Double Binds Family and Divorce
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Double BindsFamily and Divorce
Stephanie GilloolyFS – 121November 2, 2011
Divorce in the United States
11 % of the United States population is divorced
Average length of divorce proceedings: 1 year
50% of first marriages end in divorce
1 in 4 adults has had a divorce
Children Involved in Divorce
40% of divorced mothers reported that they had interfered with the fathers visitation to punish him.
50% of mothers see no value in the fathers continued contact with his children.
63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes
Nearly 2 of every 5 children in America do not live with their fathers
Children’s Double Binds
Can’t please their parents
Parents mad about child’s choice of one or the other Mom’s house Dad’s house Can’t win
Children’s Double Binds
Child as mediator Parents argue through child Child doesn’t know what to say Caught in the middle Child blamed Wrong either way
Parent Double Binds
Deciding where the child(ren) will live Either way the child will be missing out
Divorce Proceedings Money House Custody
Step-Parent Double Binds
Can’t get in the middle Accused of not caring if they don’t Negative connotations
Consequences
Child develops anger because they cant make the “right” choice
Child resents parent(s) Blames them when older
Parents hate each other Loss of communication
Possible Ways to Get Out
Child tells parents how they feel Wont choose one over the other Doesn’t want to be in the middle
Family therapists Parents need to compromise
Think of the child first Child > money/house
Works Cited
http://www.divorcestatistics.org/ http://www.census.gov/hhes/
socdemo/marriage/ http://www.divorcerate.org/ http://www.childadvocate.net/
divorce_effects_on_children.htm