Dysfunctional Dysfunctional or Deos-or Deos-functional?functional?Having a Having a meaningful life meaningful life familyfamily

What are the What are the characteristics of a characteristics of a dysfunctional family?dysfunctional family? CrazyCrazy Not workingNot working HarmfulHarmful Not successfulNot successful Not living up to potential Not living up to potential A family where members operate A family where members operate

out of the lies and misconceptions out of the lies and misconceptions of the past.of the past.

Dysfunctional familiesDysfunctional families

Our experiences can Our experiences can lead us to wrong lead us to wrong conclusions which in conclusions which in turn end up lead us to turn end up lead us to make wrong decisions.make wrong decisions.

Meaning centeredMeaning centered Since we are meaning seeking Since we are meaning seeking

creatures we look for understanding creatures we look for understanding in everything.in everything.

Our families are one of the earliest Our families are one of the earliest and most powerful influencers of our and most powerful influencers of our conclusions about ourselves, about conclusions about ourselves, about relationships with others, about how relationships with others, about how to live in the world and about God.to live in the world and about God.

The Bottle FamilyThe Bottle Family

An example of a dysfunctional family.

Wino Willie: The AddictWino Willie: The Addict

Wino Willie: The AddictWino Willie: The Addict

Wilhelmina: co-Wilhelmina: co-dependentdependent

Wilhelmina: co-Wilhelmina: co-dependentdependent

Daryl: The HeroDaryl: The Hero

Bubba: The scapegoatBubba: The scapegoat

Sissy: The lost childSissy: The lost child

Jolly Jerry/Sad SamJolly Jerry/Sad Sam

Martha: The Martha: The martyr/doermartyr/doer

Camille/LeonCamille/Leon

Meaning centered Meaning centered livinglivingIt is not our history that It is not our history that guides are behavior but guides are behavior but the the conclusionsconclusions we we reach about our past reach about our past that control us.that control us.

Common Common misunderstandings about misunderstandings about self self Not good enough.Not good enough. Not competent.Not competent. Dirty or tainted.Dirty or tainted. I must be perfekt.I must be perfekt. God can not use me.God can not use me. I will not become something.I will not become something.

Common Common misunderstandings about misunderstandings about othersothers Relationships will satisfy me.Relationships will satisfy me. I am alone.I am alone. There is no one to help.There is no one to help. I must do it by myself.I must do it by myself. I must always show others that I I must always show others that I

am strong.am strong. I must not say how I really feel.I must not say how I really feel.

Listen to the common Listen to the common beliefsbeliefs Lies Lies JudgmentsJudgments ExaggerationsExaggerations Wrong meaning discoveredWrong meaning discovered Lack of informationLack of information MisunderstandingsMisunderstandings Wrong conclusionsWrong conclusions

Common Common misunderstandings about misunderstandings about the world the world Nothing matters.Nothing matters. I should just get out of life what I I should just get out of life what I

can.can. I can control things.I can control things. Things and money will satisfy me.Things and money will satisfy me. Power will satisfy me.Power will satisfy me.

Common Common misunderstandings about misunderstandings about GodGod He is not there.He is not there. He does not have my best interest in He does not have my best interest in

mind.mind. He should always keep me from pain.He should always keep me from pain. He has no power.He has no power. He does not care.He does not care. He is distant.He is distant.

What is a What is a deosfunctional family?deosfunctional family? Deos - GodDeos - God Functional – organized, working Functional – organized, working

A system were the truth of God is A system were the truth of God is present and present and His meaningHis meaning is the is the prime mover for all members.prime mover for all members.

TruthTruth

OurselvesOurselvesOthersOthersWorldWorldGodGod