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FAMILIES & FRIENDS OF MURDER VICTIMS, Inc.

(FFMV)

Newsletter February 2013

Thank-you: *Carol Anderson – Website

*Kaiser – Oakland *Avaxat Elementary School- Murrieta

*St. Anthony’s Catholic Church-Upland *Christ The Redeemer Catholic Church

Grand Terrace Portola Community Center- Palm Desert

*San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office of Victim Services/Victim Advocates

*Riverside County District Attorney’s Office of Victim

Services/Victim Advocates

* Dola Wiedemann – Memory Cards *Family of Kris Flores

*Janet Garcia & Barbara Christian facebook administrators

* Ellie Rossi

* San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office for sponsoring newsletter for 2013*

CalVCP Help us get the word out! Effective Jan. 1, our application filing period will increase from one year to three years after the date of the crime. More CA crime victims will be eligible for much needed assistance. Victims who are struggling with finances because of a violent crime now have more time to file an application with CalVCP. Call our helpline at 1-800-777-9229 to find a victim advocate in your area or to learn more about victim compensation at http://www.vcgcb.ca.gov/victims/

FFMV

Need Someone to Talk To?

* Bertha Flores - Parent - Spanish speaking

(909) 200-5499 (after 3pm)

*Rose Madsen – Parent (909) 798-4803 (after

4pm)

*Maxine Russell – (818) 378-2072

Parent/Grief Counselor

*Dawn Hall - Parent(951) 757-4419

*Mary Stewart -Parent (951 698-5317)

Emergency Consult for Suicidal or Homicidal

Participants

*Linda Atencio -Parent – 760-490-7864

* Ellie Rossi - Parent - 909-810-8133

* Delores Maloy- Parent – High Desert

Contact – 760-530-7027

Families & Friends of Murder Victims: A non-profit organization Dedicated to providing information, support, and friendship to persons who have experienced the death of a loved one through the violent act of murder Share Sorrow….. Share Strength Mission: To restore a sense of hope and to provide a pathway to well-being to those who have lost a loved one to murder and to those who are victims of attempted murder.

Love Gifts

Love gifts are a specific tax deductible donation made to the memory of a loved one’s birthday, anniversary of a death, holiday, or just because which are posted in newsletter. They are also made by caring professionals, organizations to help in the work that FFMV does with victims/survivors. These gifts help with the expenses incurred in reaching out to others and operating expenses. When making out a check, please make payable to FFMV and note Love Gift on

check or envelope. Love Gifts can be mailed to FFMV- P.O. Box 11222 San Bernardino, Ca. - 92423-1222

Join Families & Friends of Murder Victims on

Thank-you

Janet Garcia Mother of Jesse Garcia – 6/10/78 – 6/27/94

Barbara Christian Mother of Terri Lynn Winchell–

4/10/63 – 1/8/81

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Riverside Chapter

Meets on the 3rd Wednesday of every month at 7pm

Avaxat Elementary School, 24300 La Brisas Road in Murrieta, CA

Contact Dawn (951) 757-4419 For directions ask for PJ at-

951-696-1600 x2177 – M-F 9am-4pm (1-2pm lunch)

Next meeting is February 20, 2013

Colton Chapter

1st Tuesday of every month Christ The Redeemer Catholic Church

Robinson Hall – Room 6 12745 Oriole Ave Grand Terrace, CA

92313 Time: 6:00pm - 8:00pm

Contact person for directions or information Rose – 909-754-6969

[email protected]

Next meeting is February 5, 2013

Coachella Valley Chapter We will continue meeting every

3rd Wednesday of each month

6:00pm – 8:00pm

Portola Community Center Room 2

45-480 Portola Ave

(parking on Shadow Mountain)

Palm Desert, CA 92260

760-568-2560- Call for directions Rose – 909-754-6969

[email protected] Candy- 619-200-0547 [email protected]

Next meeting is February 20, 2013

Oakland Chapter

Kaiser in Oakland, Howe St. at Broadway,

12th floor Room 1200 East Contact Helene (510) 452-2553

West End Chapter -Bi-lingual

Meets every 2nd

Thursday of every month at 7:00pm-8:30pm

St. Anthony’s Catholic Church Conference Room

2210 North San Antonio Upland, CA 91786 Participants have the option of the

English & Spanish Meeting

Local Grupo Bilingue Los participantes pueden escoger en Inglés

o en Español Se reunen cada Segundo Jueves del mes a

las 7:00 p.m. Contact persons/ Personas de contacto:

Rita Marin (909) 215-7063 [email protected]

Next meeting is February 14, 2013

Grief Support Group ALL are welcome at our monthly meetings.

