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Finding your soulmate
We at Kasamba see our clients’ day to day struggle to
find and keep the love they deserve. Therefore we
decided to gather words of wisdom from our best
advisors who were handpicked by our staff.
The advisors’ wisdom encapsulate dozens of years of
global experience that was designed to help you through
one of the biggest challenges of our time- finding your
soulmate.
We invite you to take in every chapter in this eBook and
use its insight to help you in your journey.
“A lover has to be chosen from soul-
craving. To choose just because
something mouthwatering stands before
you will never satisfy the hunger of the
soul. And that is what the intuition is for;
it is the direct messenger of the soul.”
Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estes
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Table of contents
1. Finding your soul-mate
Page 4
2. Four big questions
to ask yourself after the first date
Page 8
3. How to overcome
emotional baggage before starting a new relationship?
Page 12
4. What if he's not
really the one?
Page 16
5. What if your
soulmate is already married?
Page 20
6. A practical guide to
tuning your intuition for finding a loving soulmate
7. Five Love Myths That May Be Hurting Your Relationship
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Page 32
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The drive behind our desire for “the one” and how to align with its energy
– by Maya Moon
While there is certainly no denying the romantic, sexual,
emotional and general sense of happiness finding our
soul-mate brings, if we look deeper into the spiritual and
universal drive that both humans and all "earthlings"
share, we find an interesting common denominator.
Whether following Christian-Judaism, the Darwin theory
or alternate theories of how we came to be, one thing
stands vividly clear; without procreation no species would
continue to exist.
Our deepest spiritual and ancient ancestral drives and
instincts for survival quite clearly support that a "soul-
mate" or companion is as much a need as it is a desire.
Whether we imagine Adam and Eve wandering through
Eden or the evolution of the Homo sapiens and even
earlier instances of what we now call "man"; the survival
of self and species literally depended on finding others.
Without this instinct to secure a life mate, companion or
partner the world would be a place of chaos and almost
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no variation of species including the rainbow of culture,
color and existence of human beings.
Our spiritual core or self is in a sense the "control center"
for guiding us towards love and in the recognition of our
soul mate, twin flame or life partner. It could be said that
our spirituality is "hard-wired" for love; and has the
innate ability to be the source and path that unites us
with the person we are intended to share our lives with
for the highest possible outcome. If you have ever
attended a social function or party and amongst a large
group found your attention drawn to a particular
individual, perhaps noticing that person also seems to be
focused on you. This is an example of our spiritual
essence and energy at work, the higher power that exists
within all humans to fulfill the destiny of love and spiritual
connection.
It is that unexplained drive that urges us to seek a
particular individual above another. And for those that
follow this natural and highly evolved guidance, we often
find that person we have dreamt of, imagined or longed
for.
In the same context that our body alerts us to thirst,
hunger or other needs, our spiritual energy or core is truly
our "love monitoring center". For those that have learned
to rely on this energy and influence, they are led not only
to love but to those best suited, compatible and often
"meant to be". And is why we should follow our spiritual
influences even when perhaps we are guided towards
someone not within our usual or traditional type or social
network.
Love is a basic instinct and just as vital to our survival as
all other instincts. Sometimes we just need a reminder
that our spirituality serves that purpose much better and
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more fully than any matchmaker or trying to force our self
to love or unite with someone, when that special
something just doesn't seem to exist. From that first
glimpse or first kiss, true love is not just emotional but
one of the strongest and most spiritual experiences
humans are blessed with.
For no matter what has been, or lies behind; ahead just
up the road love waits, always, forever and for all. And
with a little faith and a lot of hope; your spiritual instinct,
all that drives each earthling to continually exist and
persevere lives the undeniable and core existence for the
survival of love.
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Top psychic Maya Moon – see profile
Years on Kasamba: 10
Client reviews: 5700
Reading tools: Spirit guides, Channeling
About Maya Moon:
It is always my intention to honor and serve your highest
self and path.
