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Getting It!

Unit 1IGetting Others

Introduction to Getting Yourself

It is important that as a prerequisite to Getting Yourself, your class takes the Color Code Personality Profile, and reads the in-depth report on their driving core motive and secondary colors. The goal of Getting It! is to help students identify their own needs and wants (Getting Yourself) and to give them insight into the needs and wants of those with whom they are in critical relationships (Getting Others) by reviewing the content from the student’s profiles and employing that knowledge in practical demonstration.

Teacher ToolsTo accommodate diverse teaching styles, Color Code has compiled additional teaching tools that may be incorporated into the Getting It! curriculum. They include: Optional Power Point presentation for Unit 1 Getting Yourself, and Unit 2 Getting Others * Video clips illustrating strengths and limitations in each color** Relationship action plan Tallest tower team exercise Self awareness exercise

Optional A/V RequirementsComputer with Power PointProjector Screen

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The Color Code EducationUnit 2

Getting Others

Teacher Information and Guidelines

5 Teacher Tools Unit 2-Getting Others Getting It!

Slide 1

Recap

Go over what was covered in Unit 1. There are four different personality types. Each one is driven by a different motive and each is represented by a color. Reds are motivated by Power; they are generally very logical, direct, and excellent leaders. Blues are driven by Intimacy, or a desire to build close, meaningful connections with others. They are typically dependable, loyal, and sincere. Whites are motivated by a desire for Peace; they are often kind, even-tempered, and patient. Yellows are all about having fun. They are known for being charismatic, positive, and sociable.

Remind them that today’s focus is on how the different colors interact and the ways in which you can improve your relationships with each of them.

Slide 2

Getting OthersWhy is it important to “get others”?

Relationships with others are critical to life success, and developing healthy relationships requires people skills, or in other words, emotional intelligence.

Here at school, we’re often focused on the “book smart” type of intelligence. IQ, or intelligence quotient is a way of measuring someone’s intelligence with regards to things like memory, problem-solving, and general learning. Have you ever met someone who is very smart academically, but lacks basic people skills?

Emotional Intelligence (or EI) is how you relate to yourself and to others. It’s about developing skills like self-awareness and empathy.

Of course we all want to be thought of as smart or intelligent. But why do you think we’d also want to be seen as emotionally intelligent? What are some benefits of being in tune with others’ feelings?

(Allow for brief discussion.)

Some researchers say that EI might be four times more important to your life success than IQ.


Slide 3Understanding how personalities interact with each other is necessary to improving relationships and therefore, your EI. We’re talking about relationships of any kind: parent-child, student-teacher, boss-employee, friendship, romance, etc. The principles of the Color Code are true no matter what type of relationship we’re looking at. This slide shows the big picture of what happens when two colors come together in any relationship.

Complementary OppositesThese are relationships between colors that don’t appear to have much in common, but whose differences really work well together.

Reds and Whites are both logic-based and rely on facts and common sense. Reds like to lead and Whites like to follow. Whites know how to calm down Reds’ fiery personalities.

Blues and Yellows are emotion-based. Blues are very steady, which helps ground Yellows. Yellows are spontaneous and fun, which can help lighten-up the often serious and focused Blues.

Complementary Similarities These are relationships between colors that get along because of their shared similarities. They really understand each other.Reds and Yellows both have strong verbal skills and love excitement and change.

Blues and Whites both seek security and are sensitive and giving.

Non-Complementary OppositesReds and Blues both have strong personalities. This can cause some battles between logic and emotion. Plus both colors want to be in charge, which can be challenging. But when these two learn to work together, they create a powerful combination.

Comfortable OppositesYellows and Whites really enjoy each other’s company. They are both great at accepting others and going with the flow. However, neither color likes to take charge, so they sometimes struggle with getting anything done!

Teacher’s Note Review the diagram and solicit feedback from the participants.

Refer to the notes page and briefly review one or two other key points that characterize this match-up.


Slide 4

Red/Red: FireworksWatch out! Both people in this relationship are bold, competitive, and determined. A Red/Red relationship is intense to say the least.

The key element in a Red/Red relationship is mutual respect. If the Reds can learn to respect each other, then they’ll build on each other’s strengths instead of tearing each other down.

