MAY 2017/IYAR, 5777

From the Rabbi’s StudyDear Friends,

Allow me to kvell for a moment…

Raina and I recently had the privilege of welcoming members of our TSTI 12th grade class into our home for dinner. These are the students who have maintained their active connection to TSTI through Hebrew High, STISY (our Senior Youth Group) and/or work as Madrichim (mentors) in our Linda

and Rudy Slucker Religious School. The end of their high school experience is approaching and they are headed to new adventures. Many are going to college in the fall while others will be taking a gap year, with one headed for Israel for an academic program and another still weighing his many options for how best to spend the year. All of them are rapidly approaching a major milestone and are preparing for new adventures that will, no doubt, be fi lled with challenges and opportunities for accomplishment. Each is ready, some more than ready, to take this next step. Raina and I wanted the opportunity to spend time with them outside of our synagogue’s four walls. I’m glad we did.

These young adults are, in a word, remarkable. At one point I asked them what they were most excited about and what they are most sad to leave behind as they head into this next stage of life. Their answers were thoughtful, worldly, knowledgeable and, most importantly, kind. What struck me most was how supportive they are of one another when sharing concerns or vulnerabilities. As each took a turn speaking, they were respectful of one another but also playful and funny. Some of them have encountered great personal challenges over the course of their high school careers and I was particularly touched by the way they spoke of their temple, and their temple community in specifi c, being a safe space for them. (That choked me up as that is exactly what we want TSTI to be for every member of our community.) Even when they disagreed with one another (and they did, for this is a community of young adults who have strong ideas and opinions) they did so with respect. And at no time did they express the idea that their opinion was the only valid opinion. (No matter our age, there is much we can all learn from their example.)

After they left I was reminded of a song written by the late Debbie Friedman, based upon the Biblical Joel’s statement

“I will pour out My spirit on all fl esh; Your sons and daughters shall prophesy; Your old shall dream dreams, And your youth shall see visions.” (Joel: 3.1) Friedman wrote:

Childhood was for fantasies, for nursery rhymes and toys. The world was much too busy to understand small girls and boys. As I grew up, I came to learn that life was not a game, that heroes were just people that we called another name.

And the old shall dream dreams, and the youth shall see visions. And our hopes shall rise up to the sky. We must live for today, we must build for tomorrow. Give us time, give us strength, give us life.

Now I’m grown, the years have passed, I’ve come to understand. There are choices to be made, and my life’s at my command. I cannot have a future ‘til I embrace my past. I promise to pursue the challenge, time is going fast.

Today’s the day I make my stand, the future’s mine to hold. Commitments that I make today are dreams from days of old. I’ll have to make the way for generations come and go. I’ll have to teach them what I’ve learned so they will come to know.

I have watched these young people grow up and I could not be prouder of the young adults they have become. The world is a complex place and there is often reason for pessimism these days. But after spending an evening with these remarkable young people I cannot help but feel optimistic. They are an impressive group… and they are just getting started. I cannot wait to see the “tomorrow” each has a hand in shaping.

At 7:30pm on Friday May 5, we will gather for a Shabbat celebration of our high school seniors. Each will have the opportunity to share their thoughts with us as we wish them well on their next stage in life. Please mark your calendars.

Mark your calendars as well for Confi rmation. It will take place on June 2 at 7:30pm.

ClergyRabbi Daniel M. Cohen, D.Min.Rabbi Alexandra KleinCantor Rebecca MosesCantor Joan FinnRabbi Emeritus, Harvey S. GoldmanCantor Emeritus, Theodore Aronson

Congregational LeadershipSue Wishnow, PresidentRussell Kaplan, VPLisa Tilton-Levine, VPLisa Goldberg Ozer, VPPam Paro, VPShari Stein, VPBill Strugger, VPRobert Cohen, VPMax Weisenfeld, VPRoberta Probber, TreasurerKaryn Boosin Leit, Secretary

Leslie Y. Sporn, Executive DirectorCarol Paster, Preschool DirectorMindy Schreff , Religious School DirectorTracy Horwitz, LSW, Program DirectorErica Shulman, Youth Engagement DirectorSunny Seglin, Asst. to the Clergy, Bulletin

