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FLOWFLOW
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Time warps (slow or fast)Lose sense of selfIntense focusPerform at highest levelSeems effortless (flow)Internally satisfyingRegain larger sense of self
Adapted from FLOW by Mihalyi Csikszentmihalyi
What do you think of Flow …
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It seems to come from a variety of sources
But can you repeat it regularly or is it “unmanageable?”
Could you design it into your life?More importantly, what if it were in
you, that is, what if you could transport it from one activity to another?
Study of World Class Performers
NEWBURG’S CAREER SAMPLES
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World Class AthletesTouring MusiciansHeart SurgeonsExtraordinary ExecutivesWarriors/Naval Aviators
550 World Class Performers
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The Resonance ModelThe Resonance Model
revisit your
dream
dream
obstacles
preparation
Doug Newburg, PhD
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“When people come to work, it’s important that they be connected to a dream.”
- Bill Gates, Fortune, 1/26/04, p. 124
Not much happens without a dream. And for something great to happen, there must be a great dream. Behind every great achievement is a dreamer of great dreams. Much more than a dreamer is required to bring it to reality; but the dream must be there first.
- Robert Greenleaf, Servant Leadership, p. 16
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Two Kinds of Life’s Dreams
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LD externalWhat you wanted to
be or do.Externally measuredAchievement based“Success”
LD internalHow you felt at your
best.Internally measuredExperience based“Success”
Your internal Life’s Dream (LDint)
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Is not a “goal” which is a “false dream” Is a connection between resonance
producing activities and the Feelings that come at the peak
Goals vs “Experience” (feel)
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Much of the industrial era has focused on goal setting
Achievement orientation often drives our behavior at the expense of our emotional experience
Remember to remember how you feel is equally as important as what you do.
The dangerous “outside-in” nature of
corporate goals.
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Assertiveness OUTSIDE
INSIDE
0%
100%
50%
Fear ofRejection
Focusing on Feel to Perform
Dave Scott 49, Six-time Ironman Hawaii Champion
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“During a race, I never wear a wristwatch, and my bike doesn’t have a speedometer. They’re distractions.
All I work on is finding a rhythm that feels strong and sticking to it.”
Outside, 9/03, p. 122
Good to Great, by Jim Collins, Harper
Jim Collins’ answer:
The Hedgehog Concept
and Passion
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PASSION
SKILL and TALENT
ECONOM
IC RETURN
BHAGs
Does how you feel affect your performance?
How many times have you been asked by supervision at work how you want to feel?
How do you WANT to feel?The pervasive management assumption:
PWD WTHTD ROHTF
This is a formula for mediocrity.
© James G. Clawson
Examples of Feel …
Easy speed (Jeff Rouse) Playing to win at the
highest level (Dawn Staley) Out of my chest Being at one with my
surroundings Peaceful, satisfied, alive Buoyant, connected
mastery Light, unhurried, and
engaged.
Be careful of the “achievement orientation”
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Energy
Other dangers of the achievement orientation:
1.Winning at any cost2.Making the numbers is #13.Emerging hollowness4.Character and ethical implications
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The Resonance ModelPreparation
Doug Newburg, PhD
dream
preparation
Preparation, practice, rehearsal, WORK
Preparation
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People ask me, “How do you play so well?” I practiced, intense “shedding.” If you’re willing to put in the time, you can do it to a certain level. Maybe I have a special talent that is intangible, but if you are willing to put in the time, you can really get it together.”
Bruce Hornsby
The Relationship between Dream and Preparation: Vijay Singh, pro
golfer
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“Confidence doesn’t come from winning. Winning comes from confidence. And that confidence comes from hard work.”
- Vijay Singh, Golf Digest, “From the Gallery,” June 2005. Singh won nine tournaments in 2004, was ranked #1 in the world, and is known for his extraordinary practice regimen, hours and hours a day.
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STAMINA: the preparation “problem”
Doug Newburg, PhD
dream
preparation
There will be no stamina topersist
unless you love the thing
Relationship between stamina and the “dream”
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“Even to this day I get a thrill out of just hitting balls. Seeing the shot and then hitting the shot. If I can hit the ball the way I want to hit it on the range, I’d rather do that than play golf. I just love the feeling of hitting good golf shots.”
- Vijay Singh, Golf Digest, April 2008, page 188.What do you enjoy enough that you can
persist doing it just for the joy of doing it?
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“I stopped loving golf at exactly the time I decided to turn pro.” - Tom Weiskopf , Golf, July 2004, p. 133
What’s the difference between What’s the difference between “work” and a “job?”“work” and a “job?”
People pay me a lot of money to go away from my family, stay in cheap motels, ride on the bus all night, and eat rubber chicken. But when the curtain goes up and the light on the camera goes on, THAT I do for free.
- Grammy winning musician
The difference between “work” and a Job
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?
??
JOB: what you have to do
WORK: what you choose choose
to do with your life
OBSTACLES
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Adversity has ever been considered the state in which a man most easily becomes acquainted with himself.