I use a variety of techniques utilizing my connection to
spirit. Each reading is customized to your particular issues
and needs.
I do not judge, nor do I give my "personal opinion”.
I am a teacher, mentor, prophet and advisor.
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Four big questions to ask yourself after the first date – by Psychic Yazmin
There are some relationships that have such strong
chemistry that regardless of the circumstances you still
somehow seem to gravitate together (soulmate) bonds
and just simple destiny!
There are other relationships that start off more
differently and when or having gone out on your first date
it is always good to figure out or ask yourself a few
personal questions about your new date/relationship.
Here are four important questions that you should think
about whilst moving ahead in a relationship and sharing
a soulmate link with a partner.
The following simple questions you could ask yourself in
order to make a decision on moving ahead more
harmoniously and giving the chances of the relationship
being a long term union.
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1. First instant connection:
When seeing your date: How did it feel? Was it like
connecting with someone that you had already met with
before? Seeing your soulmate has been heard of to be
just like “connecting with a best friend” even though you
have never spent time with this person before.
Sharing similar sense of humor and being able to share an
understanding of simplistic jokes points of view in life and
maybe even other simple subjects.
You will feel an instant connection and will thrive off that
connection (becoming who you are at your best).
Sharing these deep connections on first instance shows
you the soul mate connection, but also gives you an
indication of where you see things heading.
2. Feeling a strong sexual attraction:
When on first instance meeting your potential partner, it
is not uncommon to feel a strong sexual chemistry -
feeling an emotion of pure lust and desire. A soulmate
relationship or a past life’s connection mean that you are
reconnecting with that person from another life. Also,
connecting with them is like re- establishing a former
sexual relationship past bond.
Asking yourself how you feel and how you see them also
can intensify that desire lust and sexual intensity.
3. Understanding one another’s needs:
How you feel with your date being involved in
conversation? How at ease you were with debating or
talking about things or uneasy circumstances/situations?
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While being with your soulmate, you should feel an
instant feeling of understanding and knowing them. This
may make you feel uncomfortable.
Sharing that intense spiritual soulmate bond will give you
a sense of unity understanding as if it was a team
relationship. Even while just being together in the most
difficult of situations or circumstances, you shall feel a
collectiveness and confidence in them and their way of
communicating with you and others on your behalf.
4. Did you feel safe?
Feeling a sense of togetherness and just knowing this
person has your best interests at heart.
They may have gone out of their way to make sure that
you have travel arrangements sorted out for your way
back home. Feeling that definite assurance and support a
bonding with your soulmate that you feel with no other.
Having a soulmates connection, it is very likely that you
feel a deep sense of “home”, that you are in a place
position and situation where you are being taken care of
love, safety and comfort. When you are at home you feel
safe and an assurance that you can be you in every way
possible.
Thinking about these key things and emotional feelings
can help you make a safe soulmate relationship based on
these intense feelings and help you move forward in a
harmonious bonding soulmate relationship.
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Top Psychic Yazmin – see
profile
Years on Kasamba: 11
Client reviews: 18,408
Reading tools: Spirit guides, Dream interpretation,
Crystal ball
About Psychic Yazmin:
I am a spirituality and religion expert who can give clear
guidance and accuracy on whatever area of your life you
seek guidance in through spiritual means.
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How to overcome emotional baggage before starting a new relationship?
