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FROM WARTS TO WINGS: HELPING “TOUGH” STUDENTS
LIVE HEALTHIER AND HAPPIER LIVES
John Sommers-Flanagan, Ph.D.
Department of Counselor Education
University of Montana
Johnsommersflanagan.com
TODAY’S PLAN
• Thanks to Iestyn Bright and Chris Schimmel of WVSCA for this opportunity
• Big GOAL: Articulate 10 key principles and strategies of human change that you can immediately use with students and parents
TODAY’S PLAN II
• Organized like a book
• All powerpoint slides are at johnsommersflanagan.com
• Instructions: I talk about 10 key principles and strategies
• You listen, laugh at all the right times, learn, and leave feeling inspired and filled with insights
MY POLITICAL PLATFORM
The road to economic vitality, the road to environmental sustainability, the road to excellence in health care and social support programs, and the road to good government always has and always will run through education.
WHO ELSE HAS/HAD THIS PLATFORM?
• Nobody in 2015 . . .
• But, John Adams, in the 1770s:
“Laws for the liberal education of youth, especially for the lower classes of people, are so extremely wise and useful that to a humane and generous mind, no expense for this purpose would be thought extravagant” (McCullough, 2001, p. 103)
INTRODUCTION
• Keynote rating: R or PG-13?
• Tough Students are not Tough Students
• Opening Story or Visualization
CHAPTER ONETHE CATATONIC WOMAN
THE 1ST BIG PRINCIPLE
We should WORK HARD to not judge students, parents, and teachers based on their appearance and behavior because there’s always more to it than we think
CHAPTER TWOMEETING JESUS AT THE PORTLAND VA
THE 2ND BIG PRINCIPLE
If you want genuine cooperation
Be less threatening
CHAPTER THREETY AND THE BIG TRAUMA BOY
The Amazing
Mary Cover Jones
COUNTERCONDITIONING MOJO• Challenging students (TOUGH KIDS), parents,
and teachers are aversively conditioned to school counselors!
• How do we get reluctant students, parents, and teachers comfortable “in the room” with us?
THE 3RD BIG PRINCIPLE
Use counterconditioning mojo to get people comfortable with you and
working on change
What will you use?
CHAPTER FOUR: POWERS OF MIND
THE 1ST CHANGE STRATEGY
Use the power of your mind
to creatively and relentlessly focus on
YOUR GOALS
CHAPTER FIVETHE SATANIC GOLDEN RULE
THE 2ND CHANGE STRATEGY
Create your own positive respect bubble . . . and watch out for the
REVENGE IMPULSE
CHAPTER SIXA CAT ON MY HEAD
THE THREE-STEP EMOTIONAL CHANGE TRICK
1. Feel the feeling (accept and respect it)
2. Think a new thought or do something different
3. Share the good mood
4. Teach someone else the three steps
THE 3RD CHANGE STRATEGYEmotional states and
emotional reactions are complex
Students need simple strategies for managing their emotional lives.
CHAPTER SEVENCREATE NEW STORIES
THE 4TH CHANGE STRATEGY
We can collaborate WITH
STUDENTS to build
stories of health and resilience
CHAPTER EIGHTANDREA’S STRONG ARM
THE 5TH CHANGE STRATEGY
What you use tends to grow and strengthen
This is the main rule from neuroscience
We can help students
strengthen their weak spots
CHAPTER NINESTOP SHAKING THE BOTTLE
THE 1ST ANGER MANAGEMENT STRATEGY
Counting to 10 is worthless if you’re carbonating your cognitions
We need more
sophisticated educational strategies
CHAPTER TENTHE CHERRY STORY
THE 2ND ANGER MANAGEMENT STRATEGY
It’s not what happens to us . . .
But what we think about what happens to us . . .
That causes us misery
SUMMARY AND CONCLUSIONS• Be careful in your judgments, because students are watching
• If you want genuine cooperation, be less threatening
• Like MCJ, use your counterconditioning mojo
• Use the power of mind to focus on your goals
• Create a school filled with respect bubbles
• Help student manage their moods
• Use collaborative storytelling
• Teach better strategies
• Stop carbonating those cognitions
• It’s not what happens to you . . . but what you think . . .