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Coping with Anxiety: 10 Simple Ways to Relieve Anxiety, Fear and Worry By Edmind Bourne (152.4 BOU) Want quick, effective and easy-to-learn solutions to problem anxiety? Coping with Anxiety offers the most effective strategies for overcoming the physical, mental, and emotional symptoms of anxiety, distilled into ten clear and simple solutions. Each of the ten solutions includes step-by-step exercises for combating a particular feature of anxiety, written in a concise, reader-friendly style. Each of the strategies provides something you can do in the moment, without having to work through the finer points of the most often used therapies for treating anxiety: cognitive therapy and desensitization. Are You Really Listening?: Keys to Successful Communication By Paul Donoghue, Mary E. Siegal (153.6 DON) Listening is an essential skill worth every effort to learn and to master. It opens us to the world around us and to the persons who matter most to us. When we listen, we learn and grow. Donoghue and Siegel look at the reasons why people don't listen. Filled with vivid examples that clearly demonstrate easy-to-learn listening techniques, Are You Really Listening? is a guide to the secrets and joys of listening and being listened to. Transforming Stress: The Heartmath Solution for Relieving Worry, Fatigue, And Tension By Doc Lew Childre, Deborah Rozman (155.9 CHI) At the core of the HeartMath method of emotional regulation is the idea that, by focusing on positive feelings such as appreciation, care, or compassion, anyone can create dramatic changes in his or her heart rhythms. These changes precipitate a series of neural, hormonal, and biochemical events that dissipate stress and anger and lead to greater well-being. Slowing Down to the Speed of Life: How To Create A More Peaceful, Simpler Life From The Inside Out By Richard Carlson (158 CAR) Feel like you're always rushing but never catching up? Are you doing more, but enjoying it less? The frantic pace and pressure of modern life can take a serious toll on your happiness and your health, but there is a way to step off the treadmill without giving up your career or activities. The answer lies not in sacrificing your work productivity or your lifestyle but rather in changing your attitude. By using the simple exercises in this book to slow down your thoughts and focus on the present moment, you can actually achieve greater productivity and creativity—all while maintaining a calmer, healthier state of mind. CrazyBusy: Overstretched, Overbooked, and About to Snap! Strategies for Coping in a World Gone ADD By Edward M. Hallowell (158 HAL) Dr. Hallowell has helped more than a million readers free themselves of the distractions and compulsions of ADD. Now in CrazyBusy, he offers the same sound, sane, and accessible guidance for anyone suffering from the harried pace of modern life. If you find yourself pulled into a million different directions, here at last is the opportunity to stop being busy, start being happy, and still get things done.

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Don't Sweat the Small Stuff for Men: Simple Ways to Minimize Stress in a Competitive World By Richard Carlson (158.1 CAR) Carlson invites men of all ages to enjoy the benefits of simplification and discover what so many of us already know: that it’s a stressful world out there, but it doesn’t have to be. Don't Sweat the Small Stuff with Your Family By Richard Carlson (158.1 CAR) Richard Carlson, the bestselling author of DON'T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF, is back with 100 simple yet inventive strategies for reducing the stresses of everyday life without leaving home. I Had It All the Time: When Self-Improvement Gives Way to Ecstasy By Alan Cohen (158.1 COH) Whether you are a newcomer or a veteran on the path of self-improvement, I Had it All the Time will awaken you to a life so magnificent that you will laugh at the notion of improving what love made whole. Quit fixing yourself and get on with the life you came to live. The Story of You (And How to Create a New One By Steve Chandler (158.1 CHA) The author breaks down the barriers that impede personal growth through his exploration of the stories people tell themselves about their pasts. Chandler leads the listener on a path toward creative accomplishment. What's Right with Me: Positive Ways to Celebrate Your Strengths, Build Self-Esteem, and Reach Your Potential By Carlene