From Stress to Success - Tim Wade (Jakarta, Indonesia 27 Nov 2010 for Mentari Books and Marshall...

© 2010 Tim Wade - www.TimWade.com

Tim Wade

www.TimWade.com


Goal Clarity, Preparation, Courage, Belief, Action, Timing


Why do we get stressed?

HERE

THERETAKEACTION

OverwhelmOut of ControlUncomfortable

FEAR


WHY?


2 Primary Fears


What are the Top Student Stressors?


Singapore: Top 7 Teen Stressors


6HN Psychology • GIV

• GRO

SIG

CON

VAR CER

- Robbins


What about NOW?

PROCRASTINATION

= FORWARD

= TOMORROW

A NOUN OF

ACTION!


How do teens procrastinate?


Benefits: Pleasure

What’s good about Procrastination?


Consequences: Pain

What’s bad about Procrastination?


Consequences of Inaction

results

deadline

lifeline


Overcoming Fear & Procrastination

Know Your Goal & Why Change YourMind…set

Be clear about your purpose and specific

about your long-term & short-term goals.

Associate these with Pleasure & Certainty Increase your Awareness


Reticular Activating System


Awareness Test


Staff & leadershipmindset and character

• V9

• 4 mindsets

• 9 characters

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V9 is a profiling tool to help leaders and team members raise their level of self-awareness about their own behaviours, attitudes & thinking styles that either support or hinder their ability to grow, produce & performProductivity can be hindered by negative mindsets, and increased by helping team members and leaders to shift to a mindset of victoryV9 explains 4 mindsets that underlie 9 character types.Our goal is to operate with the mindset of the Victor, by oscillating between the 4 character types of VictorsThis presentation introduces the 9 characters of V9For more, go to www.TimWade.com

V9 was created by Tim Wade

http://www.timwade.com/


V9 – 4 Default Mindsets, 9 Characters

UP

DOWN

LEFT RIGHT

UPRIGHT

DOWNRIGHTLETDOWN

LIFTUP

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V9 – 9 characters to Victory


The Leader25


The Leader

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Knowledge, Talent & Experience with which to guide others toward a Vision. Leaders master 5 key elements:

• Strategic Leadership

• Financial Leadership

• Sales Leadership

• Operational Leadership

• Talent Leadership

Success challenges the Leader with the lure of ego.

Failure challenges the Leader with the temptation of resignation.

Disciplines:

Servant leadership: develop your people, their vision and capabilities.

Seek mastery.

Give purposefully.

Stay true to your purpose & people.

Take action with integrity: Walk your Talk.


The Follower27


The Follower

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Good team player

Able to execute and completetasks as instructed.

Believe and support a Leader

Do not have a clear purpose or mission of their own

Can be overwhelmed by Fear.

Risk: they follow the wrong Leader

Success challenges the Follower with the dependency and fear.

Failure tempts the Follower to blame for self-protection.

Disciplines:

Increase self-awareness.

Develop self.

Get vision.

Increase security: financial, network

Ask questions. Learn.

Seek and you shall find.


The Seeker29


The Seeker

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A purposeful action taker.

Driven to find solutions.

Askers of questions with the intention to learn, grow & apply the answers.

Success leads the Seeker to develops their vision, understanding and leadership.

Tempted by hoarding acquired knowledge and resources.

Risks distraction an inaction from an oversupply of information.

Disciplines:

Apply learned knowledge. Take guided intelligent action.

Seek purpose development.

Measure your increase in your capability to Lead and Develop others, and how to be effective and effectively Give.

Ask, learn, synthesize, share.


The Loner31


The Loner

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Excellent ability to produce and deliver results.

Confident, but arrogant. Ego costs emotional connection.

Unaware of their self-centredness and exploitation of others.

Others abandon them for all but pure business transactions.

Fail when promoted to people-connection positions.

Shifts when a significant event shatters self-image of invincibility.

Disciplines:


Build interpersonal community.

Forecast failure & strategize collaboration.

Share credit. Do not feed the ego. Communicate with “we” not “I”.

Ask for help. Act for a greater good.


The Taker33


The Taker

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Strong sense of self, but selfish.

Fearful of loss or missing out.

Fear causes them to be impulsive and emotionally isolated.

Knows what they want, but it is not what they need.

Risks holding on to resources which would better serve others and themselves if they made it available. They then lose out on opportunities which further drives their Taker behaviour.

Disciplines:

Release attachment to ownership.

Release need for control.

Learn to give gratefully.

Use resources or share them for a worthwhile cause. Donate.

Widen exposure to community service and giving.


The Destroyer35


The Destroyer

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Blames.

Poor sense of self.

No clear purpose for any greater good, but finds purpose and meaning in trying to destroy others.

Self-saboteurs.

Defend their actions through blame and criticism, and can be socially and emotionally isolated.

Productive if output helps them maintain their position or provides them with ammunition.

Disciplines:


Take personal accountability.

Seek purpose development.

Find a mentor who develops them.

Change language patterns.

Look for positive in people and circumstances.

Be grateful.


The Sufferer37


The Sufferer

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Excellent communicators.

Takes on too much to please, but gets stressed when cannot deliver.

Says yes to everything and delivers little. Ineffective. Justifies.

Satisfies themselves on being busy.

Gives excuses for poor completion.

The Sufferer serves a greater good at the sacrifice of self.