MEMBER CONGREGATIONUNION FOR REFORM JUDAISM

Schedule of Services

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Friday, May 5Acherai Mot/KedoshimShabbat Service and High School Graduation, 7:30 PMBass Sanctuary BuildingOneg to follow

Saturday, May 6Minyan Service, 9:15 AMB’not Mitzvah of Hannah Gallin and Sarah Schneider, 10:15 AMB’nai Mitzvah of Jacob and Joshua Essner, 10:30 AM

Friday, May 12EmorOneg Shabbat, 5:30 PMShabbat Service, 6:00 PMGellis-Green Chapel

Saturday, May 13Minyan Service, 9:15 AMBat Mitzvah of Lila Promisel, 10:30 AM

Friday, May 19Behar-BechukotaiShabbat Service with TSTI Band, 7:30 PMOneg to follow.Bass Sanctuary Building

Saturday, May 20Minyan Service, 9:15 AMSharing Shabbat, 10:00 AMB’nai Mitzvah of Evelyn Urist and Evan Mandell, 10:30 AMBar Mitzvah of Silas Silverman-Stoloff , 10:15 AM

Friday, May 26BamidbarOneg Shabbat, 5:30 PMShabbat Service, 6:00 PMGellis-Green Chapel

Saturday, May 27Minyan Service, 9:15 AM

Wednesday, May 31ShavuotYizkor and Lunch of Remembrance, 10:30 AM

Friday, June 2Shabbat Service and 10th Grade Confi rmation, 7:30 PMOneg to followBass Sanctuary Building

ANNUAL CONGREGATIONAL

MEETING

Wednesday, May 17, 2017

Mingle with friends, enjoy coff ee and cake at 7:00 PM

Meeting begins promptly at 7:30 PM

On the agenda:State of the Congregation and Approval

of 2017-18 Operating BudgetChai raffl e winner will announced

Many of us have a personal relationship with Israel and with Jerusalem in particular. Whether memories of visits or recollections of events, we are all connected. To highlight the 50th anniversary of the 6 Day War, the Israel Involvement Committee is bringing together the TSTI congregation’s collective memories, stories, thoughts, photos and impressions of Jerusalem.

Please send any materials (written or otherwise) that you would like to share. Email to Roberta@Probber.com or send them to Roberta Probber, 17 Rockledge Road, Montville, NJ 07045.

Highlighting the 50th Anniversary of Israel’s 6-Day War

Hold the Date for a

Beautiful Summer Evening Affair

“The TSTI Summer Bash”

Saturday, June 177:30-11 PM

Hors d’oeuvres, drinks and dancing on our

starlit patio.

Watch for details.

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From the Rabbi’s StudyThe end of April and the beginning of May mark the start of calendaring season here at TSTI. It always feels a bit strange to look ahead and plan for next year while we are still fully enmeshed in the year at hand. It’s challenging to pause, mid-year, in order to evaluate a year that is not yet complete.

Right now, on the Jewish calendar, we fi nd ourselves in the period of the Omer, the 49 days between Passover

and Shavuot. As I shared in this column last year, the Omer is a time for self-refl ection and self-accounting. And...the Omer comes right in the middle of the Jewish year. It isn’t a natural start or conclusion of the year; it appears right in the middle, meant to momentarily stop us in our tracks, shaking us from our mid-year complacency and causing us to exam-ine our lives. Rather than refl ecting at the end of the year, when the year is already behind us, the Omer off ers us the opportunity to shape the time between now and the start of the New Year, refi ning and adjusting as needed.

In this way, the 49 days of the Omer are a gift. Too often, we are caught up in the endless race from one task, one meeting, one responsibility to the next with no time to stop, evaluate, and be simply present. Mystical understandings of the Omer invite us to examine ourselves according to the characteristics of God, and to strive during the seven weeks of the Omer to better emulate God’s compassion, strength, beauty, and majesty. In the places where we fall short, we can redirect our path so that we might arrive at Rosh Ha-shanah a step closer to the best version of ourselves, more connected to a sense of our own holiness.

What would it look like if each year, mid-year, we each devot-ed 49 days to self-improvement? 49 days to assessing our lives and our relationships, and 49 days to working to make ourselves more brave, more humble, more generous, more patient? Alan Morinis, author of Everyday Holiness, explains that “by refi ning and elevating your inner life and nourishing the soul, you can clarify your inner light and thus become a lamp [shining] light into the world.”

