Drumming Up Courage

To End Violence in Musqueam

A Resource Manual for Musqueam Community Members

1st Edition, March 2016

DRUMMING UP COURAGE Artist Message

My name is Crystal Stogan. I am a proud member

of the Musqueam Nation.

I would like to thank the Drumming Up Courage to End Violence group for choosing my drawing

for their new logo.

The cedar hat is to represent the regalia that Coast Salish people use in ceremony. In the

drawing, we are standing as a group, keeping our Community strong, drumming and singing together as one: nə́c̓aʔmat tə šxʷqʷeləwən ct.

In good times and in hard times, for that I am grateful.

I would also like to thank Corrina Sparrow for all

her hard work and dedication to our community.

hay čxʷ q̓ə

Crystal Stogan

Drumming Up Courage to End Violence in Musqueam is a volunteer working group made up of Musqueam

community members, staff and managers. We came together upon completion of our first Ending Violence Core

training session provided by Battered Women Support Services in Musqueam in August 2015, with hope to carry

collective efforts forward to address issues of violence in our community.

Drumming Up Courage will continue to work together throughout the year to offer programs, gatherings and

services for Musqueam community members to respond to all incidents of violence in traditionally informed ways, and to help one another heal, rise up and transcend impacts of

violence on our wellbeing.

Drumming Up Courage Vision Statement: Courage and Respect to end violence in Musqueam

Community.

Drumming Up Courage Mission Statement: We will draw on our ancestor’s teachings of Respect to

respond to violence in our Community.

Please contact Corrina Sparrow, Social Development Director at Musqueam office for information on how to get

involved with the Drumming Up Courage collective and programs happening this year:

T: 604-269-3319 / E: socialdev@musqueam.bc.ca

We are pleased to release this first edition of Drumming Up Courage to End Violence in Musqueam

Resource Manual.

We would like to thank all the DUC members, Musqueam service providers and staff who provided information for

this manual, helping us to encourage the safety of our community members by increasing awareness of ending

violence resources, supports and programs both on and off reserve.

Special thanks to all the Musqueam youth who took photos on our beautiful lands this Fall, to capture images of safety, wellness, strength and support for our members to enjoy.

If you notice we missed a program or agency in this manual

for ending violence resources and supports, please call Corrina Sparrow at 604-269-3319 or email:

socialdev@musqueam.bc.ca

All of the resources listed in this manual are for information purposes only. We do not advocate or endorse any of the

programs, services or agencies specifically.

This manual is meant to be a guide and the programs as suggestions for support.

Table of Contents

Crisis & Help Lines page 4 cc̓əc̓əwten̓əm Child Safety & Youth Supports page 8 k̓ʷek̓ʷəcmət tə steʔəxʷəɬ Legal Supports page 13 nin̓əw̓ənəq Counselling & Healing page 15 Ending Violence Supports page 19 Addictions Supports page 23 Emergency Shelter / Safe Houses page 30 Musqueam Resources page 34 xʷməθkʷəy̓əm MIB Critical Incident Response page 40

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CRISIS & HELP LINES

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Respect Checklist: Your Rights in a Relationship

If you are in a relationship, you must be treated with respect.

This means your boyfriend, girlfriend or partner: _____ Is willing to compromise _____ Lets you feel comfortable being yourself _____ Is able to admit to being wrong _____ Tries to resolve conflict by talking honestly _____ Enables you to feel safe being with him/her _____ Respects your feelings, opinions and friends _____ Accepts when you change your mind _____ Respects your wishes if you want to end the relationship When someone loves you, you feel valued, respected and free to be yourself. You should not feel intimidated or controlled.

Think about your relationship. Do you feel respected?

