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Developing Instant Family Fun
Family fun really isn’t instant! It takes some planning, thought and prayertocreatewholesomefamilyactivitiesthataremeaningful. EspeciallywhenitcomestoFamilyHomeEvening.Thereare thousands of ideas in books and from friends, and limitless online resourcesavailableatthetouchofthebuttontofindinspirationfor familyactivities.
Our simple idea is one way to help organize all those great ideassoyoucanusethemeffectivelyatFamilyHomeEvening.
First,chooseathemeforeachMondayofthemonth.Thenkeepaworksheetnearby all year long, so that when you think of a skill you really want to share withyourfamily(howtomendsocks!),oranactivitythatyou’dreallyliketodo together (hike the trail behind your neighborhood), or a lesson that you knowyourfamilyreallyneeds(datingguidelines),youcanmakeanoteofitonyourworksheet.WhenMondaynightrollsaround,you’llbereadywithahandfulofideasthatwillhelpyoubuildbetter,moremeaningfulfamilynightactivitiesforyourfamily.
It’snotimportanttoplaneveryMondaynightactivityforthewholeyear.Thegreatthingaboutplanningbythemeisthatyoucanshiftideasaroundduringtheyearandcapturetheverybest,mosttimely,andmostmeaningfulactivitieswhenyourfamilyneedsthemmost.
Inthefollowingpages,you’llfindseveralworksheetstohelpyouorganizeyourfamilynightsinthisway.Theseplanningworksheetsencourageabriefpauseforpreparationthatcangreatlyenhancetheoutcomeoffamilyhomeeveningactivities:insteadofrushingthroughanirrelevantlessonorforgettableactivity,youcanbetterplanfamilyhomeeveningactivitiesasastepping stone to help you reach long term personal and family goals and establishmeaningfultraditions.
Planning with your family goals in mind is much more meaningful than assigning the prayer, the lesson, and the treat!
You’llalsofindideasabouthowdifferentkindsoffamiliesmightusethissimpleideabyreadingthroughourhypotheticalfamilyprofiles: Profile1:theLarsenfamily,anempty-nestercouple Profile2:theDavis’,afamilywithfoursmallchildren Profile3:BrittanyThorup,asinglewoman Profile4:theSilva’s,afamilywithfourteenagedchildren
Profile 1 ShirleyandKentLarsen Anempty-nestercouple,theyorganizedtheirweeklyFamily HomeEveningstoalignwiththethreefoldmissionofthe Church.Sincetheytravelextensivelytovisitgrandchildren, theydecidedtheydon’tneedafifthMondaytheme.Theywill decidetogetherwhichactivitywillworkbestfortheirFamily Night.
Week 1 Theme: Perfect the Saints Week 1 Activity Ideas: PioneerDayFHEwithgrandkids:teachthemaboutAbrahamWall ReviewthenextchapterofTo The Rescue together ConferenceTalkfavorites(share) Quarterlysharenotesfromchurchmeetings Week 2 Theme: Proclaim the Gospel Week 2 Activity Ideas: NeighborhoodLaborDayBBQ Havenewmissionariesoverfordinneranddiscussteachingpool Letterstowardmissionaries InviteMasterGardenerstoseegroundsatTempleSquareinApril InviteAndersonfamilyoverforFHE.LessononPrayer? HaveLarsen’sandForsey’stogetherforatriptotheparkandalesson onwildflowers Week 3 Theme: Redeem the Dead Week 3 Activity Ideas: GetFamilyIndexinginstalled! HaveJeffcomeovertoteachushowtouseit PracticeIndexingtogether(scheduletimetodoitweekly?) Organize family history from Aunt Nelda and integrate Makecopiesoffamilytreeforkids(easytoread)sotheycancontinue work on family lines Week 4 Theme: Serve those in Need Week 4 Activity Ideas: WomenandChildren’sCrisisCenter Visit with cousin Verla Seeifwecanvolunteer@AutismCenter ChristmasAdvent(askBishopwhowouldappreciateit) YardworkforSisterAnderson VisitKent’sMom(hymnsattheCareCenter?)