Deroo , Carolyn Deroo (158.1 DER) A mother and daughter team up to help readers identify, focus on, and develop their own strengths. This book offers an approach that leads to greater self-esteem and a richer sense of life's possibilities-a positive and refreshing alternative to problem-focused self-help books. In this book you'll find a warm and engaging set of activities you can use to identify what's right in your life. Through guided reflection and journaling, you'll learn to find strength and self-reliance in your own best qualities. You'll get to know yourself better, and you'll love all the wonderful things you'll discover in the process. Power of Self-Coaching: The Five Essential Steps to Creating the Life You Want By Joseph J. Luciani Ph.D. (158.1 LUC) Nobody is born insecure, angry, bored, or depressed. The fact is, happiness is our natural state and, as psychologist Dr. Joseph J. Luciani explains in this warm, witty, and empowering guide, chronic unhappiness is just a bad habit–a habit that can be broken. The Courage to be Brilliant: How Five Acts of Improvement a Day will Make You Shine by Marta Monahan with Jeff Andrus (158.1 MON) The timeless concept of The Courage to be Brilliant is how to achieve a life of brilliance versus a life of excellence. While excellence is will get us by, life's true treasures - fulfillment, joy, meaning, and legacy -

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come from living in brilliance. Brilliance occurs when our spirit and our actions are aligned on a daily basis. Medals Above My Heart: The Rewards of Being a Military Wife by Brenda C. Pace, Carol McGlothlin (242 PAC) Medals Above My Heart is a devotional for military wives. The husbands of these authors wear their medals on their uniforms, but these ladies will share experiences of military life and reveal the medals they wear over their own hearts. Like the wives of great military leaders of the past, present day military wives experience challenges that stretch their physical, emotional, and spiritual resources. The Jonah Factor: 13 Spiritual Steps to Finding the Job of a Lifetime By Ed Klodt (248.8 KLO) The Jonah Factor offers practical solutions to finding "the job of a lifetime". Extensively researched with more than 500 biblical quotes, references and insights, The Jonah Factor provides an innovative approach to discovering fulfilling work. Its proven 13-step process utilizes a combination of spiritual discernment, an inventory of talents and abilities, partnership with a church or congregation and a way of testing out ideas that culminates in a carefully considered and well-prepared leap of faith into new work. The 7 Powers of Questions: Secrets to Successful Communication in Life and at Work By Dorothy Leeds (302.2 LEE) This unique book reveals the seven powers of questions-and shows how to use them most effectively. Learn how questions can improve relationships, help determine what people really want, uncover opportunities, persuade others, and get more out of every business or personal encounter. Second Chances: Men, Women and Children a Decade After Divorce By Sandra Blakesee, Judith Wallerstien (306.89 WAL) Having worked extensively with families in the midst of divorce, psychoanalyst Wallerstein is uniquely qualified to deal with the impact of divorce on the contemporary family. Basing her book on an authoritative and well-documented study of these families that she conducted over a ten-year period, she focuses on the heavy toll divorce takes on the children of divorcing families. The Military Spouse’s Complete Guide to Careeer Success: Finding Meaningful Employment in Today’s New Global Marketplace By Janet Farley (331.5 FAR) Helps military spouses develop an effective job search and successfully manage their careers despite the challenges associated with the military lifestyle. Packed with useful resources, inspirational stories, and practical career tools it covers self assessment, networking, resume writing, interviewing for a job, and starting a business. Don't Sweat the Small Stuff About Money By Richard Carlson (332.024 CAR) Richard Carlson's central philosophy for your finances is the more you give, the more you get back. His brilliant essays help you eliminate the stress, worry and fear of financial issues, allowing you to live more fully and attract more wealth into your life. His practical, simple advice will bring more joy and fulfillment into the process of earning money - and with this, more success!

