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Domestic AbuseCouple therapy as a way to help children
Asbjørn Solevåg, Phd
Grete Lilledalen, Phd
Dimitrij Samoilow, Phd
Paris Workshop 31.10.2010 / dato: 21.04.23
Concerns and consequences for children living in families with violence
• 50% of the children living with violence between adults are also experiencing violence themselves
• Consequences of witnessing violence are as serious as being a victim of physical abuse
• Reduced caring competence
• Lacking problem-solving competence
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Inspiration
• Sandra Stith & Eric McCollum
• Arlene Vetere
• Systemic model
Confidentiality
Stable third
Differentiate between safety work and couples therapy
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Target group for this approach
• Parents who wish to continue living together, in spite of violence
• Escalating, loud quarrelling. One or both exposed to threats and/or physical violence
• Episodic violence, not “patriarchal terrorism.”
• Children and one parent, according to exclusion criteria.
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When violence becomes an issue:
• Stop traditional couples therapy, develop a safety plan
• Inform how we work:
– Focus on security and planning for safety
– Two therapists work together
– Safety plan and non-violence contract
– Always return to Safety work
– Confidentiality and Stable 3.
– Videoillustration
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Exclusion criteria's• Inability to empathize with the victim or to listen to another point of view
• Consistent blaming others, either family or professionals
• Inability to work with professionals, or to see them as helpful
• Extreme values, such as lack of respect for social control, or seeing women as objects rather than people
• Inability to acknowledge that violence is a problem
• Inability to accept responsibility for violent behaviour
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Exclusion criteria cont.
• Inability to work constructively to solve problems around violence
• Lack of appropriate boundaries around anger expression Problems with drugs and alcohol and an unwillingness to seek treatment
• No internal motivation for change
• No acknowledgement that relational factors may contribute to the problem
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Security work
• Detailed inquiry
– Recent, or most serious violent incident
– When did the violence happen
– Where did the violence happen
– Type of violence and degree of seriousness
– Describing violence over time
– The situation for the children when violence took place
– Video illustration
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Security work cont.
• Assessing violence together, or separately
• Questions asked to the violent partner
• Use of assessment forms
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Non-violence contract and Safety plan
• An agreement of not using violence any more
• Plan on how to achieve this:
- Details
– Concrete plans on who does what in specific situations
– Time-out
– Both partners are responsible to protect both themselves and the children
– Practical arrangements
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Confidentiality
• Confidentiality can not be maintained when there is violence.
• Violence is a public matter
• Social control, motivate, be supportive, leave privacy
• Ensure safety for the family and for the therapist
• Difficult therapeutic work
• The credibility of the agency
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Stable Third
• Official agency, or community network trusted by both parents
• Regular contact with the family, the person has to feel comfortable presenting a third perspective.
• Consistent communication with the therapists
• Therapeutic challenges.
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Conversations with parents about their children
• Detailed mapping makes the children’s situation more obvious for the parents.
• Children ‘see and know’, opposite of the parents claims
• Making the role as mother and father more obvious.
• Discuss possible consequences for the children in present and future situations.
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Conversations with parents about their children cont.
• The parent’s conversation with their children
– Predictability and safety
– How children percieve meaning
– guilt, shame, sorting out responsibility
– Conveying values
– Acknowledging and owning feelings
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Multi-agency collaboration
• Keep hold of a systemic perspective which helps:
– Coherent perspective
– Everybody working in the same direction – what is best for the children
– Coordinating tasks and sorting out responsibility
– Emergency management plan
– Cooperation with the child protection services, Women shelters, the police, lawyers, psychiatric units, schools, social welfare systems
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Child protective services
• The importance of dual trust and cooperation
• Duty to provide information
• Genuine cooperation vs note of concern
• Challenges:
– To know each others competences, working methods and legal regulations
– Resources
– The importance of personal relationship; vulnerability
– Our own presuppositions and experiences
– The tradition of the Family Counselling Centres
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Focus on Couple therapy• Requiring a non-violence contract, safety plan and being confident that violence
has stopped
• Always go back to safety questions
• If violence, back to safety work
• “Traditional” couples therapy, but specific challenges concerning earlier experiences of violence
– Trust
– Forgiveness
– Nonverbal/verbal communication, pre interpreting , fear
– Family of origin, earlier experience of violence, history of violence
– Managing conflicts
– Cultural differences