Jamie’s 3-ring binder.The same cover is available in this packet so you
can print it for yourself.There are also weeklypages to print for yourbinder to catch thoseimportant inspirational ideas.
Profile 2TheDavisFamily:MattandJamie,parents,andIsaac,Andrew,Bella,JJTheDavisfamilyhasfourchildrenunder8!Theirfamilyactivitiesandlessonsneedtobebriefandbasic.JamiewantstohaveFamilyHomeEveningeveryMonday,andknowssheprobablywon’thavetimetopulltogetheralessoneveryweek.Tokeepiteasy,shestoresherworksheetplanandmostofhersuppliesinathree-ringbinder.Shekeepsitnearbytoaddnotesthroughouttheyear.
Week 1 Theme: Getting to Know Jesus Week 1 Activity Ideas: ReviewascripturestoryaboutJesuswithGAKpicture. Leavethepictureupinthekitchenforthemonth. Reviewall12picturesatChristmastime(forSunday Advents) Check to see if there are coloring pages in the Kawasaki books for each picture? Photocopy for the year. Week 2 Theme: Book of Mormon Heroes Week 2 Activity Ideas: ReviewGAKpictureswithstoriesofBoMheroes. Make Captain Moroni capes together! Alma:Makesheep(gluecottonballstoconstruction paper sheep) Week 3 Theme: Teaching How to Teach Week 3 Activity Ideas: Helpchildrengivethelesson.UseFHEManual,NurseryManualand filefolderlessonsforresources.
Week 4 Theme: Showing Love to Others Week 4 Activity Ideas: Lesson17FHEManual(LoveatHome) Showinglovetobrothersandsistersathome(*sharing!*Noyelling! Nohitting!) Drawpictures/writeletterstograndparents Makebirthdaycardsforcousinsforthecomingmonth(havefamily calendar on hand to remind the kids about cousins and their names) TakecookiestoSisterDebenham,SisterMorgan,SisterAlleman.Sing? Week 5 Theme: How to Be a Family Week 5 Activity Ideas: HowtohelpMomathome(puttingawaytoys,howtosetthetable) HowtohelpDadathome(takingouttrash,puttingawaygroceries) Bedroom(makebed,putawaytoys,putawaybooks) Bathroom(brushteeth,hangtowels,washsink)
TheDavisFamily:MattandJamie,withkidsI
saac,Andrea,BellaandJJ!
Jamie’s 3-ring binder.The same cover is available in this packet so you
can print it for yourself.There are also weeklypages to print for yourbinder to catch thoseimportant inspirational ideas.
Profile 3BrittanyThorupBrittanyissinglebutshewantstogetinthehabitofhavingaFamilyHomeEveningonMondaynight.SheoftenhasactivitieswithherSingleAdultward,but she has been feeling like she wants to take charge of her spirituality and personalgrowthinamorecomprehensive,self-directedway.WhenBrittanycan’tmakeittotheSingleAdultactivities,orwhentheactivitieshaven’tleftherfeelingfulfilled,shereviewsherFamilyHomeEveningplanandsupplementswithotherpersonalprojects.
AssigningthemestoherMondaynightsgivesherachancetodosomeofthethingsshe’sbeenputtingoffuntil“someday.”
Shekeepstrackofher“someday”projectsandgoalsonasimpleworksheettackedinsideherkitchencupboard.
SERVICE TO OTHERS CallErika(CompassionateService)toseehowtohelpthisweek VolunteeratWomenandChildren’sCrisisCenter StockingthepantryattheFoodandShelterCoalition
PERSONAL SCRIPTURE STUDY Workthrough“PreachMyGospel”
HOME KEEPING Baking(makeanewrecipeandsharewithfriends) Mom’sGingersnaps,BananaBread,Dave’sMom’sOatmeal RaisinCookies,PeanutButterCookies,ChristmasFudge, MexicanWeddingCookies,OreocakeCookies,
FAMILY/PERSONAL HISTORY Workonpersonalhistory (journal,printphotosinsteadofleavingthemonmycomputer) SpendsometimewithAuntLinda:Dad’sphotos HelpMomloadhomemoviestoYouTube PHYSICAL ACTIVITY Trynewsports!Ideas:rollerblading,tandembiking,mountainbiking. rockclimbing(Zach)...
