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Friendship and Love (Human Adjustment) Psychology
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Friendship and lovePresented by Group One
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Friendship
Enjoyment
Acceptance
Trust Respect
MutualAssistance
Confiding in
each other Understanding
Spontaneity
Love
Passion
Caring
Friendship versus Love
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Factors that increase
friendship:
Ben Franklin Effectafter helping another person welike them more.
Contact Hypothesisbringing enemies together leadstowards friendship.
Dilution Effectinformation about others reducestereotyping
Empathy-Altruism Hypothesisifwe feel empathy weare likely to help.
Law of Attractionsimilar attitudes lead to friendship
Mere Exposure theoryexposure to people increasesliking.
Pratfall Effectbeing clumsy makes you likeable.
Propinquity Effectmeeting and interacting increasechance of friendship
Repulsion Hypothesiswe prefer those with similarattitudes (and vice versa).
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Different stages
of Friendship
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SOCIAL-PENETRATION THEORY
OrientationStage
Exploratoryaffectivestage.
AffectiveStage
Stable Stage
Depenetration
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Levingers Stage Theory
Ending
Deterioration
Continuation / Consolidation
Build-up
Acquaintance / Attraction
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Stimulus-value-role model
Stimulus
Stage Evaluation of a
person in termsof physicalattributes
ValueStage
Comparison invalues happen; Ifcompatible witheach other, we
continue.
RoleStage
Sharing ofactivities to builda workingrelationship
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Terminating friendships
PositiveTone
Verbalde-
escalation
Behavioralde-escalation
NegativeIdentityManage
ment
Justification
Codysalternativestrategies
Relationship is fairlyhealthy, butdissatisfaction builds up
RelationshipPhase
The focus is on thefaults of the other
partner
Intraphysics
Phase
Breakdown nowcomes out into theopen
Dyadic Phase
The focus to the
perceptions of otherpeople.
Social Phase
The relationship nowgets its officialburying
GraveDressing
Phase
Ducks four-five stage model
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What is love? (Four Different
perspectives)
The physicist: Love is chemistry Biologically, love is a powerful neurological condition like hunger or thirst,
only more permanent.
The psychotherapist: Love has many guises
The ancients did not lump all the various emotions that we label "love"under the one word.
The philosopher: Love is passionate commitment The answer remains elusive in part because love is not one thing.
The romantic novelist: Love drives all great stories What love is depends on where you are in relation to it.
The nun: Love is free, yet it binds us
Love is more easily experienced than defined.
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What is real love? Real love is a conscious choice that
often employs the rational part of ourbrains.
Real love accepts that your partner isa fallible, imperfect human, just as youare.
Real love ebbs and flows in terms of
interest, ease, and feelings. Real love is based on shared values
and a solid friendship.
Real love is action.
Real love is a spiritual practice in thatyour focus is not how you can changeyour partner to alleviate your anger,pain, or annoyance but how you canassume full responsibility for thosefeelings and find healthy andconstructive ways to attend to them.
Real love is a lifelong practice.
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Theories about love
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Erich Fromms The Art of Loving
He identified four components of love:
Care - wanting the best for those we love Responsibility - being sensitive/responsive to needs
Respect - accepting them for who they are
Knowledge - being aware of needs/values/goals/feelings
B. He identified levels of development of love
Infantile love - I love you because I am loved
Immature love - I love you because I need you
Mature love - I need you because I love you
Erot ic love -deceptive love because it is soon exhausted
D. He popularized the idea ofsel f- love- you have to love
yourself in order to love others - i.e. think yourself worthy.
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STERNBERGS TRIANGULAR THEORY OF LOVE
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STERNBERGS TRIANGULAR THEORY OF LOVE
Components of love: Intimacy: sharing of
feelings and providing
emotional support for
each other.
Commitment: a sense
of attachment toanother person
Passion: linked with
physiological arousal
of the body
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LEEs Colours of love
Eros Romance
Ludos ConquestStorge Friendship
Pragma
Practicality
Mania Obsession
Agape -
Selflessness
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I finally understood what true love meant... love meant that you carefor another person's happiness more than your own, no matter how
painful the choices you face might be.
Nicholas Sparks, Dear John