- Samuel Johnson
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Typical Reaction to Obstacles:Getting stuck in the “Duty” Cycle
dream
sobstacless
““Stuck in Stuck in
the Have-to the Have-to
Duty Cycle”Duty Cycle”
preparation
What happens when one crosses the
divide between choice and obligation?
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CHOICE OBLIGATION
Energy?Productivity?
Creativity?Innovation
Engagement?Commitment?
Buy-In?
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We all start out knowing magic. We are born with whirlwinds, forest fires and comets inside of us. We are all born able to sing to birds and read the clouds, and see our destiny in grains of sand.
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But then we get the magic educated right out of our souls. We get it churched out, spanked out, washed out, and combed out. We get put on the straight and narrow and told to be responsible. Told to act our age. Told to grow up, for God’s sake. And you know why we were told that? Because the people doing the telling were afraid of our youth, and because the magic we knew made them ashamed and sad about what they had allowed to wither in themselves.
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After you go so far away from it though, you can’t really get it back, just seconds of knowing and remembering. When people get weepy at movies, it’s because in that dark theater the golden pool of magic is touched just briefly. Then they come out into the hard sun of logic and reason again and it dries up, and they’re left feeling a little heavy, and they don’t know why.
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The truth of life is that each year we get a little further from the essence that is born with us. We get shouldered burdens, some of them good, some of them not so good. Things happen to us. Life itself does its best to take that memory of magic away from us. You don’t know it’s happening until one day you feel like you’ve lost something… and you’re not sure what it is. It’s like smiling at a pretty girl, and she calls you “sir.” It just happens.
From “Boy’s Life,” Robert MacCammon
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The Resonance ModelBreaking through the SOS Barrier
revisit revisit your your dreamdream
dream
obstacles
preparation
Revisiting the Dream
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Reconnecting with your emotional experiencing
Reconnecting with “why?” Balancing experience with results Getting OUT of the “duty cycle” Paradoxically improves results
Revisiting the Dream
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“Just mixing it up with the guys and being in the hunt is a rush, and I can’t wait to experience those feelings again.”
Tiger Woods, after three months rehab on his knee, Golf Digest, October 2008, p. 55
One surgeon …
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Asks patients to tell “why they want to live longer”
Asks for a photo after surgery This reconnects patients with their
dreams Reconnects surgeon with his dream: to
prevent deaths like his grandfather’s Personal Management Process: he
reconnects with his dream through patients’ photos
How do you approach your work?How do you approach your work?
revisit your dream
dream
obligation
preparationpreparation
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“feel” and “goal” are not the same…
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…we still had a long way to go. Like ants getting over an enormous obstacle we climbed up without appearing to make any progress. The slope was very steep. . . The air was luminous, and the light was tinged with the most delicate blue. On the other side of the couloir, ridges of bare ice refracted the light like prisms and sparkled with rainbow hues. The weather was still set fine--not a single cloud--and the air was dry. I felt in splendid form and as if, somehow, I had found a perfect balance within myself--was this, I wondered, the essence of happiness.
Maurice Herzog, Annapurna, p. 166
Resonance is a question of
inward and outward harmony
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I think that what we’re seeking is an experience of being alive, so that our life experiences on the purely physical plane will have resonance with our innermost being and reality, so that we actually feel the rapture of being alive.
Joseph Campbell, The Power of Myth, 1988
"Excellence is attained by those who care more than others think is wise, who risk more than others think is safe, who dream more than others think is practical.“
Bud Greenspan
The Pursuit of Excellence
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Five Key Questions
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1. How do I wantto feel today?
2. What does it take to get that feeling?
3. What keeps me from that feeling?
4. How can Iget it back? RESONANCE
5. What are you
willing to work for?
THE PURPOSE OF LIFE
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Find Your Resonance Invest in Your ResonanceEnjoy Your ResonanceHelp Others Find Their
Resonance
Key Points …
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Pay attention to your internal Life’s Dream as well as your external Life’s Dream
Ask yourself, “if you’re not resonating, will you be performing at a world-class level?”
Pay attention to your experience along with your achieving.
It’s your life: what are you willing to work for?
Ignore Task AND Process at the risk of your enjoyment AND your performance
Implications for Team Managers
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Can you distinguish between LDext and LDint?
Can you identify your LDint? Can you identify your team’s LDint? Can you help people reconnect
with their LDint? If you could, what would be the
impact be on team performance?
IMPACT OF YOUR DREAM FOCUSExternal Life’s Dream
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Internal Life’s Dream
+ Poor but Poor but HappyHappy
PASSIONPASSION
- Lost and Lost and
WanderingWandering Rich but Rich but EmptyEmpty
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Maria Sharapova on “feel”
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Bernie Goldberg: You are not all that comfortable with all the hoopla...
Sharapova: I understand it...I understand that part of it...I understand that this is just part of my life. But do I like doing it all the time? No. I'd rather be on the court.
Goldberg: So being back on the tennis court is more relaxing for you...
Sharapova: It is a feeling that you have...that I have hit a ball since I was four years old...have I been in front of a camera since I was four years old? No, that's not why I came to the U. S. I didn't come here to be in front of a lens. I came here to work my butt off.