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E7+M7-Intro, E05 1
PE-course Project Organised Learning
(POL)
Mm 6: Conflict Handling
Master of Science – Introductory Semester (E7 + M7 – Intro)
Lecturer: Lars Peter Jensen Ass. teacher: Xiangyun Du
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Project Organized Learning (POL)6: Conflict Handling
Agenda:
1. Lecture 1: On conflicts2. Role play about conflicts3. Lecture 2: Preventing conflicts4. Role play on creative problem solving5. Lecture 3: Conflict behaviour and
conflict solving
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Project Organized Learning (POL)6: Conflict Handling
My goals for your learning
After this lesson you should be able to:
• Describe and explain simple ways of preventing conflicts
• Explain different behaviour in a conflict situation
• Describe and explain simple ways of solving a conflict
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Conflicts – WHAT? WHY? HOW?
• WHAT? Behaviour exhibited by one (or more) person(s) which bothers another (or other) person(s) and/or prevents them from doing something they would like to do.
• WHY? Disagreement, “bad chemistry”, fight about power, lack of respect, cultural insensitivity e.g..
• HOW? It is easy to start a conflict – but it might be hard to solve it satisfactorily!.
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Role Play about conflicts
The six roles:–The speaker–The listener–The active listener–The interrupting person–The shy or not participating
person–The observer
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The roles
The speaker• You have to speak for approximately 5 minutes about a topic of interest to
you – it can be your hobby, a holiday or an experience you have had – most important is that you are engaged. You have to try to make the other group members understand what you are talking about.
The listener• You listen to the speaker and express interest for the topic via your body
language (nodding, varied facial expression, leaning forward etc.) and by asking small open-ended questions, encouraging the speaker to continue talking.
The active listener• You listen to the speaker and express interest for understanding the topic by
listening both to the words and to the feelings underlying the words. You repeat sentences in your own words and try to explain and interpret what you hear. Be aware that your body language also expresses interest.
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The rolesThe interrupting person• Your role is to try to interrupt the speaker several times and
speak about something different. Your body language expresses a slight lack of interest, because you would rather speak about something else.
The shy or not participating person• You behave as if you don’t want to participate in the
discussion. You either just sit there or play with the computer, talk in your mobile, look out through the window. Your body language expresses no interest or understanding.
The observer• Your most important role is to keep an eye on time and not
let the speaker speak for more than 5 minutes. Further, you observe the communication in the group and note down your impression afterwards.
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Role Play about conflicts
After playing different roles (app. 2 – 4 plays) you discuss:
• Your immediate feelings and reactions concerning the different roles.
• To which extent can you recognize some of the roles from your discussions in the group ?
• To which extent can you learn something from the role plays that could be useful in your future discussions in the group ?
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Role Play(Plenary discussion and a break)
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Lecture 2: Preventing Conflicts
1. Preventing conflicts2. Dialogue versus discussion3. Reflexive writing and marking rounds4. The ’Hot chair’5. ’I’ – messages
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Preventing Conflicts
”Prevention is better than cure”
- also when it concerns conflicts in a group!!
”Remember that the sooner a conflict is identified and handled, the less dramatic it is.
Prevention of conflicts builds on mutual understanding and respect for diversity.
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Preventing Conflicts
Conflicts are best prevented by:
• Knowing and understanding expectations, opinions and feelings - your own as well as those of others (dialogue, I-messages)
• Agreeing on rules, roles and relations in the group, (co-operation agreement)
• Evaluating your group co-operation regularly (’hot chair’, team health profile).
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Dialog versus diskussionDialogue and Discussion
Dialogue is an expansive process - your knowledge is increased.How is the ’mind map of the world’ for the others??
Discussion is a narrowing process - you agree on a collective ’mind map of the world’
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Dialogue
• The objective is to understand what others understand – understand their ’mind map of the world’
• The means are: listening – passively and actively.
• The characteristics are: to be curios; open minded; eager to learn.
• Cultural sensitivity requires dialogue !!
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Passive Listening
Builds on the ability to:
• Be silent• Express acknowledgement• Invite others to go into details
using encouraging words: ”Yes”,”No”,”I see”,”Hmmm” and
• openers: ”Tell more”, ”How would you” etc.
