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How Parents Can Prevent Their Teen from Underage Drinking

Is Underage Drinking An Issue Here?

• Parents know it is, but many Maine parents DON’T think their child is at risk

• “I would know”

• But their teens tell a different story

Teens report alcohol use that is far above what their

parents recognize

Used Alcohol in the Past 30 Days

Teen self-reports of binge drinking

(five or more drinks in one setting)

…demonstrates that many adults

are clearly in the dark!

Binge Drinking in the Past 2 Weeks

It’s not just about drinking and driving, either…

2/3 of alcohol-related teenage deaths are NOT from drinking & driving

• Suicide

• Homicide

• Accidental Injury (burns, falls, drowning)

• Alcohol Poisoning

Other Risks Related to Teen Drinking

• Academic failure and dropping out of school • Risky sexual behavior and unintended

pregnancies• Sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) such as

genital herpes and AIDS• Sexual assault, physical assault, robbery,

burglary, vandalism and other crimes• Depression

One emerging risk is what alcohol can do to a developing brain

Here are some important findings:

• Damage from alcohol use in teens can be long-term and irreversible

• Even minor alcohol use decreases verbal ability in teens by as much as 10%

More important findings:

• Adolescents’ learning and memory centers of the brain are twice as vulnerable to alcohol as adults

• Alcohol effects memory, verbal skills & vocabulary, which can impact performance in school and lower scores on aptitude tests

What can we do as parents?

Understand and believe that ALL Maine teens are at risk - it’s not just somebody else’s children

Continue to talk with your teens, but don’t assume that’s enough

Find out More, Do More to keep your teen from underage alcohol use

Five Monitoring Tips Can Help

Tip #1 Limit Access Good!

If you have alcohol in your home:

• Keep track of the quantity

• Know where it is

• Make it less accessible to teens

Tip #1 Limit AccessBetter!

• Thank servers and clerks for ‘carding’ those who are buying alcohol

Tip #1 Limit AccessBest!

• Alert the police if you have information about where teens are buying/getting alcohol

Tip #2 Network Good!

• Get to know your teen’s friends

Tip #2 NetworkBetter!

• Get to know the parents of your teen’s friends

• Know their rules, and share your rules

• Don’t accept the argument: “everybody else gets to…”

Tip #2 NetworkBest!

• Let the parents of your teen’s friends know where you stand on underage drinking

No furnishing, EVER!

Tip #3 Reinforce and EnforceGood!

• Reinforce the rules and consequences of underage drinking before your teen goes out

Tip #3 Reinforce and EnforceBetter!

• Frequently explain the reasons behind your rules

• Reinforce that the rules are protective, not just restrictive

Tip #3 Reinforce and Enforce Best!

• Consistently enforce the rules – even when it’s hard

• Don’t look the other way if your teen violates the rules

• Let them know that you will hold them accountable

Tip #4 Check In Often – Good!

• Before your teen goes to a party or out with friends ask:

Will adults be present the entire time?

Will alcohol be present?

Tip #4 Check In OftenBetter!

• Ask your teen to call you from the party or gathering

• If you have caller ID you can ask them to call from a landline, not from a cell phone, so that you can tell exactly where they are

Tip #4 Check In OftenBest!

• Trust but Verify!

• Check in often with other parents about your teen’s activities

• Consider ‘dropping in’ at the location your teen tells you they will be

Tip #5 Be Up & Be ReadyGood!

• Wait up (or set the alarm for curfew time)

• Talk with your teen about their night

Tip #5 Be Up & Be ReadyBetter!

• When your teen arrives home, look for signs of use. Teens who believe their parents will catch them are less likely to drink

Tip #5 Be Up & Be ReadyBest!

• Be prepared in advance for what you would do the first time you discover your teen has been drinking

• Think about how you would react, whom you would talk to and how you will enforce the consequences.

Remember…

• Start early, don’t wait for signs that your child may be drinking to start monitoring

• Begin good monitoring skills when your child is young, it will help your monitoring seem less like an “absence of trust” and more like an expected routine as they get older.

Remember…

• You don’t need to go it alone – talk with other parents. The more we work together to give our teens clear and consistent messages, the better!

Go to www.maineparents.net for additional help and resources.