CRISIS & HELP LINES Crisis Centre – Intervention & Suicide T: 604-872-3311 / W: www.crisiscentre.bc.ca Hours: 24 hours/day, 7 days a week Offers free, confidential telephone counselling to people who are emotionally upset or experiencing depression, relationship or family problems, alcohol or drug problems, or feeling suicidal. Rape Crisis Centre Women Against Violence Against Women (WAVAW) T: 604-255-6228 / Toll Free: 1-877-392-7583 / Crisis Line: 604-255-6344 W: www.wavaw.ca Hours: 24 hours/day, 7 days a week A confidential phone service which offers information, support, counselling and referrals to victims of rape or sexual assault. Helpline for Children – MCFD T: 604-310-1234 / Toll Free: 1-866-660-0505 A free confidential phone service for anyone needing help, or who knows of a child who is being abused or neglected. You don’t have to identify yourself on the phone. Vancouver Rape Relief & Women’s Shelter 1424 Commercial Drive, Vancouver T: 604-872-8212 (24 hours a day) E: info@rapereliefshelter.bc.ca / W: www.rapereliefshelter.bc.ca Hours: Call anytime, 24 hours a day Shelter for women and their children. Safe place to stay in order to escape or prevent an attack, this transition house is available to you.

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Youth Against Violence Line Toll Free: 1-800-680-4264 / T: 604-875-0885 / Text: 604-836-6381 Collect calls accepted also. Hours: 24 hours a day, 7 days a week A province-wide help line that offers young people one-on-one support and information to help them deal with issues of youth violence and crime. It is a safe and anonymous way to report or prevent violent incidents and criminal activity. Battered Women Support Services Crisis and Intake Line: 604-687-1867 Office: 604-687-1868 / TTY: 604-687-6732 / E: information@bwss.ca Hours: Mon to Fri, 10am – 5pm / Wed 10am – 8pm Supports offered include crisis prevention, groups, counselling, Aboriginal women’s supports program, legal advocacy, dating violence and options for LGBTQTS women. Programs include: Helping Hands – Empowering Native Youth E: information@bwss.org Aboriginal Women’s Program E: aboriginalwomensprogram@bwss.org

Support Groups: E: supportgroups@bwss.org

Crisis and Intake Coordinator & Violence Education/Prevention Program E: intake@bwss.org Victim LINK Toll Free: 1-800-563-0808 / TTY: 604-875-0885 / Text: 604-836-6381 E: victimlinkbc@bc211.ca / Collect calls also accepted. Provides information and referral services to all victims of crime, and crisis support to victims of family and sexual violence, including sexual assault, violence in relationships, elder abuse and adult survivors of physical or sexual abuse.

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Mental Health Emergency Services T: 604-874-7307 Hours: 24 hours a day, 7 days a week Car 87 is the number of a police unit that is dispatched to respond to calls where mental illness is thought to be a factor. A joint service of the Vancouver Police Department and Vancouver Coastal Health, Mental Health Emergency Services (Car 87) is a crisis response and emergency service that responds to calls involving people with apparent mental illness or in acute distress. In addition to Car 87, MHES operates a telephone crisis line where nurses assist callers in crisis, provide information pertaining to resources and triage situations to the appropriate resources. Ministry for Children and Family Development Child Protection: 604-660-4927 / Toll Free: 1-800-663-9122 After Hours (evenings, weekends): 604-660-8180 Children’s Help Line: 604-310-1234 Full range of family support and child safety services available. MCFD Richmond currently works collaboratively with the Band (social worker) to support Musqueam families on reserve. Referrals to support services primarily based in Richmond area. Ministry of Housing and Social Development (off reserve) T: 604-660-4927 Call this number to inquire about after hours, emergency food and shelter for adults in your area. Hollyburn Family Services Society 104 – 267 West Esplanade, North Vancouver T: 604-987-8211 or 778-855-4566 / F: 604-987-8122 E: info@hollyburn.ca / W: www.hollyburn.ca Provides range of parenting programs/education and in home supports to parents, as well as FASD family counselling and supports for families living in the north shore. They also offer a family preservation program to assist families to strengthen their connections to one another, address violence and to keep children safe.

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Downtown Eastside Women's Centre 302 Columbia Street, Vancouver T: 604-681-8480 / F: 604-681-8470 W: www.dewc.ca The victim services program provides support and assistance to women that have been victims of crime. This includes reporting crime, providing emotional support, accompanying women to court and referring women to other programs and services. Other supports include women’s skills development, housing outreach and advocacy.

