Expect Respect…and Give It Ralph Whalen & Parents

April 23, 2010

GoalsConnect with others.

Learn one idea about respect that will help you promote respect.

Learn from each other.

RespectDisrespectful child.

What to do when your child is disrespectful.

What to do when someone is disrespectful to your child.

Handouts, evaluation and next seminars

General Comments

Partner Q. What topics of respect are important in your family?

Respecting Differences

Partner Q. How do you use the idea of strengths & challenges at home?

Valuing children

Partner Q. Too much respect?

Benefits of Respect

For KidsI’m importantSelf respectTake risks

For ParentsRespect back

Respect

I value myself and others,

appreciate our differences,

and treat others as I would want to be treated.

Respect for OthersAge

Ability

Culture

Jobs

Opinions

Other Areas of RespectPosition

Property

Environment

Animals

Partner Talk Introduce Self

What topics of respect are important in your family now (or when you were young)?

Respect

I value myself and others,

appreciate our differences,

and treat others as I would want to be treated.

Students with Challenges

Read the book

Respect those with challenges

We all have challenges

Introduce special education personnel

Michael Phelps Video

Don't You Quit

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will, When the road you're trudging seems all uphill, When the funds are low and the debts are high, And you want to smile, but you have to sigh, When care is pressing you down a bit- Rest if you must, but don't you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,As every one of us sometimes learns, And many a fellow turns about When he might have won had he stuck it out. Don't give up though the pace seems slow - You may succeed with another blow.

Often the goal is nearer thanIt seems to a faint and faltering man; Often the struggler has given up When he might have captured the victor's cup; And he learned too late when the night came down, How close he was to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out -The silver tint in the clouds of doubt, And you never can tell how close you are, It might be near when it seems afar; So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit - It's when things seem worst that you must not quit. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VkCFeNeqyHk

RespectEncouraging Others

Encourage Yourself

We all have challenges and strengths. How do you use this idea at home?

Partner Talk

Respect

I value myself and others

.

No child can

give back

what he has

not received.

Teaching Child to Value Self

Communication

Listen

Talk

Writing

Teach Children To Value Self

Time

Finish

Learn new task

Waiting for you

To teach a virtue,one example (you) is better than a thousand lectures.

Expectations

Consider child’s age

Accept their limitations

Accept their talents & temperaments.

“Respect others if you want to be respected.”

Philippines

Teach Children To Value Self

Discipline In private

Learning opportunity

Consequences, not punishment

Teach Children To Value Self

Teaching Respect

Communication with others.

Table manners

Special places

Special groups

Cultural differences

P Share: Too Much Respect?

Can a child have too much self respect?

Expect RespectEveryone is valuable

Tone of voice

Expressing opinions

Frustration VS Disrespect

Respect is

commanded,

not demanded.

Disrespectful ChildDoesn’t value

Doesn’t know their place

Is Egocentric

Why Parents Tolerate DisrespectDon’t know

Afraid of child

Doing it alone

Tried everything

When Your Child is Disrespectful

Identify disrespect

Conflict resolution strategies

Ask for an apology

Get help if needed

When Others Disrespect Your Child

Listen for feelings

Have faith in your child

Support your child

Monitor

Teach assertiveness

Learning Respect from Others

Siblings

Peers

Other adults

Media

“Never look

down on anybody unless you’re helping

him up.” Jesse

Jackson

Group ShareIn what way did others help you or your children learn respect?

Evaluation

Handouts

Book Group

Next SeminarGrade 5 Friday, April 30

Thank you for coming!

“ Self respect permeates

every aspect of your life.”

Charles Joseph “Joe” Clark