Profile 4TheSilvaFamily:RobandJulie,parents,andMegan,Josh,SarahandConnerJuliekeepstrackofherFamilyHomeEveningActivitiesonan11x17inch frame,withDryErasemarkers.Shehangsitinherpantrysowhen shethinksofactivitiesshe’dreallyliketodowiththefamily,shewon’t forgetthem!Herearesomeideasshemightfillin:
PROVIDENT LIVING Iron a shirt and other laundry reminders (use the baskets!) Bankingbasics(online,familyfinances—getChurchworksheet, reviewstockmarket,mutualfunds,interest,inflation:guest speaker,BrotherTakemori?) PayingBills(householdcosts,onlinebillpayoverviewand writingchecks…Robwillreviewfindingthebestdeals:goover choosing the family cell phone plan, comparing prices and benefits) CookingBasics:MultipleWeeks!Whitesauce/Redsauce/Gravy, cookingRiceandNoodles,SimpleBread,Josh’sfavoriteburrito recipe GroceryShoppingbasics(cerealisexpensive!) SimpleMending(socks,smalltears) EmergencyPrep(reviewwheresuppliesare,escaperoutes, emergencysituations)
REACHING GOALS EveryonegetPersonalProgress,DutytoGod,andFaithinGod booklets:review,update,report,accomplish CHURCH DOCTRINE Getreadyforthenewyearcurriculumatchurch(inDec):doan overviewofbooksofscripturefortheyear:2012BoM,2013New Testament MeganandJosh:teachScriptureMasterytothefamily,markthemin scriptures together GooverpurposesofPatriarchalBlessings.TalkaboutourStake Patriarch. FavoriteConferencetalkreview(afterConferenceinAprilandOct): eachfamilymemberreviewsorrecallsfavoritepartsofconference GooverSecondComing(staypositive!)forSarah Reviewtheimportanceofpersonalprayerandscripturestudy.See howit’sgoingforeveryone. PreachmyGospeloverview?MaybeSummerlongproject ImportanceofHymns!(HaveMeganplayfavoritehymnsforusand share hymn memories together) *Chastityreview(maybeafterOctoberStandardsNightwithyouth) RedeemingtheDead(whywedobaptismsforthedead,overviewof familyhistorytree,familyindexing?)
Any frame with glass could work for this project. You can have the 11 x 17 inch worksheets printed at your local printshop, or use the 8 1/2 x 11 inch standard size.
Just slip the worksheet into the frame and you’ll be ready to make your own notes with a regular Dry Erase marker. Easy to erase, easy to capture quick notes.