– by Divine Messenger Zuco
So you might have some baggage. Welcome to the club! Baggage is of itself not a bad thing. But if your baggage is getting in the way, it may be time to empty that cute Hello Kitty suitcase and see what can stay and what should go. The first step is the easiest. Be honest with yourself. You’d be surprised how little of that we actually do. By honesty, I mean be clear with yourself about who you are, what you need and what you are dealing with right now. What is your issue? Everyone has at least one... or a million. Every one of our life paths is different. It’s ok to have them. But be straight with yourself about what and why. Now that you know what you’re dealing with and why, you cannot ignore it. Somethings can take time to resolve. Some problems don’t have immediate answers. If you lack a cure, then don’t fall back on treatment. That means having an outlet to discuss your worries, concerns, stressors and triggers. Having a strong support system that includes, friends,
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family and even advisors can ensure that you don’t become overwhelmed! The problems and memories that you had before your prince came into your life are all still very much there. Life is and feels better. But the past hasn’t vanished. You still need to maintain all your coping skills and still deal with the stress that you will inevitably have to confront during a relationship. Past relationships do have a way of leaving a mark on us that can cause us to become anxious around similar situations. You might find yourself tripping up and reacting out of memory. An example would be if your new partner did or said something to remind you of an unpleasant event. In turn, without thinking you overreact. You’re now in a situation where you have to explain yourself. Worse yet, you have to try to justify why him suggesting that you catch a movie on a Thursday is one of the most offensive things that he could do. You can’t. So be prepared to be honest about why you reacted. It can become an opportunity for much more closeness and a way to build trust. It’s obviously not as easy as just getting over it. Some problems have solutions, while others don’t. Now I’ll outline a way of overcoming and managing those pesky heavy items that you can’t take with you on your flight. Overcoming is the act of successfully dealing with or gaining control of something difficult. You gain experience through overcoming your baggage. Baggage that has become too heavy or difficult to carry around. You’ve overcome a lot in your life. The fact that you are even here is proof of that. Baggage is defined as personal belongings that are confined to a compartment or vessel. Baggage is about
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what’s in the bag. It’s not garbage. It’s part of who you are. It’s like your life could be if it fit into a bag. In that bag has all your experiences, tools and memories. Some are heavier to carry around. Some are like a Rubik’s cube that you haven’t figured out yet. But still essential in you being able to navigate this world and your life. As your relationship grows, as you get to know and understand your new partner, you may discover that they too have similar baggage. That you both “get it”. There is nothing quite like being able to understand and understood at exactly the same time. It’s even better when you can share how you feel about an experience that your partner can not only identify with, but help you overcome. Yes, your partner may be the only person that can help you identify and overcome some issues. Not all, of course. No one is in your life to solve all your problems. But everyone has something that they can add to your baggage or take away from it. Make sure that when it's time to board that flight to the moon, that you travel light! Leave the oversize issues behind and be ready to enjoy life to the fullest!
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Divine Messenger Zuco – see profile
Years on Kasamba: 9
Client reviews: 9,757
Reading tools: Spirit guides, Tarot, Channeling
About Divine Messenger Zuco:
Are they going to call? What do they feel? What is going
to happen next? These and other questions can
sometimes take a toll on us. Get the answers that you
seek from someone who will be honest, direct and to the
point. No fluff, just the truth. Hopeful and caring. All are
welcome.
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What if he's not really the one? – by Chrisalis
Ever felt like you are banging your head off a brick wall when it comes to love? Feels as if no matter what you try you cannot get ahead in a relationship or smooth over the problems you are experiencing with your partner? What if he is not really “the one” or not “the one for right now”? You do have choices, you do have free will and you do have the right to decide on what you want in your own life.
No one said soul mate relationships are easy
In fact, they can be the most difficult relationships we encounter as they not only make our emotions and responses so intense but can also make us crazy with wanting to stay in a relationship that is not working for us on any level.
Relationships take work and if your partner is not putting in their fair share of the emotional, physical and mental work then it should not be left to you alone to fix things.
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If one person is doing all the work in a relationship they can find themselves drained and resentful pretty quickly.
If you are used to always being the one giving then you may see this as normal behavior when in reality you are setting yourself up for the very outcome you are trying to avoid. You are also teaching you partner that they only have to give in small amounts back in order to receive plenty from you. Sometimes you are teaching them that they don’t need to give at all or give in a negative way to receive the best from you.