May is not a natural time in our annual cycle for this kind of refl ection, but that may be precisely why now is when we need it the most. If we are willing to pause and take this time to “nourish our souls,” we may fi nd that God’s image, imbed-ded in each one of us, can shine even more brightly.

B’Yedidut - In Friendship,

PS: If you want to learn more about the Omer or get some ideas about how to do this work of self-refl ection, check out Seasons of Our Joy by Rabbi Arthur Waskow, or Omer: A Counting by Rabbi Karyn Kedar. Both are great resources!

TSTl 12th Graders

TSTl Confirmands

Celebrate the achievements of our wonderful 12th graders at Shabbat services on

Friday, May 5 at 7:30 PM To get a feel for how special these young people are, be

sure to read Rabbi Cohen’s cover page article.

We honor:

Sophia AlexanderLeah BarazaniJoshua BaumJamie Betheil

Matthew BrennerAllie GoldbergBen GoodmanJacob HirschCarly JonesAndrew KarpAvery Lieber

Madeline LarsonAmy NadelLeah Otner

Jordan PresselDevin Romanoff Sage RothmanClaudia Steiner

Luisa WeissSarah Wish

the 10th graders of the Linda and Rudy Slucker Religious School, have prepared a moving and meaningful service

expressing their commitment to Judaism onFriday, June 2 at 7:30 PM

We honor:

Jack AbramsonLyle BerkleyAri Brown

Lewis Busch-VogelShayna CohenJonathan EigenJenna Essner

Wesley GelmanDavid Goetz

Miranda LipetzDaniel OxmanJonah SachsIzzy SingerZach SingerOliver Stoller

The Iris Family

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Linda and Rudy Slucker Religious School

Mindy SchreffReligious School Director

Carol PasterPreschool Director

As our school year comes to a close, it is time to refl ect on all the learning and growth that has taken place, not just for our students but for our teachers and madrichim as well.

In keeping with our year-long theme of “Finding Your Jew-ish Super Power” we had many opportunities to explore this topic. We started the year by acknowledging the an-niversary of the September 11th attacks by supporting First Responders with treat bags, while exploring what it means to be a hero and identify ways we, ourselves, are heroes. A few months later we welcomed Operation Superhero -- an opera designed to help students identify ways they can em-brace who they are, and stand up against injustice. During our study of the Jewish holidays, the theme of heroes was explored in all grades, always including a component that encourages our students to make a diff erence in the world.

Our teachers received training with Keshet, a Jewish organi-zation that guides institutions in using language that is inclu-sive to the LGBQT community. In this way we continue to be both welcoming and a safe place for all students, teens and adults. We will continue training with Keshet in the upcoming year as we all strive to grow and learn as a community and to continue our mission to support everyone in their quest to be their best selves.

We are inviting Religious School families as well as our graduating Preschoolers to join us on Sunday May 7 as we celebrate the completion of a fulfi lling year. School will offi cially end at 11 am at which time students’ families will arrive to join the festivities. This is an opportunity to thank the teachers and madrichim for a wonderful year of learn-ing, and to say goodbye to friends we may not see until September. We will be entertained by a roving magician, balloon-animal makers and of course do a mitzvah project. Light snacks and drinks will be provided. Feel free to bring blankets and chairs if the weather is nice. We look forward to seeing our Religious School families on May 7 at 11 am!

“This is heavy,” the bat mitzvah said, under her breath, at the beginning of her service. The Torah had just been placed in her arms after being

passed from her grandparents to her parents to represent handing down the Torah l’dor va dor; from generation to generation. I’m sure this young lady was referring to the physical weight of the Torah, but as I sat and observed the rite of passage, I thought about my college years and the expression, “heavy, man” kept popping into my head. Certainly this is a very diff erent sense of ‘heavy’, which has nothing to do with the physical weight of the Torah, but more to do with the emotional and spiritual weight of carrying on the traditions of the Jewish people. It also made me think of the weight she must have felt during the preparation for this special day with all the hours of study, the possible fear of standing in front of a large group, and the expectations of being gracious to her guests.