The Silva Family: Rob and Julie with Megan, Josh,
Sarah, and Conner
Profile 4 (cont’d.)The Silva Family
SERVICE Servicetofamily(monthlongSecretBuddy:startinJanuary,endin FebruaryaroundValentine’sDay) FoodBankWarehousevolunteerism(4xayear) **haveJoshschedulethesedates!550-3314 ChristmasinJulyforSisterSloanandherkids November:ThankyoucardsforChurchteachers,bishopric,HT/VT(be suretosharegratitudescripture****) SPORTS/OUTDOOR Megan,Josh,Sarah,Conner:chooseactivities WalktrailbehindTrailheadpark(May/June)
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References
WhatMattersMostisWhatLastsLongest,byElderM.RussellBallard,EnsignNovember2005http://lds.org/general-conference/2005/10/what-matters-most-is-what-lasts-longest?lang=eng
StrengtheningFamilies:OurSacredDuty,byElderRobertD.Hales,EnsignMay1999http://lds.org/general-conference/1999/04/strengthening-families-our-sacred-duty?lang=eng
HelpThemOnTheirWayHome,byPresidentHenryB.Eyring,EnsignMay2010http://lds.org/general-conference/2010/04/help-them-on-their-way-home?lang=eng
ParentsinZion,byElderBoydK.Packer,EnsignNovember1998http://lds.org/general-conference/1998/10/parents-in-zion?lang=eng
OfThingsThatMatterMost,byPresidentDieterF.Uchtdor,EnsignNovember2010http://lds.org/general-conference/2010/10/of-things-that-matter-most?lang=eng
MoreDiligentandConcernedatHome,byElderDavidA.Bednar,EnsignNovember2009http://lds.org/general-conference/2009/10/more-diligent-and-concerned-at-home?lang=eng
AFoundationWhereeonMenCannotFail,byElderDavidB.Haight,EnsignJuly1972http://lds.org/ensign/1972/07/a-foundation-whereon-men-cannot-fall?lang=eng
EncouragingWholesomeFamilyActivities,EnsignSeptember2005http://lds.org/ensign/2005/09/questions-and-answers?lang=eng
WhatTeensLikeAboutTheirFamilies,NewEraJune2003http://lds.org/new-era/2003/06/ask-yourself?lang=eng
HelpingChildrenDevelopFeelingsofSelf-WorthbyBrentL.TopandBruceA.Chadwick,Ensign,Feb.2006http://lds.org/ensign/2006/02/helping-children-develop-feelings-of-self-worth?lang=eng
on Activities, Family Life, and Family Home Evening
TheFirstPresidencytaughtthatbyteachingandrearing children in gospel principles, parents can protecttheirfamiliesfromcorrosiveelements.Theyfurthercounseledparentsandchildren“togivehighestprioritytofamilyprayer,familyhomeeve-ning,gospelstudyandinstruction,andwholesomefamilyactivities.Howeverworthyandappropriateotherdemandsoractivitiesmaybe,theymustnotbepermittedtodisplacethedivinely-appointeddu-tiesthatonlyparentsandfamiliescanadequatelyperform.” First Presidency letter, 11 Feb. 1999;
cited in Church News, 27 Feb. 1999, 3
Near the end of his life, one father looked back onhowhehadspenthistimeonearth.Anac-claimed, respected author of numerous scholarly works,hesaid,“IwishIhadwrittenonelessbookandtakenmychildrenfishingmoreoften.”Timepassesquickly.Manyparentssaythatitseemslikeyesterdaythattheirchildrenwereborn.Nowthosechildren are grown, perhaps with children of their own.“Wheredidtheyearsgo?”theyask.Wecan-notcallbacktimethatispast,wecannotstoptimethatnowis,andwecannotexperiencethefutureinourpresentstate.Timeisagift,atreasurenottobeput aside for the future but to be used wisely in the present.” Dedication Day,ThomasS.Monson
Since‘noothersuccesscancompensateforfailure’here,wemustplacehighpriorityonourfamilies.Webuilddeepandlovingfamilyrelationshipsbydoing simple things together, like family dinner and familyhomeeveningandbyjusthavingfunto-gether.Infamilyrelationshipsloveisreallyspelledt-i-m-e,time.Takingtimeforeachotheristhekeyforharmonyathome.Wetalkwith,ratherthanabout,eachother.Welearnfromeachother,andweappreciateourdifferencesaswellasourcom-monalities.WeestablishadivinebondwitheachotherasweapproachGodtogetherthroughfamilyprayer,gospelstudy,andSundayworship. DieterF.Uchtdorf,Of Things That Matter Most,Ensign,Nov2010
Andyewillnotsufferyourchildrenthattheygohungry,ornaked;neitherwillyesufferthattheytransgressthelawsofGod,andfightandquarrelonewithanother,andservethedevil,whoisthemasterofsin,orwhoisthedevilspiritwhichhathbeen spoken of by our fathers, he being an enemy toallrighteousness.