Whether you are a parishioner or not. If you

are suffering the loss of a loved one and in

need to talk to someone, we are here to listen

and share emotions.

Together and with the help of the Lord, we

can help each other heal.

Meetings are held every 2nd

Wednesday of the

month 7 to 9 P.M. ~ Room 8

St. Anthony’s Church 1640 Western Ave. San

Bernardino (909)887-3810

Contacts: Hope Morfin (909)820-6163 Ralph

& Arlene Payan (909)887-4387 (FFMV

Participants)

Danny & Rose Equihua (909) 887-3744

NEW SUPPORT GROUP

“Loved Ones of Murdered Children”.

Meetings are currently held on the 2nd

Tuesday of each month in a classroom at the First United Methodist Church of La Puente, located at. 15701 Hill Street, La Puente, CA

91744. Contact information:

* Luz Ruiz (626) 388-6403*Tracy Ponce (626) 533-3121 *Luisa Ashley (818) 445-2077

Next Meeting February 12, 2013

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Resources and Additional Support Services

San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office

of Victim Witness Centers: San Bernardino

(909) 387-6540

Rancho Cucamonga: (909) 945-4241*

Victorville/Desert area: (760) 552-6994*

Riverside County District Attorney’s Office of

Victim Witness Centers:

Riverside: (951) 955-5450

Murrieta: (951) 304-5680 * Banning: (951) 922-7130

* Indio: (760) 863-8408

*Los Angeles County District Attorney's Victim

Witness Assistance Program offices:

Pomona: 909) 620-3381

*Life.After.Uncivil.Ruthless.Acts.

323-816-9651 www.laurala.org

* WINGS OF JUSTICE – Website

www.murdermislabeledsuicide.com/WingsofJustice

*Women Against Gun Violence – 310-204-2348

www.wagv.org

*www.CrimeVictims.gov—public awareness Web

site

* H.E.A.L. Helping Everyone Acknowledge Loss –

818-378-2072– [email protected]

* Crime Victims United of California – 916-928-

4797 www.crimevictimsunited.com or

[email protected]

* North American Victim Assistance (NOVA)

www.trynova.org

* Victims of Crime Resources Center (800)

VICTIMS

* POMC - (888) 818-POMC www.pomc.org

* Greater Orange County POMC –

Marie – 714-999-7132 – 562-508-2397

* POMC-SGV Chapter – Tina-626-298-9054 -

[email protected]

* Citizens Against Homicide - (415) 455-5944

* Justice for Murdered Children - (310) 547-1367

* The Crime Victims Assistance Network (iCAN)

Foundation (916) 273-3603

* Memory of Victims Everywhere - (949) 248-5470

[email protected]

* Resource for the Grieving and

Bereavedwww.griefcompanion.com

* Crime Survivors – 949-872-7895

www.crimesurvivors.com Bi-monthly meetings

held in Orange County

* Adela Lavine~Medium: www.adelalavine.com

* MADD – (909) 888-6233

www.maddsanbernardino.org

*JUSTICE FOR HOMICIDE VICTIMS - (310) 457-

0030 [email protected]

* Striving Towards Eradicating Violence In Ennercities

-S.T.E.V.I.E. [email protected]

[email protected]

* www.psychic4themissing.com

* (L.A.U.R.A.) - Life After Uncivil Ruthless Acts

Adela - 323-816-9651

FFMV Fundraisers Office Depot - Staples – Office Max If you shop at Office Depot or Staples please use FFMV’s Rewards Number for Office Depot which is 1139461170 Office Max – 650756207, Staples- or use just give them 909-798-4803 for all three. We get reward points that help defray the cost of printing, ink cartridges and office supplies.

PLEASE….Don‘t throw away your old ink cartridges! Continue to bring them to us, or take them to Office Max, Staples or Office

Depot and give them 909-798-4803 It’s an easy way to help

FFMV purchase office supplies.

Save the Date! L.A.U.R.A.'S 6th Annual Unity & Peace Resource Fair

Saturday, March 30, 2013

Hello dear friends and partners, please save the

date of March 30th, and join us in bringing

resources to our community, as we

commemorate our loved ones who were

senselessly murdered.

For more information, please contact

Adela Barajas at 323-816-9651.

