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Demonstrate ways of encouraging and supporting children
and young people to deal with conflict for themselves
There are so many wonderful ways to help children learn the skills they need to
resolve conflict in their everyday lives, you are bound to know more than those listed
below. Asking children to resolve conflict and 'sort themselves out' has its merits, but
only if they already have the skills. The strategies below are designed to build the
skillset within the children so that they can be more prepared when they are a little
older. Conflict resolution for kids General conflict management strategies
Much of the work you do around feelings and empathy will feed very well into conflict
resolution. Children need to be able to communicate with each other effectively, and
this means empowering them so that they have adequate vocabularies that enable
them to express themselves.
Reminding them that they need to listen carefully to what others say is another theme
that runs throughout many areas of child development, and the ways in which you
can foster this include simple listening comprehension exercises in pairs, reading
stories out loud, and doing other question and answer activities.
You should always, of course, ensure that you model the behaviour exactly as you
would have them do it, so that they have a physical basis they can refer to when they
need.
The more consistent you are when you help children manage conflicts, the more solid
their learning around this aspect of life. You can't help two friends manage a fall out
over the use of the playground equipment one day, and the next day when they fall
out because they both wanted to use the same colour paint, tell them to 'just try to get
along'.
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Managing conflict effectively.
It's all about win-win
During a conflict, an adult can initially act as a mediator, asking the children for all their
points of view. This helps the children involved see that other people's feelings and
miscommunication can sometimes lead to misunderstandings and that ultimately there
is nothing to get upset about. Ground rules should be set in these circumstances, where everyone knows that they
will all get a chance to speak, that they should not try to interrupt or speak until it is
their turn, and they should all be made aware of what the problem is.
Ask children to contribute
After you all know what everyone's motivations and understandings were in a
situation, you can select a couple of different options that they can choose from. It
has even more value if you ask everyone involved to come up with a solution to
contribute. Ask them to choose the fairest option for everyone. Their selection
process and the way they choose will teach them a lot and the result will often be
that they will share the object that was the focus of the argument, or that they will
even let someone else have it before them.
Restorative justice
Restorative justice is a school-wide strategy that has been implemented in many UK
schools in recent years. We discussed it in Unit 8, because it has been found to be
an effective way to resolve conflict in bullying situations. The idea is that the victim
and the bully are brought together to talk about what happened and how they might
go forward peaceably. With its emphasis on the way that others feel when we behave
in certain ways, and its strategies around good and better communication, it is a
facilitating strategy that repairs the injustices and ideally improves relationships
between children and young people.