Fails to see that if self was preserved, their service to the greater good could be greater.

Gets exploited.

Disciplines:

Focus on completion.

Develop decision-making skills.

Get organised, prioritised.

Release fear of not being liked.

Learn to say “no”.

Learn to delegate.

Be profitably productive.


The Giver39


The Giver

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Generous. Selfless. Strong moral code.

Gives their time, talents and resources.

Believes in, and serves, a greater good.

Motivated by recognition, reciprocation or responsibility.

Risks resource depletion leading to ineffectiveness and a potential character shift to Taker or Sufferer.

Is liked, can be exploited, needs to develop inner strength.

Disciplines:

Give effectively and with purpose.

Define personal giving rules.

Give a portion to self and family.

Strategize a way to increase giving beyond own resources.

Increase negotiation and sales skills.

Learn to increase value delivered to increase giving result.


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The Developer

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Builds people, systems and communities.

Teach, coach, mentor, trainer, educate and facilitate to achieve measurable growth in the people in their care.

Create the conditions that support growth.

Serve the greater good through the positive development of others.

Risks include over-commitment, loss of team, loss of vision, loss of enthusiasm, out-dated content.

Disciplines:

Create conditions for others’ growth with questions and challenges.

Succession plan. Replace yourself. Develop others to surpass you.

Release your seekers to lead.

Invest in recharging yourself.

Seek new insights, develop, share.


V9


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Singapore: Top 7 Teen Stressors


6HN Psychology • GIV

• GRO

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SIG

CON

VAR CER



Greater Sense of Personal Control

Poorer Sense of Personal Control


V9: 9 characters to Victory

Highest+ve Significance +ve Connection

Low Significance Low Connection

High Significance Low Connection

High –ve SignificanceHigh +ve Connection



Poor Sense of Contribution & Growth

Poorest Sense of Connection & Growth

Greatest Sense of Contribution & Growth

Greatest Sense of Contribution & Growth


How do we help people shift?Awareness

Desire

Commitment

Transformation

Reinforcement

Greater Sense of Personal Control (self-directed)

Higher sense of positive significance

Higher Sense of Connection

Higher Sense of Contribution & Growth


Awareness: V9 in practiceINFLUENCE52

SEEKER: AWARENESS

• Where am I?

• Why am I here?

• What did I do?

• Where do I want to be?

• What must I do?

• Who must I become?

• What must I change?


LEADER:INFLUENCE

6 Laws of Influence- Dr Robert Cialdini

Reciprocity: I influence others by giving them

value first, then they will give value back to me.

Authority: I influence others by my certainty. I

use my body, my emotions, my intelligence and my voice so others have confidence in me.

Scarcity: I help people make decisions and take

action by limiting the time, quantity or availability of things that they value.

Commitment & Consistency:

I help people commit to what I offer by acknowledging their great decisions based on the information they had at the time, and now giving them new information to make a new decision.

Liking: People do things for people they like.

People like people who like them. Because I choose to like people, they tend to like me, and I can influence them through this relationship.

Social Proof: People are influenced to imitate

the actions of people similar to them. I help people see that others like them are already doing what I want them to do.


DEVELOPER:7 Master Steps for Change

1. Understand and Appreciate Their World

2. Get Leverage

3. Interrupt the Pattern

4. Define the Problem in Solvable Terms

5. Create an Empowering Alternative

6. Condition It!

7. Test & Check For Ecology

- Robbins


Pavlovian Conditioning


Why?

• We are conditioned to think acertain way (mindset)

• What we think about determinesour moods / feelings / emotions (character)

• Our feelings can determine the extent of our actions (motivation)

• Our actions determine our results

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How Can We Manage These Stressors


Solutions

PSYCHOLOGY

• Leadership Development

• Encourage & Celebrate

• Identify Human Needs – Triad: words

• Identify Mindset: V9 Character & chart a Path

RESULTS

• Leadership Development

• Goals, Prioritization & Organisation

• Self-Discipline & Action

• Productivity & Time Mastery


Key pedagogies that engage and

motivate

• Cultivate Curiosity (Seeker)• Employ 6HN & V9 Victor Characters

(Certainty, Variety, Connection, Significance, Growth & Contribution)

• Teach Others(Developer, Leader, Giver, Seeker,Contribution, Growth)

• Game Show(Connection, Significance, Variety, Leader, Developer, Seeker, Giver)

• 100m Sprint(Variety, Developer, Leader)

• Music – Close Eye(Connection, Seeker, Giver)

• Video Production(Connection, Significance, Variety, Contribution, Growth, Giver, Leader)


The Results Acceleration & Time Mastery experience with Tim Wade


“Successful people formed the habit of doing things that failures don’t like to do.” - Albert E. N. Gray, 1940

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SEEK COMPLETION, PRIORITY & ACTION

SEEK POSITIVE POSSIBILITIES & OWN ACCOUNTABILITY

SEEKALIGNMENT& IMPROVE COMMUNICATION

BECOME THE SEEKER,UNDERSTAND HOW IT ALL WORKS TOGETHER

Cultivating the Victory Mindsetin students and the teaching team


Sell the solution Walk your TalkAsk for action CoachTest & Measure Develop

Source info Clarify & EvaluateEngage people Strategise planAsk for help Systemise

How?

SOLVE SHOW

SEEK SIMPLIFY


TEST AWARENESS Part 2


Cultivating a Possibility Mindset


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