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EngagingToday’sFamiliesARelationship-BasedApproachGeneRoehlkepartain
VicePresident,ResearchandDevelopment
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DiscoveringWhatKidsNeedtoSucceed
OurFocus
Bridgingresearchandpracticetohelpyoungpeoplebeandbecometheirbestselves.
OurCoreCapacities
•Mixed-methodsresearch•Research-basedinnovationsandtools
•Partnerforcontinuouslearningandimprovement
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• 25+yearsofstudyingyoungpeople’sstrengthsandsupports(DevelopmentalAssets)
• Aburgeoningliteratureonrelationships
• A50-yearlegacyofresearchonfamilystrengths– FamilyAssetsstudy[2012]
– Don’tForgettheFamilies[2015]
Our(Research)StartingPoints
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NothingHasMoreImpact
“Afterdecadesofforminghypotheses,conductingsurveys,craftingandrewritingdefinitions,analyzingdata,andwritingjournalarticles,SearchInstituteresearchersandpractitionershavearrivedatasurprisinglysimpleconclusion:nothing—nothing—hasmoreimpactinthelifeofachildthanpositiverelationships.”
PeterL.Benson,PhDCreatoroftheDevelopmentalAssetsFramework
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TheFlowoftheDay
• ReframingtheChallengesofEngagingFamilies
• SevenShiftsforEngagingFamilies
• KeepConnected:PuttingtheShiftsintoPractice
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SOMECHALLENGESINENGAGINGFAMILIES
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PersonalReflection
CHALLENGEWhat can be particularly hard about engaging families (1-2 things)?
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WhyItCanBeHardtoEngage
• Practical:Time,schedule,transportation
• Attitudes&expectations– Embarrassment,senseoffailure,competition
– Perceivedstigma:Beingjudged,labeled,diagnosed
– Blame:Kids’problemsaretheirparents’fault
– LossofprivacyandfearofconsequencesSee:Mytton,J.,Ingram,J.,Manns,S.,&Thomas,J.(2014).Facilitatorsandbarrierstoengagementinparentingprograms:Aqualitativesystematicreview.HealthEducation&Behavior,41(2),127-137.
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WhyItCanBeHardtoEngage
• Institutional– Lackoftrustinsponsoringorganization– Participation:Punitive,mandated
See:Mytton,J.,Ingram,J.,Manns,S.,&Thomas,J.(2014).Facilitatorsandbarrierstoengagementinparentingprograms:Aqualitativesystematicreview.HealthEducation&Behavior,41(2),127-137.
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Who’sReally“HardtoReach”
“[Thereisa]fundamentaldisconnectbetweenwhatisdesignedandofferedandwhatfamilieswantandneed....Inotherwords,itisourinstitutionsandtheprograms,practices,andpoliciesthatschoolpersonneldesignthatare‘hardtoreach,’notthefamilies.”
Mapp,K.L.,&Hong,S.(2010).Debunkingthemythofthehard-to-reachparent.InS.L.Christenson&A.L.Reschly(Eds.),Handbookofschool-familypartnerships(pp.345–360).NewYork,NY:Routledge.
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REFRAMINGFAMILYENGAGEMENT:7SHIFTS
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FollowingAlong
Aseachshiftisintroduced...
• What’sthe“default”mindsetyouseeinyourorganization?
• Giveoverall“rating”• Jotexamples,ifyouhavethem
• Tallythegroup’sresultsaftereachshift
Note:“Emphasis,”not“either/or”
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#1:TowardFamilyStrengths&Resilience
Deficits,Risks Strengths,Resilience
“Moststudies...tendedtodismissthefamilyas
hopelesslydysfunctionalandtoseekpositive
extrafamilialresourcestocounterthe
negativeimpact.Thus,familieswere
seentocontributetorisk,but
nottoresilience.”—FromaWalsh
Walsh,F.(2006).Strengtheningfamilyresilience(2ndedition).NewYork:Guilford.
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ANarrativeofFamiliesinCrisis
• Structureandplaceinsociety=destiny
• Risks,deficits,dysfunction
• It’sprivate—notmyjob
• We(professionals)knowwhattheyneedtodo
• Workaround,compensate
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CompetingNarrativesaboutFamilies
WhatWeHear• 64%ofparentssay
familieshavedeclined
Today’sfamiliesare
reallymessedup.