There are many things we ask our children to do at every age and stage of development that might be viewed as ‘heavy’ in the 70’s nomenclature. Taking fi rst steps, potty training, separating on the fi rst day of school, learning to share...the list goes on and on. What makes it such a heavy lift is often the pressure that is put on children to succeed, to know more sooner, to excel in a sport, to be the best. What ever happened to applauding the average? Why do we feel the need to push and push and push?

I grew up exploring the world on my own, getting myself into trouble and getting myself out of it. I learned the most important skill of problem solving. I spent hours upon hours with ‘nothing to do’ yet I fi lled every moment and was never bored. I learned to love fi guring things out on my own—but that takes time to think, process, assess the situation, try out my theories, fail, repeat the process, fail again, and repeat the process over and over until I had a successful solution. I gained a great sense of satisfaction in knowing I did something myself.

I’ve noticed the lack of problem solving skills in young children of this generation. They can’t fi gure out to ask for a cup for water when they can’t reach the cabinet, or to take off their own jacket when they’re too warm. Sadly, both of these are true incidents involving 4 year olds. Now I’m not saying that all children are doomed to be thirsty or overheated because they can’t think for themselves, I’m concerned that in an eff ort to help our children move forward faster by doing things for them or by overschedul-ing them in proscribed programs, that the kids are miss-ing out on precious unstructured time to become creative thinkers. So, I’d like be so bold as to suggest just one less scheduled activity or an hour less of screen time to allow your children of all ages the chance to dream.

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From the Cantor’s Study

The President’s Point of View

Recently, my husband, David and I had the pleasure of seeing the show OSLO at Lincoln Center. The play is inspired by the amazing true story of the back-channel talks, unlikely friendships and quiet heroics that led to the 1993 Oslo Peace Accords between the Israelis and Palestinians.

Although agreements were reached, we know the outcome did not result in lasting peace in the Middle East – and this is not an article or commentary about the Middle East. Instead, I would like to highlight parts of the show that depicted some of the personal conversations and other observances that the audience was treated to. I see some parallels and lessons learned for our lives today.

SPOILER ALERT - If you are going to see the show and don’t want a preview about some of the scenes, skip to the last paragraph...

Wisely, the negotiators made an agreement at the start that they would not discuss “business” over the meals in the dining area. That was deemed neutral space; space to get to know each other, to break bread. They were mostly able to keep to that promise. They also knew that sometimes negotiating points needed to be tabled and outdoor walks together should take precedence when personal bonding was necessary to humanize topics.

My favorite interchange was between the main Israeli negotia-tor and the PLO negotiator Ahmed Qurie (The actor strikes a resemblance to our Cantor Aronson, but that metaphor is for another article.) In the midst of screaming at each other, say-ing terrible things to each other, both coming from deep held feelings that their people had been gravely shortchanged for hundreds of years, they stumble on the fact that their daugh-ters have the same name: Maya. The room went silent as both of their mouths dropped open.

The two of them stared at each other as if seeing each other, really seeing each other, for the fi rst time. So humanizing and powerful is this realization that their children, the next genera-tion, had something so basic in common. These two men also knew they shared identical feelings of love for their daughters. We were told at the end of the show that they have remained close true friends ever since. Wow.

Their desire for peace and to succeed at these talks was monumental. I was heartened to see this, even if temporarily.

The marketing tagline for the show is “OSLO Gives Us Hope”. I did leave feeling hopeful. If Israeli and PLO negotiators could forge a lasting lifelong friendship in the face of their history, we can certainly work through anything that comes our way.

Please join us to break bread at any of our upcoming events – and let me know if you want to go for a walk…

Every once in a while I discover a job out there that I think might be exciting to try. A while ago I I saw a special on the Keyholder for the Vatican Museum. This one man is quite literally the keeper of all the keys to all the doors at the Vatican. Every morning he is the fi rst person to open the doors of the Sistine Chapel. He gets to stand there in the early morning silence and just gaze at that magnifi -cent ceiling without any of the noise of the tourists. Then I remember that he also has to keep track of all those keys, 2,797 to be exact, and since I can barely recall where I put my car keys, I understand that this is not a good job for me. I also recently read that Google has a position called a Global Education Evangelist. According to the title holder’s bio that means he is “responsible for working across all internal teams that impact education, and he works with educational organizations around the world, helping them fi nd ways to improve the quality of educa-tion through the use of technology.”