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Married to the Military: A Survival Guide for Military Wives, Girlfriends, and Women in Uniform By Meredith Leyva (355.008655 LEY) Whether you're dating, engaged, or married to an active military servicemember or reservist -- or you've just signed up yourself -- you may feel as if you've somehow married the United States military! Meredith Leyva, a military wife and founder of CinCHouse.com details everything you need to know to manage day-to-day issues and get on with the adventure of military life. From relocation to deployment, protocol to finances, and career to kids, Leyva offers time-tested advice. Chicken Soup for the Military Wife's Soul: Stories to Touch the Heart and Rekindle the Spirit By Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, Charles Preston, Cindy Pedersen (355.0092 CAN) The stories in Chicken Soup for the Military Wife's Soul are written by military family members and the courageous women who themselves serve in the military. They celebrate the women who unite with kindred spirits to raise families, maintain homes and uphold the most positive attitudes when facing the fears of losing a loved one. Todays Military Wife By Lydia Cline (355.1 CLI) This book covers all the information a service wife needs to survive and prosper in a service environment, including a complete description of family-friendly programs, advice for coping with periodic separations, tips for managing a separate career, discussion of living overseas, information on raising a family, and details on being a full participant in the rich and rewarding social aspects of military life. From a Pebble to a Rock By Patti Correa (355.1 COR) Life stories from the Homefront to encourage the hearts of every woman. Help! I’m a Military Spouse - I Get a Life Too!: How to Craft a Life for You As You Move With the Military By Kathie Hightower and Holly Scherer (355.1 HIG) This is not a book about being the perfect military spouse. And it's not about rebelling against military life. It's about creatively taking advantage of the military life's opportunities to fulfill one's own dreams. Military lifestyle columnists, workshop presenters and longtime military spouses themselves, Kathie Hightower and Holly Scherer show how to tap into the richness and possibilities of a life with the military. Practical tips include: Five keys to happiness for a life with the military; fifty tips to maintain energy and lower stress; and seventy creative and practical ways to follow one's dreams. Heroes at Home: Help and Hope for America's Military Families By Ellie Kay (355.1 KAY) Military families, whether active duty, reserve, or National Guard, have a champion in Ellie Kay. She inspires and encourages the families left behind during dangerous missions, long hours, and even longer deployments. Always practical, Ellie helps those serving their country stretch a dollar, keep in touch over long distances, prepare for separations, and so much more.

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Pass it On, II: Living and Leaving the Military Lifestyle By Kathleen O’Beirne (355.1 OBE) An Army Daughter and Navy Wife provide tips on mobilization, deployment and relocation, military spouses' lifestyle, military children, and retirement. Life After Deployment: Military families share reunion stories and advice By Karen Pavlicin (355.1 PAV) Life After Deployment captures the tender and moving stories of military families during their reunion. Service members and their spouses, parents, fiancés, and children share the joy and anxiety of homecoming, the adjustments of living together again, and how they coped with anger, depression, PTSD, injuries, grief, and other challenges. Some families had fairytale endings. Most worked hard to rebuild their relationships after much time and change. A few suffered great losses. These military families talk candidly about what their experience was really like, offering hope and advice to others who walk this journey. Surviving Deployment: A Guide for Military Families By Karen Pavlicin (355.1 PAV) As part of today's active duty or reserve forces, your loved one may be called to war, peacekeeping missions, anti-terrorism campaigns, field exercises, disaster relief, and many other duties far from home--and you. Learn what to expect, how to prepare, and how to personally grow as individuals and families. Your survival gear will range from a sturdy toilet plunger to the fine art of letter writing. You'll manage financial changes, help children express their feelings, and discover