When all else fails you may be desperate enough to think a spell will work in your favor. Now I am all for you making your wishes come true. The operative words in there being “you” making “your” wishes come true. However, think long and hard before you put your wishes into the hands of someone else. This is the time to take your own power back not hand it over to a third party who promises you a quick fix to your love problems.
No one knows you and your hopes and wishes better than you do. Think on those words because within them is your own power. It starts with you and it ends with you. If you use your own power to make your wishes come true then you not only start directing your life more clearly you also start acting in your own best interests which allows your soul to shine through and remove blocks around you.
It took you time and energy to get you were you are today in your relationship and it will take you time and energy to get you back to where you want to be in your life and away from being drained.
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Of course, you may have already decided that you need to end this relationship in order to get your “self” and your life back on track. If so, do not let anyone keep you in there. Think for yourself and act accordingly. No one knows better than you do what you really want.
You may feel as if you are trapped and have nowhere to turn so your first step is to find someone who is supportive of your thoughts, feelings and actions so you can talk them through and actually “hear” what your “self” is telling you. This may be a soulmate relationship but you also have a relationship with your own soul and may have lost yourself so much to the relationship that you are not listening to your own soul’s wisdom.
Often when you verbalize your emotions and thoughts out loud they resonate back to you and you can see a pattern and a path forward for you to get back into your “self”. As your partner sees you changing because of this it often has the effect that they try to control you more or they change themselves in order to keep you in their lives.
The magic is in you
It starts with you and it ends with you. Do not give over your own power to your partner or anyone else who promises you a quick fix. Be you dream, live your dream and if that dream has turned into a nightmare then walk away and start a new dream. Sometimes, it is not about saving the relationship or saving the other person. Sometimes it is about saving your “self”.
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Top Advisor Chrisalis –
see profile
Years on Kasamba: 8 Client reviews: 1,730 Reading tools: Tarot, Astrology, Channeling About Chrisalis: I do not only focus on the present and future, but also
look at the past to see where the problems being faced
right now have originated. This can help you in finding the
answer to the best way forward as it can show you how
to change patterns in relationships and take control
again.
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What if your soulmate is already married? – by Mrs. Donna
There are times in life when we just aren’t sure what the
next move should be. We get lost in a jumble of different
emotions and become confused by the vast number of
different experiences that we encounter. Sometimes, our
very soul is conflicted.
When we find love, we are bombarded by countless
energies and emotions; every nerve in our body is firing
and sending shockwaves throughout our being. It’s
invigorating and exciting and we become thrilled with the
possibilities for the future with the one we love. What
happens if the one we love; our soul mate, is already
married?
What do we do when we don’t know what to do? There
is bound to be internal and moral conflict in this situation.
Our soul is screaming out for its mate, and yet, we cannot
or should not proceed to make the connection because
the person it’s attached to is already committed to
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someone else through marriage. We are left to wonder,
can a married person truly be my soul mate? Is it possible
that I have made a mistake? What steps do I take next?
There are so many questions that we send out into the
universe, just hoping for an answer.
Sometimes, the answers don’t come as you had hoped or
even as you had expected. We cannot help how we feel.
Unfortunately, we are tightly woven by our emotions and
the energies that they present. However, we can decide
how we will behave according to those emotions.
The truth is that the term soul-mate is often
misunderstood. It can come in the forms of friends,
lovers, family, or even strangers in brief passing who
change the trajectory of our lives. There are multiple
opportunities to make connections to other human
beings on a spiritual and soulful level.
A situation such as this one requires careful choices,
discernment, and thoughtful action. There is no room for
negative judgments when it comes to matters of the
heart and soul. Some of the biggest questions in this
situation are regarding When, How, and IF the other
person is going to deal with their legal marriage.
You could also ask, “IF they are really my soul-mate, won’t
they automatically choose me?” Well, the short answer is
no. Having a soul-to-soul connection doesn’t mean that
you are guaranteed to spend eternity together.