Strengths• This combination knows how to get things done. Reds are visionary and

very driven. They take action and produce a lot of results.

• They are willing to take risks and will figure out how to get around any obstacles.

• They have very little emotional baggage, meaning they are not tied down by regrets or hurt feelings.

Limitations• Power struggles are very likely.

• They’ll work together to overcome a challenge, but once that’s done, they may get in each other’s way.

• They lack sensitivity and compassion, which could damage their long-term relationship.

Let’s see our Reds by a raise of hands. Does this seem to describe some of the relationships you have with each other?

Teacher’s Note Ask students:

How do you suppose a Red might interact with another Red? (Allow for brief discussion. Answers will probably include butting heads, a lot of conflict, etc.) Right. Let’s look more closely at that relationship.


Slide 5

Red/Blue: Blood, Sweat, and TearsMaking this relationship work takes a lot of effort. Both colors are strong and determined, and both want to be in control. The main conflict here is logic versus emotion. Blues and Reds have to learn to speak each other’s language in order to have a successful relationship. Blues need to learn to get to the point and Reds need to learn to show appreciation for the careful work Blues do.

Strengths• This is a very loyal combination. Reds are loyal to tasks and goals. Blues are

loyal to people and relationships.

• Reds provide vision and Blues provide quality. Reds are great at the big picture and Blues excel at filling in the details.

• Both are very dependable and responsible.

Limitations• Both seek to control others.

• They don’t easily understand each other. It requires a lot of effort.

• Reds think with their heads, while Blues think with their hearts. This can create some serious conflict.

If they can learn to value each other’s differences, these two colors can make a nearly unstoppable pair. An example of this relationship is Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie. Brad is a great example of a Blue; he’s caring, thoughtful, sensitive, and has a real moral conscience. Angelina is clearly Red. She’s strong and bold. But these two have managed to overcome their differences to become a very powerful couple.


Slide 6

Red/White: Fire and IceThis is a very common combination, because the strengths and limitations of these colors complement each other so nicely. Their differences work well together. For example, Reds like to lead and Whites like to follow. Reds are impatient, while Whites have a seemingly endless supply of patience. Other colors might find Reds difficult to work with, but Whites take them in stride.

Strengths• Both are very logical, which makes it easy for them to understand each

other.

• Reds are delegators and Whites are doers. Reds love to boss people around and Whites are great at accepting leadership.

• Whites are a calming presence for high-stress Reds, while Reds are great at motivating Whites.

LimitationsReds might overpower Whites. Reds need to be gentler and Whites need to take care that they don’t get walked over.

• Whites don’t like when others demand too much of them. Reds love to demand.

• Whites respect kindness and Reds are often rude or tactless. If a White sees a Red being unkind (even to someone else), he will often dis-engage from the relationship.


Slide 7

Red/Yellow: Friendly FireReds and Yellows both love action. They are outgoing and love to go, go, go. There is never a boring moment with these two. However, there can be conflict when the Red’s preferred action is work and the Yellow’s preferred action is play.

Strengths• Both colors know how to communicate well with the other.

• Reds and Yellows are both willing to take risks. They both love excitement and change.

• Reds have great focus, but that can often get exhausting. Yellows balance that intensity with fun.

Limitations• Both colors can be insensitive.

• Yellows are emotional and Reds are logical, which can lead to misunderstandings and frustration.

• Yellows’ irresponsibility can be annoying to Reds. Reds’ intense focus can be too much pressure for Yellows.

Think of the Reds in your life. Does one of those four relationships we just discussed sound familiar? Being aware of the most likely limitations in your relationship with a Red can help you be prepared to deal with those issues when they arise.

Teacher’s Note Can anyone think of some similarities or differences between Reds and Yellows that might help or hurt their relationship?


Slide 8Now, let’s move on to Blues. Will all the Blues please raise your hands? Here’s what to expect in a relationship with this group.

Blue/Blue: Close and ComfortableWhen Blues commit to each other, they are in it for the long haul. Blues wan to be appreciated and they are great at showing that appreciation for each other. They trust each other and generally and very content in this relationship.

Strengths• This combination shares an intense focus on quality and details.

• They are reliable and dependable, which strengthens their commitment to their goals.