a renewed appreciation for everyday life. Separated by Duty United in Love By Shellie Vandevoorde (355.12 VAN) Addressing head-on the challenges of long-distance relationships with frank, practical advice and anecdotes, Separated by Duty, United in Love is perfect for military couples. It includes the answers and resources they need to meet the greatest challenge any relationship can face. With understanding born from over 20 years' experience as a military wife, author Shellie Vandevoorde tackles the tough issues from dealing with the struggle of being a single parent to infidelity, real or imagined. As divorce rates rise in the armed forces (the divorce rate among officers in the US Army tripled from 2001 to 2004) Separated by Duty, United in Love provides a practical hands-on guide that can help couples in every branch of the service. I’m Already Home Again: Keeping your family close while on assignment or deployment By Elaine Gray Dumler (355.120973 CUM) This book tackles the challenges of keeping our military families connected and strong while away from each other. An easy-to-follow, practical guide to fun and inexpensive ways for keeping our service men and women connected to their families while away in service to their country. Operation Military Family: How to Strengthen Your Military Marriage and Save Your Family By Michael Schindler (355.132)

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Operation Military Family: How to Strengthen Your Military Marriage and Save Your Family follows several families through their emotions, struggles and victories prior to deployment, throughout deployment and then life together back home. These couples share how they overcame many of the challenges they faced transitioning from civilian life to military life and then back to civilian life. Operation Military Family is a "must-have" for service members and their families who are looking for a true to life road map on how other couples strengthened their marriages, despite the odds. Brain Heal Thyself By Madonna Siles (362.196 SIL) Part memoir, part recovery manual, Brain, Heal Thyself is a guidebook for thousands of shell-shocked individuals who suddenly find themselves having to make life and death decisions for those they love. With humor, warmth, and arresting honesty, Siles’s lively narrative closely examines not only the patient’s recovery, but also the crucial role of caregivers—and the emotional, financial, and practical pressures they face. Going Overboard: The Misadventures of a Military Wife By Sarah Smiley (359.0092 SMI) In 1999, Sarah was a typical bride-to-be, flustered with wedding details. Then the groom called. "I don't want you to panic, but I might not be able to come to our wedding..." So began Sarah Smiley's life as a military wife. As a former Navy brat herself, Sarah knew better than anyone that weddings and funerals-even childbirth!-take a backseat to Uncle Sam. But just as the young syndicated columnist gets comfortable with the military wife's routine, her husband is sent away for unexpected deployment. What follows is a true test of strength and wit. From getting locked out of the house in cowgirl pajamas to wrestling with the temptation of infidelity, Sarah exposes it all with candor, heart-and knowing humor. Inside Secrets of Finding a Teaching Job: The Most Effective Search Methods for Both New and Experienced Educators By Jack Warner, Clyde Bryan, Diane Warner (370 WAR) This book provides real-world job search tips from other teachers as well as administrators. Also contains resume-writing advice, how to create a teacher portfolio and demonstration video, and Internet resources for finding the perfect situation. We Carry Each Other: Getting Through Life’s Toughest Times By Eric Langshur, Sharon Langshur, Mary Beth Sammons (610 LAN) We Carry Each Other is a guide to finding the courage inside ourselves to open our hearts and spirits, and reach out with caring and compassion when a spouse, child, parent, friend, neighbor, or colleague needs us most. Why Zebras Don’t Get Ulcers By Robert Sapolsky (616.0019 SAP) Why don't zebras get ulcers--or heart disease, diabetes and other chronic diseases--when people do? In a fascinating look at the science of stress, biologist Robert Sapolsky presents an intriguing case, that people develop such diseases partly because our bodies aren't designed for the constant stresses of a modern-day life--like sitting in daily traffic jams or growing up in poverty. Rather, they seem more built for the kind of short-term stress faced by a zebra--like outrunning a lion.