WhatWeExperience• 75%ofadultsareverysatisfied
withtheirownfamily
Nothingismoreimportantto
methanmyfamily.
InSummary
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Adaptability:ACoreFamilyStrength
“Familiesstillmattergreatly,andfamiliescananddotendtoperformwellthosefunctionsthatareparticularlyrelevanttothelivesofchildren,evenindifferentsocialandhistoricalcontexts,householdarrangements,andlivingconditions.” Bengston,V.L.,Biblarz,T.J.,&Roberts,R.E.L.(2002).Howfamiliesstillmatter:Alongitudinal
studyofyouthintwogenerations.Cambridge,UK:CambridgeUniversityPress.
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ShiftingfromRiskstoStrengths
• AllfamilieshavestrengthsANDchallenges– Botharewelcomed– Avoidsthe“experttrap”– Levelstheconversationamongfamilies
• Startingwithstrengths– Tapsstrengthsasaresourceforgrowth– Buildsself-efficacy,confidence– Buildstrust(totacklechallengestogether)
• Transitions:Notapointofembarrassmentorshame
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Shift#2:BuildRelationshipswithFamilies
RecruitFamilies BuildRelationships
Dowestartwith?
• “Weknowthingsyouneedtoknow”
• “Ifparentswouldjust...”
• “Whatdoyouneedorworryaboutsowecan‘programto’it?”
Whatifwestartedwith...?
• “Inviting”familiestobepart
• Whatareyourhopes,dreams,struggles,gifts?Whatislifelikeforyou?
• Howmightwelearnfromeachother,telleachotherourstories?
IS“RECRUIT”THERIGHTWORD?
toenlistformilitaryservice;tofurnishorreplenishwithafreshsupply;toattempttoenrollorenlist.
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• Connectstheexperiencetothefamily’sspecificgoals,worries,priorities
• Istrusted,warm,encouraging
• Willbetheretowelcome
Boostconfidencewitha“warmhand-off”
• “I’llfitin”• “Iwon’tlook
stupid”• “Ihavesomething
tocontribute”• “Iwon’tbe
pressuredtodosomethingelse”
Nothingismorepowerfulthanapersonalinvitationfromsomeonewho...
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ShiftingfromRecruitingtoInviting
• Listen
• Buildtrust
• Beclearaboutwhattoexpect
• Workwithtrustedallies
• Buildconnections
• Reinforcewithcommunicationtools
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#3:FocusingonFamilies’Priorities
Howwelldoourgoalscomplement—orconflictwith—families’priorities,needs,andhopes?
OurAgenda TheirAgenda
What are major
reasons you want to
engage families?
What are families’ goals, priorities, needs,
or hopes?
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HowDoYouGettoKnowFamilies’Priorities?
Remembertheshiftfromrecruitmenttoinvitation.
• Talkless...Listenmore
• Gettoknowthem
• Spendtimeintheirworld
• Walkalongsidethem
• Buildtrustwiththem
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PrioritiesthatSurfaceinKeepConnected
Parentsofyoungadolescents...
• Worryabout“losingmychild”orlosinginfluencewhentheybecomeateen
• Apriority:Tostayconnected,evenaskidsbecomemoreindependent
FamilyPledgetoKeepConnected
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EngagingWithWhatMatterstoFamilies
HiddenalignmentOurpremise:Families’greatestcontributionstoyourprogram,school,ororganization’sgoalsforchildrenandyouthliesinbeingasstrongandresilientafamilyasitcanbe.
Ifthat’strue,whatdoesitmeanforwhyandhowyouseektoengagefamilies?
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#4:FamilyRelationships
ParentingSkills FamilyRelationships
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WhenRelationshipsAreStrong*
Youngpeoplearemorelikelyto...• Payattention• Disclose• Seekhelp
*Highmutualbondandtrust
Parentingadultsaremorelikelyto...• Investtime,energy• Haveinfluence• Avoidharshresponses
• Advocate• Stayengaged
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Surveys
Theory&LiteratureReview
FocusGroups
SecondaryAnalysis
InvestigatingRelationships
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FiveElementsofDevelopmentalRelationships
ChallengeGrowth
ExpressCare
ProvideSupport
SharePower ExpandPossibilities
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RelativeStrengthsinRelationships
4.02
3.73
3.45 3.42 3.40
ParentingAdults Friends ProgramLeaders Siblings Teachers
N=25,395students,grades6–12
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86% 87%
67% 68%
55%
45%
53%
40%
51%
31%
ExpressCare ChallengeGrowth
ProvideSupport SharePower ExpandPossibilities
Parents Siblings
Friends Teachers
ProgramLeaders
AWebofDevelopmentalRelationships
N=25,395students,grades6–12
Friends
Teachers
Parents
Teachers
Parents
Siblings
Parents
Siblings
Parents
Teachers
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Numberof“Strong”Relationships
22%
18%
16%
15%
12%
16%
Relationshipsareconsidered“strong”whenyoungpeopleexperiencethe5elementsofdevelopmentalrelationships,onaverage,oftenorveryoften.