Butyewillteachthemtowalkinthewaysoftruthandsoberness;yewillteachthemtodloveoneanother,andtoserveoneanother. Mosiah4:14-15
Planandcarryoutmeaningfulvacationstogether,considering our children’s needs, talents, and abili-ties.Helpthemcreatehappymemories,improvetheirtalents,andbuildtheirfeelingsofself-worth. RobertD.Hales,Strengthening Families: Our Sacred Duty, Ensign, May1999
Music,literature,art,dance,drama,athletics—allcanprovideentertainmenttoenrichone’slifeandfurtherconsecrateit.Atthesametime,ithardlyneeds to be said that much of what passes for entertainmenttodayiscoarse,degrading,vio-lent,mind-numbing,andtimewasting.Ironically,itsometimestakeshardworktofindwholesomeleisure.Whenentertainmentturnsfromvirtuetovice,itbecomesadestroyeroftheconsecratedlife. D.ToddChristofferson,Reflections on a Consecrated Life,Ensign,Nov 2010
Wholesomerecreationispartofourreligion,andachangeofpaceisnecessary,andevenitsanticipa-tioncanliftthespirit. EzraTaftBenson,Do Not Despair
Createmeaningfulfamilybondsthatgiveyourchil-drenanidentitystrongerthanwhattheycanfindwiththeirpeergrouporatschooloranyplaceelse.Thiscanbedonethroughfamilytraditionsforbirth-days,forholidays,fordinnertime,andforSundays. M.RussellBallard,What Matters Most Is What Lasts Longest, Ensign Nov2005
Quoteson Activities, Family Life, and Family Home Evening
AndallthychildrenshallbetaughtoftheLord;andgreatshallbethepeaceofthychildren. 3Nephi22:13
Each family prayer, each episode of family scripture study,andeachfamilyhomeeveningisabrush-strokeonthecanvasofoursouls.Nooneeventmayappeartobeveryimpressiveormemorable.Butjustastheyellowandgoldandbrownstrokesof paint complement each other and produce an impressivemasterpiece,soourconsistencyindoingseeminglysmallthingscanleadtosignifi-cantspiritualresults.“Wherefore,benotwearyinwell-doing,foryearelayingthefoundationofagreatwork.Andoutofsmallthingsproceedeththatwhichisgreat”(D&C64:33).Consistencyisakeyprincipleaswelaythefoundationofagreatworkinourindividuallivesandaswebecomemorediligentandconcernedinourownhomes. DavidA.Bednar, More Diligent and Concerned at Home,Ensign,Nov 2009
Thereisnomoreappropriateplaceforteachingthegospelthanthehome.Onlyathomecanchildrenlearn the nature of family life as authored by our HeavenlyFather.Mondaynightwiththefamilyto-gethersetsaspiritforallfamilyexperiences.Thosewhohavethisspiritintheirmidstfinditthesourceoftheirgreatestjoy. TheFirstPresidency, Family Home Evening Manual,1971
InourHomeEveningsandotherpositivefamilyexperienceswecanfilloursoulswiththethingsofGod,thusleavingnoroomforeviltofindaplaceinourheartsorminds. TheFirstPresidency, Family Home Evening Manual,1972
In1915theFirstPresidencyoftheChurchgaveusthispromise:“IftheSaintsobeythiscounsel[toholdfamilyhomeevening],wepromisethatgreatblessingswillresult.Loveathomeandobediencetoparentswillincrease.Faithwillbedevelopedinthe hearts of the youth of Israel, and they will gain powertocombattheevilinfluencesandtempta-tionswhichbesetthem. Home Evening,ImprovementEra, June1915,734.