Sometimes, we have to take on these very difficult
challenges and accept them as important lessons for us in
this lifetime.
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We must understand that when two people meet, there
is a vibration that occurs between them, it is unique only
to these two people and it can jolt our spirit into chaos.
These vibrations can send the message that we have
found our soul-mate. It’s important to be conscious of
how many times we have experienced this feeling so that
we can use discernment when making choices about how
to proceed. Is it REAL? Is it definite? Is it forever?
When people marry, they believe that they are marrying
their soul-mate. Then, the mundane tasks and stressors
of life begin to interfere with the cosmic connection
between the two, and they simply forget that they are
soul-mates. If two do not practice tuning into the
vibrations that brought them together in the first place,
they can become confused when they encounter similar
emotions in someone other than their spouse. All
relationships have the potential to become soul-mates;
however, not all relationship already are.
So, the dilemma of encountering your soul-mate when
they are already married can be summed up in three
questions:
Where are you on the path to spiritual marriage?
Are you or your prospective soul-mate in a soul-
mate relationship/marriage already?
Is the new relationship between you just an
attempt to recall the intensity of what it feels like
to be in a soul-mate relationship?
As we elevate our consciousness, we can see that all
human beings are really part of the same spiritual plane.
We are all connected in a cosmic and otherworldly chain
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that provides us with many opportunities to create the
lives and loves that our souls ache for.
If the one that you have found is married and they
recognize that their spouse is indeed not their soul-mate.
The universe will open up the path for you to be together,
if it is meant to be. It is also important to remember that
human beings sometimes create relationships that are
temporary to teach or learn something from one another.
Not all relationships are meant to last forever in the
physical. Yet, some relationships are meant to last a
lifetime, and continue on through various forms and
expressions from lifetime to lifetime.
These relationships can be counted among the deep
spiritual marriage and soul mate connections. How do
you know if the soul-to-soul connection that you have
experienced with this other person (who is married) is
real and true? What questions do you need to ask? What
questions do you need answered? It can be extremely
difficult to navigate such deep and murky spiritual
waters.
How do you react if your soul mate chooses to stay
married? Can you love and connect to another human
being in such an intense and fulfilling way? Will you be
destined to be alone and wandering in this life? These are
all very emotional questions that undoubtedly can cause
a lot of inner turmoil and spiritual conflict.
As I said, there are times in life that we come to an
impasse and we just aren’t sure which path to take. The
majority of human beings do not wish to hurt others; we
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want to be happy and to see other people happy.
However, when we come to this very conflicting situation,
how can we know what we should do next?
I am here to help answer all of these pressing questions
and help you choose a path that you can be happy and
comfortable with. Allow me to help you make decisions
that will mold your life and love into what you want and
deserve. You don’t have to be overwhelmed by making
these important decisions alone.
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Top Advisor Mrs Donna – see profile
Years on Kasamba: 5
Client reviews: 4,808
Reading tools: Spirit guides, Tarot, Channeling
About Mrs Donna:
I am experienced with 40 years + of working with people
in the area of love and life. I walk a spiritual path daily to
always understand the true spirituality of love and the
importance of the soul being committed to another.
Where life sometimes will give you many options on what
paths to walk I can ensure you that I can put you on the
right path.
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A practical guide to tuning your intuition for finding a loving soulmate – by Totem Aion
Soul mates come into our lives in various types and
sometimes under unusual circumstances. There are those
who come to teach us lessons -often the hard way-, there
are those who come to nurture and support us, while
some believe that a soul mate could be even a random
person on the street, who will give an important message
we need to hear. It’s crucial to not confuse enthusiasm
for someone we just met with the deep, often instant
connection we feel, when we meet a true soul mate.
But how to tune your intuition to attract a loving soul
mate for a healthy relationship?