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Downrange to Iraq and Back By Bridget Cantrell, Chuck Dean (616.85 CAN) Required reading for anyone seriously interested about how to make healthy transitions from war to peace. You will find answers, explanations, and insights as to why so many combat veterans suffer from flashbacks, depression, fits of rage, nightmares, anxiety, emotional numbing, and other troubling aspects of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). The Veterans PTSD Book: How to File and Collect on Claims for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder By John Roche (616.85 ROC) Describes PTSD, how it occurs, who is most likely to develop it, and how it is treated; offers step-by-step instructions on how to prepare a well-grounded claim for veterans' benefits relating to PTSD; provides an insider's look at one veteran's four-year struggle to obtain VA benefits for PTSD. Achilles in Vietnam: Combat Trauma and the Undoing of Character By Jonathon Shay (616.85 SHA) Shay is a psychiatrist specializing in treating Vietnam veterans with chronic post-traumatic stress syndrome. In this provocative monograph, he relates their experiences to Homer's portrait of Achilles in The Illiad. War, he argues, generates rage because of its intrinsic unfairness. Only one's special comrades can be trusted. He convincingly recommends policies of unit rotation and unit "griefwork"--official recognition of combat losses--as keys to sustaining what he calls a moral existence during war's human encounters. War and the Soul: Healing Our Nation's Veterans from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder By Edward Tick (616.85 TIC) Edward Tick redefines PTSD as a true identity disorder, with radical implications for therapy. First, Tick establishes the traditional context of war in mythology and religion. Then he describes in depth PTSD in terms of identity issues. Finally, drawing on world spiritual traditions, he presents ways to nurture a positive identity based in compassion and forgiveness. Once a Warrior: Wired for Life By Bridget Cantrell, Chuck Dean (616.8521 CAN) Illustrates how to turn negatives into positives and assists our highly trained military personnel in utilizing their tremendous potential in achieving success and happiness after their released from military service. This book highlights the path along the way to transitioning from warrior to civilian. It is not a book to read just once, but one to study over and over again. Vietnam Wives: Facing the Challenges of Life With Veterans Suffering Post-Traumatic Stress By Aphrodite Matsakis (616.85212 MAT) Aphrodite Matsakis revisits the plight of the secondary victims of the war: the wives and children of veterans with post-traumatic stress disorder. The book explores the many changes encountered by traumatized veterans and their families as they face the difficult developmental stage of mid-life: retirement, the "empty nest syndrome," becoming grandparents, and, in many cases, separation and divorce. Matsakis deftly leads readers through the process of finding better ways to cope with new

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challenges and old. She explains post-traumatic stress disorder, its causes, symptoms, and the devastating long-term effects, including domestic violence, substance abuse, and suicidal feelings. Courage After Fire: Coping Strategies for Troops Returning from Iraq and Afghanistan and Their Families By Keith Armstrong (616.89 ARM) This book offers soldiers and their families a comprehensive guide to dealing with the all-too-common repercussions of combat duty, including posttraumatic stress symptoms, anxiety, depression, and substance abuse. It details state-of-the-art treatments for these difficulties and outlines specific ways to improve couple and family relationships. It also offers tips on areas such as rejoining the workforce and reconnecting with children. Homefront Club: The Hardheaded Woman's Guide to Raising a Military Family By Jacey Eckhart (646.7 ECK) Eckhart covers issues from the first day in the "fortress" to the last day the husband is piped ashore with humor and encouragement. She presents the realities and then offers some solutions for the married-but-single parent, starting out on the bottom rung of the career ladder with each move, and worrying if military life is hurting the kids. Her guide offers helpful ideas about managing the demands of a teenager during a move, finding playmates for toddlers in new neighborhoods, and even telling mothers-in-law why they shouldn’t be at the homecoming. She also lists methods of finding full and part-time work. Dare to Repair: A Do-it-Herself Guide to Fixing (Almost) Anything in the Home By Julie Sussman, Stephanie Glakas-Tenet (646.7 SUS) Whether you identify with riot grrrls or Rosie the Riveter, you'll love the tackle-it-yourself empowerment style of Dare to Repair. Covering simple tasks like unclogging bathroom sinks and switching directions on a ceiling fan along with more intimidating projects such as patching holes in drywall or creating a circuit map, this no-nonsense guide will walk you through those simple steps of maintaining, and perhaps even improving, your home. She’s Gonna Blow!: Real Help for Moms Dealing with Anger By Julie Barnhill (649 BAR) Straightforward and easy–to–read, She’s Gonna Blow! is for every mom seeking here–and–now hope and help to: find healthier ways of expressing anger; let go of ―control‖ issues and be more positive; draw closer to the God who created moms and mothering. Parents Guide to Business Travel: Practical Advice and Wisdom for When You Have to Be Away By Charlie Hudson (649 HUD) The essential book for any parent who travels and feels the pangs of guilt and loneliness of leaving the family behind. Offers down-to-earth suggestions by the age of children, topics range from how to explain an absence to a toddler to the unsettling decision of when, and if, it’s okay to leave a teenager alone for one or more nights. An insightful collection of anecdotes and practical ideas, the book also includes checklists and charts for parents and children to complete.

