Fakes & BulliesTaming your imposter syndrome to find your inner expert

Kat H. Daugherty

Agile Enterprise Engagement Manager, TCS

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Coding Geek

Kat H. Daugherty1990s

2000s

2010s

2020s

Global Managed Services

Agile-y Stuff

2005

2014

Emergent Management

Today

Learn the Rules Bend the Rules Break the Rules

Shu Ha Ri

Learn the Rules Bend the Rules Break the Rules

Shu Ha Ri

How not to be an Agile Bully

Thought Leadership & Personal Branding

How to spot an Agile Bully

How to spot an Agile Bully

Shu Ha Ri

Olweus Bullying Prevention ProgramClemson University

Bullying is behavior that is:

1. Unwanted

2. Repeated

3. Establishes power

That was so negative.

Does this audience think I’m just a big

complainer?

Am I talking too fast?

Faces of Imposter Syndrome

Perfectionist

Setbacks crush my selfworth because people expectme to be good at things.

I may avoid trying things because I might fail.

Soloist

I hesitate to ask for help or work with others, because it might appear I don’t have the right skills

Natural Born Genius

I feel ashamed when it takes me a long time to learnsomething no matter howdifficult or complex.

Expert

I feel self-conscious when someone calls me an expert.

Superhero

I feel guilty whenever I’m not working. I struggle to find work-life balance.

Valerie Young, Ed.DThe Secret Thoughts of Successful Women: Why Capable People Suffer from Imposter Syndrome and How to Thrive In Spite of It

How not to be an Agile Bully

Shu Ha Ri

Goodbye, Imposter Syndrome.

Goodbye, Imposter Syndrome.

Freeing Your Radical

Hero: Fighting the

Impostor Mindset,

Lou Solomon

Hello, Radical Hero.

Challenging Assumptions

From Argyris, C., 'Overcoming Organizational Defenses: Facilitating Organizational Learning,' 1st Edition, © 1990.

Welcome Feedback more than you give

suggestions

5:1

Warning!

Difficult!

NEVER

Explain

yourself

From Gottman, Julie and John

Gottman Institute. University of Washington

Inviting Feedback

The next slide is the most important.

Seek first to understand, then to be understood.

Empathy

Servant Leadership in AgileWhere does it appear?

Smile.

Stand up Tall.

Very first line of the Agile Manifesto

We are uncovering better ways of developing software by doing it and helping others do it.

Is helping others

built into your agile

practice at every

level?

Very first value of the Agile Manifesto

Individuals and interactions over processes and tools When you talk about

agile are you focused

on processes or

humans?

Customer collaboration over contract negotiation

What does this

imply about Value?

Show calm energy.

Very first Principle of the Agile Manifesto

Our highest priority is to satisfy the customer through early and continuous delivery of valuable software.

products and services

Customer LOVE

is Servant

Leadership!

Build projects around motivated individuals.

Give them the environment and support they need,

and trust them to get the job done.

Work by Invitation

Business people and developers must work

together daily throughout the project.

Seek to

Understand

Listen Genuinely

The most efficient and effective method of conveying information to and within a development team is face-to-face conversation.

Watercooler talk has

value. How does this

work on virtual

teams?

The best architectures, requirements, and designs emerge from self-organizing teams.

Empirical

Learning and

Experimentation

At regular intervals, the team reflects on how to become more effective, then tunes and adjusts itsbehavior accordingly.

How can you ensure

every voice on your

team feels heard?

Accept Incremental Change

Thought Leadership & Personal Branding

Shu Ha Ri

It’s about the person I am talking to.

Not me.

TheKat Daugherty

A thought leader is someone who:

1. Learned something

2. Tried something

3. Shared something

Explore their ideas before sharing my own.

Ask for permission to share my experiences.

Servant Thought Leadership/Thought Servant LeadershipWays to Share what you Learn

• Social Media

• Communities

• Speaking/Sharing

• Volunteering

• Champion vs mentor*

*Thanks Angel Hill-Henry!

Is NOW good for

you?

Aim your camera at the code:

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G R O WGoal

20% 2 min

Reality

30% 3 min

Options

40% 4 min

Way Forward

10% 1 min

10 min Coaching Session

• What’s on your

mind?

• What’s your ideal

outcome?

• If you could wave a

magic wand?

• …What else?

Use What/How. Do

NOT ask WHY!

• What’s the challenge

for you?

• What Assumptions

have you made?

• How do you feel

about it?

• What have you

already done?

• What would you tell

me if you were

coaching me to solve

this?

• If you say yes, what

must you say no to?

WAIT……

• Can I offer

alternatives?

• What’s good about

your experiment?

• What are other

possible

experiments?

• Can you do many or

just one?

• What has been

valuable for you in

this conversation

and how can I

improve?

Changing HabitsDevelop Your Habit Plan

HABIT

What is your new habit?

TRIGGER

What are the triggers for the habit you are breaking?

MICRO-HABIT

What can you start tomorrow?

PRACTICE

When and where will you start?

Many Thanks To:

Jon Spurlock, who hacked my presentation

Karen Healey, who asked incredible questions

Stephen Patch-Putt, who had the courage help me grow

Please share your Discoveries with me!