The first step is to have a clear understanding of which
you want the desirable -as well as the undesirable- traits
of your soul mate to be, so as to avoid attracting an
energetically challenging soul mate. A good way to do this
is by placing a psychic request, an order if you prefer, so
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that the universe/God will deliver that special someone
to you. What we actually want to do is to create a psychic
imprint of the request on your subconscious that through
a simple and short ritual will be projected to the collective
subconscious, in order to facilitate and speed up the
process of meeting your soul mate. The ritual will
strengthen your spiritual connection with the elemental
energies that surround you -the ones that will carry your
message to the spiritual realm- and also with the soul
mate you want to bring into your life.
We know now that our subconscious minds are chiefly
responsible for any decisions we make, so although this
ritual may appear to be magic, it's actually a self-hypnosis
session, which will make your subconscious mind fertile
ground for decisions and choices that will lead you to
meeting your ideal partner. For that reason, feel free to
change any ingredients or "props" mentioned in this
article. The important thing is to use whichever item or
symbol has a special meaning for you, as symbols are a
language our subconscious can understand really well.
The instructions given here are just for guidance and
inspiration.
It’s good to perform the soul mate attraction ritual on the
right day. Friday is always an ideal choice, as it’s related
to the goddess of love, Venus, but Sunday –the day of the
Sun – would also do. If you are into astrology and familiar
with planetary hours, you could also choose a Venus hour
for even better results. Before starting the attunement
ritual, perform a standard cleansing: take a warm bath
adding some salt and a few drops of sage essential oil,
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drink a glass of water with a few drops of lemon and quiet
your mind for five minutes or so, following your breath.
On a table, make a small altar to honor the elements and
ask for their protection and assistance. Place a gemstone
on the north side of your altar to represent earth. Pink
quartz would do, but if you don’t have one, you could use
any type of pink gemstone. Alternatively, you can just use
some salt as a symbol of earthy energies. On the east -the
direction traditionally associated with air- light a jasmine
or rose scented incense stick. To symbolize fire, a pink
candle would go to the south and a cup of red wine on
the west for honoring water.
Take a few deep breaths, close your eyes if you want, stay
still and silent for a few minutes to ground yourself. Then
open your eyes, take pen and paper and start writing your
list. State your will to the universe/God first, by writing “I
ask God/the universe to bring me a soul mate for a loving
relationship, who will have the following traits”. Make
two lists, one with the desirable traits and one with the
unwanted ones. Compose your list, without holding back.
State clearly everything you want your soul mate to have
with as many details as possible. When you’re done, keep
the list in an envelope and hide it away in a place that only
you know. Close your ritual by thanking the elements and
the divine powers for their help. Repeat the ritual once a
month, if needed. Trust that the universe will bring you
your heart’s desire!
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Sings that you’ve met a soul mate
Many strange sensations could be felt in the presence of
a soul mate. Watch for any unusual impressions and
feelings in the physical, emotional or psychological body.
Some of them are:
• Together, you experience changes through unusual
situations and synchronicities, often totally
unexpected.
• There’s a sense of knowing each other on a deeper
level, even if you have just met.
• You feel an unexplained, deep connection to each
other.
• You feel instant rapport and a sense of unity.
• You feel that you have met for a reason and that
there’s some sort of goal that needs to be achieved
by combining your energies, even if that goal is not
clear or is just intuitively felt.
• You experience time distortion when you are
together. Time could feel like speeding up or
slowing down, so weeks may seem like years or the
opposite.
• Your meeting happens under suspiciously unusual
circumstances.
It’s very common to notice these symptoms when you
meet someone new and exciting. But not everyone we
like or fall in love with is necessarily a soul mate. So before
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jumping into conclusions, it’s always wise to let some
time pass and see if the aforementioned feelings persist
after enthusiasm subsides.
Remember that the purpose of meeting a soul mate could
be much bigger than your personal agendas. It’s about
contributing your soul essence to the physical world in
ways that are not always clear or comprehensible. Souls
always know what they’re doing regardless of what our
limited minds think or expect. Treat your soul mate
relationship with respect and curiosity, trying to avoid
limiting it by egoistical or narrow-minded expectations.