• They considerate and sensitive toward each other.

Limitations• They can be overly serious and self-critical, which can be exhausting if

neither of them can lighten the mood.

• They can get so focused on details that they lose sight of the big picture.

• They are not only critical of themselves, but they can be overly critical of each other also.


Slide 9

Blue/White: Gentle PersuasionBlues and Whites share a mutual sensitivity and compassion. They are both concerned with others’ feelings.

Strengths• They are both good at working independently.

• They are sensitive to the needs of each other and others. They have mutual strengths in service and compassion.

• They don’t get in each other’s way, allowing each one to perform to his or her fullest potential.

Limitations• Whites get tired of Blues trying to control them. Blues get frustrated when

Whites don’t take initiative.

• Neither color appreciates change, which can really slow down progress (and gets boring pretty quickly).

• Blues love to over communicate. Whites love to under communicate.

See Teacher’s Tools for an example of a Blue/White interaction.

Teacher’s Note Teacher’s Note: You may want to ask a Blue student and a White student in the class to read this exchange out loud.


Slide 10

Blue/Yellow: Hand in Glove

This is definitely a case of “opposites attract.” Yellows love change; Blues love stability. Blues think play should only ever come after work is done; Yellows think that play is top priority. But somehow these two colors are drawn to each other and often experience happy, healthy, meaningful relationships. Why do you think that is?

Strengths• They have a natural emotional connection.

• They are both very creative and good at problem solving.

• Their strengths complement and balance each other. Blues provide quality and detail; Yellows provide energy and ideas.

Limitations• They can get too hung up on their emotions.

• Yellows might think Blues are too serious. Blues might think Yellows are too playful.

• Yellows are often sarcastic and love to tease, which can hurt a Blue’s sensitive feelings.


Slide 11Even though they will hate the attention, let’s see who the Whites are by a raise of hands.

White/White: Peace and ToleranceWhites are very relaxed and patient. This is a calm and peaceful relationship. Whites would rather just ignore annoying behavior than make it into a big issue, so there are very rarely any hiccups in this relationship—it’s just smooth sailing. The problem arises when neither person will take the lead. Whites in a relationship with each other will just wait forever for the other one to take charge.

Strengths• Problems that would cause conflicts with other colors are usually ruled out

by Whites’ kindness and acceptance.

• While Blues and Yellows are good at solving problems with creativity, Whites are excellent at solving them with logic. They observe everything and then quietly think about the problem and come up with a perfect, logical solution.

• Whites don’t have the big egos that other colors are often guilty of having, so this relationship doesn’t have to deal with battles over who is better, more important, etc.

Limitations• This relationship lacks leadership. Neither person will be quick to jump up

and take charge.

• As a partnership, they can feel overwhelmed by challenges.

• There might be a lack of passion or energy.


Slide 12

White/Yellow: Gentle FunWhites and Yellows are simply nice. They’re easy to get along with and almost everybody likes them. They go with the flow and don’t want to create problems for anyone. They work great in a relationship, because they both want each other to be happy. However, because they both want everything to be nice and happy, sometimes neither one of them is willing to do the work.

Strengths• Both respect either other’s individuality. Neither one wants to change the

other.

• Yellows like to talk; Whites like to listen.

• Neither color likes to create conflict or argue. This makes for an easy ride.

Limitations• Like in the White/White relationship, neither person is a natural leader. That

makes it difficult to get things done.

• Yellows wish Whites were more enthusiastic. Whites wish Yellows were less loud.

• Yellows are very social, but Whites enjoy privacy.


Slide 13We probably all already know who our Yellows are, but let’s ask them to raise their hands anyway.

Yellow/Yellow: Sparkle and ShineIt’s pretty easy to spot a Yellow/Yellow relationship. They are loud and playful and fun. This pair is always having a good time. They make each other laugh and really enjoy each other’s company. This makes for a great friendship, but neither one wants to work. A Yellow alone doesn’t want to do work of any sort. Usually another color has to lay down the law. But when there’s no other color around—just another Yellow tempting them to have a good time—forget about anything getting done!

Strengths• They are creative, optimistic, and enthusiastic.

• They are great communicators.

• Yellows seek fun, excitement, and risk.