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February 2013 Birthdays

Adam Atencio

Andrian Rivas

Anne Marie Harrison

Antonio Martinez

Armando Gabriel Calvary

Benny Rodriguez

Buddy Guitron

“Bug’s” Randy Perchez

Colleen Kennedy

Cornell L. Wells III

David Charles Nystrom

Enrique Bermudez

Frank W. Wellman

John Martin

Kyle T. Stutson

Nancy O’Hara/Jessee O’Hara

Ozzy Conde

Raul “Ralphee” Payan

Robert Austin Buckey

Roghie Ebrahimpour

Ryan Villapando

Sandra Rosas

Scott Fisher

Steven Lance Bowser

Timothy Hatch

Tim John Morgan

Toni Percell

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February 2013 Memories

Anthony A. Turdot

Arthur “Tudy Boy” Ruiz

Baby Elizabeth Fay Mariani

Brian Douglas Kischell

Buddy Guitron

“Bug’s” Randy Perchez

Christian Jesus Hernandez

Cornell L. Wells III

Darrell Davis

Eilleen Nicole Ponce

Elmer & Gladys Benson

Fields Family: Jonathan, Dwayne, & Lindel

Herbert Seymour Jr.

Jacqueline McVoy (Matzke) & Gilbert Guiterrez

Juanita Martinez

Kyle T. Stutson

Lorrain Lopez

Mario Maurice Smith

Mark Adam Rodriguez

Melissa Sandor

Michael Ray McCoy II

Randy Olivas

Rosario & Ruben Mojarro

Salvador Olivas Jr.

Villapando Family: Ryan, Veronica, Mateo & Bella

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LOVE GIFTS

In Loving Memory In Loving Memory

Raul “Ralphee” Payan Adam Atencio 2/14/75 – 1/16/05 2/25/81-3/7/08

In Loving Memory

Salvador Olivas Jr. 11/29/90 – 2/23/10

We Will Always Remember You

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In Loving Memory David Charles Nystrom – 2/2/64 - 7/27/98 & Lisa Cummings – 11/13/66 – 3/12/11 Brother and Sister in Heaven ….. now together watching over their Mom (Ellie Rossi)

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Donation $_______________

Name (please print):_________________________________________________________________

Address____________________________________City/St.________________________Zip__________

Email address: __________________________________________________________

Your Phone # ( ) ____________________Relationship to Victim: _____________________________

Name of Victim: _________________________________________________________________

Date of Birth: Date of Death: ______________________

Please post my loved ones message and/or picture(s) for the month of: ___________

# of pictures enclosed/attached ____________ Use picture on file_______________

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Submitted by Jane Boufford – Justice for Murdered d Victims I wanted to let you know, we have entered into a new partnership with a L.A. publication, Cuffed and Wanted. They are publishing stories about unsolved cases in the Los Angeles area. Eventually, they hope to expand to outlying areas. If you have members with unsolved L.A. crimes, they need to get us a release form (available on our website) and a good picture. A brief story about the case; detectives to contact, rewards, etc. Publications come out the 1st and the 15th of the month. We need information by about the 10 days prior to publication. They are located in Signal Hill and I can easily run information over to them to make sure that it is the right pixel for there paper. [email protected]

CAMP GOOD GRIEF (SVP)

Camp Good Grief-Special Victims Program (SVP) is a joint effort between the San Bernardino County District Attorney's Office Bureau of Victim Services and Loma Linda University Medical Center Children's Hospital. The 3-day grief camp is geared toward homicide/suicide and is for children ages 10-16 who have experienced a violent death in their family. Campers board a bus at the Ronald McDonald House in Loma Linda and head to Camp Cedar Falls in the San Bernardino Mountains for a three-day camp and grief therapy experience. At camp the children participate in game and team building activities and therapeutic group activities designed to help them learn and understand how to cope with the grief over the violent death of their loved one. This camp has been so successful that it has been expanded to include Camp Good Grief - Special Victims Program Teen Retreat. It will be held annually and provides grief services for teens ages 14-18 who previously participated in Camp Good Grief - SVP and whose lives have been positively impacted by camp. It will be a combination of learning advanced grief management skills as well as a training camp for future Camp Good Grief Peer Counselors. Camp is free of charge to all campers and camperships are funded by unclaimed victim restitution. Therapists and interns from Loma Linda Marriage and Family Therapy Clinic, Loma Linda Child Life Specialists and District Attorney's Office Victim Advocates donate their time to the camp. The Bureau of Victim Services and Loma Linda University Children's Hospital have pledged to continue fundraising activities, presentations to service groups, and outreach events so they may continue hosting future Camp Good Grief-SVP programs. Contact: Dorothy Brooks 909-558-4073

COLD CASES FYI

I attended JHV Memorial in April, guest Speaker Frank Girardot, editor of the Pasadena Star News and senior editor of the

San Gabriel Valley Tribune Group announced that he would to publish pictures and information regarding unsolved homicide

cases on the newspaper website. Many families that I know personally have UNSOLVED cases which have turned to COLD

cases…Everyone deserves JUSTICE

If your loved one was murdered in the greater Southern California area and the case is unsolved, Frank will get it published

in the newspaper. You can check out the Cold Case Project by going to www.PasadenaStarNews.com/coldcases. The paper also has the project

listed on Facebook … This is a response Frank gave me when I e-mailed him about this project:

Hi Rose,

If I get a photo from a loved one I will post it on our website as soon as I can. Anyone who is interested can contact me and I

promise to get them set up.