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CHILD SAFETY & YOUTH SUPPORTS

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CHILD SAFETY PLANNING The most important thing that children can do for their mothers and their families is to get away from the area of violence! They cannot stop the abuse, although they often try by distracting the abuser or directly interfering in the abusive episode. It is important to tell the child that the best and most important thing for them to do is keep themselves safe. Children who experience seeing their mom’s abuse can be profoundly affected. It is very traumatic for them to be faced with violence di-rected at them or at someone they love. Personal safety and planning are extremely important and necessary for children whose mothers are experiencing violence. Children need ways to protect themselves. There are several ways to help develop a safety plan with children : •Have your child pick a safe room/place in the house, preferably with a lock on the door and a phone. •The first step of any plan is for the children to get out of the room where the abuse is occurring. •Stress the importance of being safe, and that it is not the child’s responsibility to make sure that his/her mother is safe. •Teach your children how to call for help. It is important that children know they should not use a phone that is in view of the abuser. This puts them at risk. Talk to your children about using a neighbour’s phone. If you have a cell phone, teach your children how to use it. •Teach them how to contact police at the emergency number. •Ensure that the children know their full name and address

—Source: Ending Violence Association of BC

CHILD SAFETY & YOUTH SUPPORTS Aboriginal Outreach Team Urban Native Youth Association c/o 1618 East Hastings, Vancouver BC, V5L 1S6 T: 604-868-0368 or 604-868-0613 / F: 604-254-5159 E: outreachteam@unya.bc.ca W: www.unya.bc.ca Provides street outreach services and support to youth aged 12-18 years, who are involved in the “street life”. The team works closely with other youth hubs, schools, community centres, families, social workers, and other organizations to help keep youth safe and off the streets. Youth are referred to appropriate services based on individual needs. Aboriginal Transition Team Urban Native Youth Association 1618 East Hastings, Vancouver BC, V5L 1S6 T: 604-254-7732 / F: 604-254-7811 E: transition@unya.bc.ca or transition2@unya.bc.ca /W: www.unya.bc.ca

Provides intensive one-to-one support to only Native youth aged 16-18 years, who are involved with the Ministry of Children and Family Development (MCFD). Assists youth in connecting with community resources to help obtain training and skills to live independently. Successful intake requires willingness and a goal to make positive change. Aboriginal Youth Worker (AYW) at UNYA Urban Native Youth Association 1618 East Hastings, Vancouver BC, V5L 1S6 T: 604-254-7732 / F: 604-254-7811 E: aboriginalyouthworkers@unya.bc.ca W: www.unya.bc.ca

Offers preventative programming for Native youth aged 11-23 years, developed in partnership with schools, community centres and others. Programs include group cultural and recreational activities, outings and workshops, and some one-to-one advocacy and support. Goal of the program is to find positive, healthy alternatives for youth.

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Kinnections Program Urban Native Youth Association 1618 East Hastings, Vancouver BC, V5L 1S6 T: 604-254-7732 / F: 604-254-7811 E: kinnections@unya.bc.ca W: www.unya.bc.ca Provides support to Native youth aged 15-19 years who are in the care of MCFD or Vancouver Aboriginal Child and Family Services (VACFSS), OR ON A Youth Agreement. The program connects youth to trained community volunteer mentors who can provide support as youth become adults, and also provides support to mentors and referring social workers. Mediation Program Urban Native Youth Association 1618 East Hastings, Vancouver BC, V5L 1S6 T: 604-254-7732 / F: 604-254-7811 E: mediation@unya.bc.ca W: www.unya.bc.ca

Works with youth and their families involved with MCFD. Helps youth aged 13-18 years positively address issues in their lives, by providing culturally sensitive mediation, referrals, workshops, and training in communication. Mentorship Program Urban Native Youth Association 1618 East Hastings, Vancouver BC, V5L 1S6 T: 604-254-7732 / F: 604-254-7811 E: mentorship@unya.bc.ca W: www.unya.bc.ca

Provides Native youth aged 13-18 years (who are involved with MCFD) with positive social, educational and cultural mentoring opportunities, as well as support, advocacy and guidance. Vancouver Aboriginal Friendship Centre 1607 East Hastings Street, Vancouver BC T: 604-251-4844 / F: 604-251-1986 E: info@vafcs.org W: www.vafcs.org A community gathering place for Native people of all ages. Promotes information and referrals, a recreation program for youth, a literacy program, Elders program, Sundance Daycare, hosts community meetings, and more. Also hosts weekly Family Nights (Plains and WestCoast) where communities share songs, dances and cultural teachings. Call or stop by the Centre for info about programs, services and upcoming events.