Limitations• Yellows can be self-centered. Neither one will naturally think of the other.

• They are very easy on themselves and each other—this pair will let themselves get away with anything.

• They don’t have much discipline or logical focus, which makes it very difficult to be productive.


Slide 14Now that we’ve seen what a relationship between each color looks like, we’re going to learn some tips for interacting with all of the colors.

When Interacting With Reds, You SHOULD:

1. Present issues logically, while being direct, brief, and specific.

2. Demand attention and respect.

3. Let them lead the way, then be supportive of their leadership.

Let’s hear from our Reds. What do you guys think? Does this sound about right? What are your other tips for us to get along better with you?

Slide 15 When Interacting With Reds, You SHOULD NOT:

1) Embarrass them in front of others.

2) Talk too much about your feelings or make emotional arguments. (When they argue back—which they will—don’t take it personally.)

3) Take forever to make a decision—Reds are not patient!


Slide 16When Interacting With Blues, You SHOULD:

1) Give them time to collect their thoughts.

2) Be sensitive and sincere. Show your appreciation for them, mind your manners, and behave appropriately.

3) Be loyal and help them feel secure in your relationship.

Slide 17When Interacting With Blues, You SHOULD NOT:

1) Make them feel guilty or be rude.

2) Expect them to forgive quickly or act spontaneously.

3) Make big, unexpected changes. Blues need time to adjust.

Okay, Blues. Let’s hear it. What else can we do to get on your good side?


Slide 18 When Interacting With Whites, You SHOULD:

1) Create a relaxed, non-threatening atmosphere.

2) Be gentle and patient; try not to rush them.

3) Look for clues into their feelings that they’re showing but not saying.

Slide 19When Interacting With Whites, You SHOULD NOT:

1) Be cruel or insensitive.

2) Overwhelm them with too much information or change at once.

3) Expect them to talk very much or very quickly.

Whites, this is the time to get it all off your chest. What do we do that drives you nuts? What can we do better?


Slide 20When Interacting With Yellows, You SHOULD:

1) Be positive and upbeat—remember that Yellows are more sensitive than they appear.

2) Recognize their contributions and praise them for what they’ve done well.

3) Offer them opportunities for fun and let them be creative.

Slide 21When Interacting With Yellows, You SHOULD NOT:

1) Be too serious or critical.

2) Try to control their schedules or push them too hard.

3) Be offended when they playfully tease you or joke around.

What do you think, Yellows? Is this accurate? What other tips do you have for us?


Slide 22Now that we’ve covered each of the colors, we’re going to do a quick exercise.

Your Plan for Building Relationships

1. Write down the names of three people with whom you want to improve your relationship. Next to the person’s name, write down what you guess his or her personality color to be.

2. Think carefully about each relationship and write down what bar-riers you think you’ll need to overcome in order to improve that relationship. For example, do you feel that this person never under-stands what you mean when you’re talking? Are you intimidated by this person? Do you feel that the person expects too much from you?

3. Based on what we’ve learned today about relationships between the colors and tips for interacting with each of them, think of a game plan for overcoming each barrier. Set goals to accomplish your actions and write them down. Be sure to include the action you’re going to take and a timeline for accomplishing it. For ex-ample, if the person is Red and the problem is that you often feel intimidated by her, set a goal to be fact-based and direct the next time you speak to her. Prepare what you want to say and be as clear and concise as possible. You’ll most likely find a change in the way she responds to what you’re saying, which will give you more confidence the next time you interact with her.

You have five minutes to complete this exercise.

Teacher’s Note During the exercise, assist those who need help getting started or writing their goals.

You will find a Relationship Action Plan form in your Teacher Tools.

Suggested discussion points: This is your personal plan. Use it as the beginning of your new way of interacting with others—the Color Code way! Using the Color Code will help you better appreciate yourself and others, because you’ll have a better understanding of why we do what we do. That knowledge, combined with the tips we just covered, will help you communicate

more effectively and, as a result, be a better friend, family member, student, or date.


Slide 23

ConclusionLearning about yourself is the first and most important step you can take. But learning about others is the vital next step. Using the Color Code to identify why you do what you do and why others do what they do is the key to improving your relationships.

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