FREED TO RELATE

•Sermon 1•The Importance of Right Relationships

•Sermon 2•Success in our Homes

•Sermon 3•Pattern Relationships in the Home

•Sermon 4•A Father's Leadership

FREED TO RELATE

SUCCESS IN OUR HOMES

HOW IS SUCCESS MEASURED?

1.NUMBERS

2.FAITHFULNESS

3.FRUITFULNESS

1.SPIRITUAL LIFE

2.HOME LIFE

3.VOCATION LIFEM

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UNDERSTANDING HOME LIFE AND PARENTAL RESPONSIBILITIES

1 John 2:13 - “I Write to You, Fathers”

FATHERS are called to PRIMARY RESPONSIBILITY

MOTHERS are intimately involved in the CARE and UPBRINGING of children

Ephesians 6:4 “And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition [education] of the Lord.”

Colossians 3:21 Fathers, do not aggravate your children, or they will become discouraged.

FATHERS LEAD

FATHERS HAS 2 OBLIGATIONS

1. COMMUNICATION

2. EDUCATION.

KEEP OPEN COMMUNICATION

CHANNEL

There is a GIVING of instruction

There is a RECEIVING by the child

MAINTAINING COMMUNICATION

1.GUARD AGAINST two opposing attitudes – REBELLION - DISCOURAGEMENT

2.TIME (Love) and ATTENTION 3.INDIVIDUALITY 4.GUARD AGAINST ANGER,

UNFAIRNESS, INDIFFERENCE OR PREJUDICES

HOLDING LAW AND GRACE IN

BALANCE

CULTIVATE Healthy & Balanced Children

THE HOME IS THE CENTER

GOD EXPECTS FATHERS to assume responsibilities in the home

GOD ORDAINED HOMESthe centre of spiritual life of His people

Deuteronomy 11:18–21 Therefore you shall lay up these words of mine in your heart and in your soul. . . .You shall teach them to your children, speaking of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up. And you shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates, that your days and the days of your children may be multiplied in the land of which the LORD swore to your fathers to give them, like the days of the heavens above the earth.

1. TEACH HIS WORD

2. INFLUENCE HIS WAYS

3. DO NOT RELEGATE

4. CANNOT BE DELEGATED

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PARENTS MUST INSTRUCT OUR CHILDREN AT HOME IN THE WORD AND THE WAYS OF GOD

MORE THAN “FAMILY ALTAR” OR

“FAMILY DEVOTIONS”

Interweave the teaching of God’s Word with all the daily activities

of our home life

CREATE MEMORIES

FATHERHOODHEADSHIP

FELLOWSHIP

HOME LIFE BEGAN WITH GODJohn 14:2 In My Father’s house there are many mansions.Ephesians 3:14–15 For this reason I bow my knees to the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, from whom the whole family in heaven and earth is named.

• God is the Father of Christ• Holds the office of FATHERHOOD • All fatherhood is a projection of the nature of

God the Father.

1 Corinthians 11:3 I want you to know that the head of every man [meaning the male] is Christ, the head of the woman [wife] is man, and the head of Christ is God.”

HEADSHIPThe headship of the

Father over Christ is eternal

John 1:1In the beginning was the Word (Jesus Christ), and the Word was with God (The Father), and the Word was (face to face with) God John 1:18 No one has seen God at any time; the only begotten God WHO IS IN THE BOSOM OF THE FATHER • Picture of love and mutual delight • This divine fellowship to be PRESENT in

our lives and homes

FELLOWSHIP

1 John 1:3

That which we have seen and heard [the record contained in the gospels] we declare to you, that you also may have fellowship with us: and truly our fellowship is with the Father and with His Son Jesus Christ.

3 MAIN ASPECTS OF RELATIONSHIP FATHERHOOD, HEADSHIP AND FELLOWSHIP

If our homes on earth are to fulfill God’s purpose and be successful, they must reproduce these three relationships.

THE ETERNAL PATTERN OF A HOME

The wife the “homemaker?” Partially right BUT in the economy of God, THE MAN is primarily the homemaker

• The father is the key to the establishment of the home.

• God GAVE him the responsibility and the authority to establish a home to fulfill the design of a loving heavenly Father

MAN take your rightful position, WOMAN will take her place beside him as “helper” (Genesis 2:20)

WHO IS THE REAL “HOMEMAKER”?

HUSBAND/WIFE RELATIONSHIP IS A PICTURE OF THE ETERNAL RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN THE FATHER AND CHRIST. 1 Corinthians 11:3But there is one thing I want you to know: The head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God

  • God is the head of Christ• Christ is the head of the man or husband• The husband is the head of the woman or wife.

THE CHAIN OF AUTHORITY

All authority is derived ultimately from the Father and depends upon a right place in the chain that goes back to Him.

• Christ has authority because He submits to the Father.

• The husband has authority because he submits to Christ.

• The wife has authority because she submits to the husband.

Luke 7:8  For I also am a man placed under authority, with soldiers under me; and I say to this one, ‘Go!’ and he goes, and to another, ‘Come!’ and he comes, and to my slave, ‘Do this!’ and he does it.”

NOTE• He recognized that the authority he had over the

soldiers because he himself was under authority. • He recognized the source of this chain of command is

the emperor himself. • He who refused to obey the commands of the

centurion refused the authority of the emperor.

UNDERSTANDING AUTHORITY

The word “also” MEANS He was comparing himself with Jesus He recognized the same principle - his military command and the spiritual ministry of Jesus

Just as the authority of the centurion depended on his relationship to the emperor, so the authority of Jesus depended on His perfect submission to the Father. TO HAVE AUTHORITY, WE MUST BE UNDER AUTHORITY.

“For I ALSO am a man placed under authority”