NoneStrong
1Strong
2Strong
3Strong
4Strong
5Strong
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40%
N=25,395students,grades6–12
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FiveElements:Parents
88%
73%
79%
57%
38%
ExpressCare
ChallengeGrowth
ProvideSupport
SharePower
ExpandPossibilities
ParentswithYouth,9-18(n=671,2017)
FROM:ASnapshotofDevelopmentalRelationshipsBetweenParents
andYouth(2017).www.searchinstitute.org/families/
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FiveElements,byRace/Ethnicity
0%
25%
50%
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Care Challenge Support Power Possibilities
ParentswithChildren,9-18(n=671;collectedin2017)
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CharacterStrengths
PredictingSocial-EmotionalStrengths
DevelopmentalRelationships
Demographics
Thequalityofparent-childrelationshipsis10timesmorepowerfulthandemographics*inpredictingwhetherchildrenaredevelopingcriticalsocial-emotionalstrengthstheyneedforsuccessinlife.
*Includesage,gender,race-ethnicity,immigrationstatus,andfinancialstrain
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ISastructuredopportunityforparentsandyouthtoreflectonandpractice
howtobemoreintentionalintheirfamily
relationships
ISNOTaparentingprogramthatteaches
parentingskills
“Itwasjustanicewaytopauseandthinkthroughsomethingsaboutyourrelationshipsthatyouprobablynever
bothertodo.”
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AFamilyRelationshipsChecklist
• Completethisonyourownforyourownfamily(asyouwoulddefineit).
• Withoneotherpersonnearby:
– What,ifanything,surprisedyou?
– Howdoyouthinkfamiliesyouknowwouldrespondtotheseideas?
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#5:ParentingDoesn’tStopat6
EarlyChildhood ThroughTransitions
EarlyChildhood
EarlyElementary
LateElementary
MiddleSchool
HighSchool
PostHighSchool
CommunityorFamilyTragedy
FamilyChange
NewSibling
StartDriving
Religious/Cultural
Milestones
Moving
NewJob
AndManyMore
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AFacebookPleafromaParent
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DisconnectingintheTeenYears
(Formostitems,youthrateeach5ona5-pointscale,e.g.,stronglyagree.Parentinvolvementinschoolisascalebasedonseveralitemsbasedonyouthperspectives.)
46%
20%
50%
32%
61%
36%
72%
45%
10%
20%
30%
40%
50%
60%
70%
80%
6th 7th 8th 9th 10th 11th 12thGradeLevel
Parentinvolvedinschooling
Getalongwithparents
Parentshelpandsupport
Parentssaytheyloveme
SearchInstitutesurveysduringthe2014-2015schoolyearof122,269U.S.youthingrades6to12.
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“Beingabletocontinuethatmomentumforhealthy,stronghabitsatthemiddleschoolageandhopefullybuildfoundationsthatwillcarryintohighschoolisjustcriticallyimportant.There’sabiggapthere.It’samissingservice.”
–KeepConnectedfacilitator
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#6:ConnectedCommunities
OntheirOwn ConnectedCommunities
“Socialpoverty—socialisolationandalackofeasyaccesstohelp—hadbecomerampant,regardlessoffamilies’socioeconomicstatus.Toalargeextent,helphadbecomeacommoditythatpeoplebuy,notwhattheydo.”
—GaryMelton(2010)Melton,G.B.(2010).Angels(andneighbors)watchingoverus:Childsafetyandfamilysupportinanageofalienation.TheAmericanJournalofOrthopsychiatry,80(1),89–95.
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WebofRelationships:SpokesorNetwork?
