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DEALING WITH PARENTS WHO ARE ANGRY IRATE
AND WHO BULLYThe Bully Proof Classroom
Jim Burnswww.bullyproofclassroom.com
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WE ARE NOW IN A POST 9-11 ERA
SECURITY IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING THAT ORGANIZATIONS FACE
EVERYDAY
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IT COULD BE A SPORTING EVENT, PUBLIC BUILDING
OR A SUBWAY RIDESCHOOLS ARE NO
DIFFERENT
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WITH THE NUMBER OF SCHOOL SHOOTINGS
THAT HAVE OCCURREDSCHOOLS ARE VIGILANTE IN
GUARDING THE SAFETY OF THEIR STUDENTS
AND THEIR TEACHERS
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IF A PARENT GETS UPSET ABOUT SOMETHING THAT
HAPPENED WITH THEIR CHILD
THEY WILL COME INTO SCHOOL AND THEY WILL
DEMAND TO SEE YOU
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THESE PARENTS HAVE THE WRONG MOTIVE AND THE
WRONG PERSONALITY
THEY ARE BULLY’S
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IF YOU WORK IN A COMMUNITY BASED SCHOOL
AND THE STUDENTS CAN WALK
YOU WILL SEE THEM IN THE AFTERNOON;
RIGHT AFTER SCHOOL
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IF YOU WORK IN A SCHOOL WHERE STUDENTS ARE
BUSED INYOU WILL SEE THEM FIRST THING IN THE
MORNING
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THEY WILL GET INTHEY WILL BYPASS ANY
BLOCKADE
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THEY WILL ARRIVE AT THE POINT OF BATTLE
AND SPRING A SURPRISE ATTACK ON YOU
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YOU WILL BE LEFT ALONE
TO ENGAGE IN HAND TO HAND COMBAT
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PARENTS LIKE THIS ARE NOT HAPPY
PEOPLETHEY NEED A REASON
TO EXPRESS THEIR ANGER AND YOU JUST
GAVE IT TO THEM
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THE TRIALS OF LIFE HAVE WORN THEM OUT
THEIR TEETH ARE LIKE KNIVES AND THEIR
WORDS SHARPER THEN ANY TWO EDGED
SWORD
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THEY SEEK TO BULLY
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THEIR OWN IMPRINT IN LIFE TELLS THEMTO USE A LOUD VOICE
TO GET WHAT THEY WANT
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THEY SEEK TO PUT YOU ON THE DEFENSIVEAND PROMISE YOU
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THAT IF THEY DON’T GET WHAT THEY WANT
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THAT THEY WILL GO UP ONE SIDE OF ADMINISTRATION
AND DOWN THE OTHER
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UNTIL YOUR HEAD IS SERVED TO THEM ON A
SILVER PLATTER
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BY THE PRINCIPAL OR SUPERINTENDENT
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HOW DO WE DEAL WITH SUCH UNREASONABLE
BEHAVIOR?THERE IS A WAY, BUT IT
WILL TAKE SOME EFFORT ON YOUR PART
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OUR OWN IMPRINT STANDS IN THE WAY
OUR OWN IMPRINT?
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YES, OUR OWN IMPRINT; WE WERE ALL IMPRINTED
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WHAT WE FEAR THE MOST WAS IMPRINTED IN OUR BRAIN BY THE
TIME WE WERE 5 YEARS OLD
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WHEN A PARENT COMES IN AND BEGINS TO RAISE
THEIR VOICE AT US…
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WE EXPERIENCE THE SAME CHILD LIKE FEAR
THAT WE HAD…..
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WHEN MOM OR DAD SCOLDED US FOR OUR
BEHAVIOR
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A BARKING DOG NEVER BITES
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SO WE NEED TO OVERCOME THE FEAR OF BEING
YELLED AT OR CRITICIZED
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THIS IS NOT EASY
IT IS VERY HARD
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THE PARENT IS AS AFRAID AS YOU ARE
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THEY BELIEVE A THE BEST DEFENSE IS A
GOOD OFFENSESO THEY COME IN READY TO FIGHT
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YOUR STATEMENT TO THEM SHOULD BE….
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“YOU HAVE MISTAKEN ME FOR SOMEONE WHO
WANTS TO FIGHT”
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LEARN HOW TO HAVE A PRODUCTIVE CONFLICT
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LEAVE ENOUGH SPACE IN A CONVERSATION
FOR A DISAGREEMENT
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HERE ARE THE STEPS THAT YOU NEED TO TAKE..
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THAT WILL TURN AN UGLY
CONFRONTATION..
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INTO A PRODUCTIVE CONFLICT
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IT WILL SAVE THE DIGNITY OF BOTH YOU
AND THE PARENT
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YOU WILL BECOME PART OF THE SOLUTION NOT PART OF
THE PROBLEM
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STEP ONE
DON’T ACT SURPRISED
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STEP TWO
PARENTS THAT COME IN EARLY IN THE MORNING OR LATE IN THE DAY ARE NOT
HAPPY.. BE READY FOR SOME QUESTIONING
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STEP THREE
LET THEM RAISE THEIR VOICE IF NEEDED
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STEP FOUR
INVITE THEM INTO YOUR ROOM OR A ROOM AND ONCE THEY ARE
SEATED…
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EXCUSE YOURSELF…THIS GIVES YOU TIME TO LET A COLLEAGUE KNOW
WHAT IS GOING ON.
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ASK YOUR COLLEAGUE TO KNOCK ON THE DOOR IN ABOUT 10 MINUTES..
IF THE MEETING IS GOING WELL, YOU CAN CONTINUE, IF NOT YOU
HAVE AN OUT
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STEP FIVE
WHEN YOU RETURN SIT IN CLEAR VIEW OF THE PARENT
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GET INTO PHYSICAL RAPPORT BY MIRRORING
THE PARENT’S BODY POSITION
DON’T MIMIC THEM BUT SIT IN AS SIMILAR
POSITON AS POSSIBLE
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STEP SIX
PRACTICE GOOD LISTENING SKILLS
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GIVE THE PARENT 5-7 MINUTES TO SPEAK
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STEP SEVEN
AFTER 5-7 MINUTES OF GOOD LISTENING…
CHANGE YOUR BODY POSITION
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IF THE PARENT CHANGES WITH YOU, YOU NOW CAN
SPEAK..IF NOT
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GO BACK TO THE WAY THEY WERE SITTING
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STEP EIGHT
GET TO THE ROOT OF THE PROBLEM AS FAST
AS POSSIBLE
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ALWAYS AGREE IN PRINCIPLE NOT IN
CONTENTI SEE YOUR CONCERN, I
UNDERSTAND, GOOD POINT
All work well
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STEP NINE
DON’T’ ARGUE OR DISAGREE WITH THE POSSIBLE SOLUTION
YOU ARE ALMOST THERE AND YOUR GOAL
HERE IS TO GET THE PARENT TO LEAVE
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STEP TEN
PLAN TO MEET AGAIN
THIS GIVES YOU A CHANCE TO BE MORE PREPARED AND HAVE
AN ADMINISTRATOR OR A GUIDANCE COUNSELOR PRESENT