The holder of this title is Jaime Casap. Raised by a sin-gle mother on welfare, he has truly found himself in a dif-ferent place than he grew up. I came across his bio and his job description when I saw a piece that he presented to a group of educators. He said, “Don’t ask kids what they want to be when they grow up but what problems do they want to solve. This changes the conversation from who do I want to work for, to what do I need to learn to be able to do that.”

With the school year not quite over this seems a per-fect time to be asking ourselves and our kids, “What problems do we want to start solving and how do we do that?” So many of our B’nai Mitzvah students are asking these questions right now. They are working on projects that will help make the world a better place for each and every one of to live in. Many of our members are en-gaged in projects that help members of our own com-munity, people that live nearby, and those that they will never meet.

Our Jewish tradition is one of values and ethics. We are taught in Pirkei Avot, “It is not incumbent upon you to fi n-ish the task, but neither are you free to absolve yourself of it.” We are not responsible for fi xing everything that is wrong in the world, but that doesn’t mean we can’t try. It seems that both the Google Global Eduation Evangelist and our own teachings are telling us that we must not look only at survival as our goal, but to open our hearts and minds to ask how we can make the world a better place. So, what problems would you like to solve?

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Sunday Night at the MoviesMay 7 at 7:30 PM

Featured Film: Bethlehem

Women’s ConnectionWomen’s Connection Spring Walking Tour

A Bronx Tale - History, Art, and Food Thursday, May 11Leave TSTI at 8:45am Return trip home departing at 3:00pm

Local historian and urban planner, Samuel Goodman, will take us on an hour walking tour, highlighting the major issues aff ecting the borough in the 20th century, particu-larly social issues that impacted the Grand Concourse. As a life-long resident of the Bronx, and an urban planner working for the Bronx Borough President’s Offi ce for over 20 years, Sam off ers a perspective that is both based on his recollection of what was and his understanding of what will be.

Following Sam’s talk and tour (about 8 city blocks), we will have some free time to explore The Bronx Museum of the Arts. We will then head over to Arthur Avenue for a tasty lunch. After lunch, we will walk over to an Italian food shop that has been owned by a Jewish family since 1915. How did this come about? One of the family members will share their history.

Our day will end with an opportunity to shop for fresh pasta, homemade mozzarella and ricotta, pastries, biscotti, and many other delicious Italian delicacies. A coach bus will be provided. We will meet at TSTI parking lot by 8:45, leaving at 9:00 sharp! We will leave the Bronx at about 3:00.

Cost: $55 for WC members $62 for all othersPlease send checks made out to “TSTI Women›s Connec-tion” and mailed to Ellen Blake, 45 Lenox Terrace West Orange NJ 07052 by May 1. Questions? Email Ellen at: citygirl15@verizon.net or call at: 973 736 4908.

Mark your calendars, book your babysit-ters, and join us for our annual spring fundraiser. This year, we’re excited to present Dead Space, New Jersey’s premier Grateful Dead tribute band,

featuring TSTI’s own Jed Goldstein. You don’t have to be a Deadhead to enjoy this special evening of bone-shaking jams among fellow preschool parents and members of the larger community.

Sponsored by the Kate Elliott Group of Coldwell Banker and KB On The Go, Two Town Shakedown will be held at The Woodland (in Maplewood Village), on Saturday, May 6, at 7:30 p.m. It’s open to all, so please spread the word to all your friends and neighbors. The $20 ticket price will cover admission and one drink ticket. Food, wine, and beer will be available for sale. All proceeds will benefi t the play spaces and outdoor classrooms at TSTI’s Iris Family Center for Early Childhood Education.

SAVE THE DATE -- IRIS FAMILY PRESCHOOL SPRING FUNDRAISERMAY 6 @7:30PM Two Town Shakedown featuring “Dead Space”

Israeli director Yuval Adler takes us inside the world of Israeli counter-terrorism in a powerful thriller about the Is-raeli Secret Service and how it retrieves intelligence about terrorist plots. The fi lm focuses on the complex relationship between Sanfur, a teenage Bethlehem-based Palestinian informant and Razi, the Israeli offi cer who is his contact person. Razi becomes a father fi gure and spends more time with the youth than with his own children. The fi lm was chosen as Israel’s best fi lm of the year.

