Daniel Crosby, Ph.D.

www.doctordanielcrosby.com

(256) 683-5551

� Depth leadership ensues from a commitment to personal refinement, it cannot be pursued.

� “Those are only happy who have their minds fixed on some object other than happiness. Aiming thus at something else, they find happiness along the way. Ask yourself whether you are happy, and you cease to be so.” – John Stuart Mill John Stuart Mill John Stuart Mill John Stuart Mill

� “Most men pursue pleasure with such breathless haste that they hurry past it.”

� -Soren KierkegaardSoren KierkegaardSoren KierkegaardSoren Kierkegaard

� It is insufficient to address behavioral problems with behavioral solutions. Lasting change requires a change in underlying character.

� “The significant problems we have cannot be solved at the same level of thinking with which we created them.”

� -Albert EinsteinAlbert EinsteinAlbert EinsteinAlbert Einstein

� Collins- person in whom “genuine humility”and “intense professional will” coexist

� Doing the right things for the wrong reasons can be more empty than being an authentically bad leader

� It is impossible to teach all of the behaviors necessary for deep leadership

� Work life is not scripted

� Avoid the “leadership treadmill”-Dry Drunk

� Step 1.) Preparing the Soil

� Step 2.) Planting the Seed

� Step 3.) Care and Maintenance

� Define the gap Define the gap Define the gap Define the gap – Who are you? Who would you like to be?

� Prepare for pushback Prepare for pushback Prepare for pushback Prepare for pushback – from yourself and others. Why might you and others resist change?

� Determine strengths Determine strengths Determine strengths Determine strengths – examine historical successes. What has facilitated past wins?

� Prisoners possessed of a deeply-felt reason for being enjoyed psychological and physical benefits not afforded those who lacked such meaning.

� This meaning took the shape of large goals, rooted in deeply-held personal beliefs, as well as viewing seemingly un-extraordinary events as special.

� “Ever more people today have the means to live, but no meaning to live for.”

� “Ultimately, man should not ask what the meaning of his life is, but rather he must recognize that it is he who is asked.”

� ““““He who has a why He who has a why He who has a why He who has a why to live can bear with to live can bear with to live can bear with to live can bear with almost any how.almost any how.almost any how.almost any how.””””– Friedrich Nietzsche

� “I believe the most important attribute for a leader is being principle-centered. Centering on principles that are universal and timeless provides a foundation and compass to guide every decision and every act..” –Stephen R. Covey -

� “How different our lives are when we really know what is deeply important to us, and, keeping that picture in mind, we manage ourselves each day to be and do what really matters most.” –Stephen R. Covey -

� Gladwell suggests that passion, not genius, is what differentiates the Beatles and Bill Gates from their contemporaries

� Without viewing our work as meaningful, Gladwell states, we will never put in the necessary time and effort to become an outlier

“The thematic goal is not a number, and it is not even specifically measurable. It is a general statement of a desired accomplishment. It requires a verb, because it rallies people to do something. Improve, increase, reduce, grow, change, establish, eliminate, accelerate.”

-Patrick Lencioni, Silos, Politics and Turf Wars

� Flow – the mental state of operation in which the person is fully immersed in what he or she is doing by a feeling of energized focus, full involvement, and success in the process of the activity.

� Colloquialisms for the mental state include being “in the zone”, “on the ball”, or “in the groove.”

� Flow is the study of the psychology of optimal performance.

� “Creating meaning involves bringing order to the contents of the mind by integrating one’s actions into a unified flow experience…People who find their lives meaningful usually have a goal that is challenging enough to take up all of their energies, a goal that can give significance to their lives.” – Flow, p.217

� “If you talk to me five minutes, four minutes are going to be about my faith and my family, and for one minute, if you wanna talk about baseball we can talk about baseball.”

� Motto: Some things are bigger than the game.

� On PFF Night – Watch out!

� What is the most meaningful thing you have ever done? What made it so meaningful?

� Reflect on a “boundary experience”. What insights did you have in that moment?

� Who here would like to be a letter carrier?

� “Going Postal” – boredom, repetitiveness, exposure to elements, irritable customers

� “I don’t just deliver mail. I see myself helping to connect people to other people. I help build the community. Besides, people depend on me and I don’t want to let them down.”

� Neither snow nor rain nor gloom of night stays these couriers from the swift completion of their appointed rounds. – Herodotus, Greek historian, 1stCentury B.C.

� Pick your least-preferred work task.

� How can you view this task in a more meaningful way?

� What tasks do you reduce to meaninglessness that actually serve a higher purpose?

� What positive aspects of your work are you rushing past?

� Meaning is a critical common factor that is ignored at the peril of the individual or organization.

� Overarching meaning increases performance, structures our goals and our time, and gives unity of purpose to our endeavors.

� Finding meaning in the mundane makes work more enjoyable and opens our eyes to possibilities.

� Sounds nice, right?

� If it’s so great why do we give it up so frequently? How do we?

� Freedom is a gift with a price.

� The price of freedom is responsibility.

� Belief that is “just how I am”

� Failing to adapt leadership style

� Choosing tradition over excellence

� Relying on others; vilifying them

� Not making decisions

� Remaining in unsatisfying careers

� Blaming mistakes on externalities (e.g., genes, family, co-workers, boss)

� Waiting for others to change before risking it

� People often value comfort over greatness.

� Impedes personal development.

� Impedes organizational development.

� Change begins with YOU.

� Situation = Behavior

� Situation + Chosen Response = Behavior

� More difficult, riskier, but ultimately more rewarding.

� You are the author of your own story!

� “Everything can be taken from a man or a woman but one thing: the last of human freedoms to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way.” – Viktor Frankl

� “Happiness is not something that happens… (it) is a condition that must be prepared for, cultivated, and defended privately by each person. People who learn to control inner experience will be able to determine the quality of their lives.” – Flow, pg.2 -

� Locus of control-refers to an individual’s generalized expectations concerning where control over events resides. In simple terms, who or what is responsible for what happens.

� Internal LOC – responsibility rests with us

� External LOC – responsibility rests with the environment

� Group 1 – placed in cages with escape

� Group 2 – no effective escape behavior

� Time 2 – “why try”attitude for those in Group 2

� We make our own cages

� Boone (1996) et al. reported the CEO locus of control was significantly associated with profitability in small business

� 7% of small businesses with Internal LOC CEO’s failed

� 45% of small business with External LOC CEO’s failed

� List five personal and/or professional opportunities that have emerged as a result of the recession.

� External LOC is linked to poor executive performance, helplessness, and inaction

� You cannot help but decide

� Every exploiter needs an exploitee

� Adversity can redirect, enlighten, and strengthen us

� Accepting personal responsibility does not guarantee success but shirking it does guarantee mediocrity

� Reexamine your “Why” – should never be attainable but should always be relevant.

� Give and Receive Support – avoid the satisfaction of social approval.

� Note positive changes – review successes holistically. Note improvements in performance and wellbeing.

� Thousands of hours of experience

� Commitment to a model of lasting change

� Nice guy

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