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Perfect Phrases for Negotiating Salary and Job Offers: Hundreds of Ready-to-Use Phrases to Help You Get the Best Possible Salary, Perks or Promotion By Matthew Deluca, Nanette Deluca (650.14 DEL) The latest guide in the top-selling, easy-to-use Perfect Phrases series gives you the correct vocabulary to use to get the best salary or job offer possible. Using words and phrases that take away the taboo surrounding the subject of money, you can ask for what you want-and deserve-with confidence. 24 Hours to the Perfect Interview: Quick Steps for Planning, Organizing, and Preparing for the Interview that Gets the Job By Matthew Deluca, Nanette Deluca (650.14 DEL) The one resource job seekers need to quickly prepare for even the toughest interview situation. Bestselling authors and career coaches Matt and Nan DeLuca offer a quick and easy system that walks job hunters through the essential steps of preinterview preparation. Perfect Phrases for the Perfect Interview: Hundreds of Ready-to-Use Phrases That Succinctly Demonstrate Your Skills, Your Experience and Your Value in Any Interview Situation By Carol Martin (650.14 MAR) In a job interview, every word counts. That's why you need to make sure you'll be prepared with exactly the right answers to any question an interviewer might throw at you. With Perfect Phrases for the Perfect Interview, you will be equipped to handle even the toughest questions. How to Say It: Job Interviews By Linda Matias (650.14 MAT) This guide offers the hands-on information, tools, and reallife scripts interviewees need to comfortably and effectively "pitch" themselves. It provides concrete examples of job-winning words and phrases, plus invaluable ideas on how to advertise skills. The 2 Second Commute: Join the Exploding Ranks of Freelance Virtual Assistants By Christine Durst, Michael Haaren (650.1408 DUR) Based on the highly-successful Virtual Assistant training programs Chris Durst and Michael Haaren developed for the US Armed Forces and the US Department of State, The 2-Second Commute brings you the knowledge without the classroom! Now YOU can learn from Chris & Mike, too, and start your own successful VA business! Winning Job Interviews By Paul Powers (650.1408 POW) Here is one book every job hunter needs. Fast paced, with no fluff, Winning Job Interviews is packed with strategies and techniques that are practical, market-proven, and easy to use.

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Finding a Job After 50: Reinvent Yourself for the 21st Century By Jeannette Woodward (650.1408 WOO) When you're 50 or 60 years old, the job market is a combat zone, no matter what your skills or experience. Finding a Job After 50 is a "guerilla guide" that gives you the powerful tools you need to substitute real satisfaction for the rat race. Getting the job you want may be a battle, so you have to approach it as such, equipping yourself with the right weapons to succeed in today’s job market. Your arsenal better be well stocked before you enter the fray. While They're At War: The True Story of American Families on the Homefront By Kristin Henderson (956.7044 HEN) Kristin Henderson writes about the private sacrifices made by military families. It paints a vivid picture of the families behind America's armed forces, many now serving in Iraq and Afghanistan. Heroes Among Us: Firsthand Accounts of Combat From America's Most Decorated Warriors in Iraq and Afghanistan (956.7044 HER) More than one million Americans have served in Iraq and Afghanistan, but fewer than 500 from this group have earned a Silver Star, Navy Cross, Air Force Cross, Distinguished Service Cross, or the Medal of Honor. These Americans have demonstrated extraordinary courage under fire—in the worst of circumstances. Heroes Among Us tells these extraordinary true stories of valor, honor and sacrifice. A Year of Absence: Six women's stories of courage, hope and love By Jessica Redmond (956.7044 RED) A Year of Absence follows the lives of six women whose husbands, all members of the U.S. Army’s First Armored Division based in Germany, deploy to Iraq in April 2003. A Year of Absence captures what life is like for many families of deployed soldiers: the ever-present fear of death, the pressures of single-parenthood, and the strength and comfort that come with the support of close friends. Voices from the Front: Letters Home from America's Military Family By Frank Schaeffer (956.7004 SCH) Bridges the divide between those who are in, or who have family members in the military, and the rest of us who can take that service for granted. It is a book about the intimately emotional and human side of military service.