As Always -- Enjoy snacks and a movie, followed by an interactive discussion moderated by Dr. Eric Goldman, the founder and president of Ergo Media and a fi lm reviewer for New Jersey’s The Jewish Standard.

Free for Members, $5 per fi lm for Non Members. To register email go to tsti.org or email thorwitz@tstinj.org

DOUBLE CHAI RAFFLEWIN A FREE TEMPLE MEMBERSHIPYour raffl e book with chances for a free temple membership is in the mail to you. Every year, a lucky TSTI family has won -- it could be YOU this year! Fill out the tickets, keep the stubs and send them in. Winner will be announced at the Congre-gational Meeting on May 17. Want to buy more chances? Just let us know and we’ll deliver them to your door.

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Our B’nai Mitzvah

Our Temple might be just the right place to hold your bar or bat mitzvah party, wedding reception, baby naming luncheon or any other celebration you might think of. We have lovely china, crystal and silverware to set a beautiful table whether in the contem-porary ballroom or the charming Mansion.

Call Karen Patton, 973-763-4116 ext. 224 to reserve a space at a reasonable price.

Party with Us!

Sarah Lily SchneiderMay 6, 2017Sarah is the daughter of Jane Zevon and Joseph Schneider, sister of Sam, and granddaughter of Ronnie and Bob Zevon, Estelle and Steve Slon, and Jeff Schneider.Mitzvah Project: Sarah’s bake sale pro-ceeds will go towards the Valerie Fund for their research into pediatric cancer.

Hannah Rose GallinMay 6, 2017Hannah is the daughter of Nina and Scott Gallin, sister of Andrew and Lilly, and granddaughter of Dorothy and Murray Kirshner.Mitzvah Project: Hannah twinned with a Holocaust survivor, and volunteered at an after-school program for pre-schoolers in East Orange.

Joshua Zelen EssnerJacob Zelen EssnerMay 6, 2017Josh and Jake are the sons of Camilla Essner and Mindy Zelen, brothers of Jenna and grandsons of Claire Zelen.Mitzvah Project: Josh has been raising money for the Clean Water Founda-tion which provides drinkable water to people in countries where it is not available.Mitzvah Project: Jake is raising money for young cancer patients at St. Jude’s Hospital to support their goal of free medical treatment.

Lila Eve PromiselMay 13, 2017Lila is the daughter of Aimee and Brett Promisel, sister of Reed, and grand-daughter of Bonnie and George Man-delbaum, Jim and Eileen Geller, and Myra and Larry Promisel.Mitzvah Project: Lila volunteers at Sunrise Senior Living in West Orange, spending time with residents and aiming to make their day happy.

Evan Hudson MandellMay 20, 2017Evan is the son of Anne and Peter Mandell, brother of Alex, and grandson of Harvey Trieff , Judy Trieff , and Karen MandellMitzvah Project: Evan is working with the international rescue committee to raise money and awareness for Syrian refugees.

Evelyn Faye UristMay 20, 2017Evelyn is the daughter of Lisa Cohen and Josh Urist, sister of Zach Urist, and granddaughter of Rachel and Jeff Urist and Carole and Barry Cohen.Mitzvah Project: Evelyn has organized a clothing drive to support the Malala Fund.

Silas Lev Silverman-StoloffMay 20, 2017Silas is the son of Ilena Silverman and Sam Stoloff , brother of Anya and Katya, and grandson of Doris Silverman, David Stoloff , and Susan Klee.Mitzvah Project: Silas visits a disabled family friend every week and helps with household chores and computer technology.

