individualswhoprovideddataatboth*mepointsreportedbeingmoremo*vatedbythough=ulness(M=.09)thanthosewhodroppedout(M=-.18),t(300)=2.10,p=.036.
Abri*on
Personalcharacteris*csofthepar*cipants• Agesrangedfrom17to32years(Mdn=20years).• Rela*onshipsrangedindura*onfrom3monthsto3years.• GiRsrangedinpricefrom$0to$10,000(okay,pal).• Missingdatawassubstan*alforbothrela*onshiplengthandcostofgiRs(>50%forbothvariables)andwereomibedfromanalyses.
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Male’srela*onshipsa*sfac*on
Male’sperceivedpartnerobliga*on
Theempiricalmodel–Stage1a:unflaberingabribu*ons
Female’srela*onshipsa*sfac*on
Female’sperceivedpartnerobliga*on
Male’sactualobliga*on
Female’sactualobliga*on
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Male’srela*onshipsa*sfac*on
Male’sperceivedpartnerobliga*on
Theempiricalmodel–Stage1a:unflaberingabribu*ons
Female’srela*onshipsa*sfac*on
Female’sperceivedpartnerobliga*on
Male’sactualobliga*on
Female’sactualobliga*on-.45**
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Male’srela*onshipsa*sfac*on
Male’sperceivedpartnerthough=ulness
Theempiricalmodel–Stage1b:posi*veillusionabribu*ons
Female’srela*onshipsa*sfac*on
Female’sperceivedpartnerthough=ulness
Male’sactualthough=ulness
Female’sactualthough=ulness
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Male’srela*onshipsa*sfac*on
Male’sperceivedpartnerthough=ulness
Theempiricalmodel–Stage1b:posi*veillusionabribu*ons
Female’srela*onshipsa*sfac*on
Female’sperceivedpartnerthough=ulness
Male’sactualthough=ulness
Female’sactualthough=ulness.60***
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.50**
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Male’srela*onshipsa*sfac*on
Rela*vemo*ves:Perceivedobliga*onminusthough=ulness
Theempiricalmodel–Stage1c:rela*veabribu*ons
Female’srela*onshipsa*sfac*on
Rela*vemo*ves:Perceivedobliga*onminusthough=ulness
Male’sactualrela*vemo*ves
Female’sactualrela*vemo*ves
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Male’srela*onshipsa*sfac*on
Rela*vemo*ves:Perceivedobliga*onminusthough=ulness
Theempiricalmodel–Stage1c:rela*veabribu*ons
Female’srela*onshipsa*sfac*on
Rela*vemo*ves:Perceivedobliga*onminusthough=ulness
Male’sactualrela*vemo*ves
Female’sactualrela*vemo*ves-1.05***
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Male’sperceivedrela*veobliga*on
Male’shappinessfromgiving
Theempiricalmodel–Stage2:Thejoyofgiving
Female’sperceivedrela*veobliga*on
Female’shappinessfromgiving
Male’sactualrela*veoblig
Female’sactualrela*veoblig
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Male’sperceivedrela*veobliga*on
Male’shappinessfromgiving
Theempiricalmodel–Stage2:Thejoyofgiving
Female’sperceivedrela*veobliga*on
Female’shappinessfromgiving
Male’sactualrela*veoblig
Female’sactualrela*veoblig-.28***
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Analy*cStrategy
• AlldatawereanalyzedinSPSSMixed,usingActor-PartnerInterdependenceModeling.
• Dyadsweredis*nguishedbysex.• Missingdatatreatment
• Whatwerefixedeffects?etc.
• ICCs,etc?
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Holidays may be an important external stressor for consumer relationships, particularly those at-risk.
The influence of holidays is felt in how they can create artificial explanations for partner gift-giving motives.
Partners can “fail” the strain-test, despite their actual intentions.
Over-perceiving obligation motives in partners can strain out the joy and pleasure that might otherwise arise in actors when it comes time to give.
Of course, for happy, healthy couples, these outcomes need not result, and in fact these couples appear to over-perceive thoughtfulness.
For at-risk couples, though, the holidays present an added stressor that can manifest itself in unexpected, subtle ways.
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Limitations and Considerations
An important limitation: These data do not allow for comparisons of gift-giving processes during non-holiday occasions.
A mixed limitation: Valentine’s Day is not a prototypical “holiday,” mixed in its normative consideration as a cultural or religious celebration.
These models do not currently allow for projection effects (e.g., A’s perceptions of B’s motives as a function of B’s actual motives plus A’s actual motives). Projection effects would be expected.
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Thank you!
Acknowledgements Claudia Barczy Shitanshu Kamani Suzy Lombardi Vanessa Gordon Josh Polansky Ilyas Babar William Hawrey Aegean Baxen
Special Thanks to: Samantha Bermudez Erin Infelice