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Aktiv lytningActive Listening
Coding Decoding
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Active Listening
Builds on the ability to:
• ’Mirror’, (repeat with your own words) what the other person says
• Communicate on the other person’s premises
• Show understanding and respect for the other persons opinion
• Interpret – not judge or condemn.
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Body language of a listener
Has eye contact
Has an open posture
Is leaning slightly forward
Nods at intervals
Is conscious of own and receiver’s body language
A listening person:
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Discussion
• The objective is to agree upon a decision – a common ’mind map of the world’
• The means are: shift between listening, reflecting, developing ideas and speaking
• The characteristics are: holistic judgements (see it as a whole) and reasonable decisions
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When you have to make a decision…
Split up your discussion into 4 phases:
1. Making suggestions – ’drawing different maps’.2. Elaborating, explaining – ’understanding the
maps’.3. Developing further, comprehensive assessment –
’heading for a better map’.4. Deciding – ’drawing the (best) collective map’
Phase 1 – 2 is the dialogue. Phase 3 – 4 is the discussion.
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Reflexive writing and ‘marking rounds’
Can be used before, during and after a decision-making process:
• Five minutes ’time-out’, where • All speaking in the group is forbidden and• Each student spontaneously writes down his or
her thoughts about the form of the discussion and the issues discussed at the moment
• After 5 minutes take a ‘marking round’ where everyone explains their thoughts
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Reflexive writing and ‘marking rounds’
..are good tools in team work because they:
• Give those who have ’dropped out’ of the discussion a possibility to come back in.
• Give everybody a possibility to put forward their views and opinions.
• Make the communication process open and visible because of the writing.
GOOD ADVICE: Let the less speaking student start!!
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Evaluating personal relations: The ’Hot chair’
Every 2-3 weeks group members evaluate each other one at a time according to the following rules:
• The person in the ‘hot chair’ is not allowed to comment, she/he is supposed to listen to the constructive and loyal criticism of other group members
• All the others have to give positive and negative feedback e.g. Two things they like about the person’s behaviour within the group, and two things they don't like
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Evaluating personal relations: The ’Hot chair’
Feedback must: • Describe behaviour – not interpret motives• Express your own feelings directly – not indirectly• Be specific – not general• Only address issues which can be changed• Make room for change• Be non-judgmental • Only be given when asked for/agreed upon – not
uninvited• Be motivated by a wish to help others – not to
hurt
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A good advice to remember !!
• Be towards others as you wish them to be towards you!!
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’I’-messages
The ’I’-message is a clear, unambiguous and honest message about your thoughts and feelings
You can share your thought and feelings with others but they cannot deny them or say that they are ’wrong’
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How to use ’I’-messages to tell others about something you
don’t likePhase Example
Start (state the factual behaviour)
”You didn’t tell me that the meeting was cancelled.
Consequence (describe the consequence of this behaviour for you)
So I have wasted my time coming here.
Feeling (describe how you feel about this)
This makes me angry and I feel that you disrespect me and my job.
Alternative (point out another way to behave)
If you had notified my secretary she could have notified me.”
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Break for 15 minutes
Deadline is deadline !
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Creative conflict solving
• A conflict is identified and everyone in the group can see the problem
• It may be better to create a NEW solution together rather than to quarrel about which one to chose
• With the new solution everyone wins something, but at the same time you also have to let go of something
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Creative conflict solving
• In a trade-off discussion people often go for win/lose solutions
• To go for win/win solutions you can try a special negotiation game called Movement
• Making a Movement is a game you are playing so you should have fun while doing it
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Movement – the rules• When someone makes a suggestion you are
not allowed to question it or criticize it• You are only allowed to say YES AND … to
spontaneously follow up the idea • Movement is playing with ideas and the
ideas are allowed to ‘live their own life’ and therefore they develop
• The wilder an idea the better• Even though you don’t like an idea,
following up on it might end with a brilliant idea later on that might lead to a new solution to the conflict
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Movement - afterwards
• When running out of ideas the Movement stops
• You can now look at the conflict with new eyes
• One of the wild ideas may be transformed into a new solution that everyone thinks is good
• This way you have solved the conflict and created a win/win solution for all
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Movement – try it• Playing a role play in mixed groups will
demonstrate how Movement can be used to conflict solving.
• Each group selects two persons to play person A and B who has some disagreement that now has turned into an open conflict.
• The rest of the group has no direct part in the conflict, but it influences the group’s work.