Hold the Date

“The TSTI Summer Bash”

Saturday, June 17 7:30-11 PM

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TRIBUTESC ontributions in memory of loved ones and in honor of the simchas in our lives are acts of loving kindness. We are grateful for your generous support of Temple through various Temple Funds

Loved Ones Remembered

TEMPLE FUND

IN MEMORY OFSandra Katz, mother of Jay Katz Constance Bauman

IN HONOR OFSpecial birthday for Frank Davis Alyssa, Michael & Beth ShabselsThe birth of Eli, grandson of Eric & Leslie Sporn Jesse, Leslie & Ariel Bayer Helene & Jack Fersko Ellen & Jay RiceEngagement of Sonja, daughter of Sunny & Mark Seglin, to Nathan Yoder Jesse, Leslie & Ariel BayerBat Mitzvah of Charlotte Busch-Vogel daughter of Jon & Allison Busch-Vogel Linda & Bert Busch Maddy & Steve RibackSpecial birthday for Dan Goldberg Helene & Jack Fersko Ellen & Jay Rice

RABBI COHEN’S DISCRETIONARY FUND

IN MEMORY OFAdriana Granata Murray MankowitzMavis Banks, mother of Paul Banks Joan & Carl Radin

IN HONOR OFJosi Cohen Hausman’s special event Charles & Jodey Teller

IN APPRECIATION Deborah Turvey Frank Davis

Deborah & George Russ

RABBI KLEIN’S DISCRETIONARY FUND

IN APPRECIATION Deborah Turvey

CANTOR MOSES’S DISCRETIONARY FUND

IN APPRECIATION Deborah Turvey

CANTOR FINN’S DISCRETIONARY FUND

IN APPRECIATION Deborah Turvey

CANTOR ARONSON’S MUSIC FUND

IN HONOR OFThe birth of Eli, grandson of Eric & Leslie Sporn Joel & Linda Scharf

GELLIS FAMILY FUND FOR SENIOR PROGRAMMING

IN MEMORY OFHazel, mother of Bob Rabinowitz Allyson Cherins

IN HONOR OFSpecial birthday for Frank Davis Bobbe & Vernon Futterman Matty & Dan GoldbergEngagement of Sonja, daughter of Sunny & Mark Seglin, to Nathan Yoder,

