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Family Developmental Trauma, Interrupted Safety and Disturbed Attachment
Kenneth Perlmutter, PhDFounder, Family Recovery [email protected] or 415-322-0939
With that Moon Language
Admit something:Everyone you seeYou say to them “Love me.”Of course you do not do this
out loudOtherwise someone would call
the cops.Still, though, think about this:This great pull in us to
connect.Why not become the one who
livesWith a full moon in each eye
that isAlways sayingWith that sweet moon
languageWhat every other eye in This world isDying to hear?--Hafiz
Psychosomatic families: understanding relational
trauma Interruptions in safety Enmeshment,
disengagement Rigidity, constriction Over-protectiveness Lack of conflict
resolution Secrets, alliances,
feuds Emotional volatility Body-based
communication Spiritual disconnection 6 D’s
Stress Induced Impaired Coping™
Danger
DisorderDisconnection
Doubt
Deprivation
DenialDistract
Blame Fix
Escape
SHAME
©2011 K Perlmutter PhD
Systemic implications of inter-generational
trauma Inter-generational and systemic pathways
Predisposing (genetics, environment, culture) Precipitating (T or complex t, loss, dissonance) Perpetuating (starvation, SA, invisibility, SIIC)
Self and system: Templates for safety and visibility
Parallels: ED pathology and family system dynamics Low self-esteem SHAME OCD Disease-perpetuating rituals Perfectionism Qualified Achievement
Promoting system shift
Safety/boundaries Image: portrayed/
expected vs. actual
FOO inquiry Nutritional
inventory: what feeds us?
Identify sources of resistance (fear) Explore the family deal -- its emotional and
relational aspects Generate empathy for interruptions in the sense
of safety of any of the members. Guide elders to describe some of theirs
Normalize impaired coping and honor its origins
Managing counter-transference working with
wounded families Integrity, Emotional
Reliability Assume communications
are essential and can be metabolized
What does patient need us to know: how might she be communicating?
Self-monitoring / Self-care Find sustainable posture Create a precious retreat
space Create rituals that promote
connection Practice “Radical
Acceptance” Engage in presence of
limits Touch it with love
Emotional reliability
Who are the follower
s and where
are they
leading us?