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Vancouver Aboriginal Child and Family Services (VACFSS) 745 Clark Drive, Vancouver BC T: 604-872-6723 / Toll Free: 1-877-982-2377 / F: 872-5274 E: info@vacfss.com W: www.vacfss.com An Aboriginal non-profit society providing services to Aboriginal children and families living off reserve in Greater Vancouver. VACFSS aims to support the urban Aboriginal community by providing access to community resources and working in partnership with other service providers. PeerNet BC 602 West Hastings Street, Vancouver BC T: 604-733-6186 / F: 604-730-1015 E: info@peernetbc.com W: www.peernetbc.com

Helps develop peer support groups and a peer support approach to community development initiatives. Vancouver Youth Services 550 Cambie Street, Vancouver BC T: 604-660-9376 / After Hours: 604-660-4927 Services street-involved youth through protection services, residential programs, independent living program, counselling, repatriation, and access to emergency shelter and food, mental health and drug counsellors, referrals for counselling, treatment and income assistance. BOYS R US 1290 Hornby Street (NEAR Davie Street), Vancouver BC T: 604-633-4200 Hours: Tues, Wed, Thurs (7pm-9pm) A drop in centre and support program for male and transgendered sex trade workers in Vancouver. A safe, confidential place to hang out. Offers outreach and referrals to other appropriate agencies for health care, counselling and social services. All ages welcome.

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FASD Youth and Family Support Program Pacific Legal Education Association (PLEA) Head office: 3894 Commercial Street, Vancouver BC T: 604-871-0450 / F: 604-871-0408 E: info@plea.bc.ca W: www.plea.bc.ca A partnership between PLEA and the Asante Centre that is funded by MCFD. Referrals must come through a probation officer. Provides assessments, diagnostic services, education, clinical consultation and support services to youth and families. Operation Come Home Toll Free: 1-800-668-4663 Assists youth to return home/reunite with their families. Mandate is to assist 16-30 year olds (younger if needed), who need help by providing transportation to a parent/guardian’s residence. Phone and let them know your situation. Qmunity – BC Queer Resource Centre 1170 Bute Street (at Davie Street), Vancouver BC T: 604-684-5307 / Prideline: 1-800-566-1170 W: www.qmunity.ca Hours – Gab Youth Drop In Wed 4-6pm & Fri 8-10pm

Gab Youth Drop In provides special events, housing, legal advice, workshops, supports in coming out, addiction support, transgender health, sexual health and more. The Prideline is Qmunity’s peer support, information and referral phone line that operates weeknights from 7-10pm. KidStart Mentoring Program Pacific Legal Education Association (PLEA) Head office: 3894 Commercial Street, Vancouver BC T: 604-375-5437 / F: 604-871-0408 W: www.kidstart.ca A volunteer mentoring program for children and youth with challenges, who are at risk of experiencing difficulties in their lives. Mentors help to provide a consistent role model who encourages their participation in recreational activities, and provides opportunities to experience success and achievement. Referrals from probation officers required for 13 years and up. Referrals for 6-12 years are accepted from parents, teachers, school counsellors, social workers, probation officers and other professionals. 11

Knowledgeable Aboriginal Youth Association 1771 East Hastings Street, Vancouver T: 604-254-5513 / F: 604-245-5538 E: kayayouthvoice@gmail.com W: www.kayaweb.ca KAYA encourages and assists Native youth in asserting their voices and contributing to community to help ensure they can reach their full potential. Conducts workshops, day trips and day camps for youth living off reserve, produces music compilation CDs and film, and other arts and culture projects. BC Representative for Children and Youth M12 – 4277 Kingsway, Burnaby BC Toll free: 1-800-476-3933 / T: 604-775-3213 / F: 604-775-3205 W: www.rcybc.ca

Provides support for children and youth up to 19 years who need help dealing with the child welfare system and MCFD. Committed to protecting the rights of children and youth, especially Aboriginal children and youth.

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LEGAL SUPPORTS

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