Ruth Tenner

INTERFAITH FOOD PANTRY

IN HONOR OFThe birth of Eli, grandson of Eric & Leslie Sporn Lisa & Rob Ozer

IN APPRECIATIONRobin Greenberg Lisa & Rob Ozer

ADAM KATZ MEMORIAL FUND

IN MEMORY OFSandra Katz, mother of Jay Katz Laura Leinberger Linda Kirsch

JOSH LITTMAN VIDEO FUND

IN MEMORY OF Syd Sieber, sister of Annette Littman Ellen & Jay Rice

IN HONOR OFA special birthday for Frank Davis Annette & Harold Littman

LINDA & RUDY SLUCKER RELIGIOUS SCHOOL FUND

IN APPRECIATIONMindy Schreff Deborah Turvey

TSTI ACCESS / TRANSPORTATIONFUND

IN MEMORY OF Arlene Hochman, mother of Judy Rudman Debbie & Richie Dweck

Janis Roni Drake Remembered by Gert ApplebaumGrace Baldini

Remembered byReginald Baldini

Rita Boyle Remembered by Robert BoyleAbe Mardyke

Remembered byBonnie Brauner

Benjamin ChirlsRemembered byAllen Chirls

Emanuel Yeskel Remembered by Jane DecterJames Feit

Remembered bySteven Feit

Esther & Nathan GurlandRemembered by

Bobbe FuttermanMary MatloszJulius Gershon

Remembered byMarianne Gershon

Herbert Goldberg Remembered by Robert GoldbergSamuel BassRuby Gross

Remembered bySheldon Gross

Judah GubbayRemembered byAlexandra Gubbay

Meta HayumRemembered byRobert Hayum

Max LernerRemembered byLouise Herz

Sidney HollaenderRemembered byEstelle Hollaender

Gary DinetzRemembered byFleurette Katz

Matilda GarberRemembered byDeborah Krasner

Jane Lainer HabermanRemembered bySanford Lainer

Alex SutkerBenjamin Rubin

Remembered byJennifer Larson

David OdraRemembered byIta Leach

Elaine LeeRemembered byRobert & Nancy Lee

Walter LeightRemembered byKelly Leight

Robert LindRemembered byJeff rey Lind

William ZikRemembered byMarilyn Mohr

Norman FeinbergRemembered byEllen Nadel

Anthony Lauricella Remembered by Emily OtnerHelen Platt

Remembered byAllan Platt

Harold SmithRemembered byElaine Presby

Bernard ReiterRemembered byGlenn Reiter

Tobey SafrisRemembered byMichael Safris

Rose Schafl erRemembered byHarvey Schafl er

Daniel SchumanBelle Weinberger

Remembered bySandra & Len

SchumanThelma Shaw

Remembered byFred Shaw

Alex SchwartzsteinRemembered by

Doris SpectorMorris Weiner

Remembered byBarbara Stoller

Betty StewartCharlotte Suss

Remembered byLisa & Ronald Suss

Robert TurkRemembered byJoan Turk

Eugene Vinegrad Remembered by Alan VinegradShirley Marks Remembered by

Gale Weisenfeld

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Yizkor Memorial Services --Consolation in Community

While we recite Kaddish individually to honor the deceased yearly, we come together for the Yizkor service

as a time for us to remember them communally. When a community of mourners gathers, we gain strength from one another. Four times a year, the memorial prayers are recited as we mourn together. All are holy days when we remem-ber those whom we have loved and lost.

The fourth Yizkor service of 5777 will take place on

Wednesday, May 3110:30 A.M.

in the Gellis-Green Chapel.

Foll owing the service, a Lunch of Remembrance will be served. The lunch is sponsored by the Adam Katz Memorial Fund.

All in the FamilyMazel tov to:

In Memoriam

May their memories be for a blessing

Renaissance Group

Mimi Braun

Kelly and Adam Leight on the engagement of their daughter, Alyssa, to Palmer Leff ; and their son, Josh, to Ellen Cunningham.

Stephanie Edelson and Rob Brenner on the engagement of their daughter, Jessica, to Matt Cohn.

Beverly and Marshall Weinstein on the marriage of their daughter, Rachel, to Josh Weissman.

RUTH FITZGERALDGrandmother of Mark Berkley

MIRIAM LESSGrandmother of Lauren Byers

HAZEL RABINOWITZMother of Bob Rabinowitz

Grandmother of Audrey Schaefer

ELLIOTT WINOGRADFather of Debbi Shedlin

On Tuesday afternoon, April 11 we gathered at 1:00 PM at Giorgio’s Res-taurant in South Orange to celebrate Passover with a beautiful seder. Since so many of our group no longer drive at night, we wanted to accommodate as many of our Renaissance members as possible, and so, the afternoon seder was created! Ann Merin and I were the chairpersons for this lovely event. We hope everyone enjoyed it as much as we did.

May is a time for doing interest-ing things – so join us for the show, “Clever Little Lies” at the Bickford The-ater in Morristown on Sunday, May 7 at 2:00 PM. Fifteen tickets have been set aside for us – sixth row center – at $18. for Renaissance members and $25. for guests. Supper plans are made at Fairchild’s in Roseland follow-ing the show. Renaissance members received a fl yer with details earlier this month.

The cherry blossoms are in bloom, the sun is shining, and to each and every Renaissance member . . . Happy Springtime!

Jazz it up on Sunday, April 30 with your (RE)Connection friends!

Join us at this special spring (RE)Connection event at West Orange’s Luna Theatre (555 Valley Road) featuring saxophonist Don Braden and the songs of Stevie Wonder and Earth, Wind and Fire. Come for the sweet sounds of great conversation and a dinner of pizza and salad beforehand. BYOB, just like in a restaurant.

We’ll meet at the West Orange Arts Council, right next door to the theatre, at 5pm, and eat with a view of some terrifi c works of local art as we get ready for our musical evening. Don Braden, who has played with jazz great Wynton Marsalis, starts jamming at 7pm. Cost of the meal and music is $35 a person. RSVP to Amy Giles (aandrgiles@comcast.net) or Judy Krandel (jkrandel@gmail.com) by April 8th.

(RE)CONNECTION WANTS TO MEET YOU AND HEAR YOUR IDEAS FOR FUTURE EVENTS!

Would you like to meet other (RE)Connection members? We would like to get to know you! Become involved and make new friends or renew old friendships. Bring your ideas and thoughts to our meeting on Wednes-day, May 17 at 6.30 pm (preceding the Annual Congregational Meeting), when we will start planning our fall and winter gatherings. Contact monique_lurie@yahoo.com to RSVP.

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