• Now use the rules of Movement to create new ideas to help A and B settle their disagreement.
• All of the group should participate and have fun and create wild ideas, so A and B should try not to focus their mind on the disagreement for a while.
• Afterwards the group try to find a solution to the conflict based on the ideas from the movement.
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A: Ambitious personPerson A:
• is ambitious and using a lot of time on the project• is working with the project most evenings and
weekends• does a lot of work and expects others to do the
same• wants to learn as much as possible and is very
career-minded• is very co-operative• dislikes people being late or not delivering on
time.
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B: relaxed personPerson B: • seems more focused on having a good time
than on studying hard• is often late in the morning because there
has been a party the night before• is sometimes late in delivering his tasks in
the project• is funny and wants to socialize with both the
group and others• is well liked in the group and co-operative• has very good technical skills in the area of
the project and is brilliant in math
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Conflict to solve• A has long been unsatisfied about B being late
and not delivering on time.• The group has a code of conduct stating that
everyone arrive at 8.15 and deliver working tasks on time.
• A is now suggesting that B starts following the code of conduct or he shall be expelled from the group.
• B thinks that social life is also important and that the code of conduct shouldn’t be followed strictly.
• The rest of the group feels that both A and B contribute to the project and both are important for both the work and the good spirit so they want to find a new code of conduct that can be accepted and followed by all in the group.
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Lecture 3: Conflict behaviour and conflict solving
1. How to spot a conflict 2. Personal conflict behaviour3. Conflict solving 4. Consequences of conflicts
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How to spot a conflict
• Very loud discussion in stead of dialogue – nobody is trying to understand each other
• Very long arguing but no decisions• Goes ‘for the man’ not ’for the ball’ • Postulate in stead of reasoning• Formation of cliques• Talk about people behind their backs
REMEMBER: Deal with conflicts, the sooner the better !!!
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Personal conflict behavior
Goal
Relations
Important
Not important Important
Accommodating -smooth things out
Collaborating
ForcingAvoiding
Compromising
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Personal conflict behaviourProfile Characteristic individual behaviourAvoidance ’drawing’
Avoid, deny, ignore, turn away.
Accommodating’smooth things out’
Forthcoming, abandon personal goals, relations to others is more important.
Win/loose‘forcing’
Dominating, aggressive, want to win, demonstrates power.
Compromising’do compromises’
All shall gain something – there is different ways to do things, compromises.
Collaborating’confronting’
Acceptance of conflicts. Everybody's needs are legitimate and important. Respect for personal relations. Make allowances
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One way to solve a conflict
• Those involved in the conflict state their point of view, one at a time.
• A mediator sums up the main issues in the conflict.
• The mediator and the persons involved try to uncover underlying reasons for the conflict.
• Everyone participates in the development of possible solutions.
• The group agrees upon trying one of the solutions and the mediator writes down the agreement.
• Everyone evaluates the process and states whether they are satisfied with the solution.
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Another way to solve a conflict
Those involved in the conflict tell• How they have experienced the situation• How they have contributed to creating the problem• How they can contribute to a solution
Mediator and persons involved participate in the development of possible solutions.
The group agrees upon trying one of the solutions and the mediator writes down the agreement.
• Everyone evaluates the process and states whether they are satisfied with the solution.
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Conflict solving – think about
Phase Agenda
Problem What’s the reason for the conflict
Goal A ’win/win’-solution
Confrontation ’I’ messages
Active listeningUnderstanding others’ ”mind map of the world”
SolutionsAs many as possible to increase creative solutions
Judgement and choice
Consensus or compromise
Agreement Who is going to do what ?
Evaluating What did WE learn ?
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Conflicts – negative or positive ?
A conflict can be destructive, but it can also• bring forward different sides of a case• Enhance creativity and• stimulate learning. Also, a satisfactorily solved conflict is likely to• Create better co-operation, more trust and
deeper friendships, and • Improve the ability to handle conflicts in the
future – both in the group and in a later job situation.
It is not the conflict itself, but the lack of ability and will to solve it, that creates problems.
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Remember:Conflicts arises !!!It is your choice whether they shall lead to positive or negative results.It depends upon whether your mental frame is positive or negative !
What do you read here?
• OPPORTUNITYISNOWHERE• OPPORTUNITY IS NOWHERE• OPPORTUNITY IS NOW HERE
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..and this was it for today!!