Leadership Meeting 1Fundemental Techniques for Handling

People & Leadership Basics

Objective: Discuss and understand Carnegie’s “Three Principals for Handling People” and their application to becoming a leader.◦ Principle 1: Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain◦ Principle 2: Give honest and sincere appreciation◦ Principle 3: Arouse in the other person an eager

want

Three Principals for Handling People

How can we effectively do this? What lessons can we learn from those who

don’t follow this rule? Why is this principle important? Is it?

Principle 1: Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain

What is the difference between honest and sincere and dishonest and insincere appereciation?

How can you do this every day to make it a habit?

Why is this principle important? Is it?

Principle 2: Give honest and sincere appreciation

What are the advantages of doing this? What characteristics of personality might

help you do this more? Why is this principle important? Is it?

Principle 3: Arouse in the other person an eager want

Objective: Define, discuss, and understand the essentials of leadership and their application.

How do you define leadership?◦ What should a leader do?◦ What should a leader NOT do?

What is the difference between a leader and a leader in title?◦ What do titles actually mean?◦ Are they important?

What is servant-leadership?◦ Is being a servant-leader important?◦ What separates a servant leader from other types of

leader?

Leadership Essential Questions

What makes a good leader? Inspiration

“What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make.” – Jane Goodall

Being an example“Example is not the main thing in influencing others. It is the only thing.” – Albert Schweitzer

Helping others“No one has ever become poor by giving.” – Anne Frank“You have not lived today until you have done something for someone who can never repay you.” - John Bunyan

Caring and love“I can only love you most when I love me best.” – Steven Maraboli“No one cares how much you know, until they know how much you care” - Theodore Roosevelt

Patience“Trees that are slow to grow bear the best fruit.” - Moliere

Persevere“If you’re going though hell, keep going” – Winston Churchhill

Empathy“When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen.” - Ernest Hemingway“I do not ask the wounded person how he feels, I myself become the wounded person.” - Walt Whitman

Define leadership

What should a leader NOT do? Always criticize

“He has a right to criticize, who has a heart to help.” - Abraham Lincoln Force corporal punishment Belittle

“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.” – Mark Twain“Isn't it kind of silly to think that tearing someone else down builds you up?” - Sean Covey

Tease/Bully Gossip

“Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.” –Socrates

ComplainComplaining does not work as a strategy. We all have finite time and energy. Any time we spend whining is unlikely to help us achieve our goals. And it won't make us happier.” – Randy Pausch

Be insubordinateThere is a fine line between insubordination and disagreement

Quit“Pain is temporary. Quitting lasts forever” – Lance Armstrong

Fear or trying to stop change“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.” – Maya Angelou“You are either going forward or going backwards, staying the same is the same as going backwards.” – Who said this?

Define Leadership

What does a title mean?NOTHING…

Until you earn it Are they important?

No!!!Until they mean something

You’re the __________ now… so what!

Titles

Define servant-leadership◦ Flipping what you think about leadership. You are on the bottom and

those you lead are more important than you.◦ You are a leader specifically to help those you lead.◦ You only lead inasmuch as you help others

"If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader." – John Quincy Adams

"True leadership must be for the benefit of the followers, not to enrich the leader." – John Maxwell

"My research debunks the myth that many people seem to have . . . that you become a leader by fighting your way to the top. Rather, you become a leader by helping others to the top. Helping your employees is as important, and many times more so, than trying to get the most work out of them." – William Cohen

Servant-Leadership

How do you become a servant-leader? What are some other forms of leadership?

Do they work? How can you start applying this now?

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