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Divorce
even if you are unmarried
Babu Appat
Read this story about
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Divorce
But not before reading this story
carefullyBabu Appat
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MARRIED OR NOT,YOU SHOULD READ THIS
“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held
her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you.
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She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the
hurt in her eyes.
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I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know
what I was thinking.
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I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly
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She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words,
instead she asked me softly,
why?
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I avoided her question. This made her angry.
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She threw away the chopsticks and shouted
at me, you are not a man!
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That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping.
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I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our
marriage.
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But I could hardly give her a satisfactory
answer; she had lost my
heart to Jane.
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I didn’t love her anymore.
I just pitied her!
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With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement
which stated that she could own our house,
our car, and 30% stake of my company.
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She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces.
The woman who had spent ten years of her life
with me had become a stranger.
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I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources
and energy.
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But I could not take back what I had said for
I loved Jane so dearly.
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Finally she cried loudly in front of me,
which was what I had expected to see.
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To me her cry was actually a kind of release.
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The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for
several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now
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The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at
the table.
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I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and
fell asleep very fast because I was tired after
an eventful day with Jane.
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When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing.
I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again
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In the morning she presented her divorce
conditions:
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She didn’t want anything from me, but needed a
month’s notice before the divorce.
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She requested that in that one month we both
struggle to live as normal a life as possible
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Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a
month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with
our broken marriage
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This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had
carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.
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She requested that every day for the month’s duration
I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door
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I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last
days together bearable I accepted her odd request
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I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions…
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She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd
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No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face
the divorce, she said scornfully
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My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my
divorce intention was explicitly expressed.
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So when I carried her out on the first day, we both
appeared clumsy.
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Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms
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His words brought me a sense of pain.
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From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten
meters with her in my arms
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She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our
son about the divorce
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I nodded, feeling somewhat upset
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I put her down outside the door
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She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone
to the office
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On the second day, both of us acted much more
easily. She leaned on my chest
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I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I
hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time
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I realized she was not young any more
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There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was
greying!
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Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I
wondered what I had done to her
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On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense
of intimacy returning
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This was the woman who had given ten years of her
life to me
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On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our
sense of intimacy was growing again
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I didn’t tell Jane about this
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It became easier to carry her as the
month slipped by
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Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger
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She was choosing what to wear one morning.
She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find
a suitable one
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Then she sighed, all my dresses
have grown bigger
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I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin,
that was the reason why I could carry her more easily
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Suddenly it hit me… she had buried
so much pain and bitterness in her heart
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Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head
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Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out
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To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an
essential part of his life
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My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged
him tightly
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I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my
mind at this last minute
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I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room,
to the hallway.
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Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally.
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I held her body tightly; it was just like our
wedding day
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But her much lighter weight made me sad.
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On the last day, when I held her
in my arms I could hardly move a step.
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Our son had gone to school.
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I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that
our life lacked intimacy.
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I drove to office…. jumped out of the car
swiftly without locking the door.
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I was afraid any delay would make me change
my mind…I walked upstairs
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Jane opened the door and I said to her,
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Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore
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She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead.
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Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head.
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Sorry, Jane, I said,
I won’t divorce.
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My marriage life was boring probably
because she and I didn’t value the details
of our lives,
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not because we didn’t
love each other anymore.
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Now I realize that since I carried her into my
home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her
until death do us apart.
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Jane seemed to suddenly wake up.
She gave me a loud slap and then slammed
the door and burst into tears.
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I walked downstairs and drove away.
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At the floral shop on the way, I ordered
a bouquet of flowers for my wife.
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The salesgirl asked me what to write
on the card.
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I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out
every morning until death do us apart
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That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face,
I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -
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Dead!
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My wife had been
fighting cancer for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice it
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She knew that she would die
soon
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And she wanted to save me from the
negative reaction from our son, in case we push through
with the divorce
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At least, in the eyes of our son… I’m a loving husband….
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I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out
every morning until death do us apart
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The small details of your lives are what really matter
in a relationship. It is not the mansion,
the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot
give happiness in themselves
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So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for
each other that build intimacy. If you are not in a relationship now,
remember this for the second (or third) time around.
It's never too late
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What’s Your opinion?
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