Motherswhoknowdoless.Theypermitlessofwhatwillnotbeargoodfruiteternally.Theyallowlessmediaintheirhomes,lessdistraction,lessactivitythatdrawstheirchildrenawayfromtheirhome.Motherswhoknowarewillingtoliveonlessand consume less of the world’s goods in order to spendmoretimewiththeirchildren—moretimeeatingtogether,moretimeworkingtogether,moretimereadingtogether,moretimetalking,laughing,singing,andexemplifying.Thesemotherschoosecarefullyanddonottrytochooseitall. JulieB.Beck,Mothers Who Know, Ensign,Nov2007
Deliberatedecisionsmustbemadeinordertoachievethatdesirablecondition,“loveathome,”suchasbudgetingenoughtimeathometo,amongotherthings,expresslovetochildrenbyaddingtotheirstorehouseofhappymemories.Singingthatsong is not enough; it must be matched by wise schedulingtobenefitthefamily,whichisoftenvictimizedbyourbusyness. NealA.Maxwell,Notwithstanding My Weakness,1981
ThankGodforthejoysoffamilylife.Ihaveoftensaid there can be no genuine happiness separate andapartfromagoodhome.Thesweetestinflu-encesandassociationsoflifearethere. EzraTaftBenson,God, Family, Country: Our Three Great Loyalties, 1974,178
Wearenotbornasthepartridgeinthewood,ortheostrichofthedesert,tobescatteredevery-where; but we are grouped together, and brooded byloveandreareddaybydayinthatfirstofchurches,thefamily. HenryWardBeecher
Itisastrikingfactthatthefamilyhomeeveningistheidealtimetoaccomplishalmosteverytypeoffamilytogetherness.Itistheidealplaceforthefamily to pray together, learn together, counsel together,playtogether,andevenworktogether.Most of us recognize this, but I wonder how many ofusarereallyusingthefamilyhomeeveningtoitsfullpotential. DallinH.Oaks,Parental Leadership in the Family,Ensign,June1985
Inaddition,weneedtogreatlyincreasereligiousobservanceinthehome.Weeklyfamilyhomeeveninganddailyfamilyprayerandscripturestudyareessential.Weneedtointroduceintoourhomescontentthatis“virtuous,lovely,orofgoodreportorpraiseworthy.”Ifwemakeofourhomesholyplacesthatshelterusfromevil,wewillbeprotect-edfromtheadverseconsequencesthatthescrip-tureshaveforetold. QuentinL.Cook,Let There Be Light! Ensign,Oct2010
Parents must bring light and truth into their homes by one family prayer, one scripture study session, onefamilyhomeevening,onebookreadaloud,onesong,andonefamilymealatatime.Theyknowthattheinfluenceofrighteous,conscien-tious,persistent,dailyparentingisamongthemostpowerful and sustaining forces for good in the world.Thehealthofanysociety,thehappinessofitspeople,theirprosperity,andtheirpeaceallfindcommon roots in the teaching of children in the home. L.TomPerry,Mothers Teaching Children in the Home, Ensign, May 2010
Remember, this scripture says to teach our chil-dren.Howcanweteachthemifwedon’tgettogether as a family (and not just as a place to exchangethecarkeys)?
AllovertheworldMondayeveninghasbeensetasidebytheFirstPresidencyasfamilynight.Anightofparticipation,involvement,andwholesomefun.Theimportanceofthefamilyunitcannotbeover-emphasized.EveryhomeintheChurchhasbeeninstructedtobuildasolidfoundationforsoundcitizenshipandactivechurchparticipation.
Someofmywarmestmemoriesareofmychild-hoodhome.Myparentswereconcernedwiththeactivitiesofeachchild.Theyplannedfuneveningsathome.Wewouldwatchthehoneycandyboil,then pour it out so it could cool, and then we would all stand around and pull it into strings so we couldcutitandenjoyit.Thiswasgreatfun!
I remember our family around the piano singing andtryingtolearnharmony.ItwasatthesehomenightsthatIhadmyfirstexperienceswiththechil-dren’sstoriesoftheBible.
Theactivitiesandteachingatfamilyhomeeveningcanbethevehicleforthebuildingofstrongfaithandcharacter. DavidB.Haight,A Foundation Whereon Men Cannot Fall, Ensign, July1972