Central“expert”askeyresource
Community,cultureaskeyresource
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ConnectedCommunitiesinKeepConnected
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Familiesbuildtrust,connectionsandasharedfoundation(acrossdifferences)
Familiescometoseeeachotherasfriendsandtrustworthysourcesofadvice
Familieslearnaboutopportunitiesinthe
community(frompeerswhovaluethem)
“Tohearotherparentshavingthesamestruggles…youcanletyourhairdownandlearnfromeachother.”
-Parent,Durham,NC
“Ienjoyedgettingtobeclosertomyfamilyandclosertootherfamilies.”
—Youth
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#7:EmpoweringFamilies
ServingFamilies EmpoweringFamilies
Threealternatewaysofthinkingaboutcommunityconnections:
• Informalsupportsforfamilies
• Formalsupportsforfamilies
• Familycontributionstocommunities
Whichofthesemattersmostforyouthwell-being?
1.Contributions
2.Informal
3.Formal
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LadderofParticipation
Hart,R.A.(1997).Children'sparticipation:Thetheoryandpracticeofinvolvingyoungcitizensincommunitydevelopment
andenvironmentalcare.NewYork,NY:UNICEF.
Whatmightthe“ladderofparticipation”looklikeforengaging,educating,
andempoweringfamilies?
Excessiverewardormandatory
Askedtocome;norealrole
Insignificant(scripted)roles
Invitedforasetrole
Realinputontopics,goals
Leadsetworkshops
Design&leadsharedpriorities
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BuildRelationships
TheirAgenda
Strengths,Resilience
FamilyRelationships
ThroughTransitions
ConnectedCommunities
EmpoweringFamilies
Withyourtable...
SelectONEshifttotalkabout.
• Howmightthisshifthelpengagefamilies?
• Whenhaveyouseenthisdoneeffectively?
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KEEPCONNECTEDSTRENGTHENINGFAMILIESBYSTRENGTHENINGRELATIONSHIPS
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PilotSites(2016–2017)
YWCA,Pottstown,PA
GeorgetownProjectGeorgetown,TX
I.J.HoltonIntermediateSchoolAustin,MN
CommunitiesinSchoolsDurham,NC
JubileeHousingWashingtonDC
Sixlocalpilotpartners:• Apublicschool• Aneducationalsupportprogram• Alow-incomehousingprogram• Acommunitycollaboration• Afamilyserviceorganization• Acommunity-basedorganization.
TobermanNeighborhoodCenterSanPedro,CA
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WhatItIs • Foralltypesoffamilies
• 7sessions(90min+dinner)
• Exploreeach“key”toparent-youthrelationships
• ParentmaterialsinEnglish&Spanish
• Activities&practicestouseathome
• Ledbylocal,trainedfacilitators
Foryouthandparentstogether– Youthsession– Parentsession– Familysession
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SixInteractiveWorkshops(plusgraduation)
1. ThrivingThroughtheTeenageYears:ThePowerofFamilyRelationships
2. Care:TheFoundationofRelationships3. SharePower:EvenWhenIt’sNot
Comfortable
4. ChallengeGrowthwithoutPushingAway5. SupportandStretchtoGrow6. CelebratingYourFamily’sJourneythrough
theTeenYears
7. FamilyGraduationCeremony
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KeepConnectedComponents
• Trainingforcoordinators,facilitators• Planning,recruitment,retentionstrategies• Facilitatingyouth,parentworkshops
KeepConnectedInstitute
• Effectiveprogramimplementation• Research-basedrecruitmentstrategies• Ideastoaddresskeychallenges
ImplementationToolkit(online)
• Detailedsessiondesigns(parent,youth,andfamiliestogether)
• Handoutsandothertools
FacilitatorMaterials
• ParentFurther.com• Youthandparentsurveys• Tools,consulting,training
Website,Survey,OtherTools
Facilitator GuideKeep Connected: Engaging Families by Strengthening Relationships
www.parentfurther.com/keepconnected 800-888-7828
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UpcomingOpportunities
• Webinaronfamilyengagement– June6(TimeTBD)
• KeepConnectInstituteforStrengtheningFamilyRelationships– June18–19,Minneapolis,MN
• One-dayworkshoponengagingfamiliesthroughdevelopmentalrelationships– August(datesTBD),Richmond,Virginia
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StrengtheningtheWebofRelationships
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StayConnected
• Presentationmaterialswillbepostedonlineathttp://www.readyby21.org/nmagenda
• Tweetaboutyoursession!#Rb21
• FindReadyby21resourcesandopportunitiesatreadyby21.org
• ContactGene:[email protected]