Sincerely,

Frank Girardot

911 E. Colorado Blvd, Pasadena, CA 91106, 626-578-6300 ext.4478 [email protected]

Here is some basic information Frank needs when you send him a picture of your loved one: Your full name, address,

phone(s), e-mail address, Victims Full Name and age at time of murder, Victims DOB-DOD, your relationship to victim, city

where murder took place, any suspects arrested?, Detective’s name & phone, & short bio on how your loved one was

murdered

I encourage you to submit your story if you still have an unsolved case!

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From Rose Madsen, Editor/Chair/co-founder of the

Colton & Coachella Chapter of FFMV

In Memory of my daughter Jennifer LeAnne Balber 12/02/73 – 11/10/94

A 20yr. old SoCal Gas Co. Meter Reader, Fatally Shot in the Line of Service in Rialto, CA

We've barely made it through the holidays of December and January, and now the stores are filled with hearts and

flowers and candy, all of it in celebration of the gift of love. But February 14th can be a difficult day for those of

us who are grieving, and for some it will be the first Valentine's Day, the birthday or anniversary since our

precious Valentine died. For us there is no celebration; there is only grief. Here are a few suggestions that helped

me. Select a Valentine card that you wish your beloved would have picked for you, and mail it to yourself … buy

a very special candle, decorate it and light it in honor of your loved one on these occasions.

Silent Grief….Child Loss Support ….Some people avoid mentioning our child following our loss for fear of

stirring up sad thoughts and making us cry. What they don't understand is we think of our child every day -- not

just once or twice, but every hour of every day! Please let us know that you remember -- it's a double grief to

think that nobody other than us thinks about our child! Child loss is such a difficult journey to travel alone!!!!

Victims’ Rights Week April 21-27-2013 is quickly approaching; I will have more details and events in the

March 2013 newsletter. If you have an event please send to me so I can include your event.

Thoughtfully

Rose

FFMV

D!!!VICTIM

FFMV is a non-profit organization dedicated to serving survivors of murder victims & victims of attempted murder. Our main purpose is grief support for those victim/survivors. All assistance provided to victims is given free of charge by volunteers. Contributions and/or questions regarding the policies of FFMV may be addressed to: FFMV Executive Board at P.O. Box 11222 San Bernardino, Ca. 92423-1222, e-mailed to [email protected] or phoned to 909-798-4803. FFMV is a tax-exempt organization under the Section 501 (c) (3) of the Internal Revenue Service. Our Organization depends largely upon private donations which will cover operational expenses, Our Annual Family Christmas Memorial Luncheon, and Our Annual Victims’ Rights Week Memorial. We are seeking a sponsor (s) for our events. Please contact FFMV at the above e-mail or phone if you are interested. Tax ID #68-0299211 All Contributions Are Tax Deductible

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2013 Participant /Photo Release Form for slide show & picture boards

Families & Friends of Murder Victims, INC (FFMV)

Circle one: New Participant ~ Update my information ~ Agency/Non Victim

Please Print

Date________________ Relationship to Victim_______________________

Victim’s First Name_________________________________________

Victim’s Last Name_________________________________________

Date of Birth _____________ Date of Death__________ Solved: Yes ( ) No ( )

Permission to use photo(s): Yes ( ) No ( ) Just add me to e-mail/mailing list to

receive monthly newsletter and event information

I grant to Families & Friends of Murder Victims, Inc. (FFMV), the right to use photograph(s) of the above-identified subject. I authorize FFMV to use and

publish the same in print and/or electronically.

I agree that FFMV may use such photographs with or without his/her name and for

any lawful purpose, including for example such purposes as publicity, illustration, advertising, and Web content.

I have read and understand the above.

Name of Agency/Non-Victim if applicable: ________________________________

Signature _________________________________________________________

Print Full Name _____________________________________________________

Address___________________________________________________________

City__________________________________ Zip Code____________________

Phone with area code ______________________________________

E-mail ____________________________________________________________

Mail or e-mail participant/release form to: [email protected]

FFMV ~ P.O.Box 11222 San Bernardino, CA ~ 92423-1222

I have included a picture ( ) Yes ( ) No use the one on file

I have included a $_________ donation for 2013

Thank-you… if you have already sent your 2013 donation

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ANNUAL VICTIMS MARCH ON THE CAPITOL!! TUESDAY, APRIL 23, 2013!!

West Steps of the State Capitol Booths open at10:00am

Ceremony begins at 11:45am