Good luck!
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Top psychic Totem Aion – see profile
Years on Kasamba: 3
Client reviews: 479
Reading tools: Tarot
About Totem Aion:
Tarot is a tool for guidance and inner reflection. Apart
from their powerful predictive ability, the cards will also
show you what is blocking you and what needs to be
changed, before you can move ahead, towards a better
or different future. After all, the purpose of divination is
to provide practical ways that will help you move on from
situations that doesn't serve you anymore, rather than
passively accepting decisions imposed by others
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Five Love Myths That May Be Hurting Your Relationship – By Kasamba Team
Myth #1 Love just happens Whoever came up with Cupid misled our hearts into dreamy expectations. We’ve been disconnected from reality. Truth is true love doesn’t just happen - there are no magical arrows, nor does your Prince Charming come in the package you expect. True love comes to those who are prepared to receive it. Are you prepared? Are you REALLY prepared? You know, prepared to take a chance, be vulnerable, get to know yourself better, acknowledge your imperfections, grow through your partner, experience pain at times, compromise, trust your experience and really let go? If you are in the right place, you’ll attract the right relationship - one that’s worth it. Myth #2 Real love is easy Sure, falling in love with an attractive guy is easy. He enters the room, your heart skips a beat, you get excited
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and everything just feels magical. Everyone falls in this kind of infatuation because “falling” is easy. It’s “rising in love” that is the real deal and that needs work. If the painful phases in your dating curve and in your long-term relationship challenge you to grow and bring you to a better place inside of you, it is good pain. You’re rebirthing yourself into a new, more loving, more compassionate, better, bigger being. It’s not easy but you are rising in love. The "pain" is worth it, because real love is supposed to change you. It’s not supposed to hurt badly, so if you find that your relationship goes in cycles with no growth or change, it may be time to rethink everything. Myth #3 True Love is Always 50/50 Don’t you wish there was a machine that could gauge how many units of love a heart can produce? You’d whip it out on the first date, scan your date’s heart and not waste any precious time! Unfortunately, there is no real way to know how deeply we’re in someone’s heart. We either feel loved enough or not. And this changes over time also. The solution is to accept that love isn’t 50/50 when things are rosy. And neither is it supposed to be tit-for-tat during a rough patch. Score keeping doesn’t help anyone. If you feel that your partner is holding back from giving or receiving love, your best course of action is to openly and calmly bring it up. Forget about fifties and numbers - love should just flow freely. Myth #4 Love is ALL you need
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Not at all: even in clichéd fairy tales, love isn’t all that the princess needs. The plot has struggle in it. There are bad people, poisonous apples, and dragons to fight… There’s work to do. This is true in real life also. Before any happy ending, a lot of experiences need to be lived, challenges need to be surmounted and the lovers need to be happy with each other’s tackling of these tasks. Both lovers need to be willing to grow and change. As renowned psychologist Scott M. Peck famously put it, “Love is the will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth [...] Love is an act of will - namely, both an intention and an action.” Merely having feelings of love isn’t enough. Are you and your partner both willing to extend yourselves through intention and action? The answer to this question lets you know if you have a future together. Myth #5 True Love Equals Compatibility You are unique - you come with your own perks, qualities, ambitions, and things you need to work on. So does your partner. In the long run, feelings of love alone won’t be enough to sustain a healthy relationship between you two. Compatibility is the fire that keeps love alive - without it, love extinguishes. Do you prefer watching a thriller while he needs to jump off airplanes to feel alive? Do you have a dog while he has
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a pet tarantula? Do you prefer a stable desk job while he wants to travel the world and live on the beach? You get the point: What does “living” mean to you, each? Can you imagine the same, or at least a similar future? True love isn’t blind - true love sees when things don’t work out. True love will ultimately make you do what’s right for you.
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